The Ultimate Guide to Kink (48 page)

The Group With No Name, Austin, TX,
gwnn.net

LA-RAWW, Los Angeles, CA,
laraww.com

Lesbian Sex Mafia, New York, NY,
lesbiansexmafia.org

LRA, Chicago, IL,
lra-chicago.org

MOB, Boston, MA,
mobnewengland.org

National Leather Association (has local chapters in Arkansas, Atlanta, Colorado, Columbus, Central Florida, Dallas, Houston, Indianapolis, Oklahoma City, Northern Nevada, and Philadelphia),
nla-i.com

New England Leather Alliance, Boston, MA,
nelaonline.org

Portland Leather Alliance, Portland, OR,
portlandleather.org

Society of Janus, San Francisco, CA,
soj.org

TES, New York, NY,
tes.org

SELECT EVENTS

Beat Me in St. Louis, St. Louis, MO,
beatmeinstl.com

Beyond Leather, Fort Lauderdale, FL,
beyondleather.net

Beyond Vanilla, Dallas TX,
beyondvanilla.org

Black Beat, Baltimore, MD,
blackbeatinc.org

Desire, Palm Springs, CA,
desireleatherwomen.com

Fetish Fair Fleamarket, Boston, MA,
fetishfairfleamarket.com

Folsom Fringe, San Jose, CA,
folsomfringe.com

Great Lakes Leather Alliance Weekend, Indianapolis, IN,
greatlakesleather.org

International Ms. Leather, San Francisco, CA,
imsl.org

International Mr. Leather, Chicago, IL,
imrl.com

Kinkfest, Portland, OR,
kinkfest.org

Kinky Kollege, Chicago, IL,
kinkycollege.com

Leather Leadership Conference,
leatherleader.org

Master/slave Conference, Washington, DC, masterslavecon-ference. org

South Plains Leatherfest, Dallas, TX, southplainsleatherfest. com

Southeast Leatherfest, Atlanta, GA,
seleatherfest.com

Shibaricon, Chicago, IL,
shibaricon.com

Thunder in the Mountains, Denver, CO, thunderinthemoun-tains. com

Tribal Fire, Oklahoma City, OK,
tribalfireokc.com

Twisted Tryst, various locations,
twistedtryst.com

WEB RESOURCES

BDSM Event Page,
thebdsmeventspage.com

FetLife,
fetlife.com

Hanky Code,
leathernjonline.com/hanky.htm

Kink Academy,
kinkacademy.com

Kink Aware Professionals,
https://ncsfreedom.org/resources/kink-aware-professionals-directory/kap-directory-homepage.html

ABOUT THE CONTRIBUTORS

LAURA ANTONIOU
(
lantoniou.com
) is the author of the well-known
Marketplace
series of erotic novels, now being published by Circlet Press; they are all being converted to e-books as well. She has also edited the groundbreaking
Leath-erwomen
anthologies and several other collections of fiction and nonfiction. Her first book,
The Catalyst
, now renamed
Cinema Erotica
, is now available as an e-book through Ravenous Romance; the fiction she has written under her gay male pseudonym, Christopher Morgan, is being released under her real name as well. She travels around the world leading workshops for the alt-sex community, ranging from gentle introductions to role playing to weekend-long intensives on BDSM protocols. Follow her at her website or find her on Facebook, Fetlife, and other online communities.

PATRICK CALIFIA
(née Pat Califia, prior to a gender transition from female to male) has been writing about sex practically since this activity was invented. SRSLY. He is the author of a dozen or so nonfiction and fiction books that explore the issue of sexual variation, the parameters of gender, and confronting the repression and social control of pleasure. He currently lives with his cute boy (six years and counting) and three fluffy, vogueing, caption-worthy kittehs, and hopes to welcome an Empowered Femme of Color to the household once everybody has moved from California to Florida. Patrick is currently doing research on FTM sexuality and working on a sex manual to accompany publication of the questionnaire data. But if you see him at a party, please don’t ask him how the new book is coming!

BARBARA CARRELLAS
(
barbaracarrellas.com
) is the author of
Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century
and
Luxurious Loving: Tantric Inspirations for Passion and Pleasure
. She is the founder of Urban Tantra
^®
, an approach to sacred sexuality that adapts and blends conscious sexuality practices from Tantra to BDSM, and the cofounder of Erotic Awakening, a pioneering series of workshops focusing on the physical, spiritual, and healing powers of sex. Barbara was named Best Tantric Sex Seminar Leader in New York City by
Time Out New York
for her Urban Tantra
^®
workshops. Barbara delights in blurring the lines between sacred and profane, enlightened and perverted, mystical and scientific, pleasure and pain. Barbara’s most recent endeavors are her Urban Tantra® Professional Training Program (which, in its first year, graduated participants from 12 countries) and her new book,
Ecstasy Is Necessary
, a practical guidebook for ecstatic explorers (Hay House, 2012). Barbara is a proud graduate of the Coney Island Sideshow School with a double major in fire eating and snake handling.

EDGE
is an author, mentor, teacher, and hard-core player from Florida with 20 years of experience in the scene. As his name and online moniker would suggest, he enjoys a wide range of edge play activities, from breath control to weaponsex, though he also has a passion for stogie scenes, clean Japanese rope bondage, and prolonged, intimate inner thigh beatings.

FIFTHANGEL
([email protected]) has spent many of his nonworking weekends traveling throughout North America teaching at BDSM events for the last 11 years. He has written two books,
The Finer Points of Pain and Pleasure
, a how-to guide for using pressure points in BDSM scenes, and
Your Pain, My Pleasure: Inside the Mind of a Sexual Sadist,
as well as many magazine articles and interviews. FifthAngel and his wife, Katie, live a power-balanced, monogamous marriage that is very much SM oriented. Edge players in all aspects of their lives, they enjoy vertical rock and ice climbing, blasting zombies at the gun range, and whitewater rafting. When not dangling by a rope off the side of a mountain, they are at home on their five-acre farm on the outskirts of Denver, where they care for a growing family of animals.

