No More Bullies (15 page)
Most of all, we are called to be Jesus to the world around us, to demonstrate in word and deed, not simply in slogan, “What would Jesus do?” As we follow Christ and strive to be more like Him, may we also encourage people and share His love with each person we meet along the way. He is our Savior and Lord; He is the Answer for every broken heart, the one Answer we cannot live withoutâHe is the Healer of the wounded spirit.
Chapter 4: Monsters on the Loose
1.
Gavin DeBecker, “What the Columbine Report Didn't Tell You,” APBnews.com, 19 May, 2000.
2.
From Alan Prendergast, “The Missing Motive,” from westword.com, originally published by
Westword
, 13 July 2000, copyright 2000 New Times, Inc. All rights reserved.
3.
Gavin DeBecker, “What the Columbine Report Didn't Tell You.”
4.
Susan Greene, “Teen describes school life filled with taunts, abuse,” DenverPost.com, 24 April 1999.
5.
Ibid.
6.
Suellen Fried and Paula Fried,
Bullies and Victims
(New York: M.Evans and Company, 1996), 87.
Chapter 5: Finding a Voice
1.
Brent Curtis and John Eldredge,
The Sacred Romance
(Nashville:Thomas Nelson, 1997), 49.
2.
Ibid.
Chapter 6: The Playground Parable
1.
Gavin DeBecker, “What the Columbine Report Didn't Tell You,” APBnews.com, 19 May, 2000.
2.
From the tape series One Week in October, copyright 1999 by Ravi Zacharias, Ravi Zacharias International Ministries, 4725 Peachtree Corners Circle, Suite 250, Norcross, Georgia 30092.
3.
John H. Hoover and Ronald Oliver,
The Bullying Prevention
Handbook: A Guide for Principals, Teachers, and Counselors
(Bloomington, Ind.: National Educational Service, 1996), 96â97.
Chapter 7: Help for the Wounded
1.
For more detailed reading on the subject of Christian morals and world-view, I heartily recommend the works of Ravi Zacharias, Francis Schaeffer, Josh McDowell, and C. S. Lewis.
Chapter 10: A Fresh Start
1.
Brennan Manning,
Abba's Child
(Colorado Springs: NavPress, 1994), 26.
2.
Ibid.
3.
Suellen and Paula Fried,
Bullies and Victims,
89.
4.
Adapted from
Bullies and Victims
, 89â90.
Where You Can Find Help
The following list of resources is not exhaustive, nor is it necessarily a personal endorsement of the organizations listed, but it is a good place to start when you need help in dealing with bullying, abuse, intimidation, or the effects of other compulsive or addictive behaviors. It's normal to be nervous when reaching out for help, but don't let that hold you back. Be bold and courageous; contact someone on this list to help you. Begin today to do something that will bring about positive, Christ-centered change in your life, and in the lives of the people you love.
AMERICAN ASSOCIATION OF PASTORAL COUNSELORS
9504 A Lee Highway
Fairfax, VA 22031
phone: 703-385-6967
CANAAN LAND CHRISTIAN CENTER FOR WOMEN
2377 County Road 65
Marburg, AL 36051
phone: 334-365-9086
CANAAN LAND MINISTRIES
P.O. Box 310
Autaugaville, AL 36003-0310
phone: 334-365-2200
Ministry to men.
CELEBRATION MINISTRIES
Al Denson
222 West Las Colinas Boulevard
Suite 1750
Irving, TX 75034
phone: 972-501-1456
aldenson.com
Christian musician, author, and minister offers Bible studies, public school programs, and an on-line prayer request ministry.
CENTER FOR THE PREVENTION
OF SEXUAL AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
1914 N. 34th Street
Seattle, WA 98103
phone: 206-634-1903
Emergency: 800-562-6025
CHRISTIAN GROWTH CENTERS
P.O. Box 40
Hillsboro, NH 03244
phone: 603-464-5555
Specializes in helping young people who have been battered and fragmented through broken homes, drugs, alcohol, etc.
DORCAS HOUSE
phone: 501-274-4022
Specializes in helping women and children who are victims of domestic violence.
EXODUS INTERNATIONAL
P.O. Box 77652
Seattle, WA 98177
phone: 206-784-7799
fax: 206-784-7872
Equipping and uniting organizations to communicate freedom from homosexuality.
FAMILIES IN CRISIS, INC.
