Sex Made Easy (45 page)

sex with other men, experimentation with,
212–13

vibrator use by,
166
,
175–76

Menopause

surgical menopause,
38
,
105

vaginal dryness and,
38

vaginal lubrication and,
27
,
34

vulvar and vaginal tearing, estrogen, and,
22
,
41

Mindfulness exercises and techniques,
95
,
106

Missionary position

childbirth, orgasms, and,
104

G Spot stimulation during,
30

lasting longer and,
123

preference for,
219

Monogamous relationships and STIs,
86–87

Mons/mons pubis,
20
,
20

Morning-after pill,
161–62
,
186–87

MTV,
77

Multiple orgasms,
109–12

National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (NSSHB),
11–12
,
30
,
37–38
,
94–95
,
100
,
191–92

National Vulvodynia Association,
30

Neck and head cancers,
78

Neurologists,
79–80

The New Male Sexuality
(Zilbergeld),
125
,
126

New View Campaign,
22–23

NSSHB (National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior),
11–12
,
30
,
37–38
,
94–95
,
100
,
191–92

Numbness, genital,
79–80
,
181

Oophorectomy,
105

Oral herpes,
75
,
86–87

Oral sex

condom use and,
71
,
78–79

frenulum, licking during,
45

orgasms and,
112

penis size and,
56–57

piercings and,
59

pregnancy and,
228

pubic hair and cunnilingus,
24

STIs and,
71
,
72
,
78–79
,
86–87

swallowing and,
134

Orgasms

age and,
94–95

anatomical differences and,
93

antidepressant medications and,
101–2

arousal, distractions, and,
105–6

arousal and,
105–7
,
109
,
111

bragging about multiple,
110
,
111

breastfeeding and,
100

breast stimulation and,
93
,
96

childbirth, sex positions, and,
104
,
231–34

clitoral stimulation and,
93
,
94
,
96–97

dry orgasms,
133–34

ejaculation, female,
39–40

ejaculation and,
118

during exercise,
97–99
,
99

faking,
118

fantasies and,
93
,
108–9

foreplay and,
106–7

gap between men and women,
100

G Spot and G Spot orgasms,
27–30
,
93
,
175

guarantee of,
195

headaches during,
79–80
,
101

how women orgasm,
96–97

hysterectomy and,
104–5

importance of,
91–92

during intercourse,
56
,
109–12

interest in,
91

learning to experience,
95
,
107–9
,
110

letting go and,
95

making him last longer,
106–7

masturbation and,
95
,
97
,
108

multiple,
109–12

myths about,
92–94

oral sex and,
112

prevalence of,
94–95

research studies about,
12
,
93–95
,
97–99

sexual satisfaction and,
92

sexual variety and,
100
,
195

simultaneous,
112–13

during sleep,
100

strength of,
102–3

timing of,
106–7
,
112–13

types of,
96–97

uncircumcised partners and,
50

vaginal stimulation and,
28–29
,
96–97

variations between women,
92–94

verge of and getting over the hump,
107–9

vibrators and,
101–2

Ovarian cancer,
70
,
73
,
88

Ovarian Cancer Coalition,
73

Ovaries

hysterectomy and removal of,
105

vaginal dryness and removal of,
38

vaginal lubrication and removal of,
34

Oxytocin,
100

Pain

during ejaculation,
135–36

in genitals,
27
,
33
,
34
,
39

health and sexual function,
135
,
220–21
,
235–36

during sex,
30
,
33–34

Pap test,
66
,
70
,
74
,
80–81
,
85

Partner notification programs,
83

Passionate Marriage
(Schnarch),
144
,
158
,
207

Pelvic exams,
66
,
69–70

Pelvic floor muscles,
26–27
,
136

Penetration, impossibility of,
38–39

Penis

appreciation for,
16

bend and curvature,
47

breaking (fracture),
44
,
58

circumcised,
44
,
48–50

cleanliness of,
44
,
49–50

education about,
19

embarrassment and shame about,
46
,
124–25

erection and chambers in,
48

erection and size of,
44–45

first time seeing,
17

G Spot exploration and stimulation,
28
,
30

large penises,
46
,
54–56

parts of,
44–45
,
45

penile extenders,
57

piercings,
58–59

popping (snapping) sound,
58

sensitivity of,
57–58

size of,
45
,
46–47
,
53–57
,
155

size of, importance of,
53–54

size of and vaginal tearing,
41

small penises,
46
,
56–57

surgical procedures,
57

uncircumcised,
44
,
49–50
,
59–60

Performance (desensitizing) condoms,
106
,
127
,
128

Perineum,
20
,
21
,
51

Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder (PGAD),
36–37

Persistent Sexual Arousal Syndrome,
36

Peterson, Keri,
103

Pets and sex,
222–24
,
238–42

PGAD (Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder),
36–37

Piercings,
58–59

Plastic surgery,
22–23

Pocket pussy (masturbation sleeve),
20
,
55–56

Podcasts,
9

Porn

homemade sex tapes,
215–16

partner watching too much,
202–4

watching,
108

watching together,
200
,
202

Positions

childbirth, sex positions, and orgasms,
104
,
231–34

cuts and tears and,
186

G Spot stimulation and,
30

lasting longer and,
123

pregnancy and,
229–30
,
230
,
232

variety of,
195

Pre-ejaculate (pre-cum),
44
,
52
,
63
,
64

Pregnancy.
See also
Childbirth

anal sex and,
228

avoidance of,
63

baby-making sex,
140
,
224–26

labor and intercourse,
230–31

oral sex and,
228

positions and,
229–30
,
230
,
232

pre-ejaculate (pre-cum) and,
63

prenatal health care,
162

sex during,
26
,
226–31
,
232

unplanned,
224

unprotected sex and pregnancy scare,
161–62
,
186–88

urination needs during,
53

vibrator use during,
227

Premature ejaculation,
112–13
,
122
,
124–25
,
130

Pressure to have sex,
159

Primary care physician, gynecologists as,
72–73

Prostate cancer,
52
,
53

Prostate gland,
52–53
,
117
,
134

Prostate play,
61–62
,
184–85

Prostate toys,
184–85

Pubic hair, female

bare,
24
,
25
,
32

feelings about,
16
,
25–26

ingrown pubic hair,
32–33

natural,
23
,
25

pleasure and,
25–26

removing,
20

shaving and razor bumps,
32–33

styles of,
23–26

trimming,
23–24
,
25
,
32

Pubic hair, male,
47–48

Pubic lice (crabs),
63–64
,
211–12

Questions about sex,
9
,
11
,
14

Raphe,
51

Razors, vibrating,
167

Real world sex,
12

Rear-entry positions,
123

Rectovaginal exam,
70–71

Refractory period,
119
,
121

Relationship partners

attraction to,
139
,
145–50

attraction to someone other than,
151–55

good sex, what makes for,
140–45

intimacy, feelings of connection, and erections,
119–20

intimacy, feelings of connection, and good sex,
141–42

intimacy, feelings of connection, and orgasms,
102–3

libidos, differences between,
157–58

monogamous relationships and STIs,
86–87

open-minded consideration of partner's activities,
200–202

pressure to have sex,
159

self-expansion,
150–51

sexless relationships,
158–59

sex with someone other than relation ship partner or spouse,
12
,
153–54