The Marrying of Chani Kaufman

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Eve Harris was born to Israeli-Polish parents in Chiswick, West London, in 1973. She taught for twelve years at inner-city comprehensives and independent schools in London and also in Tel Aviv, after moving to Israel in 1999. She returned to London in 2002 to resume teaching at an all girls' Catholic convent school. ‘The Marrying of Chani Kaufman' was inspired by her final year of teaching at an all girls' ultra-Orthodox Jewish school in North West London. Eve lives in London with her husband, Jules, and their daughter Rosie.

 

 

The Marrying of Chani Kaufman
Eve Harris

 

 

 

First published in Great Britain in 2013 by

Sandstone Press Ltd,

PO Box 5725,

One High Street,

Dingwall,

Ross-shire,

IV15 9WJ,

Scotland.

 

www.sandstonepress.com

 

All rights reserved.

No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored or transmitted in any form without the express written permission of the publisher.

 

© Eve Harris 2013

Editor: Moira Forsyth

 

The moral right of Eve Harris to be recognised as the author of this work has been asserted in accordance with the Copyright, Design and Patent Act, 1988.

 

The publisher acknowledges subsidy from Creative Scotland towards publication of this volume.

 

 

 

 

ISBN: 978-1-908737-43-4

ISBN e: 978-1-908737-44-1

 

Cover design by Jon Gray, London

Ebook by Iolaire Typesetting, Newtonmore

Contents

Acknowledgements

Chapter 1 – Chani. Baruch.

Chapter 2 – The Rebbetzin

Chapter 3 – Baruch

Chapter 4 – Chani

Chapter 5 – The Rebbetzin

Chapter 6 – Chani

Chapter 7 – The Rebbetzin

Chapter 8 – Chani

Chapter 9 – The Rebbetzin

Chapter 10 – Baruch. Avromi.

Chapter 11 – Baruch

Chapter 12 – Avromi

Chapter 13 – The Rebbetzin

Chapter 14 – Baruch. Chani.

Chapter 15 – Avromi

Chapter 16 – Baruch

Chapter 17 – The Rebbetzin

Chapter 18 – Chani. Baruch.

Chapter 19 – Avromi

Chapter 20 – Baruch. Chani.

Chapter 21 – Chani

Chapter 22 – Avromi

Chapter 23 – Chani. Baruch.

Chapter 24 – Baruch. Chani.

Chapter 25 – Avromi

Chapter 26 – The Rebbetzin. Avromi.

Chapter 27 – Chani. The Rebbetzin.

Chapter 28 – The Rebbetzin

Chapter 29 – Chani. The Rebbetzin.

Chapter 30 – Avromi

Chapter 31 – The Rebbetzin

Chapter 32 – Chani

Chapter 33 – Chani. Baruch.

Chapter 34 – The Rebbetzin

Chapter 35 – Chani. Baruch.

Chapter 36 – The Rebbetzin

 

Yiddish-English Glossary

 

 

 

 

For Jules and Rosie

Acknowledgements

There are many people who helped me get this far. I know I wouldn't have been able to do it without them. My amazing agent, Diana Beaumont of Rupert Heath Literary Agency. Thank you for believing in the book, even when I didn't believe in it myself, and keeping a firm, steady hand on the tiller at all times. All at Sandstone Press for giving me a warm and welcoming home, Moira especially, for a sensitive and precise edit. Laurence King of The Writers' Workshop, for being a wonderful mentor and writing guru; and for making me laugh at my many mistakes.

Naava Carman, for being the true mover and shaker that you are. My frum friends – you know who you are – for helping me with my research. Paul Donnellon, for creating the trailer. My friends Gagandeep Prasad, Irene Kanareck, Monika Jakdaleko, Karen Stratton, Princess Lesley, Armorel Manasseh, Sheila Figueiredo, Craig and Catherine Brown. Your enthusiasm kept me going. A special thank you to Miranda Clayton, for sorting my back out when needed and being so positive about the manuscript. Natasha Law, for keeping Rosie's sticky fingers away from my laptop.

My wonderful brother Dan and my dear sister-in-law Louise, for their constant support and unfailing optimism. And for trying (in vain) to persuade me that the act of artistic creation is more important than publication. My mum, Nina Kimerling. I hope this book gives you plenty of naches. David and Emma Harris – I couldn't ask for better in-laws. You loved Chani from the start and kept cheering her (and me) on throughout. Your support has meant so much. To the most important person, my husband Jules, to whom this book is dedicated. Without you, there would be no book.

 

 

 

 

 

‘Therefore shall each man forsake his mother and father, and cling to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.'

(Genesis 2:23, 24)

Chapter 1
Chani. Baruch.

November 2008 – London

The bride stood like a pillar of salt, rigid under layers of itchy petticoats. Sweat dripped down the hollow of her back and collected in pools under her arms staining the ivory silk. She edged closer to The Bedeken Room door, one ear pressed up against it.

She heard the men singing. Their shouts of ‘lai-lai-lai!' rolled down the dusty synagogue corridor. They were coming for her. This was it. This was her day. The day her real life started. She was nineteen and had never held a boy's hand. The only man to touch her had been her father and his physical affection had dwindled since her body had curved and ripened.

‘Sit down, Chani-leh, show a little modesty. Come, the Kallah does not stand by the door. Sit, sit!'

Her mother's face had turned grey. The wrinkles gleamed as the make-up slid towards her collar. The plucked brows gave her a look of permanent surprise. Her mouth was compressed into a frosty pink line. Mrs Kaufman sagged under the weight of her mousy wig. Beneath, her hair was grey and wispy. An old woman at forty-five: tired. Chani was her fifth daughter, the fifth to stand in a Bedeken Room, the fifth to wear the dress. Nor would she be the last. Like Babushka dolls, three younger daughters had emerged after her.

Chani remained at her post. ‘Shouldn't they be here by now?'

‘They'll be here soon enough. You should be davening for all your single friends. Not everyone's as lucky as you are today, Baruch HaShem.'

‘But when will they be here? It feels like we've been waiting forever.' Chani let out a long, bored sigh.

‘When they're ready. Enough now, Chani-leh.'

From mother to daughter, from sister to sister, the dress had been a faithful friend, shrinking and growing with each bride's need. The silver embroidery and countless pearls concealed a thousand scars and jagged seams that chafed the skin. Every alteration marked another bride's journey, delineating her hopes and desires. The yellowed underarms that had been dry-cleaned so many times, spoke of her fears. The cold prickle of anxiety, the flash of white sheets and the enormous waiting bed loomed in each bride's mind. How will it be? How will it be? The question pulsed inside Chani's head.

She stumbled across the carpet. Parting like the Red Sea, her mother and sisters shifted their ample backsides to make room on the divan for her small, neat bottom. Her bride's white prayer book was gently pushed into her hands. The women whispered and mumbled as the prayers rose and fell in time with the rhythm of their breathing, the beat of their hearts. The Hebrew poured out in gentle, female gasps. Chani imagined the words floating up, up, up – winged letters melting into the ceiling.

The hot air throbbed with the mingling of perfume, masking the stink of body odour and stale breath. Their parched mouths were sticky with drying lipstick, their rumbling stomachs hidden under layers of clothing. Some wore two-piece suits consisting of long skirts with matching jackets buttoned up to the hilt. Others paired the compulsory long skirt with a white high-necked shirt underneath a plain navy blazer. The colours were purposely dull, enlivened only by a small brooch, or perhaps cream piping around the pocket. A self-imposed uniform, lending a dowager air to even the youngest in the room.

Like Mrs Kaufman, the married women wore their best wigs – heavy, shiny locks that hid their hair from the opposite sex, the false hair inevitably more luxurious in texture and hue. Young single women announced their state by going bareheaded, although even the most glorious mane was tamed and tied back or cut into a tidy bob.

The rounded backs and shoulders of those who had been brides before her swayed back and forth, their knees cracking as they bowed low. They prayed and sighed for Chani, for the marriage to be good and true, for HaShem to look kindly upon her and her husband. Chani's eyes burnt with tears at their loyalty and kindness.

But where was the Rebbetzin? After the lessons had ended, she had promised to be at the wedding. Chani blinked and scanned the room once more before allowing disappointment to set in. She comforted herself with the prospect that the Rebbetzin was already inside the shul watching from the women's gallery. Chani vowed to look up before she entered the chuppah.