7320 Ohms Lane
Edina, MN 55435
phone: 612-893-1883
HOLY HIGHWAY
phone: 903-866-3300
Recommended for families with rebellious teenage girls.
LORD'S RANCH
Box 700
Warm Springs, AR 72478
phone: 870-647-2541
fax: 870-647-2337
LOST AND FOUND
phone: 303-697-5049
Help for those involved in drugs, alcohol, and sexual abuse.
MERCY MINISTRIES OF AMERICA
P.O. Box 111060
Nashville, TN 37222-1060
phone: 615-831-6987
fax: 615-315-9749
mercyministries.org
Mercy Ministries of America is a residential facility, provided free of charge, for troubled young women and unwed mothers between the ages of thirteen and twenty-eight, who are willing to commit six months to deal with life-controlling issues such as: pregnancy, drug and alcohol abuse, eating disorders, etc.
NATIONAL SCHOOL SAFETY CENTER
Pepperdine University
Malibu, CA 90263
phone: 805-373-9977
NEW CREATIONS
phone: 765-965-0099
Help for families with rebellious youth.
NEW HORIZONS MINISTRIES
1002 South 350 East
Marion, IN 46953-9502
Family and Christian character training.
NEW LIFE
phone: 800-NEW-LIFE
Counseling center and telephone crisis lines.
PARENTS ANONYMOUS
Contact:
Child Help USA
P.O. Box 630
Hollywood, CA 90028
A program for parents who already have or are afraid they might abuse their children.
RAPHA
4351 Shackleford Road
Norcross, GA 30093
phone: 800-383-HOPE
fax: 770-806-7641
Rapha features Christ-centered, professional counseling for emotional and substance abuse, anxiety attacks, stress, unhealthy relationships, eating disorders, depression, drugs, alcohol, suicidal tendencies, etc.
REMUDA RANCH CENTER
One East Apache Street
Wickenburg, AZ 85390
phone: 800-445-1900
SHELTERWOOD
12550 Zuni Street
Westminster, CO 80234
phone: 800-584-5005
shelterwood.org
“Restoring families through Christian relationships.”
TEEN CHALLENGE INTERNATIONAL
P.O. Box 1015
Springfield, MO 65801
phone: 800-814-5728
Specializes in seeking spiritual solutions to addictive behavior patterns.
WALTER HOVING HOME
P.O. Box 194
Garrison, NY 10525
phone: 914-424-3674
“Rebuilding lives shattered by drugs and alcohol, and other life-controlling problems.”
Web Sites
(Please note: This is not necessarily an endorsement of these sites, or the information included on them; however, this brief list will give you a place to start in searching for other resources.)
http://www.successunlimited.co.uk
(Dealing primarily with bullying in the United Kingdom,
this site also includes a section on bullying in the United States.)
http://www.mobbing-usa.com
(The terms “mobbing” and “bullying” are often used
interchangeably in the U. S.)
http://www.bullybusters.org
(This site charges for their services. The other listings provide free
information.)
http:// stopbullying.com
(A one-stop resource on dealing with childhood bullying and
teasing.)
Recommended Reading List
1. Bernall, Misty.
She Said Yes: The Unlikely Martydom of
Cassie Bernall.
Farmington, N.Y.; Nashville: Copublishers, Plough and Word, 1999.
2. Curtis, Brent, and John Eldredge.
The Sacred Romance.
Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1997.
3. Fried, Suellen, and Paula Fried.
Bullies and Victims.
New York: M. Evans and Company, 1996.
4. Gaddis, Patricia Riddle.
Battered But Not Broken.
Valley Forge, Pa.: Judson Press, 1996.
5. Kroeger, Catherine Clark, and James R. Beck.
Women,
Abuse, and the Bible.
Grand Rapids: Baker, 1996.
6. Manning, Brennan.
Abba's Child.
Colorado Springs: NavPress, 1994.
7. McDowell, Josh, and Bob Hostetler.
Right From Wrong.
Dallas: Word, 1994.
8. Zacharias, Ravi.
A Shattered Visage: The Real Face of
Atheism.
Grand Rapids: Baker, 1993.
9. Zacharias, Ravi.
Can Man Live Without God.
Nashville: W Publishing Group, 1994.
10. Zacharias, Ravi.
Deliver Us from Evil.
Nashville: W Publishing Group, 1996.