The Ultimate Guide to Kink
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Authors: Tristan Taormino
Table of Contents
CHAPTER 1 - “S IS FOR…”: THE TERMS, PRINCIPLES, AND PLEASURES OF KINK
TERMINOLOGY AND LINGO
EROTIC ROLE PLAY
PRINCIPLES
Endnotes
CHAPTER 2 - MAKING AN IMPACT: SPANKING, CANING, AND FLOGGING
SPANKING
CANES FOR PAIN AND PLEASURE
FLOGGING
CHAPTER 3 - HOW TO TRAIN YOUR SEX SLAVE
NEGOTIATING WHAT, WHEN, WHERE, WHY
EXERCISES AND ASSIGNMENTS
REWARD AND PUNISHMENT
BEING CREATIVE
TESTING
CHAPTER 4 - WHOLE HAND SEX: VAGINAL FISTING AND BDSM
PHYSIOLOGY
COMMUNICATION AND EXPECTATIONS
PREPARATION
TIPS AND TECHNIQUES
FOR THE BOTTOM
AFTERCARE
THE PLEASURES OF BONDAGE
BONDAGE BASICS
TOOLS: DIY FUN AROUND THE HOME
TOOLS: LEATHER AND METAL
ROPE BONDAGE
TYPES OF BONDAGE
RISKS AND REALITIES
WHAT TO AVOID
OTHER BONDAGE BLOOPERS
CHAPTER 6 - A LITTLE COCK AND BALL PLAY
COMMUNICATION
ROPE BONDAGE
SENSATION IMPLEMENTS
BANDAGE BONDAGE
CLIPS, CLAMPS, AND OTHER THINGS THAT PINCH
CHAPTER 7 - KINKY TWISTED TANTRA
WHAT IS TANTRA?
TANTRIC SEX TECHNIQUES
EXERCISE: PLAYING WITH POWER
CONSCIOUS SEX
THE TAO OF PAIN
EXERCISE: PLAYING WITH PAIN
PIERCING SUPPLIES
HOW TO PIERCE
OTHER CONSIDERATIONS
HOW THE BODY REACTS TO PIERCING
THE RISKS
HIV/AIDS
NEEDLE WORK AFTERCARE
PIERCING IN A SCENE
CHAPTER 9 - BRUTAL AFFECTION: PLAYING WITH ROUGH SEX
CLAIMING YOUR DESIRES
COMMUNICATION AND NEGOTIATION
ROLES, CHANGE, AND CONFIDENCE
ACTIVITIES, IDEAS, AND TECHNIQUES
BRUTAL AFFECTION AFTERCARE
YOU’RE A GREAT LOVER. NOW GET BETTER.
Endnotes
CHAPTER 10 - BUTTHOLE BLISS: THE INS AND OUTS OF ANAL FISTING
PREPARATION
JOURNEY TO BLISS
AFTERCARE AND SAFETY
CHAPTER 11 - STOP, DROP, AND ROLE! EROTIC ROLE PLAYING
SIMPLE “WHAT IF…?”
FLASHBACKS
YOU’RE SUCH A CHARACTER!
DRAWING THE LINE
“I WANNA DO BAD THINGS TO YOU.” NEGOTIATE THIS!
“PSST… WHAT ARE YOU WEARING?” DRESS FOR SUCCESS
INCORPORATING THOSE PESKY REAL-LIFE CONCERNS
WHAT HAPPENS NOW? AFTERCARE AND REENTRY
Endnotes
CHAPTER 12 - A ROMP ON THE WILD SIDE: EROTIC HUMAN ANIMAL ROLE PLAYING
THE CALL OF THE WILD
CHOOSE YOUR ANIMAL
INTERACTIONS
ACTIVITIES
CARE AND FEEDING
CHAPTER 13 - FORTEFEMME: THE ART AND PHILOSOPHY OF FEMININE DOMINANCE
HOW TO FIND YOUR POWER SOURCE: THE ARCHETYPE
WHAT REALLY TURNS ON A SUBMISSIVE PARTNER
THE GOOD DOMINANT
A FEW PRACTICAL TIPS FOR A SCENE
CHAPTER 14 - SUBMISSIVE: A PERSONAL MANIFESTO
CHAPTER 15 - ENHANCING MASOCHISM: HOW TO EXPAND LIMITS AND INCREASE DESIRE
SOME DEFINITIONS
AN ALTERNATIVE VIEW OF MASOCHISM
WHO’S THERE?
SET AND SETTING
CONSENSUAL NONCONSENT
NO-FAULT PLAY
ENOUGH, ALREADY!
CHAPTER 16 - INSIDE THE MIND OF A SADIST
DOMINANT, TOP, OR SADIST?
A BRIEF HISTORY OF SADISM
WHAT’S PAIN GOT TO DO WITH IT?
SADISM AND CONSENT
AFTERCARE/AFTERMATH
Endnotes
SQUARE ONE
CHOOSING YOUR AGE
GENDER AND SEXUAL ORIENTATION
POWER DYNAMIC
RELATIONSHIP AND CONNECTION
PUBLIC/PRIVATE
FREQUENCY
PROPS, COSTUMES, SCENE ELEMENTS
NEGOTIATION
CHAPTER 18 - DIGGING IN THE DIRT: THE LURE OF TABOO ROLE PLAY
INTENT AND CONSENT
WHY GO THERE?
SELF-EXPLORATION
AFTERCARE
PLAYING WITH HATE
Endnotes
GLOSSARY OF TERMS
ABOUT THE DARK LORD
NEXT
Endnotes
CHAPTER 20 - MINDFUCK (C’MON, DOES IT NEED ANY OTHER TITLE?)
WHAT THE FUCK?
WHY THE FUCK?
THE 3 F’N MFS
FUCKIN’ RULES
THE FUCKING SAFETY VALVE
SOME FUCKING METHODS
THE FUCKING DYNAMIC
FUCKING: BEFORE, DURING, AFTER
HANDLING DANGER
FUCKING QUESTIONS
FUCK YOU
Endnotes
Advance Praise for
The Ultimate Guide to Kink
“So many of the people who write me at ‘Savage Love’ are curious about kink—some days it accounts for half the mail—but they don’t know where to start. I’m going to be recommending this collection of essays. This is more than just a guide to kink, it’s more than a sex manual. Editor Tristan Taormino has brought the players, thinkers, and rock stars of the kink scene and together they have created a book that not only lets people know where to start, but why to start, and what they’ll get out of it. Vanillas, novices, old hands, old guard—everyone can learn from this collection.”