The Guide to Getting It On (90 page)

I drool thinking about rough sex. I scratch very nicely. I love biting. I love being restraining and being spanked. I love it when he gets ready to come and gently grasps the back of my head while I blow him. I love being controlled.
female age 19

Almost all of the above....
male age 34

My partner and I are in a relatively new relationship, and discussing what we might be interested in trying. I’ve never had anything non-vanilla before (neither has he), but we have experimented with very light restraints, biting (but more like nipping – nothing hurtful), and I am interested in forceful sex. I’m not yet sure about a full-on rape fantasy.
male age 29

When I was having sex with my best friend, she loved it rough. I slammed her up against a door and she got so horny. She loved getting her hair pulled, and wanted me to tie her up. It was a lot of fun, but definitely needs to be with the right person and talked about beforehand.
male age 22

Well, I like it when my partner spanks me during sex... I think I would enjoy being tied up. I would also like to add a vibrator into the mix.
female age 20

I enjoy biting. While I’ve never been completely restrained, it’s a huge turn-on to be held down.
female age 19

Everything, but fisting and peeing. No poop, blood, or fire. I’m OK with everything else. Not into lots of pain but a little is rather fun sometimes. I love getting bit. Being marked means I was claimed.
female age 35

We do anal play and both enjoy it.
female age 27

I love getting bit. I love restraining her, spanking her and being scratched.
male age 22

I like being restrained and blindfolded because it makes everything more intense. My boyfriend feels uncomfortable about it so there goes that
... female age 25

I really enjoy anal play. She is happy to do it, although she would prefer to use anything other than her fingers. We are looking into toys right now.
male age 25

Anal play and fantasize about eating cum out of her pussy or off her body.
male age 42

I like light bondage, being tied up and blindfolded, pinned, and having the control taken away from me. Unfortunately, it hardly ever happens.
female age 35

Being spanked, being restrained (tied down, blindfolded, etc.), rough sex, dominance play and a rape type scenario here and there. We’re a rather kinky couple.
female age 19

Rough sex, spanking or being spanked.
female age 32

My boyfriend and I really like rough sex and sometimes he bites me. We also will sometimes have one partner give directions to the other or have one partner be “frozen” while the other does whatever the other wants to the frozen partner.
female age 21

Being spanked, nipples bitten and rough sex. I do like it when he holds me down, but I wouldn’t want it to last the entire time and I don’t want to pretend that I’m feeling raped. I do really like it when I feel like he knows exactly what he wants and will take it; I guess I like it when he’s very dominant, but I also like being dominant on occasion, too.
female age 23

I love having rough sex. When my boyfriend and I are roleplaying a robbery or kidnapping, rough sex adds to the ‘appeal’ of the role play. It also like spanking, biting, restraining and acting out of a rape fantasy. We also have sex on every surface we can get to when we’re acting out a fantasy.
female age 24

I would enjoy being anally penetrated with toys and fingers, but my significant other isn’t into that idea.
male age 38

I like to be bitten, controlled and restrained. I love the tease. The enjoyment is the wanting to be touched somewhere and not getting it. Oh, and being marked by bites, bruises, and hickies.
female age 21

I love everything minus rape fantasies and being peed on. I would be fine with all of that every time we had sex.
female age 21

I like playful, gentle biting, giving and receiving hickies, back-scratching (but not necessarily to the point of bleeding), mild bondage and leather play. I have a love for piercings and tattoos and find getting them a bit of a sexual rush.
male age 31

I enjoy being spanked while having sex with my partner, but only if we’re having sex doggy style and I’m already very turned on. I enjoy rough sex some times, but not regularly or when I’m tired. I like being restrained occasionally, although my husband rarely does that to me. He has also pretended to rape me a couple times, which I enjoy, but he doesn’t do it very often because of the aggression of the act.
female Age 20

I love being “taken.” I love rough sex, biting, being restrained or restraining him, and spanking. I also really like using sex toys, like dildos and vibrators. They enhance our experiences a lot.
female age 20

I love fingers and toys up the rear. Piss play intrigues but I haven’t tried it.
male age 28

Does anal and sex in public count? I enjoy anal for most sexual encounters. Sex in public took some convincing from my ex.
female age 32

I think biting can be enjoyable and a quick smack on the ass during doggie style is nice. I like it when my husband pulls me toward his body aggressively and restrains my hands. If you saw the size of my husband’s hand you would understand why I would never want to be fisted by him. Fisting seems more like a girl/girl thing with small dainty hands.
female age 30

