The Sex MANual: Uncensored (2 page)

Navel (Belly button)
–Even though it may not seem like a hot spot on the body, the navel or belly button is full of nerve endings that can stimulate your woman down there and make her want you. This is probably a spot that you often overlook, but after reading this, your perception of the belly button is about to change forever.

The belly button is not often regarded for sexual purposes, but for women, it can possess a great deal of arousal. If the belly button is touched in the right way, some women may even be able to reach climax. Now, don’t you want to touch your woman’s belly button?

The best way to do this is with your tongue. While you are moving south on her body during foreplay, you can incorporate some belly button play into the mix. You can lick and kiss around the belly button and use your tongue to penetrate it. This is probably going to garner a strange reaction from your woman, since she may never have had this done to her. Chances are though, it is going to be well received and it will help her to only further get in the mood.

Arms
– With her arms, you may not assume that they are very sexual and that they assist her in arousal, but they do. If you caress her arms while the two of you are intimate, this is a soft touch that lets her know that you do have a softer side. Women love men who are more sensitive and who aren’t afraid to give women soft touches. It would be a suitable time to caress her arm after sex because you are showing your softer side during a time when her emotions are at a high.

There are also things that you can do with her arms in public. When the two of you are walking, interlock your arm in hers. This is a chivalrous move that most gentlemen would do and it is something that most women appreciate and really enjoy.

Fingers & Hands
– Similar to the belly button, the fingers and hands of a woman are overlooked and they are not defined as being sexually arousing. For the most part, this may be true but not necessarily all of it. A woman’s hands and fingers are very sensitive and gentle, meaning that there are plenty of nerve endings for you to touch and to stimulate her with. One of the best ways to get her aroused is to hold her hand. Remember, women are mentally responsive to stimulation, so if you hold her hand, you give her a sense of love and this translates into arousal. Whenever you have the opportunity, hold your woman’s hand because it may lead to some sexy things later on.

There are always sexual things that you can do with her fingers and hands as well. Caressing her hands with yours and using your fingertips on her hands can send chills throughout her body. You can even take it a step further and kiss her hands. If you really want to get sexy with her, use your lips and tongue to stimulate on her fingers. This will certainly send her mind into naughty places. This is something that you can easily do during foreplay, during sex or even after.

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– If you really want to get your woman aroused by stimulating her hands, take away her sense of touch. When you are in foreplay or even in lovemaking, put her hands together above her head and pin them down. Losing this sense of control will drive her wild and it will show your dominance in the bedroom. Women love when a make takes control and this proves just that.

Inner Thighs
– A woman’s inner thighs have so many nerve endings in them, it is ridiculous. Plus, they are so close to her pleasure zone that as soon as you start stimulation on her inner thighs, she is going to be begging for you to touch her in her most intimate spot. When touching her inner thighs, there are numerous things that you can do. You can stimulate them with your tongue, your lips, your fingers, hands and anything else. No matter what you do, you can apply pressure but never be too rough. Even though the skin is tough, you are still working with a woman’s body, which is very sensitive.

If you and your woman are out for dinner and a booth is concealing you, you can easily start to pet her inner thighs if she is wearing a skirt. This will give her the hint that you desperately want to get out of there and to allow the fun to begin and chances are with a few strokes of your fingers on her thigh, she is going to want to the same thing.

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– If you think that your woman can handle it and if you really want to get her going in the bedroom, lightly nibble at the skin on her inner thighs. For some women, pain translates into pleasure but this isn’t for all women. You can test the waters by scratching that area first. If she enjoys it, then you can lightly bite at the skin. Remember to still be gentle but this tiny nip of the inner thigh might really get her going.

Buttocks
– In regards to touching a woman’s buttocks, this does not refer to anal stimulation. In actuality, this is her buttocks as a whole, with emphasis on her cheeks. This is a super sexy hot spot on her body that you can really use to please your woman and to get her going in the bedroom in a whole different way.

You can lightly pat her bum in public to get her going. This is a playful way for you to let her know that you want her later and that you are getting a little frisky. Playfulness is always encouraged so don’t be afraid to be playful with your woman.

