Coming Around: Parenting Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Kids (25 page)

Gay America: Struggle for Equality
by Linas Alsenas (Amulet Books, 2008)

Love Undetectable
by Andrew Sullivan (Vintage, 1998)

The Meaning of Matthew
by Judy Shepard (Hudson Street Press, 2009)

Meeting Jesus Again for the First Time: The Historical Jesus and the Heart of Contemporary Faith
by Marcus J. Borg (HarperOne, 1995)

The New Jewish Wedding, Revised
by Anita Diamant (Scribner, 2001)

Protection Portfolio
by Suze Orman (Hay House, 2002)

Queer America: A People’s GLBT History of the United States
by Vicki L. Eaklor (The New Press, 2011)

What the Bible Really Says About Homosexuality
by Daniel A. Helminiak (Alamo Square Press, 2000)

Angels in America
(HBO Home Video, 2003)

Big Eden
(Wolfe Video, 2000)

Boys Don’t Cry
(Fox Searchlight Pictures, 1999)

Brokeback Mountain
(Universal, 2005)

But I’m a Cheerleader
(Lionsgate, 1999)

Chutney Popcorn
(Wolfe Video, 2000)

For the Bible Tells Me So
(First Run Features, 2007)

If These Walls Could Talk
(HBO NYC Productions, 1996)

A Jihad for Love
(First Run Features, 2007)

Philadelphia
(Sony Pictures Home Entertainment, 1993)

Trembling Before G-d
(New Yorker Films, 2001)

THE RAINBOW FLAG

The diverse colors in the rainbow have come to symbolize the diversity of sexual orientation and gender.

THE PINK TRIANGLE

Now used as a symbol of solidarity, its origins stem back to the Nazi concentration camps. Among Hitler’s victims were gays and lesbians. Instead of wearing the Jewish star, they were made to wear a pink triangle.

AND

Symbols that represent two women or two men in a relationship.

The equal sign is the logo of The Human Rights Campaign (HRC). It is yellow on a dark blue background.

PART I: TEMPERING FIRST REACTIONS

CHAPTER 3: FIRST REACTIONS

  
1
  Kinsey, Pomeroy and Martin,
Sexual Behavior in the Human Male
; Kinsey, Pomeroy, Martin and Gebhard,
Sexual Behavior in the Human Female.

  
2
  Haas et al., “Suicide and Suicide Risk in Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Populations.”

CHAPTER 4: WHAT NOT TO SAY

  
1
  Masters, Johnson and Kolodny,
Masters and Johnson on Sex and Human Loving.

CHAPTER 6: GETTING IT RIGHT WHEN YOU CAN’T AGREE

  
1
  Jonathan Capehart, “ ‘Hoax’ Against Hate Crimes Bill,”
Washington Post,
April 30, 2009,
http://voices.washingtonpost.com/postpartisan/2009/04/hoax_against_hate_crimes_bill.html
.

CHAPTER 7: PARENTAL ADJUSTMENTS

  
1
  Wilson, Zeng and Blackburn, “An Examination of Parental Attachments.”

  
2
  Padilla, Crisp and Rew, “Parental Acceptance and Illegal Drug Use.”

  
3
  Ryan et al., “Family Rejection as a Predictor of Negative Health Outcomes.”

  
4
  Bowes et al., “Families Promote Emotional and Behavioral Resilience to Bullying.”

  
5
  Muller,
Parents Matter.

  
6
  Potoczniak, Crosbie-Burnett and Saltzburg, “Experiences Regarding Coming Out to Parents”; Saltzburg, “Parents’ Experience of Feeling Socially Supported.”

  
7
  Ray,
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Youth

  
8
  Saltzburg, “Parents’ Experience of Feeling Socially Supported.”

  
9
  Beeler and DiProva, “Family Adjustment Following Disclosure of Homosexuality by a Member.”

PART II: HOMOPHOBIA

CHAPTER 8: UNDERSTANDING HOMOPHOBIA

  
1
  Wilkinson’s, “Religiosity, Authoritarianism, and Homophobia,” 58.

  
2
  Schwartz, “With or Against Us”; Herek and Garnets, “Sexual Orientation and Mental Health.”

  
3
  Schwartz, “With or Against Us”; Finlay and Walther, “The Relation of Religious Affiliation.”

  
4
  Newman, “Lesbians, Gays, and Religion.”

  
5
  Schwartz, “With or Against Us.”

  
6
  Herek and Capitanio, “ ‘Some of My Best Friends’.”

  
7
  Schiappa, Gregg and Hewes, “Can One TV Show Make a Difference?”

  
8
  Newcomb and Mustanski, “Internalized Homophobia and Internalizing Mental Health Problems.”

  
9
  Frost, “Internalized Homophobia and Relationship Quality.”

CHAPTER 9: DISSECTING STEREOTYPES

  
1
  Jesse Hamlin, “Quotes from Harvey Milk and friends,”
San Francisco Chronicle,
November 23, 2008,
www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2008/11/21/PKBJ13VKO5.DTL
.

