Give Women Wild Screaming Orgasms (10 page)

Diagram of PC muscles

Her Kegel exercising will dramatically increase her squirtage. That is, IF she is following your commands to push.

Each time you two get into bed, be sure to tell her that you welcome her ejaculation. It is critically important that she understands that you believe it is sexy and normal and natural. You must reassure her in order to override her own self consciousness.

To set things up for maximum squirtage, start with much foreplay and emotional bonding. Then say to her “Baby, tonight I want you to come so fucking hard that it soaks my bed! That will make me so excited.” Then when she comes, encourage her further with: “Yes Baby! Come hard!” Then accept her ejaculate as sexy and natural.

Your woman will certainly find that her orgasms are more powerful when she ejaculates.

After she is able to squirt from deep spot stimulation, you may find that she can squirt from clitoral stimulation and from intercourse. In reality, it has less to do with what gets massaged, but everything to do with her willingness to just let go and let it happen and push out.

And of course, it has to do with her willingness to do her Kegel exercises. If she stops doing her Kegels, her regular squirting will subside.

For further reference, you absolutely must have the book "The G Spot and Other Discoveries About Human Sexuality" by Ladas, Whipple, and Perry. Copyright 1982. ISBN 0-440-13040-9. It has an entire chapter on female ejaculation, which is very informative. It also has chapters on the PC muscles and other good stuff.

One of the most exciting things for a man is to fuck his woman up the ass. It is raunchy, it is taboo, it is animalistic, and it is one of the major demonstrations that his woman is ruthlessly sexually expressive.

For a woman, it can be one of the naughtiest things she can do.

And thus, it can be exciting as hell.

Interestingly, it results in the deepest and most powerful orgasm she can experience. The anal orgasm is like no other.

Some women would never ever do anal, no matter what. Other women would jump on the opportunity. But for most women, they are sitting on the fence and just need a little “gentle loving inducement.”

Note: This can ONLY be done for a woman who is already vaginally orgasmic AND multiply orgasmic. Take care of those things first.

Also, finger nails must be highly polished and very short.

And, as always, build the trust, intimacy, and remind her that everything is normal and natural.

The important thing to remember is that once she states her objection to the act, it makes it immensely difficult to accomplish. You absolutely must avoid anything that will alarm her objections to entering the “exit only.”

You will perform a process of steps that demonstrate to her subconscious mind the pleasures of anal excitation without alarming her conscious mind’s objections to the “dirty deed.”

One step at a time. . . .

This all happens over a course of several nights. You do this covertly. Your goal is your little secret.

Begin with stimulation of the BACK of the deep spot. Have her lie on her back. Use lots of Astroglide. With your palm facing down, use your middle finger to go in as deep as possible. Press your curled fingers hard against her to make sure you get your middle finger in as deep as possible. If you use enough Astroglide on your hand, your curled fingers will not pull on or irritate her skin. Curl the tip of your middle finger in a “come hither” manner as if to press hard against her tail bone. Repeat.

At this point, you are going to wish you worked out your forearms more often.

Continue curling the tip of your middle finger hard against her tailbone. As she starts getting close, her PC muscles will start to flex. It will feel like it is going to break your finger, but keep pressing on. This will produce a very powerful orgasm IN THE AREA that you want to TRAIN.

On another night, get her on her hands and knees and again stimulate the back of her deep spot until orgasm. This makes her more familiar with that type of orgasm in that position, the “doggy style” position.

Now you are ready to associate anal stimulation to sexual arousal.

On the next night, have her lie on her back. Sit on your knees between her legs. Lubricate your hands liberally with Astroglide. Lubricate her vagina as well. In fact, use enough so that some of the lubricant drips down on her anus.

Again rub the back of her deep spot. When she starts getting close to her orgasm, use your well lubricated pinky finger of your other hand and lightly press your pinky finger against her anus. Make sure there is lots of lubricant on her anus.

When she is about to come, press just the tip of your pinky finger into her anus. If she objects, stop stimulating her deep spot and assure her that you will be gentle, but do NOT remove your finger. Return to the stimulation of her deep spot. Since she is so close, that should be motivation enough for her to concentrate on her vaginal stimulation. Continue the stimulation until she orgasms. At the height of her

orgasm, slowly remove your pinky. This associates anal penetration to her orgasm.

Reward her with some good old fashioned love making and close emotional intimacy.

The next night, do this again. Rub the back of her deep spot. But this time, slide your pinky in when she starts getting aroused, don’t wait until she is close. And then, when she starts getting close, slide your pinky in up to the second joint. And just before she orgasms, gently slide your pinky out and back into her anus a few times. This associates sliding in her anus to her orgasm.

At this point, the subconscious has begun to associate anal stimulation with sexual arousal. So you have her subconscious mind on your side. Finish with good old fashioned love making.

To continue further, you are going to have to start to get her conscious mind engaged. But it must be done in such a way as to not raise an objection. This can be accomplished in a “hypothetical” situation, a situation that is possible, but that she wouldn’t actually do. Or, in other words, a fantasy.

In a fantasy, a woman can imagine that she is doing something that she would never “really” do, but can experience the situation anyway.

Fantasy is the perfect scenario for her “experiencing” anal sex without actually “doing” it. Once she experiences it in her mind, it will be much easier for her to experience it later “for real.”

Using fantasy, you can magnify the excitement of an activity. And for a woman, the activities that are exciting are the ones that are naughty. Anal sex is just about as naughty as it gets.

Have your woman get on her hands and knees and use lots of lubrication on your hands. Rub the back of her deep spot with one hand AND rub her clitoris with your other hand.

