Cut Cords of Attachment (20 page)

Chapter 10
Bandage to Rebalance

12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment

Step 1. Create a Sacred Space

Step 2. Make an Energy Sandwich

Step 3. Activate the Aura

Step 4. Choose Which Cord to Cut

Step 5. Locate the Cord

Step 6. Give Permission

Step 7. Remove the Cord

Step 8. Bandage to Rebalance

Apply an energy bandage

Bandage yourself

Meet the Top 12 Bandage Makers

Extra help for bandaging

Avoid creating a vacuum

Add color therapy

Step 9. Write the Dialogue Box

Step 10. Discuss the Relationship Pattern

Step 11. Discuss the Client’s Logical Consequences for Other Relationships

Step 12. Assign Homework

LET’S GET PRACTICAL

At Step 8, you will cut your second cord of attachment.

1. Choose another minor cord to cut.

2. Quickly do Steps 1-7, then go ahead and slowly move through Step 8, doing your first “Official Reading” of the chapter.

3. Then pick up your pace for the remaining chapters through Step 12.

Notice how naturally you keep gaining more skill? This kind of learning is cumulative.

Bandaging After You Have Physically Cut a Cord

Does the sight of blood make you faint? Not to worry, you can still remain upright while doing the kind of bandaging in Step 8. There’s no blood, no horror, and probably not much active work to do at all.

That’s because you can ask your client to do the main work instead. This will bring him extra benefits, as detailed in this chapter. I’ll start by mentioning my favorite benefit: Fun.

Aside from its serious therapeutic value, Step 8 can be the most playful part of the 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment. Laughter, creativity, artistry and fun—qualities like these add juice to cord cutting.

TECHNIQUE: Apply an Energy Bandage

With your knowledge about cords of attachment, maybe you have started to think that human life has a lot in common with the book title,
Of Human Bondage.
Well, here’s your chance to learn Of Human
Bandage.

In the following technique, I’ll use the example of Archangel Raphael for Divine Being. In Step 8, I will refer to your client (or you, if self-healing) as “Pat.”

1. First, perform the spiritual healer’s equivalent of washing your hands: Get Big, thinking the name of the Divine Being who will be applying this bandage.

2. Set up the
bandage base,
establishing the physical site of the bandage. Move one of your client’s hands, palm down, onto the part of his body where the cord was just cut. (Or, if using an agate slice as a tool, place it where the cord was cut and then guide your client’s hand to hold the agate in place.)

3. Form a temporary
bandage lid:
Hold one hand a few inches over the bandage base

4. Tell your client, “Choose whatever stones you like for your bandage, like diamonds, rubies, emeralds, amethysts. Archangel Raphael and I will put it on as you speak.”

5. Each time your client names a gemstone, move the bandage lid away from his body. This provides space for the bandage to grow beneath your hands. The first stone named will be closest to your client, followed by the second, and so forth, with the final choice of stone the farthest away. For each new stone he names, take a step backward. Make each step as large as seems right to you. Stop when the last gemstone is named. You need not see or feel the bandage growing beneath your hand. Trust that it has happened.

6. End with a white stone. If your client hasn’t mentioned one, give a prompt. “It’s customary to top off a bandage like this with a white stone, like a diamond, pearl, moonstone or clear quartz crystal. This will let in all the frequencies of light.”

7. After your client names the last stone, Archangel Raphael will finish constructing the energy bandage. All you need do is keep your bandage lid in position.

8. Announce a time frame for the bandage, e.g., “Three days or better”. The complete request would go like this: “Archangel Raphael, have this bandage be with Pat for three days or better, until this healing is complete. Thank you.”

9. Remove the agate stone, if used. If a hand was used, tell your client that he may return to any comfortable position desired.

10. Sit where you were before Step 8 to Cut Cords of Attachment, and proceed immediately to Step 9. (Unless you are reading through this book for initial learning or, as a more experienced self-healer, you are doing general reading to refresh your understanding of Rosetree Energy Spirituality.)

Q&A About Bandaging

Quickly and effortlessly, this latest technique brings closure to the physical aspect of cord cutting. Maybe you have questions, though.

Why go through the motions of this technique? Why not just say, “Archangel Raphael, put on a bandage”?

In the Quickie Method for cord cutting, the whole technique works like that, with a set of ideas or maybe prayers or a visualization. This belittles the reality of cords of attachment and the powerful healing that comes from removing them.

If you want real, permanent healing, be willing to treat cords of attachment as though they are real. (Which they are, at the astral level.) Step 8 to Cut Cords of Attachment links the concept of the healing to human reality, just like all the rest of the 12 Steps.

Why bother to add a bandage? The cord is cut by now, isn’t it?

This bandage serves an important purpose, sending frequencies of light to balance your client’s aura in the days following this psychic-level surgery.

These energy bandages are as important as physical bandages would be for surgery in a hospital. Never skimp on them, not even when you are your own client.

What is the point of asking the client to choose the gems for a bandage?

Empowerment! Choosing the stones for a bandage encourages a client to ask himself questions like these:

• What do I want?
  
• What do I need?
  
• If I could have anything I wanted, what would I really prefer?
  
• Instead of thinking about the cordee, what do I desire for
  myself?
  

What if this is too hard for my client? I’m thinking of my mother. Mom wants help but she doesn’t have much imagination. She wants to sit there and have me fix her.

Don’t give sessions to clients like that. Rosetree Energy Spirituality is for people who are willing to participate in their healing process.

Wait for your mother to grow up (inwardly). Before then, she might do better with Energy Medicine. Her cords of attachment will wait for removal until she is ready to grow, emotionally and spiritually. Neither one of these happens by sitting passively and have somebody fix you.

I don’t get it. Asking any client to name gemstones that he cannot physically see, this is supposed to be empowering?

Actually, it is. Often I have found that this playful act of creativity can become a big step of empowerment for some clients.

Whether the client is you or your mother or a friend who seeks growth, participation at Step 8 can be very empowering.

Clients can be in better shape than you think. As a healer, I have had many experiences like the one in the following story.

TALE: Patience With That Bandage

Madison was, frankly, a whiner. Yet I knew that she deserved healing as much as any of my easier clients. When we got to the bandage part of her session, it felt like pulling teeth. At least I was glad not to be her dentist; pulling real teeth would undoubtedly be worse.

“What would you like on your bandage?”

“I don’t know. You choose.”

“You can do this part, Madison. You know best what you need.”

“No, I don’t.”

“Just pick something, whatever appeals to you.”

“I don’t know the names of any stones.”

Although I seriously doubted this, I played along. “Really? Could it be a diamond?”

“I suppose, if you say so.”

On went her diamond. “Mother Mary, please have this be with Madison for a period of three days or better, until this healing is complete.”

When we got to the cord dynamics in Step 10, I described how Madison had a pattern with the cordee, her big sister, where supposedly nothing that Madison did was ever good enough.

My client was so grateful for the validation that she cried. As the healer, I felt my heart open up.

Guess what? The people who most try your patience can also be the ones you help most. If we had not been able to make a change to the energy flows in her aura, Madison could have kept whining for years. Cutting this cord of attachment helped her to stop whining and reclaim her power.

If a client isn’t particularly advanced, why would you want him to choose the bandage?

You, The Modest Reader, may have spent years doing therapy or metaphysics or both. Wouldn’t you choose better than the friend who is receiving your session?

Not really. Whenever someone co-creates with a Divine Being, help is supplied instantly. True, spiritual help won’t be enough to compensate for a complete lack of skill. But here your client is part of an Energy Sandwich, guided by a friend with skills (you), and the task is simply stringing together some lovely astral-level gemstones.

No client, no matter how clueless, can mess this up.

This fact makes Step 8 a great chance to give your client an active role. It’s empowering for your client to actively participate.

