The Whole Lesbian Sex Book (50 page)

How to Female Ejaculate
, directed by Nan Kinney and Debi Sundahl, 60 min., Fatale Videos, 1992, VHS/DVD. Fanny Fatale shares her skill with a group of women whom she teaches to squirt.

How to Find Your Goddess Spot
, Dorrie Lane, 30 min., House O’ Chicks, VHS. Dorrie Lane teaches G-spot play. Features the Wondrous Vulva Puppet.

Linda/Les and Annie: The First Female-to-Male Transsexual Love Story,
Annie Sprinkle, 32 min., 1990, VHS. Annie’s video documentary of her relationship with her FTM lover.

Magic of Female Ejaculation,
Dorrie Lane, 15 min., House O’ Chicks, VHS. Dorrie Lane shares her own experience of female ejaculation.

Masturbation Memoirs 1 and 2,
Annie Sprinkle, Carol Leigh, Dorrie Lane, and Juliet Carr, 60 min., House O’ Chicks, VHS. Dorrie Lane sought out sex experts in their sexual prime, women in their 40s and 50s, to share their experiences of masturbation.

Masturbation Memoirs 3 and 4,
Dorrie Lane, 60 min., House O’ Chicks, VHS. “…authentic footage of lovely Lesbos getting hot and bothered with themselves.”

Nina Hartley’s Guide to Anal Sex,
Nina Hartley, 45 min., video; 77 min. DVD, Adam & Eve Productions, 1996, VHS/DVD.

Nina Hartley’s Guide to Better Cunnilingus,
Nina Hartley, 50 min., Adam & Eve Productions, 1995, VHS.

Pain Game,
Cléo Dubois, 54 min., Academy of SM Arts, 2000, VHS.

Please Don’t Stop: Lesbian Tips for Givin’ & Getting’ It,
directed by Oriana Bolden, 74 min., Sexpositive Productions, 2001, VHS.

Selfloving: Portrait of a Women’s Sexuality Seminar,
Betty Dodson, 60 min., 1991, VHS. Betty Dodson’s women’s masturbation workshop featuring ten women, ages 28 to 60, exploring their sexuality.

Slide Bi Me,
directed by Felice Amador, 72 min., Sexpositive Productions, 2001, VHS.

The Sluts and Goddesses Video Workshop,
Annie Sprinkle and Maria Beatty, 52 min., 1992, VHS.

Talk to Me Baby: A Lover’s Guide to Dirty Talk and Role Play,
directed by Jackie Strano, 60 min., S.I.R. Video, 2003, VHS.

Tie Me Up!,
Cléo Dubois, Academy of SM Arts, 52 min., 2002, VHS.

Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women,
directed by Tristan Taormino and Ernest Greene, 210 min., Evil Angel Video, 1999, VHS/DVD. Based on Tristan Taormino’s popular book. Taormino leads an all-star coed cast in a sexy anal sex workshop. Two volumes. If you liked the book, you’ll love the movie.

Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women 2,
directed by Tristan Taormino and Ernest Greene, 135 min., Evil Angel Video, 2001, VHS/DVD.

Viva la Vulva,
produced by Betty Dodson, 51 min., 1998, VHS. Betty Dodson’s close-up on female genital anatomy with ten women posing for their pussy portraits.

Whipsmart: A Good Vibrations Guide to Beginning S/M for Couples
, directed by Laura Plotkin, 82 min., Sex Positive Productions, 2002, VHS/DVD.

Zen Pussy: A Stimulating Meditation on Eleven Vulvas,
Annie Sprinkle and Joseph Kramer, 60 min., Joseph Kramer Productions, 1999, VHS/DVD.

chapter twenty

Resources

Bisexuality Resources

Bisexual.org

Personals, chat, forums, resources.

www.bisexual.org

Bisexual Resource Center

Educational and support center. Publishes the
Bisexual Resource Guide,
facilitates Boston-area support groups for people who are or think they might be bisexual, houses the bisexual archives, and organizes conferences. Website features resources and links.

P.O. Box 1026, Boston, MA 02117
(617) 424-9595
[email protected]
www.biresource.org

Butch/Femme Resources

Butch-Femme.com

Online and real-world community. A large, active web portal since 1996,
Butch-Femme.com
offers personal ads, forums, mailings lists, galleries, local connections, and numerous resources for dykes who identify as butch or femme. Trans friendly.

[email protected]
www.butch-femme.com

Butch-Femme.net

Online resources for butches, femmes, stone butches, transgendered individuals, transmen, and FTMs. Hosts email discussion lists (through
Queernet.org
): Butch-Femme, Stonebutch, TG Butch, Leather, Femme Talk, Femmephoria.

www.butch-femme.net

Butch-Femme Socials of the San Francisco Bay Area Hosts events in local bars, clubs, and other venues, including leather events. Open to all: dykes, queers, lesbians, FTMs, trannies, lipstick lesbians, butches, bois. (“You do not have to identify as butch or femme but most of us do.”) Some events are clean and sober. Singles and couples, all ages. The group is made up of “artists, writers, academics, blue collar, leather, professionals, students, etc. We are ethnically, spiritually, politically and sexually diverse.” To receive information on events, contact:

[email protected] or B/F Socials of San Francisco/Oakland P.O. Box 99402, Emeryville, CA 94662-9402 (510) 812-5080

Butch/Femme Society

New York City’s oldest and largest butch/femme social and support group open to all lesbians and TG/TS who support the beautiful butch/femme dynamic.

