And Never Let Her Go (5 page)

The mortgage payments were still due every month, and so were other bills, for utilities and groceries and clothing. Robert Fahey seemed simply to have given up. Concerned friends and family members continued to help out, thinking that surely he would get himself together before he lost everything.

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community in Wilmington had burgeoned in the fifties and sixties—as had the Italian. It was a splendid time, with opportunities for everyone willing to grasp them. Robert Fahey Sr. had done well until he was too overwhelmed with grief and the responsibility of six children to reach out. Louis J. Capano Sr. was a few years older than Robert Fahey, a family man too, but fortune had been kinder to him. As the Faheys faltered, the Capanos were thriving.

Louis Capano Sr. was born in a tiny mountain village in Calabria, Italy, in 1923. After his parents emigrated to Delaware in 1930, Louis and his brothers, Frank and Vincent, grew up in a whole new world. Joseph Capano, their father, was a bricklayer, and there was plenty of work for a man with his skills, even in the depths of the Depression. The young Capano family settled in New Castle, a few miles south of Wilmington on the Delaware River. Their relatives the Rizzos had a little construction business there and welcomed them. New Castle is the oldest town in America, where even today the cobbled streets and old houses that seem to lean together for support give the impression of stepping back in time hundreds of years. The Capanos lived, however, in a working-class part of town.

Immigrants from Calabria were sometimes looked down upon by other Italians who had come to America. When they heard that someone was
calabrese,
first-generation Italians from other regions often raised their eyebrows and made the deprecating gesture of a
knife across their necks. Calabrese were said to be a hardheaded and stubborn bunch, and some said they were cutthroats. The Capanos, like most Calabrese, were stolid, hardworking, and clannish with family: they ignored the prejudice and set their minds to succeeding in America. Each Capano son chose a trade; Frank became a bricklayer like his father, Vincent a plumber, and Louis a carpenter. Louis was required to serve as an apprentice for four years before he could join the union, and then was hired by the Canterra Construction Company, working long hours summer and winter.

Family lore has it that Louis's first job was to build an outhouse, and that he was proud to do it. He was a short, solidly built man who took great pride in his workmanship. Early on, he was known for his honesty and his desire to do a job to the satisfaction of his foreman—and later, for his own customers. He didn't have a particularly good head for business; he was, instead, an artisan, who loved to see the perfect curve of a banister, the seamless appearance of dovetailed boards.

Louis Capano was still an apprentice carpenter when he met Marguerite Moglioni, the girl who would become his wife. Marguerite's mother, Assunta, had been married to a man named Pacelli first, and divorced—shocking for an Italian Catholic in the twenties—before she married Thomas Moglioni, a stonemason. Thomas accepted Assunta's son, Antony, and they had three children together: Mary, Marguerite, and Renaldo. They lived on Seventh Street near Rodney in Wilmington's Little Italy neighborhood. Thomas Moglioni did a lot of the stonework on St. Anthony's Church, the church that for decades would be central to the Italians who lived in Wilmington.

In the early days, Wilmington's Italian community was almost a city unto itself, and everyone in the neighborhood knew everyone else. A woman who grew up there recalled, “In nice weather, we wandered around the streets—we all did. I lived up on Rodney, and the Moglionis lived down the street. My friend's mother was a nurse and she gave shots to Assunta, so we would go, too. Of course, they spoke mostly Italian, so I never understood what they were saying—but the food was wonderful!”

In those days, children had to be Italian to get into St. Anthony's grade school and St. Anthony of Padua, the high school. And no matter
where
you lived in the city, if you were Italian, you went to Padua.

This was the background that Marguerite and Louis came from, and their values were similar. Their lives were wrapped around St. Anthony's Church, and they expected that they would have to work hard to get anywhere in the world. Marguerite was
slender and very pretty, with dark-fringed blue eyes and soft hair that she wore short and feathered around her face. The couple was barely twenty, and poor, when they married. Deeply devout Catholics, they looked forward to having as many children as God sent them.