You can also kiss and lick the cheeks of her bum for foreplay. You can kiss her back all the way down and over her cheeks. This is something that most men do not try so giving it to your woman is bound to be something that she has never had before. You may be surprised how well she reacts to feeling your wet lips on her backside. Guaranteed, it is going to send chills all the way up and down her spine.

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- The buttocks is a region on the body that is just begging to be slapped. It is meaty, filled with muscle and it can take a beating. Spanking is wildly popular amongst couples and there are many women out there who love to be spanked. When spanking, you want to use a slightly cupped hand and you want to brush the cheeks upwards. You will swipe your hand in a swift upward movement, cupping the cheek as you go. This is a naughty tip that only the most daring of women will enjoy so make sure you talk about this with your woman ahead of time or else you may be in the doghouse. You want to empower and arouse your woman by spanking her and not degrade her so be careful and be aware of how you are using this tip.

Anus
– Even though many couples don’t often experiment with anal stimulation, they are truly missing out on a whole other dimension of pleasure. Stimulating your woman’s anus might be something that she feels uncomfortable with at first but guaranteed once you do it once or a couple times, she is going to be asking for it. The reason why anal stimulation is so beneficial for women because it is essentially a part of her pleasure zone. Most men don’t realize this but a woman’s clitoris extends all the way to her anus. The nerve endings and clitoris actually surround a woman’s body down there completely. No matter where you put pressure or stimulation, she is going to react to it and in a very positive way.

If you want to give your woman anal stimulation but you don’t know how, just start slow. Talk to her about it beforehand and tell her that you are interested in doing this. If you do that ahead of time, then you give her some time to prepare. Women are very self-conscious about their appearance “down there” so give her some time to get ready. Once she is ready or gives you the green light, start slow with your pinky finger and work your way up to more fingers or even your tongue. If at first she feels uncomfortable, don’t press the issue and let her come to you for it again because you know that she will.

Vagina
– At last, you have arrived at the Mack daddy of her hot spots; the vagina. This is where the clitoris is as well as the g-spot. In order to truly bring your woman to orgasm, then you must stimulate the clitoris, the g-spot or both at the same time to make her feel that ultimate pleasure.

There are many ways to bring a woman to orgasm through vaginal stimulation and all of the secrets cannot be given away right now. The chapters to come will all go into detail about this spot on a woman’s body and what you should be doing in order to give her the ultimate orgasm. You can stimulate the vagina with your fingers, toys, and your mouth and by many other methods and you are going to learn all of those techniques as your journey continues.

Feet & Toes
– Stimulation of a woman’s feet and toes can really get her going in the bedroom and more importantly, will set her up for future pleasurable experiences. Most women cannot orgasm from stimulation of the feet or toes but that is not what they are designed for. Sometimes when pleasing a woman, your goal isn’t to bring her to climax. Sometimes you just want to make her feel good and to show her that you really care.

No woman is going to complain if her man wants to give her a foot massage. After a long day at work, treat your woman like the queen that she is and sweep her off her feet – literally. Take one of her feet into your hands and massage deep into the foot. Be careful not to be too light because most women are quite ticklish on their feet. The more pressure you apply without going overboard, the better.

Another tip to stimulate her toes the right way is to kiss and suck on them. This might actually get her really turned on. During foreplay, you can kiss and lick all the way down her body and get to her toes. If you have a foot fetish, then you know how badly you are dying to do this to your woman. Of course, check with her ahead of time and let her know that you want to do this. She might want to clean up her feet and toes to make sure that they are kissable for you.

To really blow your woman away with stimulation of her toes, do something that no man has done for her in the past – paint her toenails. Even if you don’t do a good job, it is the gesture and the thought that counts. Remember that the way into a woman’s heart is through romance and this is one of the sweetest and most romantic things that you could ever do for her. This little gesture will be one that she doesn’t forget and that she brags to her friends about for a long time to come.

Now that you are becoming a master of the female body, it’s time that you took things a step further. Now that you know when to touch her, how to touch her and when to touch her, you are going to put all of that together and start to get her turned on. Are you ready to learn how to seduce your woman and how to make her want you bad with foreplay techniques? If you are, then it’s time to let the journey continue.