  
2
  Ashmore and Del Boca, “Conceptual Approaches to Stereotypes and Stereotyping,” 16.

  
3
  Brown and Groscup, “Homophobia and Acceptance of Stereotypes.”

  
4
  Savin-Williams,
The New Gay Teenager.

  
5
  Fagan et al., “Pedophilia.”

CHAPTER 11: WHEN HOMOPHOBIA MORPHS INTO HATE

  
1
  Herek, Gillis and Cogan, “Psychological Sequelae of Hate Crime Victimization.”

  
2
  Adams, Wright and Lohr, “Is Homophobia Associated with Homosexual Arousal?”

  
3
  Walker and Bright, “False Inflated Self-Esteem and Violence.”

CHAPTER 12: RELIGION AND HOMOPHOBIA

  
1
  Bruce Bawer, “Last Word: Blessings or Earnings?”
The Advocate,
April 28, 1998.

  
2
  Schwartz, “With or Against Us.”

  
3
  Herek, Gillis and Cogan, “Internalized Stigma among Sexual Minority Adults.”

  
4
  Barton, “ ‘Abomination’,” 477.

  
5
  Ganzevoort, van der Laan and Olsman, “Growing Up Gay and Religious.”

CHAPTER 13: BULLYING

  
1
  “Judy Shepard Spreads the Love on this issue’s SoapBox,” Instinct Magazine, November 23, 2009.

  
2
  Tolan, “International Trends in Bullying and Children’s Health.”

  
3
  Berlan et al., “Sexual Orientation and Bullying among Adolescents.”

  
4
  Birkett, Espelage and Koenig, “LGB and Questioning Students in Schools.”

  
5
  Birkett, Espelage and Koenig, “LGB and Questioning Students in Schools”; D’Augelli, Grossman and Starks, “Childhood Gender Atypicality.”

  
6
  Toomey et al., “Gender-Nonconforming Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Youth.”

  
7
  Grant et al., “Injustice at Every Turn”; Sausa, “Translating Research into Practice.”

  
8
  Kosciw, Diaz and Greytak, “The 2007 National School Climate Survey.”

  
9
  D’Augelli, Grossman and Starks, “Childhood Gender Atypicality.”

10
  Birkett, Espelage and Koenig, “LGB and Questioning Students in Schools.”

11
  Storey et al., “Eyes on Bullying.”

12
  Gini and Pozzoli, “Association between Bullying and Psychosomatic Problems.”

13
  Campbell and Morrison, “The Relationship Between Bullying, Psychotic-Like Experiences”; Roberts et al., “Pervasive Trauma Exposure.”

14
  Sourander et al., “Psychosocial Risk Factors Associated with Cyberbullying.”

15
  Mitchell et al., “Youth Internet Victimization.”

16
  Birkett, Espelage and Koenig, “LGB and Questioning Students in Schools.”

17
  Ttofi and Farrington, “Effectiveness of School-Based Programs to Reduce Bullying.”

18
  Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, “Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Health.”

19
  Arseneault, Bowes and Shakoor, “Bullying Victimization in Youths and Mental Health Problems.”

CHAPTER 14: CAN SEXUAL ORIENTATION BE CHANGED?

  
1
  Kinsey, Pomeroy, Martin and Gebhard,
Sexual Behavior in the Human Female,
447.

  
2
  Reinisch,
The Kinsey Institute New Report on Sex,
141.

  
3
  Gold et al., “Psychological Outcomes among Lesbian Sexual Assault Survivors.”

  
4
  Wilson, Zeng and Blackburn, “An Examination of Parental Attachments.”

  
5
  Kendall-Tackett and Becker-Blease, “The Importance of Retrospective Findings.”

  
6
  Grimbos et al., “Sexual Orientation and the Second to Fourth Finger Length Ratio”; Bailey and Pillard, “A Genetic Study of Male Sexual Orientation”; Kallman, “Comparative Twin Study on the Genetic Aspects.”

  
7
  Jannini et al., “Male Homosexuality”; Mustanski, Chivers and Bailey, “A Critical Review of Recent Biological Research”; Schiavi and White, “Androgens and Male Sexual Function.”

  
8
  Haider-Markel and Joslyn, “Beliefs about the Origins of Homosexuality.”

  
9
  Drescher, “I’m Your Handyman.”

10
  APA Task Force on Appropriate Therapeutic Responses to Sexual Orientation,
Report of the Task Force,
66.

11
  Herek and Garnets, “Sexual Orientation and Mental Health.”

12
  Beckstead, “Can We Change Sexual Orientation?”

PART III: THE PATH TO HEALTHY ADULTHOOD

CHAPTER 15: SOCIAL-EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT