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Show your lover how you like to be stimulated. Then ask your partner to place their hand over yours, taking note of your rhythm, energy level, and motions. As your lover takes over, guide the hand motion if necessary, all the while offering positive or constructive feedback by saying, for example, “That feels really good. I’d love it if you could hit that spot even more.”

Hand Action for Penis Pleasure

Before giving him the hand job of his life, you need to get him erect. Al- though there are a ton of ways you can do this —dressing up in a sexy number, whispering what you’re about to do to him, or letting him play with your hottest spots first—we’re going to focus here on the most direct, hands-on tactic. First, warm your lubed-up hands by rubbing them to- gether before touching the penis. Roll the penis between your palms, as though rolling dough. Apply firm pressure with one finger midway be- tween the base of his penis and the anus (the perineum).

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EXERCISE 5.1:
Ultimate Hand Job

1. Massage his groin area, particularly the crease where the inner thigh meets the torso. This will stimulate his Rushing Door and Mansion Cottage acupressure points (see Figure 5.2).
   
2. Press his penis up against his belly. This move can help to indirectly stimulate his G-spot (more on this topic in Chapter 6).
   

   FIGURE 5.2: The Rushing Door and Mansion Cottage acupressure points
   

   

3. Using one hand to hold the base of his penis steady or to fondle the scrotum, take his shaft into your other hand, wrapping your fingers around it and warming it up with long strokes.
   
4. After you’ve established a rhythm with this motion and both of you are feeling more comfortable and relaxed, hold the penis with both hands so that your thumbs meet in front on the underside. Rub up and down very slowly, slowing even more when you get close to the top, just under the coronal ridge. The underside of the penis is more sensitive than the top side.
   
5. Consider this the foreplay of the hand job, leisurely taking your time moving up and down the shaft while teasing the corona every time you reach the top, running your thumb tips across it with firm pressure.
   
6. Eventually, you should wrap your middle finger around the area below the groove of his glans. (If he’s uncircumcised, avoid rubbing his glans and be sure to pull his foreskin back as far as it will go.)
   
7. Make a motion as though twisting off a bottle cap; then grip the whole shaft with your hand and make a sweep down to the root.
   
8. Repeat. This action will stimulate the frenulum.
   
9. Check in with your partner to see if he’s doing okay and if he wants you to move on. He is likely to be indifferent, but this is not to be taken as an insult. He’s simply in heaven, and the utopia you’re pro- posing doesn’t look too different, but he’s always willing to try an- other ethereal space.
   
10. Change up the twisting motion so that as you turn your wrist and open your hand, the flattest part of your palm rests on the head every time you stroke upward. Caress the glans with the center of your palm every time you move upward with this back-and-forth motion.
    
11. Just when it seems that he’s on the brink of climax, move back to the frenulum. Using light brushing strokes or little circles, gradually in- crease your pressure on this spot as his excitement mounts.
    
12. Finish the job by going back to long, firm strokes up and down the shaft with one hand while using the fingers of your other hand to run circles around his corona. This will require the same kind of con- centration as rubbing your stomach and patting your head at the same time, but the results will be well worth the effort.
    

Sexual-Health Considerations During Manual Stimulation

In order to protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections (STIs) when stimulating his penis or other parts of his genitals, consider wear- ing a latex glove to reduce the risk of transmission. Although manual

stimulation is considered a low-risk sexual behavior for infections like HIV, there is a chance of transmission if semen comes in contact with any cuts or sores on the hands.

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TIPS FOR GREAT HAND JOBS
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Breath check.

This is not the type of breath check you usually worry about. Make sure your part- ner is breathing fully and deeply. Encourage him to do so if he isn’t already, as this will make his orgasm even more incredible, spreading sensations throughout his body.

Vary your hand movement.

If you plan to manipulate the penis for a while, have your hands take turns with what they’re doing so you don’t get tired. Know that no matter what, it’s the rhyth- mic motion of your stimulation, applied with just the right amount of pressure, that gets him off more than anything.

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Get the testicles in on the action. With a lubricated or oiled hand, rub his perineum or anus. Tickle or cup and massage his testicles. Gently tug on the hairs covering his testicles. Lightly scratch his scrotum with your fingernails.

Don’t ignore his other hot spots.

Tease his nipples or other favorite erogenous zones. Massage his chest or legs. Stimulate his anal area with your fingers or a sex toy.

Turn your hand into its own sex toy.

Wrap your thumb and index finger either around the base of the penis or, if you have big enough hands, the balls and shaft. Contracting them, with however much pressure your lover can handle, turns your hand into a live cock ring!

Double the fun.

If you get tired at any point or start wondering if there’s something he wishes you were doing, have him show you what he likes. One trick: If you’re tired or want to further excite him, start playing with yourself while you get him off.

Experiment with the penis’s different hot spots.

Some of his hot spots may be more responsive than others to different kinds of touch. Take the time to squeeze, pinch, nibble, and tease any or all of them at dif- ferent points in his sexual-response cycle.

Get your own hot spots involved.

Caress his penis between your breasts, running your palm up and down his penis in a massaging motion.