Instead, she had her prospective mother-in-law for company. Chani caught her eye and immediately regretted not being immersed in prayer. Mrs Levy sat resplendent in a dark turquoise silk suit. A matching pillbox hat finished off the ensemble, giving her the air of a glittering, bourgeois kingfisher. She sidled over and breathed noxiously in Chani's ear.

‘Lovely dress, Chani – although a little old-fashioned for my liking. Still, very pretty all the same. It suits you, my dear.'

Her mother-in-law's hat had tilted, giving her a jaunty air. Chani suppressed a smirk. Mrs Levy's extravagant copper wig had been coaxed and teased into poker-straight curtains beneath, framing her wily smile. A leopard grinning before it pounces. Chani knew better than to trust it. She stood her ground.

‘Thank you, Mrs Levy, it's a family heirloom. My grandmother got married in this dress. I feel honoured to wear it.' She smiled pertly and turned towards the divan, leaving Mrs Levy staring in her wake. Having got this far, she would not let the woman rile her now. In time, they would have to learn to tolerate each other. The loathing was mutual, but it was Chani who had carried the prize and this day was hers.

The dress creaked as she sat down. It flowed over her knees and sank in sheeny billows around her feet. The only bits of Chani left free to breathe were her face and hands. The dress crept over her collarbones and clutched at her throat. The silk pulled tight, giving her an elegant long neck. Over her small, high breasts, flowers and birds bloomed in arcs of silver, traced and retraced in a spidery web over her torso. Her spine was forced upright; the stays were laced so tightly, her ribs screamed for release. A double row of pearl buttons climbed up her back like a ladder. Below her waist, the dress swelled over her hips. Silver leaves unfurled on branches, as the embroidery inched towards the hem.

Her feet jigged in satin ballet shoes and her toes wriggled in the sweat of her stockings. Thick cuffs of seed pearls, a thousand lidless eyes stitched through their very pupils, imprisoned her wrists. She was a truly chaste bride, her clavicle, wrists and ankles expertly hidden from the male gaze. The dress clung to her girlish curves though, hinting at the unexplored flesh beneath.

The dress was her passport, her means of escape from the sticky door handles and eternal chaos of her parents' home in Hendon. She had never had her own room or an abundance of new clothes. Everything was always second hand. Like the dress. Even the love she received was of the hand-me-down kind.

 

***

 

He couldn't remember her face. A slight problem. Baruch had come to identify his bride, to ensure he was marrying the right girl. Not to be cheated like Jacob had been, when Laban had swapped Leah for Rachel on the wedding day itself. Help me, HaShem. What was she like? Until this very moment, her face had blazed in his memory but now his mind had gone blank. Three wide black fedoras obscured his view as the Rabbi, the cantor and his father-in-law bustled towards the Bedeken Room door. He had met her three times and proposed on the fourth – but now what on earth did his bride look like? Hazy with hunger his brain rebelled, presenting him with a doughy smudge for her features. Heat held him in a vice-like grip; smothered in layers of clothing, he swayed on his feet. His uncle and father caught him. They propped him up like a drunk being escorted out of a bar. They hoisted him along, one step closer, then another. He was sweating so much his glasses steamed up. He had no chance now; the door was swinging open.

 

Chani remembered when her parents had time, when her mother had waited at the nursery gates for her. They would walk home together and talk all the way, her mother gripping her hand tightly, listening carefully as she gabbled. She had a faded memory of her mother playing hopscotch with her in the back garden, picking up her skirts and leaping deftly from stone to stone. But then the other babies had followed in quick succession. Her parents staggered through a mire of formula and stinking nappies. On the way home from school Chani carried the shopping, while her mother pushed the buggy and waited for the trailing toddlers to catch up. Eventually when she reached secondary school, her older sisters walked her home.

Her father was a respected rabbi of a small shtiebel in Hendon with a modest following. He was a gentle, slight, quiet man, absorbed in his spiritual world, more there in spirit than in body. His beard was long and feathery like grey candyfloss. He wore the customary black suit, with braces underneath the jacket to keep his trousers up. Her mother always bought him trousers that were slightly too large, perhaps imagining he would grow into them. Yet her father had seemed to shrink as her mother expanded.

Chani adored him. He had been a warm, loving father, full of light and laughter. She remembered the swoop of his thin arms as he swung her through the air. But as his family had grown, his delight in her had been replaced with an absentmindedness that felt like rejection. He wandered through the house as if dazed by an eternal state of fatherhood.

It wasn't just the other daughters. The community had stolen him from her. In the neglected semi that was her home, the doorbell rang incessantly. A stream of unhappy wives, confused fathers and eager scholars trooped through the hall, needy for her father's advice. He squirreled them away to his study where his door remained shut for hours. As a child Chani would play outside it, just to hear the rumble of his voice. Her patience would be rewarded by a pat on the head upon his exit. She could recognise his trouser legs anywhere. When she shut her eyes she would see the shape of his hunched shoulders, his black velvet skullcap sliding from his bald spot as he had disappeared downstairs.

Her mother had become a machine whose parts were grinding and worn. Once, she had been a slender and supple young woman, joyful and quick in her movements. Over the years, Chani had watched her mother's stomach inflate and deflate like a bullfrog's throat. She had never known her mother not to be nursing a child. Now, when she looked in her mother's eyes, she saw that the light had gone out. Her mother had become a stranger, an exhausted mountain of dilapidated flesh, endlessly suckling, soothing, patting or feeding.

Her father had sown his seed time and time again in his wife's worn out womb. Chani would shudder imagining each painful birth, baby after baby being urged into the world. She swore that when it was her turn, things would be different. Her children would never be needy for attention. Although her knowledge of contraception was a little vague she had vowed that somehow she would stop at four.

But she had had to be patient, to wait in line until suitable spouses had been found for her older sisters. The vivacious girls, who had thumped up and down the stairs, fought over the phone, alternately cuddled and teased her, had vanished. The family photos arrived from Brooklyn and Jerusalem. Her sisters were fading like ghosts as their own broods increased.

On the phone their voices were flat and hoarse. There was no time to talk, no time to ask all the questions to which she needed answers. Her turn had arrived.

 

Chani wore no jewels, forbidden as they are in the Torah. A Kallah, a Jewish bride must stand under the wedding canopy, hands ringless, ear lobes unadorned to signal the impending union as a commitment based on spirituality and not material acquisition. Chani looked down at her hands as they glowed against the spine of her prayer book. The nails had been smoothed and painted a clear pink, but they were ugly and too short. She had bitten them down to the quick. Her hands looked childish, the fingers stubby. She missed the blaze of her ring – the fierce diamond, a bauble of obscene size which had looked even bigger against her moist little fist. She had loved flashing it about and had taken to pointing with her left hand and gesturing with it whenever she could.

She opened the book, but the ancient letters skittered and would not be still. Where were the men? Why hadn't they knocked? Surely the singing was getting louder? She couldn't wait any more. But she had to. After all, she had been waiting all her life. She wanted a mirror to check her make-up. Gingerly, she prodded the grip that bit into her scalp, securing her floor length veil. The veil drifted over her shoulders and cascaded down her back. Was it sitting straight? She turned to ask when the door jumped in its frame. The knock forced her mother to her feet. Mrs Kaufman rocked towards the door, shoes squeaking, bunions throbbing.

Her mother grasped the doorknob and turned it. She stepped back, eyes downcast as the door swung open. The two parties, male without and female within, stared at each other. For a moment there was silence, stillness, as if everyone was listening to a single chord that chimed in the dust-mote laden air.

 

Baruch almost fell into The Bedeken Room. He righted himself, wiped his glasses on his tallis and stuck them back on his sweaty nose. Somebody gave his backside a firm shove, and he was propelled deeper into the room and its heady, alien, female aroma.

And there she was. His eyes met hers and he flamed the colour of chraine. Baruch bent to examine the face in front of him. Her large eyes were mischievous brown, almond-shaped and artfully emphasised with kohl. The lashes were long and sleek. Her nose was long but straight, her skin the colour of milk. The face was sharp and alert. It was not a doll's mask but alive and expressive. Her hair was a twist of slippery jet, pinned into place with pearls. Within moments of the ceremony's completion a wig would hide its liquorice sheen. She was very pleasing. He had chosen well, but surely a good Yiddisher girl would not stare back so? A half-smile played over her mouth and he remembered why he had chosen her.

His hands shook as he pulled the veil over her face. ‘Amen!' boomed the men behind him. She was the right girl – but who was she really? He felt dizzy with terror at what he was about to do.

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