HARDY HABERMAN
(
dungeondiary.blogspot.com
) has been an active member of the leather community since the late 1970s and a member of many BDSM/fetish organizations, including NLA-International and Discipline Corps. He is a founding member of Inquisition Dallas. He is a gay activist, filmmaker, author, and speaker on aspects of the SM/leather scene. He was awarded NLA-I’s Man of the Year award in 1999 and the NLA-I Lifetime Achievement award in 2007. In 2010, he received the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Leather Leadership Award. Since April 1995, he and his boy, Patrick, have been living together in Dallas with their Feline Mistress, Elvira, and troublemaker Jack-the-Cat.

LEE HARRINGTON
(
PassionAndSoul.com
) is a passionate spiritual and erotic educator, gender explorer, eclectic artist, and published author and editor on human sexuality and spiritual experience. He’s been traveling the globe (from Seattle to Sydney, Berlin to Boston), teaching or talking about sexuality, psychology, kink, faith, magic, and desire since 1995, and has no intention of stopping anytime soon. Along his journey, he has been a brainy academic, a female adult film performer (under his previous name, Bridgett Harrington), a world-class sexual adventurer, an outspoken philosopher, a longtime sexuality and spirituality blogger (since 1998), a spirit worker and priest, and an award-winning writer and artist. Overall, Lee is a nice guy with a disarmingly down-to-earth approach to the fact that we are each a beautifully complex ecosystem, and we deserve to examine the human experience from that lens.

His books include
Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé
,
Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond
,
The Toybag Guide to Age Play
, and
Shed Skins: Journeying in Self-Portraits
. He has worked as an anthology editor on such projects as
Rope, Bondage, and Power
and
Spirit of Desire: Personal Explorations of Sacred Kink
, while contributing actively to other anthologies, magazines, blogs, and collaborations internationally. Check out the trouble Lee has been getting into, as well as his regular podcast, tour schedule, free essays, videos, and more on his website.

MIDORI
(
www.FHP-inc.com
) is a renowned educator and writer on sexuality and SM. Dubbed “the supernova of kink” by Dan Savage, she emerged from the Sex Positive Movement in San Francisco in the early 1990s, soon becoming a much sought after international presenter on sexuality, personal fulfillment, and kinky adventures. Considered a pivotal figure in the leather and BDSM communities, she is also a critic, activist, and agent provocateur. Her reputation as an authority and leading expert on alternative pleasures stems not only from her unique and entertaining process of teaching concrete skills, but from her ability to deconstruct and distill complex matters of desire into surprisingly accessible lessons with eloquence and humanity. She is known for tackling challenging topics with fresh and relevant insights, using what she calls her “head–heart–hands” method for creating a space where people are allowed individual self-exploration.

Midori is fundamentally motivated by a desire to help people create authentic and intimate relationships while emphasizing self-actualization, shame reduction, acceptance, and justice. She is the author of
The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage
,
Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink
, and
Master Han’s Daughter,
as well as numerous articles and columns. In 2001, she founded Rope Bondage Dojo
^©
. She has trained many cadres and still leads many dojos each year. More recently, she formed ForteFemme, a unique women’s dominance weekend training and empowerment intensive. Born and raised in Japan, she is now a resident of San Francisco, where she shares a home with her wonderful spouse and severely spoiled four-legged furry beings.

For more than 17 years
JACK RINELLA
(
leathermusings.
blogspot.com
) has been writing about kinky sex. He is the author of
The Master’s Manual
,
The Compleat Slave, Partners in Power, The Toybag Guide to Clips and Clamps
,
Becoming a Slave
, and
Philosophy in the Dungeon, The Magic of Sex & Spirit, The Dictionary of Scene-Friendly Terms,
and
More from the Master
. He has been active in the leather scene since 1983, is a founding member of MAsT-Chicago, a member of the Chicago Hellfire Club, and serves as a director on the board of the Leather Leadership Conference.

IGNACIO RIVERA,
aka Papí Coxxx (
ignaciorivera.com
) identifies as a queer, gender-fluid, polyamorous, kinky, Black-Boricua. Ignacio is a descendant of colonized and uprooted Taíno and African slaves. Ignacio’s people are from Borikén, also known as Puerto Rico. Ignacio, who prefers the gender-neutral pronoun “they,” is a lecturer, activist, sex worker, sex educator, and performance artist who performs spoken-word, one-person shows and storytelling internationally. Their body of work focuses on gender and sexuality, specifically queer, trans, kink, and sexual liberation issues within a race/class dynamic. Their written work has appeared in
ColorLines
,
Ebony
,
Yellow Medicine Review,
and in three chapbooks:
Las Alas
(coauthored with Maceo Cabrera Estévez),
Ingrid
ients, and
Thoughts, Rants and What Some Might Call Poetry
. Ignacio is the recipient of a Marsha A. Gómez Cultural Heritage Award from LLEGÓ: The National Latina/o Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Organization. They are the creator of Poly Patao Productions (P3), which is dedicated to producing sex-positive workshops, performance pieces, play parties, panel discussions, teach-ins, social/political groups, and educational opportunities that are specially geared toward queer women, transgender, multigender, genderqueer, gender-nonconforming, and gender-variant folks of color. Ignacio is also one of the founding board members of Queers for Economic Justice, a progressive nonprofit organization committed to promoting economic justice in a context of sexual and gender liberation.