Sacred Influence (36 page)

2
. Ibid., 102.

3
. I’m simply restating the words of Friedrich Hauck, cited in William Lane,
Mark
(New International Commentary on the New Testament; Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 1974), 357.

4
. Lane,
Mark
, 356, 357.

Chapter 2: The Strength of a Godly Woman

1
. D. Elton Trueblood,
The Life We Prize
(New York: Harper & Brothers, 1951), 158.

2
. Cited in Del Jones, “FedEx Chief Takes Cue from Leaders in History,”
USA Today
(June 20, 2005), 7B.

Chapter 3: “Be Worthy of Me”

1
. David MuCullough, “Knowing History and Knowing Who We Are,”
Imprimis
(April 2005), 5.

2
. Cited in André Castelot,
Josephine
(New York: Harper & Row, 1967).

3
. I thank my friend Dina Horne for this great insight.

Chapter 4: The Widow at Zarephath

1
. “The GQ Poll: The State of Man,”
GQ
(December 2004), 224.

2
. This and other comments from Leslie Vernick resulted from our discussion of the ideas in this book.

3
. Lysa TerKeurst,
Capture His Heart
(Chicago: Moody Press, 2002), 12 – 13.

4
. Dan Allender,
How Children Raise Parents
(Colorado Springs: WaterBrook, 2003), 196.

5
. Ibid.

6
. Ibid., 197.

Chapter 5: The Zarephath Legacy

1
. The speaker is Henry Belafonte, who told the story to Bono (see Michka Assayas,
Bono
:
In Conversation with Michka Assayas
[New York: Riverhead, 2005], 86).

2
. Ibid., emphasis added.

3
. Ibid., 87.

4
. Norma Smalley, “Differences Can Strengthen a Marriage,” in
The Joy of a Promise Kept
(Sisters, Ore.: Multnomah, 1996), 39.

5
. Elyse Fitzpatrick,
Helper by Design
:
God’s Perfect Plan for Women
in Marriage
(Chicago: Moody Press, 2003), 54 – 55.

6
. Patricia Palau, “Influencing Our World for Christ,” in
The Joy
of a Promise Kept
, 148.

7
. Ibid.

8
. Ibid., 149.

9
. Ibid., 152.

10
. Martie Stowell, “When He Doesn’t Keep His Promises,” in
The Joy of a Promise Kept
, 164 – 68.

11
. Ruth Bell Graham,
It’s My Turn
(Old Tappan, N.J.: Revell, 1982), 74.

12
. Cited in Ginny Graves, “As Women Rise in Society, Many Married Couples Still Don’t Do ‘Equal,’ ”
USA Today
(June 30, 2005), 13A. Interestingly enough, this figure has risen from 14 percent in 1987.

13
. Ibid.

14
. Linda Dillow,
Creative Counterpart
(Nashville: Nelson, 2003), 178.

15
. This is an account from Eastern European folklore, which also states that the attacking emperor — Konrad — allowed the Duke of Bavaria and his men to live, so moved was he by the wives’ actions.

Chapter 6: The Helper

1
. Linda Dillow,
Creative Counterpart
(Nashville: Nelson, 2003), 138.

2.
Derek Kidner,
Genesis
(Downers Grove, Ill.: InterVarsity, 1967), 65.

3.
Carolyn Mahaney,
Feminine Appeal
(Wheaton, Ill.: Crossway, 2003), 34.

Chapter 7: A Claim, a Call, and a Commitment

1
. Gordon Fee,
1 and 2 Timothy
,
Titus
(Peabody, Mass.: Hen-drickson, 1995), 187.

2.
Linda Dillow,
Creative Counterpart
(Nashville: Nelson, 2003), 155.

3.
Desiderius Erasmus, “Marriage,” in
The Book of Marriage
, ed. Dana Mack and David Blankenhorn (Grand Rapids: Eerd-mans, 2001), 101.

4.
Ibid., 103.

5
. Ibid., 106.

6
. Ibid., 108.

Chapter 8: Understanding the Male Mind

1
. This anecdote and the preceding one are based on an account in David Leon Moore, Thomas O’Toole, and Kelly White-side, “Coaches Have Plenty of Tales to Tell,”
USA Today
(February 4, 2003), 10C.

2
. Michael Gurian’s book,
What Could He Be Thinking? How a
Man’s Mind Really Works
(New York: St. Martin’s, 2003), discusses this in much greater detail.

3
. Gurian,
What Could He Be Thinking?
12.

4
. Ibid., 15.

5
. Ibid., 16.

6
. Ibid., 86.

7
. Ibid., 82 – 84.

8
. Ibid., 475.

9
. John Gottman, “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work,” in
The Book of Marriage
, ed. Dana Mack and David Blankenhorn (Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 2001), 472.

