I Can Make You Hot! (29 page)

Fun? What’s that?—
Oops, you’re in danger of missing out on what this is all about
.

I was really working hard, but I made sure to spend time with my friends and family—
You’re on the right track. I’m not saying you can’t enjoy your work, but it shouldn’t become your entire life
.

I’ve gotten much better at time management so that I can fit in what I
want
to do as well as what I
need
to do—
Hooray! You definitely get it
.

Other?

18. What guilty pleasure are you planning for Sunday Funday?

Wacky Watermelon—
Sounds good. Just don’t eat the whole thing!

Mom’s Chocolate Cake—
a great choice!

Katharine Hepburn’s Brownies—
I’m sure Kate would approve
.

Other?

Remember—this is Sunday Funday, so enjoy!

19. What’s the biggest mistake you made this week?

Hit the snooze button and went back to sleep instead of getting up and exercising—
The best way to get yourself going in the morning is to get out and get moving
.

Sat in front of the TV and ate a whole bag of chips—
Watching TV is the surest way to indulge in mindless eating. Remember Kelly’s cardinal rule: Never eat while you’re doing something else!

Went out to lunch with friends and ate the whole piece of chocolate cake even though I’d planned to have only one bite—
Share and share alike is my motto!

Other?

20. What was Kelly’s biggest food mistake?

Going on a juice fast—
Yup, did that
.

Going on a no-carb diet for a week—
Did that one too
.

Overeating before a horse show—
Just one of many
.

I told you I’ve made them all!

Still need more inspiration?

Over the years I’ve been lucky enough to meet some amazing people, and I’ve asked a few of them to tell me what
they
think is HOT. Here’s what they said. I think you’ll be surprised!

“Their heart, and a nice ass doesn’t hurt.”

—A
LICE
& O
LIVIA DESIGNER
S
TACY
B
ENNET
E
ISNER

“Colors! Are hot hot hot”

—A
NGELA
M
ISSONI

“Big calves and big hands!”

—A
NDY
C
OHEN, VICE PRESIDENT OF
B
RAVO AND HOST OF
W
ATCH
W
HAT
H
APPENS
L
IVE

HOT—

It is not about the look,

It is not only about the charm,

It is the perfect combination:

Sweet and tough,

Sexy and reserved,

Fragile and powerful,

And definitely smart.

—G
ILLES
B
ENSIMON

“It’s kindness, attention, sincerity, and the way they look at you”

—G
ILLES
M
ARINI
,
ACTOR

“When someone knows who they are, what style reflects them, and they possess the courage to go with that I find them HOT. Oh, and they don’t appear to be fighting whatever stage of life they happen to be in, be it fifteen or fifty”

—G
ABBY
R
EECE, PROFESSIONAL VOLLEYBALL PLAYER

Nowadays ego gets in the way of everything and no one can seem to take responsibility for any wrongdoing. We’re always pointing a finger at someone else. I think there is nothing hotter than being in a relationship and having your significant other look you in the eyes and say, “Honey, you’re right and I’m wrong.” To me, there’s nothing sexier than a man—or woman—taking responsibility. It shows that they’re confident enough to admit when they’re wrong when having a dispute with their partner. That’s hot.

—G
IULIANA
R
ANCIC
,
E! N
EWS
HOST AND STAR OF
G
IULIANA AND
B
ILL

“Confidence makes you hot.”

—A
DAM
L
IPPES, DESIGNER

Now, as you get ready for Sunday Funday, take a few minutes to think about how you define HOT. Has your definition changed or evolved since you started reading this book? If so, I’m doing my job.

Sunday: Funday

Wake up and do your happy dance. It’s Sunday Funday. This is the day you get to bend the rules and make some bad choices! Chicken wings? Great. Mac ’n cheese? Go for it! Pizza, cheeseburgers, pancakes, Chinese, Mexican? Whatever your little heart desires.

As I’ve said, I don’t believe in forbidden foods. If you’re constantly denying yourself what you love, you won’t be happy. If you’re not happy, you won’t want to take care of yourself. So, before you know it you’ll have abandoned your healthy new lifestyle entirely.

This book is about feeling good; it’s not about deprivation. It’s about enjoying everything, just not every day and not all day long. I would hate it if you went to Italy and didn’t think you could eat pasta. I just want you to eat it the way the Italians do—as a small first course, not as a full meal.