Chapter 3

Everything You EVER Needed to Know About Foreplay

If you are going to take away any chapter from this book, let it be this one because this is the one chapter that you should have memorized. Even though men aren’t big fans of it and it just eats up time before you get to the main event, men need to learn about it. It is that silly time before sex that men hate. This is all about that ridiculous time spent caressing, kissing and soothing. This is foreplay.

Even though you may not be the biggest fan of foreplay, you need to change the way you think about it because if you are unable to make your woman orgasm, this might be the reason. Foreplay is crucial to the female orgasm. It is the time when the physical stimulation matches the mental stimulation. It is the time when a woman finally becomes aroused and is ready to start stimulation to bring her to climax. Without it, you easily triple the amount of time it takes for you to make her orgasm, and you also create far more work for yourself.

The easiest way to hit home just how important foreplay is, is with a quote that sums up what foreplay means to sex:

“You gotta preheat the oven before you stick in the turkey.”

– American Pie 2

Keep this in mind each and every single time you want to be intimate with your woman because she needs it. This is not a want. It is a need. If you want to give your woman pleasure and have her climaxing multiple times in one night, then you need to become a master of foreplay. Now, foreplay doesn’t have to be in the traditional sense that most men expect. You don’t have to massage her, kiss her gently and caress her body. Although that is what some women like, it doesn’t mean that she wants it all of the time. In order to get her aroused and to keep her interested, it is best that you throw some new foreplay techniques into the mix every once in a while. This way, you keep it fun and enjoyable for you and it helps to keep her on her toes. There are many foreplay techniques that men can use that are both fun and beneficial. No matter what your relationship is like with your woman, guaranteed there is a foreplay technique out there that you are going to love and that you are actually going to look forward to.

Men need to forget about what they thought they knew about foreplay because all of that is about to change. Over the course of these next few pages, you are going to learn some techniques so good, that you will leave your woman on the brink of orgasm far before you even touch her. You will get her so riled up that it will lead to some of the most passionate sex that you have ever had. You are going to drive her so wild that you will easily become the best lover that she has ever had and ever will have again.

Foreplay is anything that happens before sex and this doesn’t have to be limited to the bedroom either. Now, foreplay can happen with many different forms and it doesn’t have to be in the traditional sense. For example, we all love our cell phones and we rely on technology to get us through our day-to-day lives. We use our cell phones for everything so we can keep in touch with our social network. If you rely heavily on your cell phone, then you are going to love this tip. You know the power your phone possesses within the world of technology and communication, but think about what it can do for your love life. Would you believe that you can use your phone to actually stimulate your woman before you even see her and get her so riled up that she can’t wait for you to get home? That can happen and you can do it with your phone.

In order to use foreplay with your phone, all it takes is one sexy text. Think about this in a sense that you are using dirty talk with your phone. Before you even see your woman, you can get her so wet and begging for your touch. Dirty talking through text messaging, or “sexting” can really work for you and can make you a foreplay master. When you are feeling frisky and want to make your woman feel the same, shoot her a dirty text. This can be something as simple as “I want you so bad” to “I’m so hard thinking about you”.

Some men can get caught on their words and that is totally understandable. To help you out, here are a few sexy text ideas to send to your woman to let her know that you are in the mood and that you are looking for some fun later on in the day:

1.“I can’t wait to get you alone later.”

2.“I want to kiss you tonight and not leave one spot of your body untouched.”

3.“I can’t stop thinking about how sexy you are.”

4.“I can’t wait to taste you later.”

These are some simple texts that will be guaranteed to get the juices flowing and to put her in the mood. Chances are, she will be replying something naughty to you and this will just continue until the two of you build so much sexual tension that you just go at it later tonight.

If it is more traditional foreplay that you are after, then there are some techniques that you can use as well. You don’t have to get all fancy with your phone but it can help you out in the long run. The idea behind foreplay is that you want to get your woman as prepped and ready for sex as possible. You want to build that sexual tension in her body and you want to make her crave you. The more you do this, the hotter sex will be and eventually, the bigger her orgasm will be.

