Vagina (56 page)

Ovid, 129

oxytocin, 32–33, 37–38, 58, 62–63, 257, 288, 306, 321

P

Padmini, 208

Partridge, Eric, 197

Parvati, 128

Pascal, Blaise, 9

passion, female.
See
desire, female

Pater, Walter, 162

Paul, Saint, 131–32

peacock feather, 155

Pear of Anguish, 134

pelvic nerve, 15–16, 22–25, 37–38

author’s compression, 13–18, 20–21

differences in female sexual response, 18–20, 25

male vs. female, 23–24, 114, 194–95

rape and, 94–98, 107–15

trauma and, 87–88, 106–9, 113–15

pelvic nerve disorders, 15–21

penis envy, 156

perception disorders, and rape, 94–98

Perfumed Garden of Cheikh Nefzoui,
242–43

perineum, 23, 24, 31, 78

Perry, John Delbert, 280–82

Persephone, 129, 268

pessaries, 149

Pfaus, Jim, 2, 57–58, 60, 64–67, 219, 228, 275, 283, 288, 315, 319, 326–27

pharmaceutical companies, 76–77

pheromones, male, 289–97

phobic postural sway, 95–98

physical appearance, telling her she’s beautiful, 311–14

pituitary gland, 37

Plato, 129–30

Playboy,
182, 233

Politics of Female Sexuality, The
(Greer), 178

polyvagal theory, 120–21

Porges, Stephen, 120–21

Porn for Women
(anthology), 312–13

“Porn Myth, The” (Wolf), 218

pornographic frame, and Miller, 166–68

pornography, 215–33

addiction to, 218–20, 223–26

dehabituation programs, 224–26

female masturbation and, 226–29

feminist movement and, 180

male sex problems and, 216–25

model of female sexuality and, 24, 237–39

vaginal illiteracy and, 229–33

post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and rape, 98–106

Poulet, Alfred, 148, 149

Pound, Ezra, 163, 164

power, and rape, 89, 92–93

poxytocin, 303

pregnancy, 33, 68, 288, 290–91

preparation gestures, for lovemaking, 277–83

Pre-Raphaelite Brotherhood, 154

“Press My Button (Ring My Bell)” (song), 170–71

Preti, George, 291–92, 293–96

Pride and Prejudice
(Austen), 314

Private Eyes (New York City), 222

prolactin, 37, 60, 322

Promiscuities
(Wolf), 139

prostitution (prostitutes), 127, 128, 143, 150, 261

Psychopathia Sexualis
(Krafft-Ebing), 155–56

PTSD, and rape, 98–106

pudendal nerve.
See
pelvic nerve

pulse in the vagina, 102–3, 209, 274–76

pupil dilation, 298

Putnam, Helen, 145

Q

Qadesh, 127

R

Rabin, Roni Caryn, 99–100

rape, 89–106

in context of war, 89–93

as injury to the brain, 93–106

sexual agency and, 151–52

staying in the vagina, 115–24

verbal threats of, 188, 201–2

rape jokes, 188–89, 205–6

rat-pleasure brush, 48–49

“reading novels,” 154

Redbook,
179–80

Rees, Emma, 134–38, 153–54

relaxation, for lovemaking, 277–83

relaxation response, 30–31, 190, 202, 272, 281

Rellini, Alessandra, 102–3, 203

Renaissance, 134–39

representations of the vagina.
See
cultural meaning and representations of vagina