When my older daughter wanted to lose a little weight over spring break after spending a few months indulging in birthday bonanzas at school, I put her on what I call the ice cream diet. We were on vacation, staying at the Fontainebleau hotel in Miami, and I encouraged her to eat clean, lean foods and go with me to the hotel gym to use the Lifecycle for twenty minutes twice a day. I told her she could watch anything she wanted on the Disney channel while cycling, and she could also eat one scoop of gelato every day.

The diet could have gone sour fast, but Sea loved the TV, the gelato, and the fact that we were doing it together. I’m grateful that both the experience and my daughter stayed sweet. Since that week, she wants to “eat and cook like Mommy.” She even took cooking lessons with me at Canyon Ranch.

I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life, but choosing to eat well has been the best gift I could ever give to myself and my kids. I don’t ask them to do anything I don’t do myself. I know that kids need to gain weight in order to grow, but particularly in adolescence when their bodies are changing, it’s easy for them to start gaining more than they need to just because they don’t know how to moderate their eating. I know there’s a fine line between encouraging your kids to be healthy and making them feel bad about themselves. My goal—and I believe my primary job as a parent—is always to make my kids feel good about themselves. If they don’t feel good about themselves, they’ll begin to make bad choices and blame others for their poor decisions. So don’t think for even one second that I wouldn’t also sit on the bike next to your daughter, if that’s the encouragement she needed.

I’ve also done the same thing with my friend and hair-stylist, Bradley Irion—although he wasn’t as compliant as my daughter. For Bradley, it wasn’t the ice cream, it was being able to enjoy a drink or two every day.

Bradley had gone to Spokane, Washington, for Christmas and returned carrying an unwanted gift—an extra twenty pounds. Shortly after that I was invited by
Access Hollywood
to go on a celebrity golf trip to the Bahamas. I told him I’d take him with me but he would have to eat everything I ate—and nothing I didn’t—and run with me every day on the beach. We had fruit every morning and then went for our run. For lunch we had a salad with guacamole but not chips. After the first day we also added rice to our lunch. For dinner we had fish and vegetables, and we also had a couple of drinks every day.

Initially he fought me like a stubborn little kid: “You’re not the ‘fat boss’ of me! I don’t have to do what you tell me!” and on and on. I just shrugged and said, “Okay, do what you want. It’s not my muffin top. Wear a tee shirt on the beach if that’s what you want.” But, in the end, he really did want to lose weight, so he went along with me, and everyone was amazed to see the weight coming off before their very eyes. Bottom line, I’m not the food police, but I’ve made myself the Sven-arbiter (as opposed to Svengali) of what’s HOT and what’s not.

As these two stories illustrate, and as I’ve already said, rules are made to be broken—in moderation. If you’re eating well and making healthy choices, you can have your scoop of gelato or a couple of piña coladas and still lose weight. On Sunday Funday, make a batch of
Katharine Hepburn’s Brownies
or a loaf of
Mom’s Irish Soda Bread
. Bake a chocolate cake with your kids. Invite your neighbors over for a barbecue.

Grilling is a great way to cook any meat, poultry, or fish without added fat, but don’t stop there. Try grilling all kinds of vegetables as well as bananas, pineapple, peaches, even watermelon. Grilled bananas with cinnamon and sugar make an awesome dessert. Wear a “kiss the chef” apron like your dad used to do when he fired up the barbecue on Sunday afternoons.

Have that scoop of gelato; just make sure it doesn’t turn into a quart. Don’t gorge; be gorgeous! And remember that sharing is caring. If there’s something you really want, share it with someone. You don’t have to eat the whole thing yourself. I know you’re not starving; what I’m concerned about is obesity, not starvation. And it’s just not hot to belong to the clean plate club.

Kelly’s Cardinal Rule

Sunday is for sharing. It’s not a day for being alone, hungry, angry, or tired. The only drama should be happening on your television; not in your life.

There’s just one rule I don’t want you to break: Whatever you choose to eat, make it a dining experience. Sit down and eat a meal—and even if you order in, take the food out of the cartons and put it on pretty plates.

Sunday is also about dreaming and broadening your horizons. Read the Sunday paper—not just the news sections but all the fun sections as well—even the funnies! Check out the latest fashions. Find out what interesting activities are going on in your neighborhood. Get inspired by the travel section. Can you imagine going to Spain and learning to make an authentic paella? There’s no dream so big that you can’t make it come true.