Among Heroes: A U.S. Navy SEAL's True Story of Friendship, Heroism, and the Ultimate Sacrifice (18 page)

Guys enlist in the service and join the teams for all sorts of reasons. For some, like Matt Axelson or Heath Robinson, it’s in their bloodlines. Dave Scott wanted to jump out of planes and blow things up. Chris Campbell wanted to see the world. But Glen? According to his friends and family, for him the idea of becoming a SEAL was more or less a bolt from the blue. Glen’s sister, Kate, says she was talking with Glen one day and he told her something that surprised her. “If nothing else comes up by the time I’m twenty-five,” he commented, “I’ll become a Navy SEAL.”
A Navy SEAL?
she thought.
Where did
that
come from?

In fact, it came from Costa Rica. That summer he and a buddy had spent some time there, and they happened to meet a group of SEALs who were doing the same thing they were: hanging out and surfing. Back home Glen had been having a tough time carving out a career as a skier. His buddy Sean had by now become a sponsored pro snowboarder, but while pro snowboarding was on the rise in the mid-nineties, skiing was at an ebb, and as good as Glen was, he still didn’t see any prospects of getting serious sponsorship.

Fine
, he thought.
If this doesn’t happen in the next year, I’ll become a Navy SEAL
.

Sure enough, when he turned twenty-five he enlisted. But it wasn’t that “nothing else had come up.”
Everything
else had come up. He’d hitchhiked across the country (following the Grateful Dead, no less), worked in a microbrewery, hung out in boxing gyms. . . . It seemed there was nothing Glen hadn’t done. Not only was he an expert skier, but by that time he was also a skilled whitewater-rafting instructor, an accomplished triathlete, an experienced chef, and an excellent writer. He became such a skillful medic that a top brain surgeon offered to pay his way through physician’s assistant (PA) school if Glen would come work for him. An A student throughout his school years, he excelled at everything he did. He could have done almost anything. But being the best wasn’t enough for him. He had to be the best of the best
.

And he was. In BUD/S, we had a designation for the top graduate in the class: Honor Man. Over time the idea spread to most other courses as well. In practically every class we went through together, Glen was Honor Man.

•   •   •

It was in sniper school that Glen and I became inseparable. Since we were paired up as shooter-spotter partners, we spent the next three months training together, eating together, drinking together, shooting, sweating, stressing, and cursing together. Our fates in the course were tied to each other. In those three months the two of us forged a bond of trust and friendship that went deeper than bone marrow. Over a lot of late-night campfire hours, we also learned a lot about each other’s childhoods and backgrounds.

Glen grew up with a typical suburban New England childhood, happily riding bikes and playing soccer in the street. The Doherty family lived on a street named Glen Road (I kid you not), right across the street from a patch of woods called Glen Green, where they spent a lot of time wandering through the woods in a pack with their friends across the street, Chad, Tim, and Nathaniel Haskell.

The Glen Road house was the social center of the neighborhood. All the kids seemed to congregate there. Part of it was that Glen’s mom, Barbara, was so welcoming and tolerant and didn’t seem to mind kids coming and going and traipsing through their home. Part of it was some sort of gravitational field that Glen seemed to generate. Kids just wanted to be around him.

When Glen left college to become a professional ski bum in Utah, he got an apartment together with a few friends that generated that same social pull. Glen spent his early twenties working at Snowbird (where they’ve since named his favorite off-trail run after him), and for all those years, their little apartment was where everyone hung out.

The same thing happened once again during our eighteen-month workup after STT. Glen and his girlfriend, Sonja, got a
cool little house in Coronado, and people were drawn to hang out there as if it were the only watering hole in an 1880s Western cowboy town.

And now here we were, together in sniper school, camping out in the middle of nowhere, and son of a bitch if Glen’s tent didn’t somehow exert that same damn gravitational pull. For the twenty-six of us who started that course, putting in those grueling days with hours-long stretches of intense, unbroken concentration and the threat of failure hanging constantly over our heads, Glen’s tent became the after-hours social hub: the Glen Road of sniper school.

