Come as You Are (61 page)

stress and,
137
–38

League of Their Own, A
(film),
196

Lesbian sex.
See
Merritt (composite)

Lie detector research,
206

Little monitor,
234
–38,
240
,
257

criterion velocity and (
see
Criterion velocity)

influencing,
236
–38,
320
–25

jobs of,
234

meta-emotions and,
297
,
298
–300,
308
,
320
–25

orgasm and,
281
,
285
–86,
289

Lloyd, Elisabeth,
276
–77,
278

Loneliness,
165

LoPiccolo, Joseph,
266

Love at Goon Park
(Blum),
135

Love/attachment,
6
,
94
,
112
,
113
,
131
–49

dark side of,
134
–36

eagerness
and,
86
,
132
,
133
,
135
,
137

managing,
141
–44

origin of,
131
–32

science of,
132
–34

stress and,
144
–49

styles of,
139
–41

as the water of life,
146
–49

Love/emotional bonding cues,
72

Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships
(Johnson),
142
,
319

Lubricants,
170
,
218
–20

Lubrication,
27
,
28
,
30
–32,
44
.
See also
Arousal nonconcordance

Maltz, Wendy,
128

Maps.
See
Sexual maps

Married Love
(Stopes),
160

Masters, William,
43
,
46
,
269
,
361
n
2

Masturbation,
15
,
174
–75,
274
,
362
–63
n
12

therapeutic,
339
–41

Mating in Captivity
(Perel),
240
,
241

McBride, Kimberly,
73

McCall, Katie,
72
–73

McCarthy, Barry,
365
n
9

Media literacy,
156
,
183
–84

Media Message,
156
,
158
,
184
,
206
,
304
,
306

content of,
160
–61

on orgasm,
288

sexual scripts and,
300

Medical Message,
156
,
158
,
184
,
206

content of,
160

on orgasm,
288

sexual scripts and,
300

Medieval anatomists,
16
–17,
205

Meditation,
122
,
285
–86,
313

Men

anatomy of,
17
,
18
–20,
19
,
21
,
22

arousal concordance in,
193
–94,
195
,
196
,
203
–5,
222
,
294

desire in,
225

dual control system of,
47
,
60
–61,
64
–66

orgasm in,
2

sexual comparison with women,
2
–3,
35

sexual entitlement in,
232

sexuality of as “default” standard,
203
,
206
,
229
,
244
,
275
,
276
,
297
,
308

Men’s Sexuality Lite (women’s sexuality as),
2
,
66
,
276

Menstrual cycle,
31
,
65
,
117

Merritt (composite),
7
,
149
,
299

arousal nonconcordance and,
201
–2

context and,
82
–83

cultural messages and,
172
–74

desire and,
225
,
250
–51

dual control model and,
63
–64

meta-emotions and,
323
–24

orgasm and,
265
–66,
291
–92

self-exploration by,
24
–25

sexual assault of,
147
–48

stress and,
111
–12

Mesolimbic system,
83
,
90
,
132

Meta-emotions,
293
–330

acceptance of status quo and,
326
–28

emotion coaching and,
310
–12

emotion dismissing and,
310
–12,
318
–20

the little monitor and,
297
,
298
–300,
308
,
320
–25

maps
vs.
terrain and,
297
,
300
–308

nonjudging and (
see
Nonjudging)

Metson, Cindy,
72
–73

Metz, Michael,
365
n
9

Microperforate hymens,
28

Milhausen, Robin,
73
,
155

Mindfulness,
268
,
313

self-compassion and,
178

stress relief and,
122

trauma relief and,
128
,
129
–31,
150
,
317

Mindful Way through Depression, The
(Williams et al.),
129
–30

Miscarriage,
117

Mitchell, John Cameron,
131

Monkeys, studies involving,
134
–35

Monogamy,
226
,
238
,
239
–42

Mons pubis,
29

“Monster mother” studies,
134
–35

Moral Foundations Theory,
171

Moral Message,
156
,
184
,
206
,
305
,
306

content of,
158
–59

on orgasm,
288

sexual scripts and,
300

Myotonia,
44

Nagoski, Amelia,
133
–34,
304
–6

Neff, Kristin,
178

New York Times,
194
,
296

Nipples,
20
,
28
,
31
,
44
,
277