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Narcissism

of parents

of social networking

Narcissism Epidemic, The
(Campbell)

Nardil

National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH)

Native Americans

“Nature vs. nurture,”

Navane

Negativity.
See
Emotions

Neuroendocrinology

Neuroleptics

Neurontin

Neuroses

Neurotransmitters

NIMH.
See
National Institute of Mental Health

NMDA dysregulation

Norpramin

Nuclear holocaust, threat of

Numbness

Object constancy

in adolescence

in relationships

SET-UP for

with therapist

Object relations

Obsessive behavior

“Off-label” use

Omega-3 fatty acid preparation

Omnipotence

O'Neill, Eugene

Opiate antagonists

Opioid system

Outpatient treatment.
See
Hospitalization

Overprotectiveness

Pain

Pamelor

Panic attacks

Paradox

Paranoia

Parasite, borderline as

Parent-child attachment

Parnate

Passivity

Pathology

Paxil

Peer groups

Perfectionism

Personality

disorders

fragments

histrionic

multiple personality disorder

of therapist

traits

PET scanning

Pexeva

Pharmacotherapy
See also
Self-medication

alternative

antidepressant medication

anxiolytics

customization of

dilemma of

generic drugs

mood stabilizer medication

neuroleptics

“off-label,”

opiate antagonists

psychotherapy vs.

by symptom

Phobias

Physical appearance

Plastic surgery

Plato

Play, borderlines at

Polarity

Politics

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Poverty

Power

Power and the Glory, The
(Greene)

“Practice Guideline for the Treatment of Patients with Borderline Personality Disorder,”

Practicing phase

Precision

Predicting borderline behavior

Prejudice

Pristiq

Projection

of ambivalence

with staff members

Projective identification

Promiscuity

Protection

Provocative behavior

Prozac

Psychic distance

Psychoanalysis

Psychodynamic psychotherapy

Psychoeducation

Psychological mindedness

Psychosis
See also
Hallucinations

Psychotherapy
See also
Therapist

acceptance in

anger with

approaches

art

assessment of

avoidance of

bibliotherapy

breaks in

case study

cognitive-behavioral

comparing

consistency in

countertransference in

devaluation of

exploratory

frequency of

goals of

group

honesty in

length of

manipulation of

maximizing

pharmacotherapy vs.

psychodynamic

relationships during

research on

results of

second opinion

standardization of

supportive

termination of

therapeutic alliance in

transference in

PTSD.
See
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Punishment

guilt and

in relationships

Racism

Rage.
See
Anger

Rapprochement phase

Reality TV

Reassurance

Recreation

Redemption

Regression

Reich, Wilhelm

Rejection

of communication

conditional

need for

perception of

of sexuality

Relationships.
See also
Marriage

after ending of

change in

conflict in

control of

culture and

equilibrium in

expectations in

in group therapy

idealization of

independence in

instability in

intimacy in

with married partners

overlapping

patient-therapist

during psychotherapy

roles in

sabotage of

self-acceptance and

self-esteem in

self-punishment in

Relaxation

Religion

American

churches and relocation

Relocations

Re-parenting

Repression

Research

Responsibility

Revia

Rilutek

Risperdal

Rituals

Rivalry

Rorschach tests

Rosten, Norman

Safety

Saphris

Sass, Louis

Schema

Schema-Focused Therapy (SFT)

Schema modes

Schizophrenia

School phobia

Seduction

Self-acceptance

Self-assessment

Self-destructiveness.
See also
Cutting; Eating disorders; Substance abuse; Suicide

in families

helplessness with

through self-mutilation

sexuality and

Self-esteem

after abuse

childhood

with criticism

identity and

impulsivity and

in relationships

Self-medication

Self-mutilation

after abuse

self-destructiveness through

as self-medication

Sensitivity

Separation

as abandonment

anxiety

in childhood

Separation-individuation phase

Serenity Prayer

Seroquel

Serotonin-norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors (SNRIs)

Serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SRIs)

