Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission
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Authors: Gloria G. Brame,William D. Brame,Jon Jacobs
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Copyright © 1993 by Gloria Glickstein Brame, William D. Brame, and Jon Jacobs
All rights reserved under International and Pan-American Copyright Conventions. Published in the United States by Villard Books, a division of Random House, Inc., New York.
Villard Books is a registered trademark of
Random House, Inc.
Grateful acknowledgment is made to the following for permission to reprint previously published material:
GUY BALDWIN, M.S.:
Excerpt from “Old Guard: Its Origins, Traditions, Mystique and Rules” by Guy Baldwin, published in
Drummer 150
. Reprinted by permission of Guy Baldwin, M. S.
HAWORTH PRESS, INC
.: Excerpts from
The Sexually Unusual: Guide to Understanding and Helping
edited by Dennis M. Dailey. Reprinted by permission of Haworth Press, Inc., 10 Alice Street, Binghamton, New York, 13904.
THE
J
OHNS
H
OPKINS UNIVERSITY PRESS
: Excerpts from “Deviation and Variation” and “The Sadomasochistic Contract” from
Variant Sexuality: Research and Theory
edited by Glenn D. Wilson. Reprinted by permission.
PENGUIN BOOKS USA, INC
.: Excerpt from a James Joyce letter dated December 6, 1909, published in
Selected Letters of James Joyce
by James Joyce, edited by Richard Ellman. Copyright © 1957, 1966, renewed 1985 by The Viking Press, Inc. Copyright © 1966, 1975 by F. Lionel Munro, as administrator of the estate of James Joyce. Reprinted by permission of Viking Penguin, a division of Penguin Books USA, Inc.
PLAYBOY
MAGAZINE
: Excerpt from “That’s Me On Top, Helpless” by Craig Vetter from the June, 1974, issue of
Playboy
magazine. Reprinted by permission.
L
ARRY TOWNSEND
: Excerpt from
The Leatherman’s Handbook II
by Larry Townsend, published by Carlyle Communications, Ltd. Reprinted by permission of Larry Townsend.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Brame, Gloria G.
Different loving: the world of sexual dominance and submission / by Gloria G. Brame, William D. Brame, Jon Jacobs.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
eISBN: 978-0-307-80347-4
1. Sadomasochism. I. Brame, William D. II. Jacobs, Jon. III. Title.
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ACKNOWLEDGMENTS AND
D
EDICATIONS
We dedicate this book to the precious memory of poet Judson Jerome, whose commitment to candor inspired and first guided us.
We were blessed to have Russell Galen as our mentor, literary agent, critic, and friend. We are grateful to our editor, Peter Gethers, for his vision, commitment, and courage. Also to Sharyn Rosenblum for her loyal support.
We owe special thanks to NP, whose hard work and innumerable contributions to this project only the authors can know; and to Garison Kaufman, whose insights enhanced the quality of the final text. Dr. Robert H. Nightingale’s medical expertise and friendship were indispensible. Miguel Garcia provided valuable assistance.
This book is the result of a collaboration among three good friends and, since inception, has been enthusiastically supported by the large network of friends who comprise our extended family. We cannot list everyone, but must single out John Gallant, Bruce Bawer, Chris Davenport, Jay Riggs, Helen Jacobs, Berné Poliakoff, and Berl Boykin, all of whom sustained us with their loyalty and love.
Although we cannot thank them individually, scores of helping professionals and activists lent support to this project. We would especially like to thank William Henkin, Howard and Martha Lewis, the late Roger Peo, Fakir Musafar, Robin Young, Thomas Gramstad, and Marie-Constance.
A NOTE ON
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NTERVIEWS AND
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AMES
Different Loving
includes extensive quotes and personal profiles drawn from in-depth interviews with well over 100 participants in and experts on dominance and submission. They were conducted between the spring of 1991 and the spring of 1992. Our interviewees were uniformly open and forthcoming, and, naturally, many of the interviews tended to wander, often far afield of the main theme of this book. We have edited and compacted the interviews so as to allow each person to speak for him- or herself while keeping this book at a readable length.
Each of our interviewees was given the option to appear under his or her true name or under a pseudonym. Most chose, for obvious reasons, to appear under pseudonyms; some, who are already publicly known, appear under their real names; and some others who appear under their real names do so here for the first time in terms of their interests in D&S: They have chosen to use
Different Loving
as an opportunity to come out.
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