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Eventually we thought it was better to spend some time apart. To reinvent the system.

Believe it or not, during all this, I was also preparing a new Hite Report. Happily, by 1991 my reputation had become stable enough in Europe and the UK to get a contract for
The
Hite
Report
on
the
Family.
I wanted to explore dialectics within the traditional family structure: love and power and how their construction affects our psyches as we grow up. Replace the Freudian analysis of childhood and development of sexual identity. The book was eventually published in fifteen countries.

It was significant that this Hite Report originated in England, not the US. This caused me to think, again, about why I had left the States, what it meant, and how I felt about it.

In the early nineties, I often felt like a political refugee from the US. Does that seem ridiculous for a ‘mere woman', connected with a ‘mere women's rights movement' to say? Doubtless to some, yes, but to others, this will bring clarity. It took a long time, over two years, to put words to this feeling: being a political refugee. I felt it, I thought it, but I didn't dare say it. However, after the censorship of the Mapplethorpe photographs, the Supreme Court Justice's confirmation despite Anita Hill's valiant testimony, plus the Supreme Court's regressive abortion ruling, the meaning of the attack became clearer.

The reality of how far politics had turned to the anti-feminist right in the US was brought home to me one night in London when I watched televised coverage of speeches from the 1992 Republican Convention, nominating George Bush for President. I was stunned: the right-wing fundamentalist case against feminism was boldly, chillingly stated. I was sitting with my close friend Joanna Briscoe in her living-room late at night, long after midnight watching the
BBC
. I remember sitting on her couch, me wearing heavy Afghan socks, she wearing her adorable spectacles, as we saw the Republican National Convention speeches replayed. Patrick Buchanan, who had his own TV show on
CNN
every day and who had started to run for President himself earlier in the year, began to speak. Building to a crescendo, waving his fist, he declared, ‘The real enemy we have to defeat right now is radical feminism.'

Joanna and I were stunned. This meant us – or at least, me (a US daughter). It had seemed so remote, so far away, and England so safe. Yet here he was, right in the living-room, in the privacy of the night, threatening us, inciting his followers saying that we were ‘the enemy'.

Well, at least he said it. He did not hide his agenda. He acknowledged the undeclared war that some are waging against feminism, or what they think is feminism. This helped me know I was not imagining the ferocity of the fundamentalist agenda, and it explained my recurring anxiety and nausea as I tried to work on my new books.

For quite a while, at least until 1992, I felt uncomfortable staying long in any one place, putting down roots, or giving out a home address. I didn't feel I could even have a home address, because something in me felt that if I did, some strange, nameless, faceless ‘reporter' would find it and come and destroy it again, and everything that was mine.

On some days, I could hardly sleep haunted as I was by nightmares. Swirling in my brain were abusive phrases, which would come to mind at odd moments. And in the back of my mind, there was always a low roar repeating the unresolvable question, Why? Why? Why? Who would bother to go to that much trouble, to hate me so much, to come after me? Symptoms I now recognize as post-traumatic stress syndrome.

The fact that there had been no way to directly confront the phantoms who waged the smear campaign against me made me feel like running. I wanted to flee. I never considered the place I lived ‘home', but always some kind of temporary convenience, a brief stop. My furniture remained in storage. I fantasized someday about getting it all out and putting it into a new home, but the idea made me uneasy. It would have been better if those attacking me had been more visible, rather than hiding behind unsigned or objective newspaper articles.

I somewhat identify with Salman Rushdie, although the non-Western case is clearer: Arab fundamentalists have gone more public with their death threats. In the West, especially with women, silencing works most often through ridicule, a woman being called ‘crazy', or ‘neurotic', i.e. character assassination – these are the
tools for getting rid of women who say too much. These stereotyped denouncements are all that are needed to cut off large parts of one's income, and credibility. Everything.

For much of 1991–3, when I was trying to write, I felt nauseous. Strangled. Like words were choking me, bottled up inside of me and throttling me. Someone seemed to be keeping me from speaking or writing, but no one would acknowledge it; no major US publisher had bid on the rights to any book of mine since the 1987 attack. Not one. But this was so hard to believe – me, a bestselling author whose books had always earned a lot of money for publishers – sometimes I wondered if I was imagining it, exaggerating it, or if I had the right context for my problem. Fear made me nauseous. The nausea as I was writing had to be my fear of the attacks that my own pen could be creating against me.

