How to Light Her Fire! (6 page)

Just be thoughtful and make sure your fingernails are trimmed, or your playtime will rapidly become an out-to-lunch time.

For those of you with older female lovers, there’s some evidence to suggest that as a woman grows older and her estrogen level decreases, she responds more to G-spot stimulation because, as the estrogen level decreases, so does the thickness of her vaginal lining. When that happens, her G-spot becomes more evident—and sensitive. Today there are vibrators specially curved to reach the G-spot, so if you want to give your lover more thrills, try one.

If you or your honey explore and experiment, it could be fun. But don’t obsess about it. Just make sure your honey enjoys herself as much as you do and she won’t worry about it either.

Pregnancy:

Most women want to become mothers. It’s built-in to our systems, similar to color of hair and eyes. Even woman who protest they never want to have a baby will do a complete about face when they fall in love - it’s the romance fantasy. They’ll daydream all day long of that little bundle of joy they create with the ‘
man they love
.’

Even if you want a child with your lady, be prepared. Not only will her body change during pregnancy, but her moods as well. One minute she can be a normal person - the next, she could be a maniac, yelling or reduced to sobs if you look at her the wrong way. And the wrong way changes moment by moment along with her hormones.

Other manuals can tell you in medical terms the exact bodily changes she’ll experience during that time, and you’ll need to read everything you can get your hands on when pregnancy happens to you and your lady. Just remember her body is changing to nourish another human being and with the physical and hormonal changes rapidly occurring, there will be times you’ll wonder what happened to the woman you married. Well, she’s still there, and once she delivers your child, she’ll return to normal—after a few weeks of her body returning to normal.

As a refresher course, pregnancy occurs when a woman’s left and right ovaries produce a ripe egg. Each month they take turns. When the egg is released, it travels through the fallopian tube into the uterus. A woman can get pregnant only if a sperm cell travels through her cervix and joins a ripe egg.

At the base of the uterus is the cervix, which is the gateway for sperm passing into the body and for a baby passing out of the body at birth. The egg remains fertile only for about 2 days. If a woman does not become pregnant at that time, the rich lining of the uterus passes through her cervix as menstrual flow. If she does become pregnant, the lining feeds the growing baby and placenta.

The ROMANCE INDUSTRY

R
omance is big business, approximately $1375 billion in sales each year, and the novels are read by over 50 million people, mainly women, each year. Over a fourth of all books sold are romance.

Why? What is she getting from romance books that she isn’t getting from you?

According to the guidelines from Harlequin and/or Silhouette romance books, all of the books are about a man and woman falling in love, overcoming obstacles that may keep them apart. They realize they love each other desperately. The books end with a HEA ending, the ‘Happy Ever After’ ending. Until just a few short years ago, it was marriage. Now it’s knowing they love each other and will make a life together.

But all of the books, whether they’re historical or contemporary romance, center on the relationship between the man and woman. He’s usually an alpha male, and that means he’s in charge of something, a corporation, a small business, or even a ranch. He defends his property against those who might want to take it away from him, and more importantly, when he meets the main female character, he falls in love. Often he doesn’t want to fall in love-his life is quite complete without her, he thinks—until he meets her. Then he can’t forget her.

He treats her like a lady even if they argue, which they may often do, but he’s gallant and thoughtful, and above all, he’s the old-fashioned gentleman.

And the most important quality he has, he loses his desire to have sex with other women. He may not like that he feels that way, but he does and finally realizes it. Both the man and woman are faithful to each other and they work through life’s problems together.

Most of all, he
pays attention
to the small things, and she adores him for the rest of her life.

How wonderful that must be, and you can have it for yourself. Pay attention to your lady and make her feel she’s the most important person in your life, and she’ll love you forever. As you grow older and find your hair falls off your head and winds up in your nose and ears, when your chest muscles drop to your belly, and your teeth sit in a glass each night, your lady will still see you as the beautiful young man she fell in love with.

What could be better than that?

Raised on the isle of Crete, Madam X excelled in the arts and sciences. Because of her renowned beauty, she was invited to join an ancient secret society based on the legends of Aphrodite.

Led by women dedicated to preserving the art of sensuality, the society dates from the time of the Minoan civilization, persevering through the ages during changing mores of a darker period of misunderstanding. Driven underground until the world entered a new Aquarian age of spirituality and enlightenment, they’ve emerged with a new generation of openness and acceptance.

In this book, Madam X offers select vignettes based on her personal seminars to select men of the ages.