P.O. Box 750652, Forest Hills, NY 11375
(212) 388-2736
[email protected]
www.butchfemmesociety.freeservers.com

Disability Resources

The Deaf Queer Resource Center

A nonprofit resource and information center. Website features links to chatrooms, mailing lists, and more. Publishes
FLASH
, an email newsletter reaching 11,000 readers.

[email protected]
www.deafqueer.org

DisAbled Women’s Network (DAWN)

Ontario’s provincewide organization for women with all types of disabilities. DAWN is a feminist organization that supports women in their struggles to control their own lives. Website includes extensive links to disability resources. E-lists, events calendar, articles.

Box 1138, North Bay, Ontario P1B 8K4
[email protected]
http://dawn.thot.net

GimpGirl Community

Created by a group of young women with disabilities, from varying backgrounds, who faced a huge lack of support services for themselves and others like them. “We strive to enlighten, empower and support young women of all colors, creeds, and sexual preferences.” Very inclusive definition of “women.” Feature articles, opinion surveys, newsletter, bulletin board, and links to online sexuality resources for people with disabilities. Hosts a
LiveJournal.com
community, also called Gimpgirl. Maintains two mailing lists: QueerLadies, for queer women of all ages with disabilities, and Girlies, for young women aged 15-25 with disabilities.

[email protected]
www.gimpgirl.com

Living

Mailing list for lesbian and bisexual women with disabilities, and the women in their lives.

“Although the primary purpose of LIVING is that of support, it is an unmoderated list and any topic may be discussed. Since women with disabilities are NOT defined BY their disability, we encourage content of nearly any kind.” For information, contact:

[email protected]

Queering Diabetes

For lesbian, gay, bi, trans, intersex, queer, or questioning people who are diabetic (along with friends, families, allies, and significant others).

[email protected]
www.queeringdiabetes.org

Sexual Health

Provides access to sexuality information, education, mutual support, counseling, therapy, health care, products, and other resources for people with disabilities, illness, or natural changes throughout the life cycle and those who love them or care for them.

www.sexualhealth.com

Health and Safer-Sex Resources

General Health

Alcoholics Anonymous

The original 12-step program, which has helped millions of alcoholics.

P.O. Box 459, Grand Central Station,
New York, NY 10163
(212) 647-1680
www.alcoholics-anonymous.org

Al-Anon Family Groups

Support groups for family members of alcoholics.

1600 Corporate Landing Parkway,
Virginia Beach, VA 23454
(888) 4AL-ANON
[email protected]
www.al-anon.org

Boston Women’s Health Book Collective

Authors of
Our Bodies, Ourselves for the New Century.
Numerous women’s health links.

www.ourbodiesourselves.org

Callen-Lorde Community Health Center

Serves the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender communities and people living with HIV/AIDS.

356 West 18th St., New York, NY 10011
(212) 271-7200
www.callen-lorde.org

The
Clitoris.com

Fascinating site with all sorts of information about female sexuality. Links to sources of information on anatomy, cancer, disability, childbirth, clit pumping, and masturbation.

[email protected]
www.the-clitoris.com

Community United Against Violence

CUAV is a 20-year-old multicultural organization working to end violence against and within lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer/ questioning (LGBTQ) communities. Offers a 24-hour confidential, multilingual support line, free counseling, legal advocacy, and emergency assistance to survivors of domestic violence, hate violence, and sexual assault.

24-Hour Support Line: (415) 333-HELP
Tel. (415) 777-5500
Fax (415) 777-5565
www.cuav.org

Co-Dependents Anonymous

P.O. Box 33577, Phoenix, AZ 85067
[email protected]
www.codependents.org

Fenway Community Health Center

Comprehensive, community-based health-care clinic.

7 Haviland St., Boston, MA 02115
(617) 267-0900
[email protected]
www.fenwayhealth.org

Gay Lesbian Medical Association (GLMA)

GLMA works to combat homophobia within the medical profession and in society at large, and to promote the best possible health care for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgendered patients. Online referrals to doctors, dentists, therapists, and chiropractors sensitive to the needs of gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, or intersexed people. Supports research in lesbian health through its Lesbian Health Fund.

59 Fulton St., Suite 107,
San Francisco, CA 94102
[email protected]
www.glma.org

Healing Sex

Website of
Healing Sex
, a DVD by Staci Haines, author of
The Survivor’s Guide to Sex
. Mixing documentary-style drama with education and mind/body exercises, the film follows a diverse cast of women and men healing from past sexual abuse. We witness their path to a more pleasurable and healthy sex life as they struggle to find peace, healing, and real intimacy.

www.healingsexthemovie.com

Kink Aware Professionals

International referrals to psychotherapeutic, medical, dental, complementary healing, and legal professionals who are knowledgeable about and sensitive to diverse expressions of sexuality. All listed professionals have volunteered to be available for referral to people involved in “kinky” sexuality (leather, S/M, fetish, and so on).

www.bannon.com/kap

Lesbian Health Information Network (LHINetwork)

A worldwide network for distributing information relating to lesbian health research, education, and services. Serves as a resource and networking tool for those involved in lesbian health. To subscribe, send a request to [email protected], including your full name, email address, how you heard about the list, and a brief description of your work in lesbian health.

Lesbian Health Research Center

University of California, San Francisco

The Lesbian Health Research Center (LHRC) is “specifically and uniquely concerned with the health and well-being of lesbians, bisexual women, transgendered individuals, and their families, and with the health care available to them.” Sponsors an annual conference. Website features articles on various aspects of lesbian health and links to other queer-friendly health sites.