Around that time, my great agent and friend in Germany, Lionel von dem Knesebeck, was told by a publisher. ‘Tell her to stop her pen!' Two years before, an executive from Doubleday, another large US publisher, had shouted at Irving Lazar over the telephone, ‘This publishing house will never ever publish Shere Hite again – not in any division, not ever, in no form, either fiction or non-fiction. Never.' And click, the phone was hung up. And this was Irving's friend, Joni Evans.

Sometimes it's hard to write or say the simplest things. I lived, basically, with a residual feeling of terror for three years or so after I left the US. (In retrospect, I
can see I was lucky to get out with no physical harm.) Sometimes this terror was sporadic, sometimes constant. At times it seemed to go away, then return. It was something I didn't talk about, I didn't admit, even to myself. It was so overwhelming that I couldn't see it, it was just everywhere, part of the omnipresent reality of my life, after the events of the recent past.

The aftershocks Friedrich and I experienced I now imagine were similar to those of Vietnam war veterans or displaced people, refugees around the world. Like them, we wanted to forget, leave all this behind as rapidly as possible, resume our lives. Yet I had embarked on a process of rethinking all of my values, and even the meaning of my life. Part of me was very very happy, excited, enjoying my life and the world; part of me was still traumatized, and a few health problems seemed to crop up because of this stress. But I still loved my work.

I wrote an article ‘Censorship – what it feels like today' about some of these feelings and experiences for the British journal
Index
on
Censorship
:

‘Oh! Do you paint freckles on your face? How do you do that?'

After twenty-two years as a researcher, I arrive at a key interview for presenting 400 pages of research to the press, and this is the first question.

What would you make of it? Or, of an article about an anthology of twenty years of my work, ‘At age fifty, Shere Hite tottered down the stairs on remarkably high heels.' A little ageism, followed by a discussion of whether or not a
woman of ‘my age' has the right to ‘still' wear anything other than ‘practical clothing'. In one of the top three status papers.

Sexual harassment at work, I guess – in print. And the reader is left to drown in oceans and oceans of ‘information' about my persona, all ideas disappearing in an over-examined body description. Date rape.

Is it harmless? All this, of course, has an impact on the attitudes of publishers and reviewers to my work: they read these incessantly body-ized articles (why discuss a woman's ideas, when you can discuss her body?), feel the inherent trivialization, and don't always look further. They ‘know' who I am.

Which brings me to the topic of censorship. Surely, this trivialization, lamentable as it is, is not censorship. Censorship is political discrimination or punishment of those who have certain views endemic to the ‘establishment', those in power. But wait, for this trivialization is also evident in some of the editing of my work over the years, which books I have been ‘allowed' to write, i.e., for which I have obtained contracts. Trivialization also exists when editors try to keep the ‘beautiful voices' in my research, while removing my own (beautiful or not is
not
the point): by removing my conclusions and comment, they would effectively silence me.

As Christine Battersby noted in her brilliant book,
Gender
and
Genius
, men are called ‘geniuses' and women are not. But, one always wonders, perhaps the editors are right, and my words are not profound. This is not to say that I am anxious for that label. But I do wonder, when I have mapped a completely different territory than Freud saw when he traversed the same route (though my research is based on thousands of people, whereas he spoke
with only a handful) whether people will he able to hear me. Or will they insist on locating me within the confines of ‘sex and women's topics', ‘women's relationships stuff' – whereas they believe Freud made profound comments about the nature of human reality, metaphysical in depth?

The very attitudes about women and men which I am fighting in my work are the attitudes which everywhere confound and confront my ability to speak and write freely – in media, publishing, press (but, fortunately, not often to readers). Together they converge to form an invisible net of possible entrapment and ghetto-ization. Women's ideas and theories are seen through a filter, as Dale Spender explained in
Women
of
Ideas
and
What
Men
Have
Done
to
Them.

