Nothing Changes Until You Do: A Guide to Self-Compassion and Getting Out of Your Own Way
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Authors: Mike Robbins
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Praise for
Nothing Changes
Until
You Do
“In
Nothing Changes Until You Do,
Mike Robbins shares ageless
wisdom that is far too often overlooked because of its seeming
simplicity. Don’t be fooled! This book cover should be stamped in
gold lettering: ‘Contents 100% authentic.’ Breathe deeply as these
compassionate teachings open your heart.”
—Michael Bernard Beckwith,
author of
Life Visioning
“Nothing Changes Until You Do
is a powerful book that will open your
mind and touch your heart. Mike Robbins’s inspiring and down-to-
earth wisdom can guide you to be more compassionate, kind, and
loving toward yourself and everyone else in your life.”
—Marci Shimoff,
New York Times
best-selling
author of
Happy for No Reason
“This book is filled with quick, compelling, and actionable ideas. Mike
Robbins uses his personal experience to help all of us see how we can
take small steps toward a better life. Reading this book will give you a
new way to think about how you interact with the world.”
—Tom Rath,
New York Times
best-selling author of
Eat Move Sleep
and
StrengthsFinder 2.0
“Nothing Changes Until You Do
focuses on an important and often
overlooked aspect of compassion … having compassion for oneself.
Mike Robbins’s approach is both heartfelt and practical, which is
why he continues to be such a popular speaker at Google.”
—Chade-Meng Tan,
New York Times
best-selling author of
Search Inside Yourself,
and Google’s Jolly Good Fellow
“Mike Robbins has a unique ability to open people’s minds,
touch their hearts, and teach valuable lessons about life and
business. I have personally benefited from his work,
as have so many of the people on my team.”
—Jack Calhoun,
president of Banana Republic
“I’ve had the great pleasure to witness Mike grow as a family man
and as an author. As a mentor, years ago my late husband, Richard
Carlson, passed a torch to Mike whom he loved like a younger
brother. Mike offers such wisdom and heart in
Nothing Changes Until
You Do.
These pages will thoughtfully show you how to live like he
does—authentically happy and grateful for every day.”
—Kristine Carlson,
co-author to the #1
New York Times
best-selling
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
book series
“Mike Robbins rocks … he’s definitely one of my ‘spiritual
running buddies.’
Nothing Changes Until You Do
is a beautiful book
filled with wisdom that is both deep and accessible at the same time.
By reading this book you’ll experience more kindness, love,
and acceptance for yourself and others.”
—Gabrielle Bernstein,
New York Times
best-selling
author of
May Cause Miracles
“Mike Robbins’s wisdom and insight are so important in
both business and life. Self-compassion, as Mike reminds us in
Nothing Changes Until You Do,
is essential to everything we do.”
—Chip Conley,
founder of Joie de Vivre Hotels and
New York Times
best-selling author of
Peak
“Mike Robbins lives his message. He is truly as kind, wise, generous,
and joyful as he teaches us to be in
Nothing Changes Until You Do
—
and that’s why I trust him. This guy is onto something. I don’t want
to just read more of him; I want to be more like him.”
—Glennon Doyle Melton,
New York Times
best-selling of
Carry On, Warrior
and creator of
Momastery.com
“Mike Robbins is a master at teaching us how to become
the best version of ourselves. I highly recommend you read
this book and let it inspire you to be a better you so
you can change the world for the better.”
—Jon Gordon,
author of
The Energy Bus
“There is no shortage of self-help books on the market. What
makes
Nothing Changes Until You Do
different is Mike Robbins’s
one-of-a-kind talent for combining the power of story with a deep
understanding of human motivation and a disarming vulnerability
that renders his essays at once profoundly wise and yet universally
accessible. Mike’s gift is his ability to convey transformative universal
truths through authentic stories that connect with readers through
shared emotional experiences. Readers who want to benefit from
the wisdom of contemporary philosophy along with the
joy and fun of personal reflection will love this book.”
—Eric Severson,
senior vice president of
Global Talent Solutions for Gap Inc.
