curity and social status. From this perspective, if prostitutes accept paintings, flashy cars, and apartments for sex, how different are they from man-hunting social climbers? At least, so sex workers say, prostitutes are honest about the exchange and can say no or send men away in the absence of coercive pimps, who eerily imitate the role of demanding husbands. Thus, it is claimed that what makes prostitution especially threatening to "respectable" women is that it reveals the fundamentally commercial nature of sex. 43
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For example, Frederich Engels was convinced that a bourgeois wife differs from a prostitute only "in that she does not let out her body on piecework as a wageworker, but sells it once and for all into slavery." 44 Sex workers, like wives or girlfriends, can be exploited, abused, and threatened by men, especially if women want to end their relationships with them. A sex worker, like a wife or a girlfriend, can appear to "choose" her life yet still be coerced into sex because she has no other alternative for men's acceptance or support. A prostitute may not be dependent on a single man for making a living, but she is dependent on men, whose fortunes turn with the vagaries of the economy. As one prostitute reports, "If the stock market falls, it's just like any other business." 45 Some prostitutes' rights organizations contend that sex workers are stigmatized, even criminalized, because their efforts at true financial independence from men, unlike the social climber's financial parasitism, are a threat to men's oppression of women. 46 Therefore, if feminists wish to condemn sex work as degrading to women, we must also look critically at our more traditional economic and social institutions whose sexual exchange for goods and services may be degrading to women as well.
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Without a raised consciousness regarding the oppressive nature of heterosexuality under patriarchy, prostitutes remain the "bad girls" who perform the dirty, indecent, promiscuous sex that "good" girlfriends/wives cannot or will not do in order to retain their "good girl" status in the eyes of men. As Gail Pheterson points out, the "bad girl'' stigma is a stigma of blame for her abuse, shame for her sexuality, and punishment for her independence. 47 Thus, the good girl/bad girl standard for women's sexuality only exacerbates the alienation of prostitutes from wives or girlfriends by teaching good girls what will happen to them if they do not toe the line. Yet some prostitutes contend that what men really want is for their wives to be whores, the virgin nymphomaniacs of some pornography, who represent the impossibly simultaneous good girl/bad girl discussed in chapter 2. According to one sex worker, if a prostitute could perform the sex her male clients asked for, while successfully pretending to be in love with them, she would be rich. 48 Prostitutes often see themselves as therapists for their customers' problems with their wives, while wives condemn prostitutes for pursuing a line of work that they believe encourages errant husbands and panders to, even promotes, men's worst sexual fantasies. Such condemnation is only reinforced by men who bring their wives with them when they visit prostitutes, to coerce their wives into doing what they must pay prostitutes to do. 49
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Given the diversity and overlap within the sex industry and the complex relationship between the sex industry and other social relations, I propose using the expression "sex worker" to refer to those persons whose sexuality is a commodity for the commercial exchange often referred to by workers themselves as the sex trade . 50 The
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