I looked up with a start at the interviewer who asked about the freckles. She can't be serious. But she
is.
She is peering at me intently, trying to fathom the secret of
the freckles. Should I act insulted and leave? I stammer something like, ‘But – I haven't even got any make-up base on, I haven't got any make-up on!' I feel small, as if I were having to justify myself to my mother, not unlike the girls in some of my research. Still the silent peering, pen in hand. I offer, ‘I guess I've always had them.' ‘But why are they only on your cheeks, and not all over your face?' A question I cannot answer. I panic, ‘Well, maybe it has something to do with the changes in hormones as one grows older …' This seems to be an unwelcome topic (interviewer is the same age approximately as I am), and the subject is changed.

Was I silenced by the person who asked me these questions? Could she really hear anything important in my work, if her mind was geared to perceive me in such a way? Of course, this is not ‘intentional' censorship -but it can be worse than an official form of censorship, as it operates
just as surely to stop ideas from reaching other people, but no one sees the repression, it is invisible. It is not glorified by the noble martyrdom attached to the word ‘censorship'.

I am not the only woman to experience this, by any means. Susan Faludi, Andrea Dworkin, Diana (of British royal fame), Kate Millet, Erica Jong, Dale Spender, Germaine Greer, most of the nineteenth-century feminists (or any woman who speaks out) – all of us are called ‘colourful', ‘dramatic', details of our bodies and appearances hashed and rehashed in the press, while we write and write and talk and talk, hoping to be heard. Sometimes we are, even through all the smoke.

The invisibilizing of women's thought is a form of censorship. Simone de Beauvoir mused from time to time on the fact that, without being aligned with Jean-Paul Sartre, would ‘the canons' have seen her? Accepted her?

Margaret Mead did a service to society with her ground-breaking research on Samoa. Yet the
New
York
Times
frontpage obituary a few years ago felt it correct to state prominently something to the effect that ‘although she was never a scientist, nevertheless …'. This would never have been said about a man who achieved what she achieved, namely to put an entirely different culture on the map in the mind of the West, give them a comparison with how they lived. Her work was as scientific as that of any other anthropologist, though what do these labels matter, finally?

At the end of the twentieth century, are we going to canonize mostly men again? Will including ‘women's rights' on the
BBC
end-of-century programmes mean only showing the reels of the suffragettes over and over, valuable as these are?
Censorship feels confusing to an individual. Some entries from my diaries show how this new, unacknowledged silencing works on the individual:

25 November 1993

I am nauseous, I cannot speak, my throat is so blocked I begin to think I must have cancer. Someone, a friend, says to me, ‘Maybe you feel like you are being strangled, because they are cutting your words.' My throat clears up, but my nausea remains, to remind me of my revulsion. I can't swallow what is happening. I stay up most nights and sleep little, writing endless faxes to keep my words intact. Wondering, always wondering, if my work is really ‘so valuable' (a woman's question about her worth), wondering how much is ‘right' to fight for. I feel alone.

28 August 1994

I can't sleep. I can't eat. I calm myself with work. I work such long hours that I don't take time to go to the grocery store. I eat leftovers and develop food poisoning. Or is my stomach just rebelling at what I am having to swallow? Distortions and inexplicable changes in my work are hard to swallow.

10 September 1994

It is easy to lose my bearings. Why? What is the point of cutting my ideas? To present me as a ‘sex author' with no politics? Yet, that is not possible. Better to stand and declare oneself than have an attack for all the wrong reasons …

Who
are
the
censors
today?
How
do
they
work?

Censorship today is not a man in a suit with a big red pen. There is no formal bulletin on the six o'clock news which says, ‘Your news is now being censored' so that those
watching can conveniently decide if they are prepared to do something about it. It just creeps around you, like a vaguely unpleasant feeling. You have to be alert to see what it is before its mists engulf you.

Censorship happens in small ways, gradually. Only eventually does it amount to a big problem, stifling a way of life.