“Nothing Changes Until You Do
is a sweet and wise book written by a
sweet and wise man. Full of refreshing insight and gentle wisdom, this
book reveals its secrets as Mike reveals his compassionate humanity.
Easy to read, easy to relate to, and easy to inspire.”
—Frederic Luskin, Ph.D.,
author of
Forgive for Good
and director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project
“Mike Robbins is a coach of the first order. If
you’re looking for an honest, down-to-earth, and practical
approach to bring out what is best inside yourself, read
Nothing
Changes Until You Do
—you won’t be disappointed!”
—Tim Ryan,
U.S. Congressman from Ohio
and author of
A Mindful Nation
“Mike Robbins is amazing! The stories and ideas contained in the
pages of this beautiful book are infused with authenticity and
awareness. Reading this book is a gift for your soul.”
—Lynne Twist,
co-founder of the
Pachamama Alliance and author of
The Soul of Money
“Mike Robbins is the real deal. He’s honest and vulnerable,
courageous and wise. He writes about real life, his personal highs
and lows. By sharing himself so openly, he brings us back to ourselves,
to our own life, and to what really matters most.”
—Robert Holden,
author of
Shift Happens!
and
Loveability
“Mike Robbins is a gifted storyteller. The stories, ideas, and insights he
shares in
Nothing Changes Until You Do
are important and impactful.
Like when he has come in to speak to my team at Google, Mike’s
wisdom is beneficial in both business and in life.”
—Alan Moss,
vice president of U.S. sales for Google
“With stirring prose and focus, Mike Robbins will empower you
with the latest wisdom on self-compassion and kindness. Read
Nothing Changes Until You Do
. It will change your life
and the lives of the people around you.”
—Dacher Keltner, Ph.D.,
professor of psychology at
UC Berkeley and author of
Born to Be Good
“Mike Robbins is a great author, speaker, and friend. We have known
each other for more than 20 years and I’ve seen firsthand the ways
he has inspired me and others. Whether it is motivating my staff and
players or being a living example of positivism, he continues to be an
influence in my life.
Nothing Changes Until You Do
is a wonderful
book that will inspire you to live a life full of perspective!”
—AJ Hinch,
vice president, assistant general manager
of the San Diego Padres
“Mike Robbins has taken a unique and enlightening approach to
self-compassion in
Nothing Changes Until You Do
. Through vulnerable
and inspiring stories he not only teaches us the importance of being
kind to ourselves, but exemplifies it in the process.”
—Kristin Neff, Ph.D.,
author of Self-Compassion
“Nothing Changes Until You Do
is a brilliant guide to the value
of changing and exquisitely loving yourself through what life
brings us. Mike Robbins’s book is filled with fresh truths, shared
vulnerabilities, and uncommon insights to open your heart and
support you in the beauty of change and self-love.”
—SARK,
author, artist, succulent wild woman,
PlanetSARK.com
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CONTENTS
Chapter 1:
Focus on What Truly Matters
Chapter 2:
Remember that a Bad Day for the Ego Is a Good Day for the Soul
Chapter 3:
Nothing Changes Until You Do
Chapter 4:
Remember that You’re Valuable Just Because You’re You
Chapter 5:
Be Gentle with Yourself
Chapter 7:
Don’t Get Caught in the Trap of Comparison
Chapter 9:
Love Yourself (and the Rest Will Follow)
Chapter 10:
Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously
Chapter 11:
Remember How Strong You Are
Chapter 13:
Give Yourself Permission to Make Mistakes
Chapter 14:
Ask for What You Want
Chapter 15:
Make Peace with Your Body and Appearance
Chapter 17:
Remember that It’s Not the Circumstances, It’s You
Chapter 19:
Be Aware of the Imposter Syndrome
Chapter 20:
Give Yourself Permission to Cry
Chapter 21:
Swing Hard (Just in Case You Hit It)
Chapter 22:
Embrace Powerlessness
Chapter 23:
Be Willing to Talk about Difficult Things