That actually started every day before dawn, when Glen became the focal point of attention in a not so positive way. Here’s how I described the morning scene in
The Red Circle
:

The range had a nice little grass campground complete with a kitchen and a restrooms/shower area. All the students were instructed to bring a tent and kit. Most of the guys traveled pretty light. I take just what I need, and it all fits in my pack. Guys in the teams had a saying “Pack light and mooch.” My saying was “Don’t pack light—pack right.” Not Glen, though. As I soon learned, Glen liked to travel in comfort, which meant plenty of extras. He was like a one-man gypsy camp. He must have gone out and bought the biggest tent he could find at the local Kmart; that thing could have slept a family of ten. He had three fuel-burning lanterns, a radio, a coffeemaker, a generator—it was out of control.

We were partners, so my tent was right next to his. I love Glen like a brother, but this was torture.
That son of a bitch would be up and about for a solid hour before the rest of us even started thinking about opening our eyes, and once he was up it was nearly impossible to stay asleep because his gypsy encampment lit up the whole side of my tent. First I was awakened by the blinding white glow and steady hum of his Coleman exploration power lanterns. Then the sounds would start: his percolating coffeepot, then some sort of eighties rock music blaring through his earphones, which he thought we couldn’t hear but in fact only made him even more oblivious to the extent of the racket he was making, messing around with all his stuff, clattering around and getting his coffee ready, burping and farting but not hearing himself because he had those earphones in, then followed by his electric toothbrush, endless loud gargle, and the invariable lengthy punctuating spit that made us all groan. After a week or so of this daily routine, the guys began referring to Glen’s morning ablutions as “Chernobyl.”

If I had my choice, I would pull myself out of sleep maybe twenty minutes before we had to muster up, giving myself just enough time to brush my teeth, throw some water on my face, and grab my gear. But no. I tried for days, but it was not possible. Finally I succumbed and started letting Glen be my alarm clock.

In many ways Glen and I were very different, almost opposites. He was always a popular kid, the kind of guy nobody could dislike, often playing the role of negotiator and
peacemaker. I was a fighter, always getting into trouble and taking things to extremes. He was Massachusetts. I was California. He lived in one place his whole childhood, in a stable suburban home in the kind of close New England neighborhood where nobody locks their doors. My family was restless and always on the move, which meant my sister and I were constantly being uprooted and having to start all over again, getting into new fights and making new friends—friends we would eventually lose.

Regardless of those differences, though, Glen and I had clicked immediately, and those things we held in common forged the foundation of a lifelong friendship. We both loved being outdoors. We both had a passion for doing something as well as you can possibly do it. We both had zero tolerance for bullshit.

And we both had deeply troubled relationships with our fathers.

Glen’s parents split up when he was nine, casting a pall over that idyllic childhood, a dark cloud that never dispersed. His older brother, Greg, remembers their parents sitting the kids down on the front steps and breaking the news that they were separating. Glen burst into tears. A few days later their dad pulled up in a truck and parked out front. Greg helped load up their dad’s stuff to take to his new house, but Glen refused; he ran across the street and into the woods even before his dad showed up.

“He held that grudge against Dad forever,” says Greg. “He never entirely let it go.”

Ben Doherty’s new place wasn’t that far away, and he remained in the Doherty kids’ lives. For years afterward, though, Glen and he had a tough time getting along. The
conflict between them simmered to a boiling point in his senior year of high school, when they got into a big fight. (Over what, nobody seems to remember). Glen decided enough was enough: He walked out of the house in protest and moved in with a friend’s family down the street. Which was kind of fascinating to me, when he told me about it—because it was at about that same age that my dad threw
me
out of the house. (Since we were docked off Tahiti in the South Pacific at the time, it’s more accurate to say he threw me off the boat.) It was one of those things, like our obsession with reading, that we had in common.

Which made it even more amazing to me that Glen got along so well with my father. In fact, it was Glen who brought about a completely unexpected reconciliation between the two of us.

In early 2000, a few months before we learned we were going into sniper school, Glen and a buddy of his visited my dad’s place in Wyoming with me to go skiing for a few days.

