Female Ejaculation (12 page)

Play soft, sensual music, and light some candles. Discuss the Partnering Questions, and decide who will begin as giver. Receiver, make as much skin available for contact as you’re comfortable. The more nude you are, the better.

Start with whatever it takes to get the receiver’s body relaxed and the mind present. Meditate, breathe together, and just look into each other’s eyes silently. Take the time to settle in.

If you’re the giver, imagine that you’re extending your heart energy down your arm and into your fingertips. Rub your hands together rapidly 25 times to warm and energize them. Very slowly, and we mean very slowly, begin moving your hand over the receiver’s skin. At first, massage about 3/4-inch (2 cm) above the surface. The inside of the arm is a great area for starting this practice. Believe us, both of you will feel something.

At the same time, the receiver reinforces what the giver is doing by using the four cornerstones of supreme bliss:

Belly breaths, deep and slow.

Sound as loud as you can on the exhale.

Movement by tightening and relaxing the PC muscle and moving the pelvis.

Presence through total focus on the sensations you’re experiencing.

Now it’s time for the giver to approach the skin closer. Make it as close as you can without touching, except for a few hairs now and then. Continue very slowly, moving your hand down the arm, continuing to the back or neck. This will probably be more of a powerful learning if you don’t start with the genitals. We already know how sensitive they are!

Now, the giver focuses the mind and lets the energy flow. Touch the receiver now with complete concentration. The receiver should breathe with the giver to energize you both. Slowly, with consciousness, begin stroking the rest of your beloved’s body with this sacred, ecstatic, conscious touch. This is slow, soft, deliberate, and loving with no deep tissue work, no fast pumping, no maximum friction. Follow your beloved’s cues to know where to go and what to do. With the subtlest of touch, see how turned on you can both become. Enjoy!

Bring your light touch to a close. Hug, hold, or lie next to each other. Talk about how the experience was for each of you.

Switch roles right away, or take a little break first for the receiver to assimilate the new sensations.

Play soft, sensual music, and light some candles. Get together any props you’ll need, such as oil, feathers, towels, etc. Discuss the Partnering Questions. Decide who will begin as giver and receiver. Receiver, make as much skin available for contact as you’re comfortable. The more nude you are, the better.

Start with whatever it takes to get the receiver’s body relaxed and their mind present. Meditate, breathe together, and just look into each other’s eyes silently. Settle in.

Giver, it’s now time to proceed with slow, subtle, sensuous conscious touch all over the receiver’s body.

At the same time, the receiver reinforces what the giver is doing by using the four cornerstones of supreme bliss:

Belly breaths, deep and slow.

Sound as loud as you can on the exhale.

Movement by tightening and relaxing the PC muscle while moving the pelvis.

Presence through total focus on the sensations you’re experiencing.

Now, the giver stroke the receiver’s entire body more and more sensuously. Vary your strokes, pressure, and speed. Add patting, tapping, and even vibrating. Follow your beloved’s cues.

If the receiver chooses, warm some massage oil in your hands, and anoint their body, one section at a time. Slip and slide with long strokes for maximum turn-on. Be sure to brush by the genitals now and then.

Bring touch to a close. Hug, hold, or lie next to each other. Feel the receiver’s subtle excitement and energy. Talk about how the experience was for each of you.

Switch roles right away, or take a little break for the receiver to assimilate the new sensations.

Play soft, sensual music, and light some candles. Get together any props you’ll need: oil, feathers, towels, etc. Discuss the Partnering Questions. Decide who will begin as giver and receiver. Receiver, make as much skin available for contact as you’re comfortable with. The more nude you are, the better.

Experiment with kissing each other’s lips and mouths. Be creative. If you get a great idea, try it out, and let your partner try it on you.

Extend what you enjoyed on the lips to everywhere on the body. Don’t leave anything out. Relax into and relish the sensations when you’re receiving.

Now try licking all the parts you kissed. Use the tip of the tongue, the flat part, and the sides, and try circling your tongue on the receiver’s skin.

For another trip around the world, apply suction and pressure with your lips.

Experiment with biting by gently applying your teeth in all manner of places on your beloved’s beautiful body. At first, stop short of leaving any marks. If requested, you can gradually use more pressure, being careful not to break the skin.

Your hands are dying to get in on the act, we know. Using your nails, test out different strokes, long and short, hard and soft, fast and slow, to discover what the different parts of your beloved’s body prefers.

Bring your play to a close. Hug, hold, or lie next to each other. Feel the receiver’s subtle excitement and energy. Talk about how the experience was for each of you. What did you like giving and receiving the best and the least?

Switch roles right away, or take a little break for the receiver to assimilate the new sensations.