Their first child was a girl: Marian, born July 29, 1944. She was a pretty little thing with curly dark hair. Five years later came Thomas Joseph—named for his two grandfathers—born October 11, 1949. Louis Jr. was born two years after that, on October 24, 1951, and a year to the day later, Joseph. Although all of the Capano boys had October birthdays, they looked nothing alike, nor were their personalities similar. They were, however, very close to one another.

In the forties, Louis and Marguerite lived on the Du Pont Highway—Route 13. It wasn't a very good neighborhood, but it was what they could afford at the time. When Marian was three, Louis Sr. went into business with Emilio Capaldi. They formed the Consolidated Construction Company and specialized in store and office remodeling and renovations. The men would remain friends for life, a friendship forged working side by side for long hours. Lou Capano was an excellent finish carpenter.

Lou and Marguerite raised their family in the modest little house out on Route 13, and Lou's first office was a small place, but that all changed with the tremendous demand for housing after World War II. Consolidated Construction became Capaldi and Capano, and they began to build homes for the influx of young professionals who flocked to Wilmington to work for the DuPont company. Emilio did the architectural drawings and planned the subdivisions, and Lou oversaw the jobs.

Capaldi and Capano built good, solid houses, and almost overnight new neighborhoods sprang up in the north end of Wilmington. They were all built by the two Italian contractors, but they had English-sounding names like Galewood, Boulder Brook, Canterbury Hills, and Westminster.

Lou had the callused hands and thick forearms of a real builder. There were many who told him he could show a lot more profit if he wasn't so determined to deliver top quality. But at heart he was still a custom builder, an artist with wood and stone. He could not bring himself to cut corners even if he was the only one who would know that the floor joists were close enough together to meet the highest standard or that the studs behind the walls were the best grade.

“I remember seeing Louis Sr. when I was thirteen,” a longtime Wilmington resident recalled. “My dad hired him to build our house, and my dad wasn't that easy to please. He'd gone to meet Mr. Capano and the architect. He came home and he said—talking about Mr. Capano—‘He's very disarming, isn't he?' and that was my father's way of saying that he was going to hire him.

“Mr. Capano built us this big white house, but there was something my father wanted him to fix—the curve of our stairway wasn't quite right. He came back a couple of times—himself—to be sure it was exactly what my father wanted. I remember Mr. Capano standing in our yard, and he wore a trench coat. And he did have something—this
presence
about him. That house is still in good shape.”

Lou continued to strengthen his reputation as a builder to be trusted. The “DuPonters” poured into Wilmington, and they needed more and more houses. Lou's banker summed up why he was so respected: “He was the kind of a builder who didn't play games—he told bankers the truth. If he was having troubles he would tell you. That was a nice thing for a banker, since so many builders tried to hide things and hoped they'd go away. But Lou Capano built the houses too good—and the building business is too cyclical.”

Lou made deals worth hundreds of thousands of dollars on a handshake—and he was never known to go back on his word. Any house with his name on it as the builder automatically jumped a few thousand dollars in value. He drove himself, chain-smoking all the time. He expected his boys to work just as hard, and he was a strong patriarch in a typical Italian family. All three sons did their turn with a shovel and pickax working summers for their father. They dug ditches, moved bricks, and drove trucks. Their father wanted them to understand the construction business from the bottom up. Even so, they never knew the hard times that he had. The Capano children grew up in the magnificent gray-stone Colonial mansion Lou built for them on Weldin Road in Brandywine Hundred. It had gabled windows and bay windows, sunrooms, breezeways, and a huge garage. A circular driveway cut a swath through holly, fir, and maple trees, and it was landscaped with shrubs and flowers.

Marguerite moved with seeming ease from the little house to the mansion, although the change was akin to going from a furnished room to a penthouse. She never worked outside the home, and she knew nothing at all about business affairs or keeping books. She was a wife and a mother. But she was a strong woman who felt her husband and children could do no wrong. “She was one tough cookie,” a woman who knew her then remarked.

When the boys were elementary school age, Joey Capano once made an anti-Semitic remark to a Jewish boy, and his mother called Marguerite to complain, asking her to intervene and reprimand Joey. Marguerite refused, saying, “Well, my kids get called wops and guineas. He should toughen up.”

Lou and Marguerite's boys didn't resemble one another in looks or personality, but Tommy, Louie, and Joey all had dark hair and their father's charisma. Tommy was clearly the most scholastically adept. His sister, Marian, remembered fondly, “I can still picture him reading books at his little desk in his little room.” Tommy was also the son who did the dishes and washed the pots and pans without complaint. Louie was charming and funny, and Joey was arguably the best looking and the rowdiest.

The Capanos loved kids, including the neighborhood kids. Whether in the old neighborhood or on Weldin Road, their home was open to children. When the sultry summer months suffused Wilmington with a blanket of heat and even the tomatoes and peppers growing in front yards drooped, anyone who could afford to headed for the ocean beaches on the Delaware coast, or to the little offshore islands of southern New Jersey, which rested in the Atlantic Ocean as if some giant chef had spattered bits of pancake batter on a hot griddle. In Delaware, vacationers called it “going to the beach”; in Jersey, it was “going down the shore.”

Marguerite and Lou chose the Jersey shore. It was a two-and-a-half-hour drive from Wilmington across the Delaware River and then through a series of little towns in New Jersey. Lou bought a duplex in Wildwood. They rented out the lower floor and kept the upstairs for family vacations. They took their children, their relatives, and any neighbor child who wanted to go.

“It was a madhouse,” a onetime tagalong remembered. “Kids and dogs, sleeping on mattresses, running in and out. It was like the old days on Seventh Street. Marguerite was cooking lots of Italian food, and she waited on everyone. Lou was just sitting there reading the paper as if everybody wasn't running around him. He was very calm, and very kind to all of us.”

Marguerite and Lou were almost forty in the summer of 1962, Marian was in college, Tommy was in the eighth grade, Louie in the sixth, and their youngest son, Joey, was ten, when Marguerite found she was pregnant. This baby was a surprise, and somewhat worrisome because she had never had easy pregnancies and she was a decade past her last baby. She was confined to bed throughout this
pregnancy, and her boys, especially Tommy, waited on her and did the chores she could not.

But Gerard was born healthy on May 25, 1963, and Marguerite recovered to full health. Still, it was to be a bad year for the family. Lou, only forty, had a serious heart attack and had to stay in bed for weeks. Gerard—Gerry—was taken care of as much by his older brothers, and his sister when she was home, as he was by his parents. Not surprisingly, he was soon spoiled rotten.

“Gerry had these long golden curls,” a neighbor remembered, “and no one in his family could bring themselves to cut his hair for years. He really was a beautiful baby and he was hard to resist. Down at the shore the summer he was three, he went around saying to everyone, ‘You're a pain in the ass!' and the family all just laughed at him. Nobody scolded him.”

Before he went to school, they cut Gerard's long yellow curls, but he would always have a soft, baby face—even as a grown man.

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recovered from his heart attack and went back to chain-smoking and working long hours as a builder. He and Emilio Capaldi dissolved their partnership, but they remained friends for life. High on Lou's agenda was the education of his sons. His own education had been rudimentary at best, and even when he became a financial success, he was intimidated by men with college degrees. He vowed that his children would go to the best schools, although it was sometimes a financial crunch for him as the real estate market rose and fell.

They all attended Catholic schools, just as the family attended St. Anthony's Church. It was the same church and the same priest, Father Robert Balducelli—Father Roberto—as it had been when Marguerite and Lou were first married; but the Capano sons went to St. Edmond's Academy for Boys during their elementary school years, and from the ninth grade on, Tommy and Louie attended Archmere Academy, a Catholic prep school in Claymont, Delaware, a dozen miles north of Wilmington.

The forty-eight-acre estate that would become Archmere was once home to John J. Raskob, at various times chairman of the board of General Motors, secretary to Pierre S. du Pont, and vice president in charge of finances for the DuPont company. He also built the Empire State Building. He lived at Archmere with his wife, Helen Springer Green, and their twelve children from 1910 until 1931. Not much removed by distance from Seventh Street and Rodney,
where the Capanos, Rizzos, Moglionis, and their friends lived, it was like another planet in ambiance. Archmere was plush and private and absolutely perfect.