Authors: Tess Ayers,Paul Brown
The Essential Guide toÂ Gay & Lesbian Weddings
“A beautifully conceived and illustrated book that tackles every aspect of the wedding ceremony with humor and pride. . . . Tongue-in-cheek hyperbole is the hallmark of this thorough and witty guide, and traditional couples as well as gays will find its lighthearted yet seriously knowledgeable tone refreshing. . . .Â this book [is] as much a statement about gay life as it is a nontraditional wedding planner.”
San Francisco Chronicle
“[The authors] answer with eloquence and wit the arguments that many gay activists have marshaled in opposition to gay and lesbians codifying their relationships in the same ways that straights do. . . .Â even the book's most serious advice is generously larded with humor. . . .Â [Ayers and Brown] have left out none of the trappings.”
“A chatty, humorous compendium of traditions, advice, and wedding details geared for same-sex couples.”
“All you need is loveâand this bookâto have a great wedding.”
, musician and LGBT activist
“Everything you need to consider to plan the event of a lifetimeâexcept the man or woman of your dreams.”
, author of
Making History and Is It a Choice?
“Even the straight and single will get a kick out of this book! I found myself having lesbian-marriage envy!”
, actor and writer
The Essential Guide to
Gay and Lesbian
Tess Ayers andÂ Paul Brown
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
The essential guide to gay and lesbian weddings / Tess Ayers and Paul
Brown. â 3rd ed.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 978-1-61519-054-6 (pbk.) â ISBN 978-1-61519-151-2 (ebook) 1. Gay
couplesâUnited States. 2. Same-sex marriageâUnited States. 3.
WeddingsâUnited StatesâPlanning. I. Brown, Paul, 1962â II. Title.
Ebook ISBN 978-1-61519-151-2
Cover design by Alison Forner
Cover image Â© iStockphoto | jammydesign
Text design by Pauline Neuwirth, Neuwirth & Associates, Inc.
Manufactured in the United States of America
Distributed by Workman Publishing Company, Inc.
Distributed simultaneously in Canada by Thomas Allen and Son Ltd.
Third edition first published April 2012
10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1
For Janey, My Light
For Rick, Without Whomâ¦
The Marriage Debate
Why Have a Wedding?
Reasons Why Others Have
Seven Bad Reasons to Get Married
Things You Can Call It Instead of a Wedding
Timeline of Same-Sex Couplings