10
. Ibid.

11
. Ibid.

12
. Gurian,
What Could He Be Thinking?
227.

13
. Cited in Shaunti Feldhahn,
For Women Only: What You Need to
Know About the Inner Lives of Men
(Sisters, Ore.: Multnomah, 2004), 146.

14
. Linda Weber, “Building a Strong Marriage,” in
The Joy of a
Promise Kept
(Sisters, Ore.: Multnomah, 1998), 97.

Chapter 9: Jeanne-Antoinette

1
. Evelyne Lever,
Madame de Pompadour: A Life
(New York: Far-rar, Straus and Giroux, 2002), 11.

2
. Christine Pevitt Algrant,
Madame de Pompadour: Mistress of
France
(New York: Grove, 2002), 46.

3
. Ibid., 55.

4
. Lever,
Madame de Pompadour
, 116.

5
. Ibid., 80.

6
. Algrant,
Madame de Pompadour
, 76.

7
. Ibid.

8
. Carolyn Mahaney discusses this challenge in “True Beauty,” in
Biblical Womanhood in the Home
, ed. Nancy Leigh DeMoss (Wheaton, Ill.: Crossway, 2002), 35.

9
. C. F. Keil and F. Delitzsch,
Commentary on the Old Testament:
Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, Song of Solomon
(Grand Rapids: Eerd-mans, 1973), 131.

10
. Lever,
Madame de Pompadour
, 131.

11
. Ibid., 262.

12
. John Stott,
The Message of 1 Timothy and Titus
(Downers Grove, Ill.: InterVarsity, 1996), 188.

13
. Lever,
Madame de Pompadour
, 126.

14
. Algrant,
Madame de Pompadour
, 288.

Chapter 10: Ray and Jo: Taming the Temper, Part 1

1
. Jo has her own writing and speaking ministry. You can contact her through her website at www.jofranz.com.

Chapter 11: Taming the Temper, Part 2

1
. Shaunti Feldhahn,
For Women Only: What You Need to Know About
the Inner Lives of Men
(Sisters, Ore.: Multnomah, 2004), 24.

2
. Ibid.

3
. Ibid., 25.

4
. Thanks to Leslie Vernick for offering helpful suggestions for this paragraph.

5
. I’m indebted to Elton Trueblood for this insight.

6
. I love Andrew Murray’s book titled
Humility.
I’ve written chapters on this “queen of the virtues” in several of my books, including
Seeking the Face of God
,
The Glorious Pursuit
, and
Authentic
Faith
. There’s also a chapter on humility as it pertains to marriage in my book
Sacred Marriage
. If you like to listen to teaching tapes, C. J. Mahaney preached an excellent sermon on pride in March 2002 at what was then called the “PDI Leadership Conference” (main session #1). You can access C. J.’s sermons by visiting www.sovereigngraceministries.org.

7
. Cited in Amy Patterson-Neubert, “Get Serious: Domestic Violence Is Not a Joke,”
Purdue News
(October 16, 2003). Ar-riaga’s article, “Joking Violence Among Highly Committed Individuals,” was originally published in the June 2002 issue of the
Journal of Interpersonal Violence
.

8
. Ibid.

Chapter 13: The Biology of a Busy Man

1
. Stanley Weintraub,
Charlotte and Lionel: A Rothschild Love Story
(New York: Free Press, 2003), 17.

2
. Ibid., 53.

3
. Ibid., 64.

4
. Ibid.

5
. Ibid., 189.

6
. Ibid., 293.

7
. Michael Gurian,
What Could He Be Thinking? How a Man’s Mind
Really Works
(New York: St. Martin’s, 2003), 36, 39.

8
. Ibid., 63.

9
. Ibid., 47.

10
. Ibid., 48.

11
. Ibid., 62.

12
. Quotes and information for this story come from John Fein-stein, “The Punch,”
Sports Illustrated
(October 21, 2002), 68ff.The article was adapted from a book by the same name.

13
. Dr. Steve Stephens and Alice Gray,
The Walk Out Woman
(Sisters, Ore.: Multnomah), 147.

14
. Cited in Judith Martin,
Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly
Correct Behavior
(New York: Atheneum, 1982), 7.

Chapter 14: Pure Passion

1
. “Christians and Sex: Sexual Issues in the Church,” Church Research Report, Christianity Today International (2004), 3.

2
. Michael Gurian,
What Could He Be Thinking? How a Man’s Mind
Really Works
(New York: St. Martin’s, 2003), 109 – 10.

3
. Ibid., 113.

4
. Shaunti Feldhahn,
For Women Only: What You Need to Know
About the Inner Lives of Men
(Sisters, Ore.: Multnomah, 2004), 100.