Authors: Somraj Pokras

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In the long run, as long as the two of you recover your balance, no harm is done. It just means there is more healing work ahead. If it becomes an issue between you that prevents future sessions, you might want to find a therapist to help you through the rough spots.

EXERCISE:
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS ABOUT THE GIVER’S ROLE

Do you, the giver, have any concerns about your ability to follow the guidelines?

Do you have anything you want to discuss with the receiver about what you have just read?

Do you, the receiver, have anything you want to discuss or add about the descriptions you have just read?

GUIDELINES FOR THE RECEIVER

Whatever resistance, pain, or wounding you carry with you, underneath it, there’s nothing wrong with you. Accept yourself, love yourself, and forgive yourself. Decide to move on with your life, heal yourself with your beloved’s assistance, and create as much sacred pleasure as you can.

Your job as receiver is to let go of the past by focusing on your body now. If strong emotional reactions occur, let them be. Don’t suppress the feelings or memories. Confront what comes up now, or it will continue to make unwelcome visits and inhibit your ability to experience pleasure.

By allowing deep love to enter your G-spot, you can let go of old buried memories and emotions and expand your potential for ecstasy. For some women, it’s the only way they can open to experience female ejaculation. Here’s how you can encourage this to happen:

Choose to receive healing freely, willingly, and for sincere reasons, not because of outside pressure.

Be sure you feel comfortable receiving from the giver you choose. Don’t let just anyone act as your giver.

Ask for whatever you need to relax, trust, and feel safe.

Let feelings of love enter your body, mind, and spirit through your vagina.

Just feel. You don’t have to do anything. Focus on your feelings and body sensations in order to increase your capacity to feel even more.

Allow whatever you experience to happen — tears, words, and screams are all okay. You may also use the four cornerstones of supreme bliss to ground yourself if you discover you are numbing out from the experience.

Don’t insist on understanding what you experience if it’s confusing. Simply feel whatever energy you can now without analysis or explanation. You don’t have to understand in order to heal.

Don’t actively seek to escape, tune out, go numb, or distract yourself. If you have any of these impulses, let your giver know immediately.

If you’re willing, share and fully express any old memories that come up regardless of how embarrassing, anxiety-producing,
or vulnerable they make you feel. Of course, if it’s too difficult for you, don’t share them.