One day we were sitting at a table in the lodge after a few hours of skiing, putting back a few beers. Glen was regaling us with tales of his experiences as a medic, and the conversation turned to the topic of lifesaving. Glen described how he’d saved a guy in a fancy restaurant in Park City when the guy almost choked to death. Glen had his pocketknife out, ready to cut the guy’s neck open and trache him, though it didn’t quite come to that. The conversation went on like that for a while, when all of a sudden my dad, who’d hardly spoken the whole time we’d been there, came out with eight words that almost made me spit out my beer.

“Yeah, you know, Brandon saved
my
life once.”

He and I had never talked about this. I was seventeen at
the time, working on the dive boat back in California that I’d made my home after being banished from the family boat, and my dad had visited to do a little scuba diving. While attempting to surface, he got himself mired in a bed of kelp, then panicked and spit out his regulator. I happened to be on rescue diver duty, so I dived in, swam the three or four hundred yards to where he was, and yanked his ass out of there.

The event had created an uneasy awkwardness between the two of us ever since it happened, an unspoken elephant in the middle of the living room. And now, all of a sudden here he was, my tough, taciturn dad, spilling his guts about what had happened and how he’d felt at the time. Jack Webb with tears in his eyes, telling these strangers about how his kid had saved his hide and how he’d never forget it.

I was dumbfounded. I’d never seen my dad so vulnerable. And why? Because he was talking to Glen.

That was how Glen was. Anybody could open up to him, and everybody did.

•   •   •

By the time 9/11 happened I had been moved to Echo Platoon, and within days of the attack I was on my way to Afghanistan. When I came back six months and a lifetime later, two big things had changed: Glen had gotten married. And I’d become a father.

Glen had strongly resisted the commitment of marriage. He and Sonja had even broken up over this issue at one point. But after 9/11 it was a crazy, grab-your-loved-ones time. He knew he would be deployed overseas before long, and it just felt like the right thing to do. So he caved, and off they went to town hall to get married while I was chasing down bad
guys and caches of contraband in the caves of the Hindu Kush.

Glen’s obsession with perfection extended to relationships. In any area of interest or aspiration, from food to skiing to jobs and careers, he had his list of exacting, carefully worked-out criteria, and that went for women, too. If you asked Glen what he was looking for in a girl, he would reel off a whole inventory of necessary qualities: “She has to be beautiful and fit, to challenge me, be witty, be natural, not wear a lot of makeup, and be able to run a triathlon, and . . .”

We’d say, “Glen, give me a freaking break. That human being doesn’t exist.” But he had his standards and wasn’t backing down. The problem was, he had that same impossibly high set of standards for what it meant to be a husband and father. His own dad had flunked that test, in Glen’s eyes, and in time so would Glen. I know he never forgave his dad; I wonder if he ever completely forgave himself.

Still, while he never did have any children of his own, kids took to him the same way animals did, the same way
everyone
did.

A few days after I got back home from Afghanistan I had Glen over to the house to meet my six-month-old son, Jackson. The funny thing was, I’d been home for only a few days and my wife, Gabriele, hadn’t really started trusting me with our son yet. It was as if she were afraid I might drop and break him. She’d go out to the grocery store and take Jackson with her, rather than leave him with me. But she had no problem letting Glen hold him. Jackson crawled all over Uncle Glen like he’d known him all his life.

After a while Gabriele and Jackson took off somewhere,
and I sat down with Glen and told him about my time in Afghanistan. We talked well into the night. I told him everything, stories I’ve never told anyone else, showed him pictures I’ve never shown anyone else, and never will.

War gets ugly; don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

The following year it was Glen who was shipped out to the Middle East, where he was part of Shock and Awe from stem to stern, starting with the split-second-timing VBSS boarding and dismantling of Saddam’s oil platforms on the eve of the invasion, on to the rescue of Jessica Lynch (the first successful rescue of an American POW since World War II), to the taking of Saddam’s palace and the fall of Tikrit, which signaled the end of the Battle of Iraq and led to President Bush’s now-infamous “Mission Accomplished” press conference on the USS
Abraham Lincoln
. Glen was there for all of it.