Having rough sex. I love that a lot.
female age 26

I have tried the rape sex.... don’t really enjoy it. It felt pretty weird. I do enjoy light spanking. I like being restrained as long as I know I can say “get off” and he will right away. No peeing or fisting though.
female age 20

I enjoy anal play occasionally. I wish we could more open about what we like.
male age 36

I love being spanked, handcuffed to chairs and blindfolded. I also love schoolgirl role playing, biting, and occasionally being thrown around like a rag doll. I am a very submissive partner.
female age 19

I love everything plus the piss. For some reason I am turned on by urine. It’s not something I advertise for or roll out early in a relationship. I love light BDSM, especially getting tied up. My interest wanes as soon as the actual physical pain ramps up.
female age 28

I love public sex, although we’re usually hidden in a park. I love being spanked, rough sex, dirty talk, restraints, clitoris toys and role playing.
female age 22

Rough sex, biting, clawing, fighting a little, being restrained and hair pulling (mine and my partner’s).
female age 20

I enjoy performing anal sex on myself and being fingered while be jacked off. I like to watch women pee, I like to be peed on and pee on my partner. We enjoy public flashing and public sex and nudism. I enjoy watching others naked and have sex, and I also enjoy being watched while I have sex.
male age 25

I guess if anal sex qualifies as “non-vanilla,” that’s something I enjoy, but only if I’m particularly aroused, which happens less and less often these days.
female age 27

(Blush) I like peeing (both giving and receiving) although it’s been very rare that I find a partner who is like-minded. I enjoy anal play, both giving and receiving. Frankly, if my partner enjoys it, I’m not really above doing anything. Her pleasure is the greatest aphrodisiac there is.
male age 40

Being on the giving or receiving end of spanking, biting, scratching, wax play and bondage. There’s of at least one of these every time I have sex (about once a week).
female age 29

I love biting, but I hate being bitten. I really want to have sex with someone who won’t stop every time I say “ouch”. I want it rough.
female age 19

Rough sex can be really amazing if we’re both in the mood. I also enjoy women wearing plaid skirts.
male age 30

Sometimes I like getting spanked lightly. I also prefer to be the aggressive one and not the other way around. I would rather I bite him instead of him biting me. I would rather me pin him down instead of him pinning me down. My fiance enjoys fish nets, and I swear he could almost get off just by looking at them on me or touching them.
female age 20

I’m intrigued by hard fingering and fisting, but I have never done it. I don’t think she is physically able and I don’t want her to get hurt.
male age 35

I like being spanked, and occasionally doing the spanking; having my hair pulled, pulling my partners’ hair; being bitten (gently), doing the biting; I keep my nails long and it turns me on to scratch or dig my nails into my partners during sex - and most of my partners are very turned on but it. I also like group sex.
female age 25

I enjoy strapping on a dildo and having anal sex with a man. My current boyfriend does not want to try this, but I enjoyed it immensely with a previous boyfriend. I also like the idea of restraining my partner, but I have never tried it.
female age 38

Light bondage! Both sides, please. I love rough sex, although not to the point of pain. And anywhere that’s not a bedroom is sexy, even though beds are comfortable.
male age 25

I like being spanked, biting, being restrained and eating desserts off each other. I am open to most things. Just not peeing, pooping, screwing animals or eating flesh. Oh! Or fucking dead people. That’s a no-no.
female age 23

Love being spanked and caressed and receiving love bites. I love holding my feel in the upside down straddle stretch and being pounded and adored. Being restrained by strong arms is nice.
female age 23

My partner and I are rather kinky. We enjoy spanking, rough sex, rape fantasy, fisting, biting, restraint sex, roleplaying, and on occasion, we’ve even yiffed. That was a bonding experience.
female age 21

I like to spank, and dominate my partner. I’m always switching between slow caressing and dominance. I would like to restrain her and try role playing.
male age 21

I really enjoy being bitten and restrained.
male age 41

I love rough sex when I’m in the mood for it. I love being restrained and restraining others! I can get a little kinky at times. I still don’t think my current partner knows how to take me sometimes.
female age 23

Whoa! Yeah, I like to spank. If I like the girl I want to be spanked. The more involved I am with a girl, the more I want from her. If she likes to bite - awesome. But if she’s doing it because she saw it in a video and is trying to impress me – lame.
male age 19