Sexaholics (35 page)

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Definition:
The Art of the Quickie
is the
most comprehensive look at what we think of as “neo-quickie sex”
we’ve read. Neo-quickie sex expands the old definition of quickies in this
new age adult sex education book. In the past quickie sex had one goal—to
please the man. Neo-quickie sex, according to Dr. Joel D. Block, senior
psychologist at the Jewish Medical Center on Long Island, is about creating
pleasure for both partners.

Outercourse:

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Definition: Outercourse is a form of pleasuring and
sexual sharing other than penile-vaginal intercourse. The term is used to give
credibility to the many forms of sexual pleasure that are underused because of
the common view of having sex as having intercourse.

Paraphilia:

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Definition: A paraphilia is a mental health term
recently used to indicate sexual arousal in response to sexual objects or
situations which may interfere with the capacity for reciprocal affectionate
sexual activity.

Queer:

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Definition: Original definition is strange or odd. The
definition morphed to also include people in a negative connotation, such as
sissy or pervert, back in the ’50s. It has since been adopted as a term of
empowerment by the gay community and has come to be a broader term that
signifies anyone who dresses or acts outside societal norms.

Runway:

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Definition: Also referred to as the
“taint.” This is actually medically called the perineum and is the
strip of skin between the scrotum and the anus.

Sybian:

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Definition: The Sybian is a motorized seat used by
women for simulated sex. The Sybian consists of a saddle, which contains an
electric motor connected to a rod that protrudes from a hole in the center of
the saddle. Various attachments, including dildos, butt plugs, and clitoral nubs
can be attached to the rod. The Sybian vibrates (stimulating the clitoris) when
turned on while the attachment rotates (stimulating the g-spot). The intensity
can be increase or decreased using the control box attached to the Sybian.

Tea Bagging:

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Definition: Tea Bagging is a form of oral sex where a
scrotum is stimulated by the other person’s mouth or tongue. It is
practiced by both heterosexual and homosexual couples. In one variation the male
squats over his partner’s face while his partner licks his ball sack.

Uncut:

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Definition: Slang for an uncircumcised man. Many
parents who recognize that there is apparently no medical advantage to
circumcision are now choosing not to have their sons circumcised. There is no
evidence to suggest that circumcision has any effect on male sexual functioning
one way or another. Opponents of routine circumcision argue that removing the
foreskin lessens the sexual sensitivity of the glans since it constantly rubs
directly against clothing. There is simply no evidence demonstrating that
circumcision makes a difference to sexual excitement, erection, and the ability
to reach orgasm or the ability to have a pleasing and complete sex life with a
partner.

Vaginismus:

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Definition: Vaginismus is a purely psychological
condition that occurs in women causing the muscles surrounding the vagina to
close so tightly that they will not allow anything in. Women with vaginismus
believe that they have no control over their vaginal muscles (which is not
true). Vaginismus is due to earlier unresolved sexual traumas, fears, or
anxieties. Psychological and behavioral therapies are helpful for dealing with
this issue.

Withdrawal:

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Definition: Withdrawal is the removal of the penis
from the vagina before ejaculation occurs. This is NOT an effective
contraceptive method. The pre-ejaculate lubricating fluids contain sperm capable
of fertilization. A condom is recommended for safer sex and contraceptive
practices.

X-rated:

Pynk Definition: Explicit sex acts, mainly used in pornographic movies.

Yoni:

Pynk Definition: An ancient Indian term for vagina, often mentioned in the
term Yoni massage, aka pussy massage.

Zoophilia:

Pynk Definition: Fetish involving sex with animals.

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1. Do you feel you understood Miki’s need to have as many men as she
did? Was it kind of a boomerang effect? What would you say was her biggest
character flaw, other than her addiction to sex?

2. As far as Valencia was concerned, should Greg have understood her need
for the girls, being that she accepted his chronic need for masturbation? Should
he have been more patient, since they had experienced various partners
throughout their long relationship and she helped him out as far as his career
was concerned?

3. With Teela agreeing to allow Austin to be with other women as long as she
could watch, do you think she got what she deserved, or was he the one who
crossed the boundaries of their relationship? What would you like to see happen
to her?

4. Did you begin to feel some understanding for Brandi’s situation
toward the end of the story? In the end, did you see her as a victim or as a
criminal?

5. Which character would you say had the biggest addiction to sex and
why?

6. Have you ever had sex with a stranger, meaning sex with someone
you’d known less than a few hours? Did it grow into more or was it a
one-time, hit-it-and-quit-it incident?

7. What was the most dysfunctional sexual scene in
Sexaholics
?

8. Which lady would you like to see make an appearance in a future Pynk
book? Why?

9. Out of all the male characters in
Sexaholics
, which one do you
think was the best lover? What was it about his sex habits that impressed
you?

10. Do you personally know of anyone in your life who might be a sexaholic,
but perhaps they’re unaware of the intensity of their situation? What
makes you suspect they could be addicted to sex?

11. If you were to classify yourself as having one addiction, what would it
be? Food, gambling, alcohol, surfing the web, porn, cigarettes, shopping, shoes,
sex, etc.

12. What would you do if a best friend betrayed you the way Valencia
betrayed Miki? Did Valencia get what she had coming to her when all was said and
done?