Narrate a fantasy to her about how she is a very proper woman, but sometimes she is so very naughty. She is such a naughty little girl because she wants to get fucked so badly. (The usual kind of fuck.)

And it makes her even more excited because she is being very naughty.

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Continue the stimulation and the fantasy to get her close to an orgasm. Then take your middle finger out of her vagina and move it up to her anus. Continue the clitoral stimulation lightly. Here is the critical point.

Change the fantasy to being about how she is so naughty that she wants to get even naughtier. She wants to get fucked in the ass. Carefully slide the tip of your middle finger into her anus.

Continue the clitoral stimulation lightly so that she continues to receive sexual stimulation and remains sexually aroused.

Tell her: “You are so naughty and you are so turned on, because you fantasize about me fucking you in the ass. You would never do that, but you get so turned on about the thought of me fucking you in the ass. You are being so naughty, because you are thinking such naughty thoughts. You get so fucking hot thinking about me fucking you hard in the ass.”

Slowly slide your middle finger in a little deeper.

“You get so fucking hot thinking about my hard cock buried deep in your ass.”

Slowly slide your middle finger in and out of her ass. Continue the clitoral stimulation to insure that sexual stimulation remains associated to anal stimulation.

“You fantasize about me fucking you hard up the ass. You get so fucking turned on thinking about my hard cock ramming your ass hard.”

This is why it is critically important that you command respect with your woman. She absolutely must take what you say seriously. She must make what you say real in her mind.

So long as it’s just a fantasy, she can go along with it. But because it is a fantasy, she must vividly imagine what you narrate.

Continue the fantasy while you slowly slide your finger in and out of her anus. Continue the clitoral stimulation lightly.

If her arousal increases, she is responding well to the anal stimulation. Slow down the clitoral stimulation and increase the anal stimulation.

If she starts to get close to orgasm, take your finger away from her clitoris and continue the anal stimulation.

If you really do command respect with your woman, your narration of the fantasy along with your finger in her ass will cause her to have an anal orgasm.

The anal orgasm will blow her mind. She will not know exactly “how” she came, but she will know that she just had the most remarkable orgasm of her life.

If you did not cause her to have an anal orgasm, stop before she gets sore. Slowly take your middle finger out.

Whenever you take anything out of her anus, it is VERY important that you tell her to relax. She must NOT tighten up. That will make things much more difficult. It will make her irritated with it.

If she ever tightens up, stop movement and remind her to relax. Do not continue movement until she relaxes her anus. When she relaxes on your command, she further trusts you and she learns that following your commands leads to her increased sexual pleasure.

Sometimes it will feel as if she is having a bowel movement. That is all the wrong association. Anything you do with her anus must be done in the context of heightened sexual arousal. During sexual arousal, the mind interprets everything in a completely different way. That includes slight pain, spoken word, and even objects leaving the anus.

And this is very important: anything you take out of her anus, do NOT put into her vagina. There will be bacteria that will cause very serious vaginal infections.

On another night, bring a small narrow butt plug. At this point, she will be much more comfortable about anal play. Have her get on all fours.

Lube up the butt plug and her anus liberally. Then slowly insert the plug. Then begin standard doggy style intercourse. Continue intercourse while pressing lightly on the butt plug. Her orgasm will incorporate the sensation of the butt plug with intercourse.

The last and final step comes on another night. By this point, if everything is going well, her conscious mind has fantasized about you fucking her in the ass.

Make your plans for the big night. Set up a date to make her feel very special and beautiful. Do all the usual stuff that will drive her crazy with desire.

Later, when in bed, have her lie on her back. Lube up her vagina and anus well. Then go down on her while you have your finger in her anus and give her a clitoral orgasm.

Finally, you will leverage her conscious mind. She has already fantasized about being fucked in the ass by you. Most women are sexually submissive. They let their man lead in the bedroom. Her fantasy was probably in that context.

Tell her to get on her hands and knees. Lube up her ass and lube up your cock and simply tell her in a confident voice that you are going to fuck her in the ass.

If you have done everything properly, she will be more than happy.

After she has had an amazing anal orgasm, it is extremely important that you then hold her closely and lovingly and give her lots of emotional intimacy. You absolutely must affirm her as a person, as a proper woman.

There cannot be anything “bad” about her being “very naughty.” She must know that you also adore her for the proper woman that she is.

It would be advisable to not talk about the act outside of the bedroom, unless she brings it up. What happens in the bedroom is your and her little secret.

I have answered many questions from men who have had trouble making their girlfriend come.

Question:

A girlfriend of mine and I were discovering what makes her feel the best, as I am trying very hard to be the first guy to make her come, and I usually have little or no difficulty with that, however she seems to get very close but not enough to seal the deal I guess. Well through some finger exploring I happened upon what I believe was the 'back of the deep spot' which was quite far in and more or less felt like I was massaging the back of her pelvic bone. She had a tremendous response to this and had quite an episode, although she claimed still did not orgasm...

Do you have any other pointers you feel I should know.

Yes, the back of the deep spot is very powerful. But I have to ask you: how do you know she didn't come? Did you ask her if she came? I hope not, because you NEVER ask a woman if she has had an orgasm.

Did you tell her before starting the sex session that the object was to make her have an orgasm? I hope not, because that would make sex ‘goal oriented.’ Telling a woman that the goal is for her to have an orgasm puts pressure on her to perform. The pressure she feels to perform will actually reduce the possibility that she will orgasm.

But if you simply set out to “discover what makes her feel the best” then that is the proper context. It is about a shared intimate experience of pleasing each other.