Reuben, David, 181–82

Reuniting.info, 224

Richmond, Burke, 93–99, 101–2, 104, 190

Roach, Mary, 60

Robinson, Marnia, 56, 223, 224, 227–28

rock and roll, 175

Rogers, Richard, 201

role playing, 319

Rolland, Romain, 8, 9

romantic love, chemical components of, 58–59

Rossetti, Christina, 41, 42–43, 45, 154, 271, 285

Rossetti, Dante, 154

Russett, Cynthia, 149

Ryan, Christopher, 2, 222

S

“sacred spot,” 243, 257

finding her, 307–11

sacred-spot-massage workshop, 243–56, 278

sacred vagina, 125–30

becoming profane, 129–30

safe sex, 322–25

Salome
(Wilde), 155

Sand, George, 45

Sanday, Peggy Reeves, 87

S&M (sadomasochism), 316

Sanger, Margaret, 163

Sapolsky, Robert, 220–21, 224

Sappho, 27, 71–72, 130, 160

Savic, Ivanka, 289

Scenes of Clerical Life
(Eliot), 45

scent, male, 289–97

schematized vaginas, 124, 155, 162

Schreiner, Olive, 155

scold’s bridle, 134

Second Wave feminism (feminists), 39, 44, 69, 176–83

Seidman, Steven, 181–82

selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), 59, 113, 357–58
n

“self,” 68

self, loss of, 44, 72–73, 283–88

self-confidence

dopamine and, 56–59, 61, 64

sex and creativity, 47–54

Selfish Gene, The
(Dawkins), 317

semen, 322–25

sensation novels, 154

Sensuous Man, The
(“M”), 181–82

serotonin, 58–59

serpent symbology, 127

setting, for lovemaking, 277–83

Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
(Gottman), 301–3

“sex as play,” 181–82

Sex at Dawn
(Ryan and Jethá), 2, 222

Sex Diaries, The
(Arndt), 83

sex drive, female.
See
desire, female

sex ethic, 181–82

sex goddesses, in ancient history, 126–29

sexual arousal, female.
See
arousal, female

sexual assault, 94–95, 98–106, 121, 201

sexual awakening, and creative awakening, 41–46, 49–54

Sexual Brain, The
(LeVay), 70

sexual centers, 67–73, 78, 176–77, 307, 311

sexual desire, female.
See
desire, female

sexual dysfunction, 80–82, 341–42
n,
356–58
n

sexual harassment, 188–90, 194–96, 201–2

sexuality, female

“constructs” of, 1–2

epidemic of female sexual unhappiness, 80–83, 340
n

history of.
See
cultural meaning and representations of vagina

knowledge out of date about, 38–39, 75–83

Tantric practices regarding, 239–41, 256–58, 268–69

Western models of, 38–39, 77–79, 176–77, 180–82, 237–39, 296–97

sexuality, male, 77–79

sexual libertarianism, 181–82

sexual neural network.
See
autonomic nervous system; pelvic nerve

Sexual Politics
(Millett), 89, 187, 196

sexual response, single model of, 38–39, 77–79, 176–77

sexual revolution, 39, 82, 176, 182, 232–33

Shakespeare, William, 134–38

Shakti, 240, 249, 256, 264

shame, evolution of, 130–31

Shankhini, 208

Sharp, Jane, 140

Sheela na Gigs, 128

She’s Gotta Have It
(movie), 277

Shiva, 240, 260

“showers of stars,” 327–28

Sierra Leone, 89–90, 97, 111–12

silence, male, 299–302

Simon, J. A., 80–81

Sims, J. Marion, 145

slang terms for clitoris, 212

slang terms for the vagina, 73, 133, 168–69, 207–8, 210–14

Smith, Bessie, 172–73

Smith, William Tyler, 145

snapping, 306–7

Social Intelligence
(Goleman), 297–98

spinal injury, 13–18, 57

spinal surgery, 20–21, 47

Spiritual Doorway in the Brain, The
(Nelson), 286

Spiritual Midwifery
(Gaskin), 32

Sri Lanka, 214

SSRIs (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors), 59, 113, 357–58
n

“stand their ground,” 94–95

Stein, Gertrude, 45, 46, 160

Steinem, Gloria, 177

Stekels, Wilhelm, 156–57

Stieglitz, Alfred, 45–46, 161

Stopes, Marie, 163

Story of V, The
(Blackledge), 2

Strand, Paul, 43

stress, 29–34, 302–7.
See also
bad stress

sexual assault and, 98–106

strip club ads, 222

stroking, 302–7

subjugation, 141–42, 145–49

Sublime, 7–8, 9, 21

sucking, 33, 257, 321

Sumerians, 126–27

Summer
(Wharton), 45

sweat pheromones, 289–97

sympathetic nervous system (SNS), 28, 33–34, 35, 102–5, 219, 279–80, 318–19

T

Tait, Robert Lawson, 145

talk (talking), 34–35, 299–302

Tammuz, 126–27

Tantra, 239–69

classification of vaginas in, 207–8

philosophy of, 239–41, 257

sacred spot massage, 243–56, 278

yoni massage, 115–18, 122–23, 258–68, 271–72

Taoism, 207, 240–41, 257, 268

Taylor, Gordon Rattray, 197

Teleny
(Wilde), 155

Tender Buttons
(Stein), 160

Tertullian, 132

testosterone, 60, 80, 315, 317, 322

Thomas, Clarence, 188–89

Thorne, Thomas, 197

Thorpe, Vanessa, 201

Three Essays on the Theory of Sexuality
(Freud), 129, 156

tinnitus, 94

Title IX, 195

Titus Andronicus
(Shakespeare), 135

Toklas, Alice B., 46

Topp, Liz, 75–76, 272, 328, 332

Total Woman, The
(Morgan), 177, 325

touch (touching), 302–7

trance state, 29–31, 79, 283–88

transcendentalism, 165–68

traumatized vagina, 87–124.
See also
rape

vulvodynia and existential despair, 106–15

Tressugar.com, 213

Tropic of Cancer
(Miller), 163–64, 166–68

twat,
137

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