The Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves

For those of you who chanced upon this book blindly, and don’t know who the hell I am, I’m
Ian Ironwood
.
I’m a happily married father
of three
, and I work in porn.
Actually, I work for Big Porn, in an
office
reviewing porn
, not in front of the camera
. It’s an awesome job, because at heart I’m a big ol’
Sex Nerd
. Indeed, I have a blog by that name.

But that’s not the blog you’re looking for . . .
this
is. This is a collection of some of my best “Alpha Moves” from my
well-respected Manosphere
blog
The Red Pill Room.

What is the Red Pill, you ask? It’s not a real pill, for one thing.

If you don’t know already, the Red Pill is a fresh approach to the issues and problems of modern dating and relationships. It focuses on reality-based reproduction and mating strategies. It emphasizes an embrace of masculinity by men and femininity by women. It promotes equilibrium between the genders, not equality. It celebrates the (sometimes maddening) differences masculinity and femininity. And it respects the observable reality of how men and women actually act in the real world when it comes to such things as attraction, dating, sex and marriage, not gauzy ideals and hazy ideologies.

(It also gets accused of misogyny by misandrists, but you know how
they
are.)

At the core of the Red Pill, for married couples, is Married Game: a way for a heterosexual couple to keep their interest and attraction in each other over the long term. Pioneered by Athol Kay, in his Married Man Sex Life, and being informed by the disciplines of Evolutionary Biology and Evolutionary Psychology, Married Game is a way to sustain a good relationship over a long period of time. I cannot recommend Athol Kay’s books highly enough. Go buy some and read them. Right now.

Are you back? Good. Then a lot of this is going to make more sense now. Everyone else, just muddle along – you’ll get the idea.

Implicit in Married Game is the simple idea that if a man acts manly, a woman will reward that with interest, attention, respect, and adoration. By “manly” I mean behaviors and displays
often considered Alpha, in the loose sociological terminology of the Manosphere. In other words, the more Alpha a man acts, the more sexually attracted to him a given woman is.

What is an “Alpha Move”, in regards to the Red Pill? Alpha, in this context, means
any behavior that contributes toward eliciting a positive sexual response
.

Congratulations.
You discovered a book about how to have more sex.

When we – male and female – see Alpha Displays, 100,000
years
of recent evolution and millions of years of hormonal evolutions makes some specific things happen.
Despite recent suggestions to the contrary, masculine behavior and actions, particularly dominant behavior, increases the attractiveness to women of men.

When women see men exhibiting dominant behavior, being good providers, taking risks and doing manual labor, a lovely cascade of neurochemicals gets trigger
ed. If it happens often enough
and hard enough, then the phenomenon known to the scientific community as “damp panties” results. Similarly, when a male is typically shown female Alpha behaviors, its
Erection
City
, population
ONE
!

The difference is in just
how
this works between male and female.
Both genders enjoy sex, we just enjoy (and pursue) sex very differently. (See
Athol Kay,
and
the Married Man Sex Life Primer
for more details)
. But the short version is that men generally (about 80%) get aroused for no particular reason (“spontaneous desire”) and women generally (about 80%) get aroused
after they have been “inspired” by something (“reactive desire”). So if men want more sex, they should generally be more sexy, and vice versa. Alpha Moves.

Alpha Moves
are ways for men to be more sexy without recourse to crunches or hair styling products.

They are examples of ways to dominate a situation in a way that inspires a positive attraction response in a woman – particularly your woman but, as we shall see, sometimes any woman will do. Most of us do Alpha moves by accident or instinct when we are in the attraction phase of mating, and then we fall into a relationship, get comfortable, and try to be the perfect boyfriend/husband.

Meanwhile, the lady in your life
is wondering just where the hell that cool, self-confident, undeniably ALPHA dude that she married went, and who the milquetoast spineless wonder who’s kissing her ass on a daily basis is.

When attraction in a relationship falters, in many cases it can be traced in part to the lack of masculine Alpha displays on the part of the male. If he isn’t being manly, she has a hard time responding by being womanly. End result: no nookie,
problems, fights,
divorce lawyers,
misery. All because the dude couldn’t keep his woman interested in and attracted to him, or vice versa.

So if you want a good, healthy marriage brimming over with frequent, decent-quality sex, then you’ve got to bring some Alpha to the table. You have to dazzle her with a few Alpha moves.

These are some that have worked for me over the years (and as a Sex Nerd, I’d say that counts for something) and that other folks have agreed work for them too. After
50 Shades of Grey
made mommy porn acceptable, there is a fascinating renewed interest in male domination – the ladies
clearly
like a dominant dude – but
there has been
damned little to instruct the average man in
a relationship
how t
o be more dominant, more sexy, until Married Game came along.

Part of it is understanding the intricacies of female sexual psychology, the role of her menstrual cycle, and the importance of contextual issues (more on this later) on female sexuality and dealing with it accordingly. Part of it is understanding your own role in relation to your wife/partner, and how
she’s depending on you to run your sexlife whether you know it or not.
And part of it is accepting your role as a man, and doing your
d
amndest to live up to your potential in her eyes.

It’s all very complicated, when you start to deconstruct it – but this is not the place to do that.
This
is the place where I teach you how to be sexier to your wife and/or girlfriend by how you act and how you look, but mostly by how you act. Just about any idiot can do just about any of the things I speak of (except maybe being President – big Alpha move, there) without too much investment in time and resources. It’s not rocket science – its
biology
. And
psychology
. And I’ll walk you through it a little to help out.

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