The Adventurous Couple's Guide to Sex Toys (16 page)

Bonk'er:
bonkum.com
Coco de Mer:
coco-de-mer.co.uk
Dungeon Beds:
dungeonbeds.com
Joy Rider:
thejoyrider.com
JT's Stockroom:
stockroom.com
(swings and slings)
Liberator:
liberatorshapes.com
LuvSeat:
luvseat.com
Monkey Rocker:
monkeyrocker.com
Tantra Chair:
tantrachair.com

Come Hither: A Common Sense Guide to Kinky Sex,
by Gloria Brame

Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot,
by Carol Queen

Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment,
by Hardy Haberman

The Guide to Getting It On!,
by Paul Joannides

The Mistress Manual,
by Mistress Lorelei

Sensuous Magic: A Guide to S/M for Adventurous Couples,
by Patrick Califia

Sex Toys 101,
by Rachel Venning and Claire Cavanah

The Stripper's Guide to Looking Great Naked,
by Jennifer Axen and Leigh Phillips

The Survivor's Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowering Sex Life After Childhood Sexual Abuse,
by Staci Haines

Sweet Life: Erotic Fantasies for Couples 1
and
2,
and
Taboo
, by Violet Blue

The Toybag Guides
, Greenery Press, by various authors

Tricks ... to Please a Man,
by Jay Wiseman

Tricks ... to Please a Woman,
by Jay Wiseman

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women,
by Tristan Taormino

The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability,
by Miriam Kaufman, MD, Cory Silverberg, and Fran Odette

The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy,
by Violet Blue

The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex,
by Karlyn Lotney

When the Earth Moves: Women and Orgasm,
by Mikaya Hart

Before you put each other's naughty bits in your mouths, or even think about rubbing your bodies together, it's a good idea to know where these bits have been. But since we don't all live in a perfect world—in fact, no one does—you'll want to use condoms, gloves, dental dams, or finger cots when you have oral, vaginal, or anal sex; when you use or share sex toys; and, in some cases, when you give hand jobs. When someone pulls out a condom, dam, glove, or cot, you know you're literally in good hands. Below is a list of items in your first line of defense against invading infections and viruses:

 

Condoms:
Available in latex and polyurethane, in dozens of sizes, colors, and flavors. Animal skin condoms don't prevent the spread of some viruses. A condom is a snug sheath that unrolls onto a penis or sex toy. Use condoms for fellatio, for vaginal and anal sex, and for covering sex toys made of porous materials, or when you want to share a sex toy. Change condoms for different sex partners and orifices—something that has been used anally should be covered by a condom before it's inserted orally or vaginally. Don't reuse your toy condoms. Don't use anything containing oils of any kind that latex condoms may come in contact with; however, polyurethane condoms may be used with oils.

 

Dental dams:
Thin squares of latex or polyurethane used as a barrier for cunnilingus and rimming. Lubricate the genitals, place the dam on top, keep a good hold on the dam, and lick to your heart's content. Available in a few flavors and colors; in a jam, you can use plastic wrap or a condom cut open and laid flat.

 

Gloves:
Use latex or nonlatex gloves for hand jobs on persons of all genders. They protect against germs from your hands going onto genitals, can protect your hands from picking up viruses or germs, and make hands a smooth surface free of jagged nails or scratchy calluses.

 

Finger cots:
Tiny condoms made of latex that unroll over a finger to create a sterile surface. Great for on-the-go escapades.

 

If you choose to go at it uncovered, here is what you're at risk for. Make an informed decision!

 

 

 

VIOLET BLUE is a professional sex educator, sex columnist, female porn expert, pro-porn pundit, and contributor to
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and Metroblogging San Francisco. She is the author of
The Smart Girl's Guide to Porn, The Ultimate Guide to Adult Videos, The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy, The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio,
and
The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus,
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Best Women's Erotica
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;
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;
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;
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;
Newsweek
; the
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; and
Wired.
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