Female Ejaculation (13 page)

Get creative, and extend the spirit of the
Kama Sutra
embraces to mouth, lip, and tongue embraces. Answer the questions below, and talk with your beloved about it. Then play, play, play!

- ECKHART TOLLE FROM
THE POWER OF NOW

This chapter delves deeply into the secret recesses of the female body. We begin showing you how to love and accept yourself physically. We explore the vulva, the clitoris, and vagina before teaching you surefire ways to discover your G-spot and move on to ejaculation. There are some darn good reasons why it’s controversial, mysterious, and under-appreciated.

One study shows that 85% of women in this country are dissatisfied with their bodies in some way, while only 15% of men feel that
way. Neither of these figures reflect a healthy attitude or a healthy behavior pattern.

Too many of us, especially women, internalize the media-driven pressure to have the perfect body. We want you to remember that your body is a special God-given vessel. We can wax practical and point out that it’s the only one you’ve got and how it serves you to love it and take care of it the way it is now. But pontificating may not be enough.

Are big breasts more sensitive? No, in fact the surgically enhanced ones often lose sensitivity. Do women with thin waists have longer or stronger orgasms? No way! Does your weight influence your ability to run orgasmic energy and float non-stop in an extended orgasm? Nope, not a bit. It’s really about how much you love yourself!

Penis size doesn’t count in terms of sexual pleasure either, not for either gender. Sure, an untrained female lover will feel fuller when penetrated by a thicker penis. But to one with strong, supple vaginal muscles, it’s not a big deal. We can’t tell you how many stories we’ve heard about how a shorter, thinner penis used properly can hit the orgasmic trigger spot much better.

We don’t subscribe to the exaggerated Madison Avenue images of what’s right, healthy, and desirable. Attractive bodies can assume many different shapes, sizes, and proportions, as long as they’re loved and cared for. In truth, we’re more driven to the conscious presence, the life force, and the sexual energy of the beings we encounter.

Your body is the temple of your soul, the physical extension of your inner being. Forget what anyone else tries to tell you, and concentrate instead on how it feels.

To be totally explicit, we want to support you in feeling maximum pleasure with whatever you experience in this world, which requires that you totally accept who you are mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Your body is the physical expression of who you are in this world. It is an extension of your inner spiritual self. Loving and honoring your physical temple is demonstrated in your life through what you eat, how you exercise, and how fit you maintain your body, not to mention how much pleasure you feed it regularly.

If you desire to be a world-class lover, you must have the body and the energy to sustain frequent long lovemaking sessions. If you truly love yourself, which is a high state of spiritual health, then you will treat your body with care, give it the loving attention that is necessary, and avoid abusing it.

Think about it. All women have a G-spot, and its power is unrelated to how they look on the outside. If your G-spot is really the secret inner orgasmic trigger to untold ecstasy, why make such a big deal about the outer?

Love every inch of your temple. Cherish and care for it. Touch and caress yourself as you would a newborn’s bottom. Lovingly admire your curves, nooks, and crannies. Delight in your body’s especially sensitive zones and their delicious sensations. Make pursuing what feels good your religion. Give thanks for the pleasure your body brings you. Really, we mean it!