How serious a problem is it now in the West? Rushdie has the profile, many others have the problem. We have our own ‘disappeared' here, they are the authors and other political dissidents, who are disappearing from public sight, going down for the third time without a sound, only a gurgle or two here and there, an anonymous fax, troublesome for a day or two, about some author who was foolish enough to do away with her or himself. Questions of ‘is it all worth it?', ‘how long can I carry on?' surface daily in the lives of many who take a stand (what the Soviet Union used to call ‘political dissidents'), those who are enduring political persecution in the press and elsewhere.

In 1990 I attended a meeting of the Women's Committee of
PEN
in New York. Many women were describing not being able to get or renew publishing contracts. They lamented they did not make big enough profits, saying ‘only the real money makers get published now.' I said that a financial explanation is not sufficient: after all, every day hundreds of books on obscure topics are published. Further, though my books have a track record of making money for publishers, publishers tend to be nervous and do not always accept my projects (unless they are about ‘sex'); indeed, feminist books have trouble for political reasons in this reactionary climate.

The agenda of many large publishing conglomerates is not only financial but also political. These politics range
from ‘don't upset anybody, publish only safe books', to pushing a particular political philosophy, such as a back-to-basics agenda. Finance also plays a part: at one large conglomerate, the feminist book division, no matter how much profit it makes, is not allowed to plough this money back into its own division, and is not allowed to give advances to authors (even those who make money) of more than around £5,000. Even if a book has chances of selling well, if it expresses radical political opinions (such as Noam Chomsky, Gore Vidal, feminist activists or Rushdie), its publication may be hampered. But not overtly.

Perhaps the most recent overt example we have of censorship was during the McCarthy era in the US when a witchhunt was carried out by some members of Congress to find and destroy those Hollywood screenwriters, actors and others who were ‘Communist sympathizers', the ‘red menace', and not ‘loyal Americans'. Some were jailed, most lost their ability to make a living in the industry. Thus one went from complicated and interesting Bette Davis female film characters in the 1940s, for example, to the 1950s happy-girl or ‘innocent' characterizations of Doris Day and Debbie Reynolds. Simplistic characters – women and men.

Censorship is increased by the consolidation of publishing, magazines and television into a few hands. Decisions are often by committee, not a committee working on the basis of majority decision, but requiring unanimous agreement: if even one person on the editorial board strongly disagrees with taking on a book another editor wants, it cannot be published. One person can blackball it. I do not know the rationale for this corporate policy, but new opinions and radical ideas almost never make it past these editorial boards. I would highly recommend to
anyone who has not read it, the Ben Bagdakian book
Media
Monopoly,
published by Beacon Press in Boston.

Many large media firms are now actively engaged in combat over territories. These media conglomerates have bought up book publishing, not because it is so profitable, but because books and their reviews are part of the creation of public opinion. There is a growing secrecy and paranoia on editorial and marketing committees. (In fact, editorial offices are increasingly guarded by armed security people at the entrances.) It used to be that editor and author had an artisanal relationship: they presented a work of art or well-crafted non-fiction to the corporation for which the editor worked, to then be marketed. Now, in many cases, there are endless secret consultations and shapings to which the author is not party, perhaps to maintain the ‘corporate image', and/or please distributors and the bookstore chain buyer. (Or, perhaps bankers holding title to company financing?)

Another cause of decreasing diversity is that the majority of bookstores are owned by chains, who cut prices to a level with which the independents cannot compete. New publishing does spring up, but new small presses hardly have the distribution to enable them to compete or reach large numbers of people: they do not have the connections and the financial ties with the chains that larger publishers do.

Why should a publisher stick up for an author, no matter how much money s/he makes for the publisher, if a powerful person at, say, the
New
York
Times
decides to tell a publisher that if he persists in promoting certain out-of-favour authors, then why should he kindly review or even review at all their many other books? Publishers must keep him as a friend, not an enemy. One book is not worth it
.
To them.

As Noam Chomsky explains in
Manufacturing
Consent,
modern ‘democracy' is closely linked to media politics. The first action in military coups in foreign countries is usually to take over the radio and television stations by force. Was it a coup in the West, behind the scenes, by financial interests when they bought up the media during the eighties? Who needs guns?

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