SET-UP system, for communication.
See also
individual segments of SET-UP

case studies of

defined

uses of

Sexuality
See also
Promiscuity; Relationships

control with

in culture

development of

identity with

online

rejection of

self-destruction and

sexual abuse

sexual orientation

with therapist

Sexually transmitted infections

SFT.
See
Schema-Focused Therapy

Shingling

Sinequan

Skills training

SNRIs.
See
Serotonin-norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors

Social media

Social networking

Social rapprochement

Social smiling

Socioeconomics

Solitude

Somatization Disorder

Sometimes I Act Crazy: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder
(Kreisman and Straus)

Soviet Union

Splitting

in childhood

constancy and

with idealization

in TFP

Split treatment

SRIs.
See
Serotonin reuptake inhibitors

Staff members

STAIRWAYS

Standardization, of treatment

State disorders

Stelazine

STEPPS.
See
Systems Training for Emotional Predictability and Problem-Solving

Stern, Adolph

Stranger anxiety

Straus, H.

Structure

of families

in hospitalization

job

Substance abuse
See also
Alcoholism

as avoidance

as self-medication

Success

Suicide

in adolescents

after divorce

as avoidance

in childhood

“cluster suicides,”

as cry for help

depression and

rates of

response to

as strategy

Supportive psychotherapy

Support segment, of SET-UP system

with anger

in case studies

with contradictions

with dependency

with emptiness

with impulsivity

with negativity

with object constancy

with victimhood

Suppression

Surmontil

Sydenham, Thomas

Symbiosis

Symbiotic phase

Systems Training for Emotional Predictability and Problem-Solving (STEPPS)

Tattoos

TCAs.
See
Tricyclic antidepressants

Teasing

Tegretol

Telephone coaching

Temperament

TFP.
See
Transference-Focused Psychotherapy

Thematic Apperception Test (TAT)

Therapeutic alliance

Therapist

acceptance by

choice of

control by

countertransference of

dependency on

family alliance by

fears of

object constancy with

patient relationship with

personality of

role of

second opinion

sexuality with

in SFT

trust in

Therapy.
See
Psychotherapy

Thinking

distorted

magical

Thorazine

Through the Looking Glass
(Carroll)

Tillich, Paul

Time

Time
magazine

Tofranil

Tolstoy, Leo

Topamax

Touching

“Tough Love,”

Trait disorders

Trance state

Transference
See also
Countertransference

in exploratory psychotherapy

in supportive psychotherapy

Transference-Focused Psychotherapy (TFP)

Transitional objects

Trauma.
See also
Abuse

brain

in childhood

among war veterans

Tribes

Tricyclic antidepressants (TCAs)

Trilafon

Trileptal

Trust

in therapist

Truth segment, of SET-UP system

with anger

in case studies

consistency in

with contradictions

with dependency

with emptiness

with impulsivity

with negativity

with object constancy

with victimhood

Twelve-step programs

Twenge, Jean M.

Twin studies

Twitter

Unavailability

Understanding

Unpredictability

of abuse

of anger

of impulsivity

over time

Updike, John

Valium

Van Gogh, Vincent

Verbalization

Victimization

Violence

domestic violence

Vivactil

Voltaire

Vonnegut, Kurt

War veterans

Weight

Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?
(Albee)

Wolfe, Tom

Women

BPD in

eating disorders for

omega-3 fatty acid for

roles of

working

World War II vets

Worthlessness

Xanax

Young, Jeffrey

Zoloft

Zonegran

Zyprexa

Jerold J. Kreisman, MD,
graduated from Cornell University Medical College in New York City. He is a Distinguished Life Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association and Associate Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychiatry, St. Louis University. In addition to coauthoring
Sometimes I Act Crazy: Living with Borderline Personality
(2004), Dr. Kreisman has written articles and book chapters on a variety of subjects.
I Hate You—Don't Leave Me
(1989) is considered a classic in the popular and academic literature on BPD. Dr. Kreisman maintains a private practice in St. Louis, Missouri.

Hal Straus
is the author or coauthor of seven books on psychology, sports, and health topics. He has published numerous articles in national magazines, including
Ladies' Home Journal
,
Men's Health
,
American Health
,
Redbook
, and
McCall's
. He is the director of publications at a medical specialty society and lives in the San Francisco Bay Area.