Breaking Unhealthy Soul Ties: Do Your Relationships Produce Bondage or Joy? (11 page)

One should pray for the fragmented soul to be made complete, and totally restored. This will include closing the door of dependence.

Thus one may be led to
call back
the fragmented parts of the soul, or heart. In doing so, use a prayer such as the following.

In the name of Jesus Christ, I command every portion of my soul that has been fragmented, torn or broken, to come back into its proper place; to be healed; every piece of my heart to be returned; my soul to be restored and every bondage or related soul-tie to be completely broken. Lord, now I ask you to heal my soul, and to bind up my broken heart. I ask you to guard my heart going forward by Your power, Your strength and Your love. Please keep my heart and mind pure, free without strings attached, through Christ Jesus.

A
men

4. Confess Any Remaining Sins

Take a moment, and spend some time with the Lord. Today is a very special day. You are conducting a transaction today with Jesus: you are giving him all your regrets, the things that make you feel bad about yourself, and He is taking them from you — forever! And as a blessing, He is going to wash you as white as snow.

I prayerfully confess now to You, Lord Jesus, that I have sinned by doing ___________, ___________ and ___________. I recognize these were wrong and I am sorry for them, please forgive me for ________ and _________, and wash all sin and guilt from me with Your blood – make me as white as snow. I accept and receive your merciful forgiveness, and will do all in my power to walk in righteousness, with Your help.

Amen

5. Pray and Take Authority
to Cast out Any Spirits

Cast out possible spirits of lust, perversions, addiction, occult control, anger, resentment, hate, guilt or fear.

And these signs shall follow them that believe; in my name they shall cast out devils.

Mark 16:17a

God has invested unbelievable power and authority in you to cast out every evil spirit and to break every demonic bondage. You are a believer, the power is yours!

Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth
shall be bound in heaven
: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth
shall be loosed in heaven
... if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask,
it shall be done for them
of my Father which is in heaven.

Matt. 18:18–20

Behold,
I give unto you power
... over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you.

Luke 10:19

Having done the previous steps, now use the authority given to you and the privilege of invoking the Name of Jesus — command each spirit by name, to leave you right now in Jesus’ Name!

In the name of Jesus Christ, I take authority over the spirit(s) tormenting me. I bind you, you spirit of _______________ and I break your hold over me. I command you to be defeated, your will to be broken and your strategy against me to be set into confusion and disarray. You leave me right now in Jesus’ name!

Amen

6. Break Ungodly Vows with Prayer

We commit ourselves by our words. Pay special attention to the way you speak; some habits may need to be broken. Pray about such vows as:

• “I’ll never do _________ again, Lord, if you’ll just save me this time!”
  
• “I wish he (she, or I) were dead.”
  
• “I’d give my right arm to…”
  
• “I’m dying for a smoke, a drink, a...”
  
• “If I’m not pregnant this time, I’ll never have sex with Joe again.”
  
• “I’ll never be like my mother, father, boss, etc.”
  

Such statements can become self-fulfilling curses, because they focus one’s attention upon the evil, and reinforce a negative soul-tie with the one hated or resented. Each one who feels the need to renounce and break any vows which he has made, or may have unknowingly spoken in the past should break them, by praying a prayer like this:

In the name of Jesus Christ, I hereby renounce and revoke any vow that I have made in the past, whether made intentionally or unintentionally. I take back the words that I spoke when I said ___________. I also break any soul-ties resulting from those vows and take authority over any evil spirits sent to enforce a particular vow to torment me. I command your will to be broken, your strategy to be sent into confusion, your plans to be finished, and to leave me right now in Jesus’ name!

Amen!

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Preventing Further Harmful Soul-Ties

Overcoming condemnation means living a life of liberty instead of bondage. One must learn to recognize the difference between freedom and condemnation. The men and women described throughout this book were in bondage, as are all who are under unhealthy soul-ties. This ought not so to be. Remember,

Now the Lord is that Spirit: and where the Spirit of the Lord is,
there is liberty
.

2 Cor. 3:17

Liberty, not bondage, is the Lord’s heritage for His children. Which are you enjoying? Remember God’s words to Pharaoh,
“Let my people go
!” God has not changed: that is still His will for His people.

Learn to Avoid Dependency

A healthy train of thought helps avoid dependency:

I am not vulnerable to you, because I do not fear you, nor will I be devastated by your rejection. More important, I am not going to become dependent upon you, or to you, because I have chosen to become, and remain, dependent only upon the Lord Jesus Christ. I belong to Him, and if He be for me what need I fear? I am accepted in the Beloved.

So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and
I will not fear
what man shall do unto me.

Heb. 13:6

Resist the Devil or
Anyone Else Trying to Control You

What we have been considering so far deals with the first portion of James 4:7, submitting ourselves to God and changing masters.

“
Submit yourselves therefore to God.
Resist the devil and he will flee from you.
”

James 4:7

The next portion of the verse gives one of the most powerful keys to victory for all forms of warfare, the principle of
spiritual resistance
. To continue walking in freedom, one must resist.

If someone has exercised the power of control over you, if he has manipulated, dominated or exercised witchcraft against you, you must make the decision to
resist that power.
You do this by making a firm decision of your will to not be controlled. In doing so, you make a decision to draw a line in the sand: to refuse to allow yourself to be vulnerable. This decision may include refusing to accept gifts, financial help or anything else which you determine has an ulterior motive, or a hidden hook included.

Remember the promise given in James 4:7; the devil will flee from you. Jesus has already defeated Satan. It is now up to us to experientially defeat him in the same way simply by applying the work that Jesus did. Just as we apply the blood to ourselves for salvation, we must apply the completed work of Calvary to defeat Satan’s works of darkness and thereby walk in freedom and holiness.

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye
present your bodies a living sacrifice,
holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service

Rom. 12:1

And the God of peace shall bruise Satan under your feet shortly, The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you, Amen.

Rom. 16:20

Replace Improper Soul -Ties

If a baby is separated from its mother at birth, it needs someone else to fill that void; someone else must provide it with nourishment, teaching and guidance. So it is when one is delivered from an ungodly soul-tie, some form of Godly soul-tie must take its place, someone within the Body to offer the nourishment and guidance that may be needed on a human level.

To oversimplify the situation, if a person has no Godly social contacts, and just one evil soul-tie, when delivered he should pray for the replacing of that soul-tie with a godly soul-tie.

We all lived in darkness and sin until God’s light dawned upon us. Thus, we all started out with damaged souls, impaired souls which have been in Satan’s kingdom and in the kingdom of darkness. Thus, we are all in need of restoration through Jesus’ ministry of restoration for our souls.

Satan is the roaring lion, seeking believers, whom he may devour, and whose souls he desires to rend and tear. That our souls require restoration is seen from the ministry committed to the Son of God, as the Good Shepherd:

He restoreth my soul
: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.

Ps. 23:3

Jesus restores our souls by leading us into the paths of righteousness, away from the paths of destruction that we have either chosen for ourselves (i.e. “there is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death” [Prov. 14:12]), or have been lured into by the agents of the enemy (such as harlots, evil companions, or others seeking to divert us from the paths of God).

May your testimony be like David’s glorious testimony of deliverance:

Our soul is escaped as a bird out of the snare
of the fowlers: the snare is broken [by deliverance and by the introduction of truth], and
we are escaped.

Ps. 124:7 [Brackets Ours]

Appendix

The following letter was received from a young mother about a week after receiving deliverance from very strong soul-ties and eight multiple personalities.

March 7, 1997

Mr. Banks:

I wanted to take this opportunity to thank you for your kindness and willingness to minister to myself and to my son. When I first read your books, I thought “there is no one this non-judgmental, not really.” I was wrong, Mr. Banks. You show more Christ-like compassion than most ministers. Not just “lip-service,” but walking it out. Thank you for showing me there are real people who really care. I pray I can show that type of compassion in my life toward others, including my family.

