How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure (6 page)

with anyone else, and then are tested a second time, you will foam, contraceptive sheets, cervical caps, or condoms that be free and clear to use other methods of birth control. One contain spermicide. As a spermicidal (i.e., it kills sperm), it of the excuses I hear from men in my seminars is that they breaks down the lipid (fat) layer of the sperm. If it sears this are too big to fit into any of the condoms currently available.

outer layer of sperm, can you imagine what it does to the In my seminars, I usually open a regular-size condom, shape surface of her skin? On contact, this substance can literally my fingers into a bird’s beak, and, watching my nails, unroll burn her. Imagine taking detergent and rubbing it on the the condom over my hand and stretch/pull it down so that it most delicate area of the woman you love. I have also heard covers my entire forearm past my elbow (it fits, trust me).

from many women who have been exposed to nonoxynol9

How much bigger can you be than that? Try it yourself if that they have experienced constant bladder and vaginal

you don’t believe me.

infections. If you or she is experiencing any irritation, you ¾ For those gentlemen who have thick, broad penises, there are may want to avoid this nasty substance. As one seminar

condoms specifically manufactured with this in mind. These attendee told me, “My wife and I started using a diaphragm men find regular condoms fit a little too snugly at the base of with foam after our son was born a year ago. She had

the shaft and/or at the head. There are two large-size

constant vaginal infections, which never seemed to go away.

condoms available, Magnum and Trojan-Enz. Field

She was in constant pain, and we eventually stopped having researchers definitely prefer the Magnum. They say the

sex. Sure enough, when I learned from your seminar about Trojans smell awful and have a “yucky” texture. There is nonoxynol9, we discovered that had been the culprit. Within also a larger-head condom coming back onto the market

a week of our stopping using the foam, everything cleared under the name Pleasure Plus. This condom has a baggier

up.” In addition, nonoxynol9 reduces the average five-year head that allows for more friction and stimulation and is shelf life of condoms by two years.

completely different in sensation. A similar sensation can be achieved with a regular condom by putting a jelly-bean size C O N D O M

Box Desc.

Size in mm

Condom Features

Country of

Average

Where to Purchase:

Field

Drugstore, Supermarket, Researchers

B R A N D S

Lubrication

(Metric) ##

1. Thickness

Manufacture

Retail

(At time of

2. Surface Feel

Distributor

Cost

Mail Order, Internet,

Comments & F.Y.I.

publication)**

3. Slim/Wide Fit

Adult Novelty Store

4. Size Variation

L A T E X

Kimono

Dark Blue

I70 x 49 mm

I. Ultra Thin

Japan

$II for I2

D/S/M/I/A

Light and strong

Microthin

Silicone

3. Slimmer

Mayer Labs

Trojan-Enz

???

185 x 52 mm

4. Oversized

USA

$8-I0 for I2

D/S/M/I/A

Leading condom in sales

Lubricated

Silicone

available

Carter-Wallace

at retail

in Green box

Paradise

White/Black

180 x 52 mm

1. Ultra Thin and

India

$7-9 for 12

D/S/M/I/A

Similar to Crown condoms

Super Sensitive

Silicone

Pinky Sheer

Paradise Marketing

Crown

White/Blue

I80 x 55 mm

1. Ultra Thin

Japan

$8-10 for 12 D/S/M/I/A

So sheer and invisible used

Skin Less Skin

Silicone

3. Slimmer

Okamoto-USA

in porn films

Contempo

Blue/Woman

I80 x 49 mm

3. Slim Fitting

Thailand

$7-9 for I2

M/I/A

Nice and snug for the slimmer

Exotica

Silicone

Ansel

man

Vis-a-Vis

Multi-Colored

I65 x 49 mm

1. Ultra Thin

Japan

$7-9 for I2

D/S/M/I/A

Really sheer

Ultra Thin

Silicone

Sagami

Trojan Ultra

Grey

I85 x 52 mm

4. Baggy Shape

US

$8-10 for I2 D/S/M/I/A

Known name

Thin

Silicone

for greater friction

Carter-Wallace

LifeStyles

Light Grey

I80 x 52 mm

I. Ultra Thin

Thailand

$7-9 for 12

D/S/M/l/A

Identical Condom to

Ultra Sensitive

Silicone

Ansel

Comtempo Bareback

InVigra

Royal Blue

I85 x 52 mm

1. Regular

India

$6-7 for I2

D/S/M/I/A

Similar to Lifestyle Lub.,

Silicone

Paradise Marketing

&
Trojan-Enz Lub., but less $

Contempo

Woman/Thong

180 x 52 mm

2. Generous

Thailand

$7-9 for 12

M/I/A

Lifestyles Lubricated

Wet n’ Wild

Silicone

Lubrication

Ansel

Identical Condom

Paradise

Black/Purple

I90 x 56 mm

3. Wider Fit

Malaysia

$8-10 for 12 D/S/M/I/A

New larger style available

Extra Large

Paradise Marketing

Fall of ‘99

Magnum

Black/gold

I80 x 56 mm

3. Wider Fit

USA

$9-I0 for 12 D/S/M/I/A

Best for Italian Method

Silicone

Carter-Wallace

Sheerest of larger condoms

Pleasure Plus

Metallized

I75 x 52 mm

4. Oversized end

China

$I6-20 for 12 D/S/M/I/A

Similar to InSpiral &

Silicon

& slight ribbing

Global

LifeStyles Extra Pleasure

heightens sensation

Lifestyle Discs.

Individual Blister

4. Separate pack per

$8 for 6

D/S/M/I/A

Clear instructions

Pack

condom

N A U R A L

Naturalamb

Black

I65 x 55 nun

Most natural feel

USA

$9-I0 for 3

D/S/M/I/A

Great pregnancy protection

Skin Kling Tite

Jelly-Type

Carter-Wallace

if not concerned about STDs

P O L Y U R E T H A N E

Avanti for Men

Black with Swirl

N/A

United Kingdom

$8-9 for 3

D/S/M/I/A

Too much breakage

Silicone

Durex/L.I.H.

Supra

Gold

N/A

USA

$6-7 for 3

D/S/M/I/A

Available ONLY with

Silicone

Trojan-Carter-Wallace

with nonoxynol9

nonoxynol9

Reality

Pouch

I75 m m - 7 ”

N/A

Britain

$2-3 for I

D/S/M/I/A

Protection women

for Women

Silicone

Female Health Co.

can control

F L A V O R E D

Kiss of Mint

Green

I80 x 52 mm

Real flavor not

Thailand

$7-9 for 12

D/S/M/I/A

Best of all the

Non lubricated

just fragrance

Ansel

“flavored” condoms

¾ Although you may hear differently, spermicides containing ¾ French ticklers are best for their laugh factor, not the nonoxynol9 were created to help reduce the risk of

pleasure factor. Why? Because up at the nether reaches of unwanted pregnancy, not sexually transmitted diseases.

the vaginal barrel most women only have an awareness of

Nonoxynol9 has proved to be effective at killing only HIV

pressure sensation, not little hats on condoms.

and herpes in laboratory tests. There are no studies showing ¾ If you’re shy about purchasing condoms, there are several nonoxynol9 has a risk-free effect on human beings. There mail-order catalogs available. See the resource section at the are no studies showing it interferes with the transmission of end of Chapter Seven.

HIV in normal activity. It has been shown to kill HIV and ¾ There is a male polyurethane condom on the market

STDs in test tubes, but there is no clinical evidence to (Avanti), which states on its label that it has not been tested suggest it is a safe measure for disease prevention.> for protection; I recommend staying away from this brand ¾ There is longterm research under way for other microbicidal until its product testing is done. Trojan is coming out with a products, but they are not near completion. According to Dr.

new polyurethane product, Supra, but will only be available Penelope Hitchcock, Chief of Sexually Transmitted Diseases with nonoxynol9.

Bureau of the National Institutes of Health, the best

¾ As of June 1999 the major manufacturers of condoms in the protection against HIV, gonorrhea, and pregnancy is the

United States, Ansell and Carter-Wallace, had pretty much male latex condom used properly and correctly every time shut down domestic production and are now having product one has sex. But keep in mind that 10 percent of the

manufactured in offshore plants. The plants here were old, population is allergic to latex.

with dated equipment from the 1960s and 1980s, which

wasn’t adaptable to the needs of the contemporary market.

Ansell makes Lifestyles, Contempo, Prime; Carter-Wallace
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makes Trojans, Class Act, and Magnums.

“My fiancée used to use those contraceptive sheets, the kind that are inserted like a tampon. Well, I started to get this awful burning sensation in my penis in the middle of sex. Finally, I
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figured out it was the contraceptive sheet with nonoxynol9 that The FDA allowable failure rate for condoms is 4 in 1,000 picked was getting rammed into the end of my penis. I would be sore for randomly.

days and peeing was really painful.”

¾ Spermicides should be used only in addition to condoms, Techniques for Safe Sex

never in place of them.

¾ Beware of condoms labeled as “novelty” condoms, such as Putting on a condom doesn’t have to interrupt the momentum or

“glow-in-the-dark.” These are not intended to provide

excitement of your sexual experience; instead, by sharing the pregnancy or STD protection.

procedure with your partner, you can actually increase the play or ¾ The “ribbed for her pleasure” condoms do nothing for

erotic factor. Let her put the condom on you, for instance, or put it on women. They were designed so men would buy them

together, using both your hands to roll it down. For the more thinking they did something—they don’t.

adventurous women, there is the Italian Method, which was illustrated in my previous book. This method involves the woman
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putting a condom on using her mouth.

Another fun trick to try is placing a dollop of condom-safe American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (water-soluble, latex-safe) lubricant the size of a jelly bean in the (AASECT)

nipple end I of the condom before you put it on. This will enhance P. O. Box 238

the sensation for you by reducing that “stuck on” feeling.

Mt. Vernon, Iowa 52314

www.AASECT.org

Can provide a list of AASECT-certified therapists in your area.

Resources

Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (aka the 4Ss) Safety is essential, but it doesn’t have to undermine the sensuality of www.sscwisc.edu/ssss

your lovemaking. Being aware of the risks and taking preventive American Board of Sexology

measures will only increase your connection with your partner and email: [email protected]

maintain the honesty of your relationship. The following is a list of Can provide referrals to Diplomates and Clinical Supervisors in your resources you can contact for further information.

area.

Bill East is the executive director.

(202) 462-2122

DISEASES (STDs)

Sex Information Education Council of the United States (SEICUS) 212-819-9770

Centers for Disease Control

Website: www.cdc.gov

Public Health Service AIDS Hotline

800-342-AIDS (24 hours a day, 7 days a week)

STD National Hotline (Centers for Disease Control)

800-227-8922 (8:00 A.M.-11:00 P.M. EST weekdays)

website: www.ashastd.org

Hepatitis Hotline (Centers for Disease Control)

888-443-7232

or American Liver Foundation

800-223-0179

National Herpes Hotline

919-361-8488

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The best time of day for sex is when you’re not going to be
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interrupted—and are totally relaxed. That said, it’s important to

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carve out time, just as you would for any activity. But for women, often the peak hormonal period is 7:00 to 10:00 A.M., and for G e t t i n g H e r

men around 10:00 A.M.—leaving a slight crack in the window of your day.

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most potent forms of mental foreplay (we will discuss physical foreplay in Chapter Five). The reason these two activities hold such sway is that they are controlled by our most powerful sexual organ—