The 21 Biggest Sex Lies (4 page)

Based on what men spend the majority of their time dreaming about, or bragging to their buddies about, you would think men live an alternate universe.

And I’m one of them.

I lived this lie for most of my adult life, and went around truly believing that since I loved oral sex, she just naturally had to love giving it. And of course, I could get more graphic, but I think you get the idea.

I suppose this lie is perpetuated by an ancient and outdated notion that women are chattel, and were created for the express purpose of serving men. And while we all know this is not true, a man’s brain stem is hard wired with these ancient beliefs.

Sadly, when it comes to things like sex and survival, the brain stem does part of the thinking, while the little head beneath the beltline does the rest of the thinking—which means we evaluate everything from an egocentric perspective—that is, we think about our personal needs, and nobody else’s.

For the guys reading this, take it from me, just because you enjoy a particular fetish, does not mean she does. If you insist on being serviced anyway, then be prepared to return the favor and serve her fetish.

There is an old story about a scorpion and a frog. It seems the scorpion wanted to cross a river to check out the lay of the land on the other side. But of course, scorpions can’t swim worth a hoot.

So, the scorpion approached the frog and asked for his help. “Say, little guy,” the scorpion said. “How about I jump on your back and you give me a ride to the other side of the river?”

The frog took one look at the scorpion’s stinger and said, “Are you crazy. You’ll sting me and I’ll die.”

The scorpion looked surprised and pleaded his case. “What kind of sense would that make? If I stung you I would drown. And then we would both be dead.”

The frog
thought about this for a minute and finally relented. “That makes sense,” he said. “Hop on.”

The scorpion climbed on the frog’s back and everything was fine until they got
to the middle of the river.

“Ouch, you stung me,” the frog shouted. “You said you wouldn’t do that. Now we’re both going to die.”
As the frog and the scorpion sunk into the water the frog asked the simple question, “Why?”

To which the scorpion answered, “It’s what I do. I’m a scorpion.”

So, the moral of this story is this: A scorpion is a scorpion, and it is his nature to sting things. He can’t change who or what he is.

And this is where the big lie comes into play…

…You may think that love will triumph over all things, and that you will change the man you love into something he is not. But sadly, it’s a lie.

By the time a man is about 25 years old his values, beliefs, and moral code have been permanently imprinted in his brain. Lacking a significant emotional event, what he is today, is exactly what he will be tomorrow.