Female Ejaculation (5 page)

Many of you are reading this book not simply to achieve female ejaculation, but to have ecstatic experiences. Along with learning the physical triggers, you’ll learn here how to use orgasmic energy to propel you higher and lead you to energy orgasms and ejaculation.

The secret is to turn the responses of the body and mind during orgasmic ecstasy into skills you can practice and master. We call these keys the four cornerstones of Supreme Bliss. They are:

The kind of breathing we’re talking about is deep, slow, and in the belly. This fuels the body and helps you to make sounds like moaning to express the pleasure you’re feeling. This, in turn, releases inhibitions and opens powerful nerve channels.

The kinds of movements we’re talking about are undulating pelvic rocking on the outside and sexual muscle pumping on the inside. Not only do these actions channel your energy throughout your body, but they feel really hot, too!

Presence means being relaxed enough to open your senses in the moment without any goal or expectation and focus totally on the pleasure you’re feeling
right now
. Presence of mind allows you to use visualization to move your energy, and presence of spirit tunes your internal receiver to the frequency of subtle energy.

These may seem like simple skills, and they are. We’re talking about the kind of intense breath, sound, movement, and presence that you usually only experience during an orgasm.

The four cornerstones of supreme bliss consist of the kind of breathing, sound, movement, and presence that happens when you have a typical exciting explosive orgasm. We’re going to practice these tools without sexual arousal at first in order to develop mastery over those body/mind functions that happen involuntarily during a climax.

You might think that you already know what turns you on, and usually it’s external stimuli. In contrast, the four cornerstones are
internal
tools that you can use to energize your own pleasure and steer your own excitement. If you can learn to use these cornerstones to turn yourself on without external stimuli, imagine what it will feel like when your partner is there?

If you use these cornerstones to consciously get your sexual motor running long before you approach the pinnacle of orgasm, they can empower you to go higher and higher and achieve ejaculation.

For the most part, we’ll be dealing here with subtle energies. At first, don’t expect that you’ll be flipping one of those big high-voltage control levers with huge sparks that will throw your body across the room. To start, although it may take some practice, you’ll become aware of a little warmth, electrical tingle, or pleasurable tickle.

It’s like learning to tune in to a much higher frequency sound than you’re accustomed to hearing, sort of like developing canine hearing. You have to clear your mind and listen acutely to reach it. Once you learn to tune your receiver to subtle sexual energy, it becomes a powerful force. You can direct and regulate it for magnified passion, lighting a long slow burn instead of an overwhelming eruption.

Can you understand how any mental or physical tension can prevent your progress at this stage? You can force your way around solid obstacles with the force of your will. But to use subtle energy, you have to relax, breathe, and feel every little sensation. Tension will block the doorway to feeling and moving these energies. It may feel more like an experience of
allowing
the flow of energy.

Don’t worry about how fast you go, and never despair when it takes longer than you’d like. Soon, you’ll get inklings, followed by surges, and finally culminating in waves that will bowl you over, leading to the ejaculation you’re after. Be patient. You’ll probably need to practice numerous times for several weeks before the magic will occur. Somraj took months before he could feel orgasmic energy and move it. Take it easy with yourself and your partner.

Most of us take breathing for granted, and we tend to take shallow and unconscious breaths. Contrast that with yoga masters. Some are so aware of their breathing that they can shut it down to almost nothing and stay in a state of suspended animation for extended periods.

Remember what happens to your breath as you approach orgasm? Right, your breath becomes shorter and faster, and you may even pant uncontrollably.

We could all benefit from mastering the art of belly breathing, which is characterized as follows:

This kind of full breathing lowers your heart rate and dissipates the tension of arousal. Breathing through your mouth is more physical
and sensual as opposed to breathing through your nose, which tends to put your attention in your mind.

So, one of the best ways to relax when you’re excited is to learn to breathe slower and deeper. It helps to interrupt the stress response you may experience during exciting or anxious moments of lovemaking.

Belly breathing is such a basic part of running energy that we could go on and on about going slow and savoring the experience. Actually, a great way to learn how to do a belly breath is to recognize that it has four parts: