All That Is Bitter and Sweet (75 page)

11
Addresses unsafe drinking water:
PSI also distributes at no cost our products and services in many settings, especially emergencies, such as the Haitian earthquake of 2010, and in refugee and internally displaced persons camps.

12
White-shirted Buddhist nuns:
The “Wat Granny” program is funded in part by USAID (
www.usaid.gov/kh/health/activities.htm
) in partnership with the Cambodian Ministry of Health, PSI, the grassroots Reproductive Health and Child Alliance (
www.racha.org
), and others.

Chapter 7

1
Education and prevention program:
Christine Gorman, “Sex, AIDS and Thailand,” July 12, 2004,
www.time.com
.

2
Not personally at risk:
United Nations Development Programme, “Opinion Poll on HIV/AIDS Thailand, 2004,”
www.undp.or.th/download/OpinionPollAIDS.pdf
.

3
An AIDS hospice run by Buddhist monks:
Seth Mydans, “Thai AIDS Survivors Ostracized,” October 15, 2006,
www.nytimes.com
.

Chapter 8

1
A “God who looks like me”:
Some of the thoughts in this passage are inspired by Patricia Lynn Reilly,
A God Who Looks Like Me
(New York: Ballantine, 1995), and Sue Monk Kidd,
The Dance of the Dissident Daughter
(New York: HarperCollins, 1996).

2
The full support of his government:
Unfortunately, despite Prime Minister Thaksin’s promises, the Thai government’s commitment to AIDS prevention and education waned under his leadership (
www.avert.org/thailand-aids-hiv.htm
). He was deposed in a military coup in 2006, regained power in 2008, and then went into exile after being charged with corruption. In 2010, his loyal followers staged violent protests in Bangkok, demanding his return to power.

3
An estimated thirty-eight million:
Figures in this section are from UNAIDS,
2004 Report on the Global HIV/AIDS Epidemic
,
www.unaids.org
.

4
Having trouble meeting the goal:
Sarah Boseley, “Bangkok Blog,”
The Guardian
, July 16, 2004,
www.guardian.co.uk
.

Chapter 9

1
Half of the people live in poverty:
United Nations Development Programme Human Development Index,
http://hdrstats.undp.org/en/countries/profiles/KEN.html
.

2
“I Am Abstaining”:
PSI’s 2010 monitoring, evaluation, and research on the Chill campaign reveal its ongoing success: 95 percent of the targeted youth continue to abstain.

3
In thirty-nine African countries:
United Nations High Commission on Refugees NGO Directory, October 1, 2008,
www.unhcr.org
.

4
Slow to awaken:
World Council of Churches, “Partnerships Between Churches and People Living with HIV/AIDS Organizations,” November 2003,
www.scribd.com
.

5
Equality Now:
For more information, please see
www.equalitynow.org
.

6
Many girls hemorrhage to death:
Sadly, deaths of girls who have been mutilated have never merited proper inventorying and statistical analysis.

7
Spread to this country:
To read about asylum cases heard in American courts pertaining to FGM (for example, Abay v. Ashcroft), please see
www.openjurist.com
. And a case with a happy ending, in a precedent-setting decision in 1996, the U.S. Board of Immigration Appeals granted asylum to Fauziya Kassindja, a Togolese teenager who had fled to the United States to avoid FGM and a forced polygamous marriage. This was the first decision establishing the precedent that women escaping gender-based persecution could be eligible for asylum in the United States. Before Kassindja, they were automatically deported. The case was (erroneously) labeled by the court
Matter of Kasinga
. Please see
http://cgrs.uchastings.edu/about/kasinga.php
.

Chapter 10

1
land produces fruit:
Global Horticultural Initiative, “Post-Harvest and Transport Technologies, Reducing Losses and Improving Quality in Fruits and Vegetables in Eastern and Southern Africa Madagascar Position Paper,” June 22, 2010,
www.globalhort.org
.

2
A new leadership had thrown open the doors:
Four years after my visit to Madagascar, President Marc Ravalomanana, who had ushered in an era of change, was abruptly removed from power in what the U.S. State Department has categorized as a de facto military coup, creating civic unrest and further isolating the country. The United Nations Security Council and the African Union have called for a return to democracy. Most donors, including the United States and the European Union, have suspended all non–humanitarian assistance programs in Madagascar (U.S. Department of State, Bureau of African Affairs, “Background Note: Madagascar,” November 4, 2010,
www.state.gov
). Meanwhile, PSI continues to work in Madagascar delivering healthy products and services.

3
Set Nini up in a house:
Sadly, Nini’s life took another tragic turn. Although we found her a home of her own, she was unable to overcome her chemical dependency and, one night, rolled over and smothered her newborn.

Chapter 11

1
A spiritual and moral leader:
Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu,
Made for Goodness: And Why This Makes All the Difference
(New York: HarperCollins, 2010), and Desmond Tutu,
God Has a Dream: A Vision of Hope for Our Time
(New York: Doubleday, 2004), among other titles. For more information about Archbishop’s Tutu’s ongoing work, please see
www.tutucenter.org
.

2
A disturbing survey:
Nastasya Kay, “South African Rape Study: More Than 1 in 3 Men Admit to Rape,” Associated Press, November 27, 2010.