As far as my deliverance from so much... praise God! I have never felt such freedom, peace, and hope. My husband didn’t care that I couldn’t explain it as I wanted... he just knows there has been liberty given to me by the grace of God and the cross of Jesus! And we both have more hope for Andy. What some doctors may not realize is, some parents don’t give up! There is Jesus Christ, our Healer, and I know He will heal Andy. Andy is really looking forward to meeting you and to have the “bad angels” not bother him.

To give you feedback on significant things you could not have known on your own (because I didn’t realize it myself), God reached further to deliver me than I even knew possible. I remember you praying against “rejection from the womb” regarding myself, and my mind went “No,” but at the same time I felt something inside react. Then I realized that it was true. Physically, my mother gave birth to me during her seventh month of pregnancy. Emotionally, spiritually my parents wanted me to be a boy; so much so they didn’t even pick out a girl’s name. The way I got my name is, I had a “great-uncle” who was a minister who told my parents I was going to be a girl and he wanted to name me. They laughed and told him “sure.” His reaction was, since we were at the Dallas airport and he was leaving on Dallas Air, they could just name me “Dallas.” I was born, they had no other name, and the joke backfired on me. I was given the name Dallas.

BUT, my Bible says that God has called me by my name, and I am His! In Psalm 139 it says, “While I was still in my mother’s womb, You knew me”!!! In God’s eyes I am not a joke, or a mistake, or the wrong gender. I am just right!!! I do have a purpose! He wanted me here, and to think of that love... I’m so blessed to KNOW He really does love me. He really does!

I have life, and I have purpose, and I am not rejected.

What a wonderful combination! It’s O.K. to be myself. It’s O.K. to feel attractive, especially to my husband. It’s great to be female!

You mentioned breaking “soul-ties” with those who had abused me, or with whom I had committed sin. I understand that in my spirit. I didn’t, until I was set free from those ties. I was in bondage to each one of those people and not able to freely be spiritually joined in every way to my husband. Those other ties were holding me back! I abhor thoughts that used to torment my mind and even my dreams. I desire to be only with my husband. I no longer have any interest in anything pornographic. And I do not refuse my husband’s advances as I used to. What a wonderful husband! What a loving Father God is! He set me free to be a real wife! No bad dreams or suggestive ones. No seeking to meet such needs myself, for myself. Sex is like a present from God. I understand that. Pure, no shame, no guilt.

I remember while we were doing the “housecleaning” during deliverance, one named “asthma” coming out. I didn’t know there was such a thing as a spirit of asthma! This I can tell you... I’ve not had to use an inhaler in two days! Praise God! There have been two times when I felt as though an “attack” was about to happen and I said, “No, that thing went and I don’t have asthma! In Jesus Name!” And, my breathing was fine!

I also remember losing a spirit named “Coach” and it was the one that told me what to do. I had had a lot of confusion in my mind, and I had a hard time with all kinds of internal thoughts. What was what? Was the Lord speaking to me, or was it myself? And then the thoughts would just become almost deafening. This wasn’t anything I had thought about or put on my list. In retrospect, I suspect “Coach” was a spirit sent to confuse me, to keep me from hearing the voice of the Good Shepherd clearly. I no longer have that noise in my head at all! Clear, even thoughts. Thank You, Jesus!

There was one that left that wanted to kill... there were little things that used to set me off. A car driving on my bumper, or Andy (my son) just coming to me to ask a question. I’d react very angrily, then quickly hug him and apologize for yelling at him. Now, driving is no big deal. I enjoy Andy coming to me and wanting a hug, or asking a question (unless he is being mischievous).

I don’t fully know all that is happening with me other than to say God has released me from a lot of bondage!

Thank you for being willing to pray for Andy, when others were not. I know God will bless you mightily for all the people you’ve ministered to! I took forward to seeing Andy delivered and to give you back a praise report! (AGAIN!)

In Jesus,

Dallas, George, and Andy Pines

Praise be to God for His indescribable gift!