But what if my client pulls a Madison and claims that she doesn’t know the names of any gemstones?

Saying “a red stone” will work. Divine Beings work telepathically, and they’re quite familiar with gemstones.

Never miss a low-risk opportunity to empower the person you are helping.

By contrast, your client could be wildly creative. What if she wants to add accoutrements like the vibes from her favorite camping trip or a Mozart sonata?

A Divine Being can manage that, too.

TALE: Bird, Beach, and Bouquet

Marvin had a poetic streak. Whenever we had a session, I would look forward to his bandage creation. This one was typical:

• Daisies
  
• A really beautiful sunset at the beach.
  
• The call of a songbird.
  

Here Marvin paused. “I don’t know names of songbirds. Is that okay?”

“Sure,” I answered. “Archangel Raphael knows plenty of them. He’ll find the right one for you.”

To finish the job: “Archangel Raphael, have this bandage be with Marvin for three days or better, until this healing is complete.”

Gentle Bandage Encouragement

Sometimes a client thinks for an awfully long time before naming any gemstones. You may suspect that she is trying to psych out what would help the cordee.

Don’t interrogate her to find out. Simply say, “Remember, this bandage is just for you.

The cordee is already taken care of, as we discussed before.”

Yes, despite all your previous conversation, some clients still feel guilty about cutting a cord. Or there can be very established patterns about always putting other people first.

By asking your client to choose her own bandage, you subtly begin to retrain her. She can learn it feels good to put herself first.

TALE: Grunter Turned Bandage Designer

When Don cut the cord to his ex-wife, he wasn’t in a great mood. The man didn’t smile once until we got to Step 10, when I validated his side of the story in this painful marriage.

Meanwhile, at Step 8, Don looked and felt grim. He even sounded grim, answering most of my questions with a scowl and a grunt.

So did Don leap at the chance to name gemstones during Step 8? Hardly. But I wasn’t going to let him grunt his way through. I coaxed him. Outright frolicking wasn’t required, but at least the guy could name a gemstone or two.

Humoring me, Don chose a ruby, then a diamond.

I avoided saying, “That wasn’t so horrible, was it?” Instead, I stayed with the program:

“Archangel Gabriel, have this be with Don for three days or better, until the healing is complete.”

From that moment, precisely, joy began to enter Don’s aura.

A Bandage of Your Own

The only tricky part of self-bandaging happens if you feel tempted to rush.

A client might need three minutes to select the crystal covering that is simply perfect for rebalancing. Helping yourself, however, you might say the fastest thing that comes to mind, just to save time.

Well, don’t be such a cheapskate. Do Step 8 with as much patience as you would give to a family member or friend. Apart from allowing enough time, here is what you need to know to bandage yourself properly:

TECHNIQUE: Self-Bandaging

1. Get Big, thinking the name of the Divine Being who will be applying this bandage. (Here, I’ll use the example of Archangel Raphael.)

2. To set up the physical basis for your bandage, the bandage base, place one of your hands, palm down, on the part of your body where the cord was cut. Or, when using an agate slice as a tool, put that in position and hold it down with your hand.

3. Form a temporary bandage lid: Place your free hand, palm facing your body, a few inches above the bandage base.

4. Say aloud the sequence of stones that you choose for your energy bandage.

5. With each stone, move your hand a bit further away from your body. This allows space for the bandage to grow beneath your bandage lid.

6. End with a white stone to let in all the frequencies of light.

7. Announce a time frame of three days for the bandage, including the term “or better,” e.g., “Archangel Raphael, have this bandage be with me for three days or better, until this healing is complete. Thank you.”

8. Remove the agate stone, if used. If your hand was used, return to any comfortable position desired. Proceed immediately to Step 9 to Cut Cords of Attachment. (Unless you are reading through this book for initial learning or, as a more experienced self-healer, you are doing general reading to refresh your understanding of Rosetree Energy Spirituality.)