3
Rapes occur in every year:
Before one “tsk-tsks” the high rate of gender violence in South Africa, don’t forget we have our own gruesome intimate partner violence (including homicide) and rape epidemic in the United States. Please see
www.now.org/issues/violence/stats.html
, and Bureau of Justice Statistics, Intimate Partner Violence, 1993–2001, bjs.ojp.usdoj.gov. For a sobering and essential reality check about violence against women worldwide, please see the World Health Organization’s Multicountry Study on Women’s Health and Domestic Violence Against Women,
www.who.org
.

4
Some researchers posited:
For studies of the causes of gender violence in South Africa, see Rachel Jewkes et al., “Understanding Men’s Health and Use of Violence: Interface of Rape and HIV in South Africa,” Medical Research Council, Pretoria, South Africa, June 2009,
www.mrc.ac.za
; and Lezanne Leoschut and Patrick Burton, “How Rich the Rewards?: Results of the 2005 National Youth Victimisation Study,” Centre for Justice and Crime Prevention, Monograph Series, No. 1, Cape Town, South Africa, May 2006,
www.cjcp.org.za
.

5
For more information about
POWA
, see
www.powa.co.za/
; also see the One in Nine Campaign,
www.oneinnine.org.za/ipoint
.

6
Various UN agencies:
UNFPA News, “South Africa: One-Stop Post-Rape Care,” United Nations Population Fund, August 19, 2008,
www.unfpa.org

Chapter 12

1
I could become irritable and unreasonable:
Language inspired by the Suggested Welcome, Al-Anon Family Groups.

2
Motivational interviewing:
For more information, please see
www.motivationalinterview.org
.

3
What to discard:
Inspired by the November 14 entry,
Hope for Today
(Virginia Beach, VA: Al-Anon Family Groups, 2002).

Chapter 13

1
“I wasn’t angry”:
Wynonna Judd,
Coming Home to Myself
, p. 147.

Chapter 14

1
“Alcoholics are tortured by loneliness”:
Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
, (n.p.: Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, 1981), Step Five, p. 57.

2
“Pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization”:
Alcoholics Anonymous: Big Book
, 4th ed. (n.p.: Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, 2001), p. 30.

3
Delusion is that
this
time:
Language inspired by the
Big Book
of AA.

4
S
ign the Christmas cards, whatever:
Language inspired by Mellody,
Facing Codependence
.

5
Codependents have difficulty:
Pia Mellody with Andrea Wells Miller and J. Keith Miller,
Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives
(New York: HarperOne, 2003), p. 4.

Chapter 15

1
Would be none too smart:
Language inspired by the
Big Book
of AA.

2
The Karpman drama triangle:
Please see Steve Karpman, with comments by Patty E. Fleener, MSW, “The Drama Triangle,”
www.mental-health-today.com
.

3
Losses of my childhood:
Language inspired by the Welcome of Co-Dependents Anonymous,
Big Book of Co-Dependents Anonymous
(CoRe Publications, 2008).

4
Compliance, and dominance:
Symptoms list is from the
Big Book of Co-Dependents Anonymous
, pp. 3–5.

5
Solutions that led to serenity:
Language inspired by Al-Anon Family Groups Suggested Welcome.

6
28,000 children will starve:
http://www.wfp.org/hunger/stats
, and
http://www.worldhunger.org/articles/Learn/world%20hunger%20facts%202002.htm
.

7
Find contentment and even happiness:
Language inspired by Al-Anon Family Groups Suggested Welcome.

Chapter 16

1
H
ard line that Rome had adopted:
Richard Owen, “Pope Says Condoms Are Not the Solution to AIDS—They Make It Worse,”
The Times
(of London), March 17, 2009,
www.thetimes.co.uk
.

2
Less than 8 percent:
Blanca Samayoa et al., “Experience of a Pediatric HIV Clinic in Guatemala City,”
Pan American Journal of Public Health
25, no. 1 (2009): 51.

3
A documentary:
Ashley Judd and YouthAIDS: Confronting the Pandemic
, premiered December 1, 2006, on the Learning Channel.

4
78 percent for nonparticipants:
Pan American Social Marketing Organization, “An Effective Behavior Change Module for Mobile Populations in Central America,” paper presented at the International Conference on AIDS, Barcelona, Spain, July 7–12, 2002, abstract no. TuPeF5315.

5
Inaugurating a five-year strategic plan:
From USAID Nicaragua HIV/AIDS Health Profile,
www.usaid.gov
.

6
Because of this cruel law:
“Nicaragua: Blanket Ban on Abortion Harms Women,” Human Rights Watch, August 29, 2007,
www.hrw.org
.

7
Adult seroprevalence was a shocking 8.4 percent:
Science
313 (July 28, 2006): 481.

Chapter 17

1
India is the mother ship:
Statistics about poverty and AIDS in India derived from the United Nations Development Programme,
www.undp.org
.

2
Letting go of the outcomes:
“You have the right to work, but never to the fruit of work. You should never engage in action for the sake of rewards, nor should you long for inaction.” The Bhagavad Gita, verse 47, translated by Eknath Easwaran,
The End of Sorrow: Bhagavad Gita for Daily Living
(Berkeley, CA: Blue Mountain Center of Meditation, 1975).