Remember that the key to turning on a woman is through romance so if you are looking to score big tonight, then you need to turn on the charm. To get her in the mood, bring home flowers from work. Giving a woman flowers doesn’t always have to be a gesture that you use on big occasions such as anniversaries or birthdays. You can give your woman flowers whenever and the more you do, the more she will become turned on.

Another way to get your woman in the mood with foreplay is to slow things down. You don’t always have to speed through foreplay so you can get to the main event. In fact, this is a mistake that most men make. The slower you go and the more you take your time with foreplay, the more anticipation you build in her body. You want her to crave you and you want to make the sexual tension and anticipation in her body, so slow foreplay will do just that.

Start off by kissing your woman passionately. A good kiss can really go a long way. When you kiss someone passionately, you can feel the desire growing in their body. After a few minutes of passionate kissing, your woman will be melting inside and her body will be molding to yours. Making her melt and driving her wild is a great way to start off foreplay.

Just as she wants some more, don’t give it to her. You want her to beg for it because this is what foreplay is all about. Instead of stimulating her immediately, slow things down even further. After some heavy making out, start slowly shedding the clothes from her body. Take off her shirt and then kiss her some more. Take off her bra and start giving her a massage while kissing her neck. After a while, she is going to want you to do more, but you are in the driver’s seat and you are the one in control. Don’t give in.

Once your woman is naked beneath you, now you can start doing even more for foreplay. Now you can start teasing her. Teasing is a fun way to continue building the sexual anticipation and tension in her body. The point of teasing is to give her a taste of what is to come. You want to hint at what you want to do to her later but you want to leave it as something for her to look forward to.

You can tease your woman by kissing her body all over. You can spend some time kissing her all the way from her head down to her toes. You can utilize the knowledge that you have from the previous chapter so you can touch her the right way. When you get close to her most sensitive spot, avoid it. You can get really close, but don’t give in. Don’t start stimulating her yet. You want to get your woman so wet and so aroused that she can barely stand it.

To increase the sexual tension in her body and to really become a master of foreplay, here are some amazing foreplay techniques that you can start using on your woman immediately:

Start Ahead of Time
– As mentioned above, the earlier you start foreplay, the more aroused your woman is going to be. If you can get her going in the morning but save the action for at night, you are going to be on her mind all day long. As women are very mental when it comes to arousal, if you can plant a seed her mind and get her thinking about sex with you, she will want it more. By the time you step in the front door that night, be prepared for her to completely ambush you.

Romance Her
– You want to let her know that she means a lot to you and you always want to let your woman know that you care. Sometimes, you have to show it and you can do that with romance. Not only does it bring the two of you closer, but more importantly, it gets her in the mood. When your romance your woman, it makes her feel aroused but not in an entirely sexual way. However, if you pair romance with some things sexual, then you are on your way to getting her aroused and in the mood for sex.

As previously mentioned, bringing flowers home for her is a very romantic gesture but if you really want to make an impact, then you need to kick it up a notch. Do something romantic for her that no man has done before. For example, make her dinner. Make sure that you make something light so the two of you have room for dessert later, because guaranteed she is going to want to be the cherry on top of you. To help you become a connoisseur of romance, there is an entire chapter later on in this book that will help you to get in touch with your softer side so you can become a much better lover for your woman.

Tease Her
– We always want what we can’t have so if you tease her during foreplay by getting very close to her hot spot, but not touching her at all, you are going to drive her wild. She will be begging and pleading for you to start, but you must withhold the temptation. The more you tease her with foreplay, the better because the more aroused and ready for sex she will be.

Sex Toys
– Even if you aren’t the kinkiest lover that your woman has had, it’s always a good time to start getting in touch with that side of your sexuality. Using some sex toys as foreplay can actually be very beneficial. You don’t have to use vibrators or dildos on her, you can save that for later, but there are some items that you can use during foreplay. Handcuffs and blindfolds are very popular among couples all over the world. This is a naughty way to get your woman in the mood and she will love it. You can handcuff or blindfold her to get her in the mood, but only keep it to one. The whole point of bondage is to take away a sense. When you take away her sense of sight, then she has to focus on what she feels. This heightens every pleasure receptor in her body. Pair this with teasing her and you are going to drive her wild. She will be begging for you.

For your convenience and to really give you more insight on what sex toys your woman wants you to use, there is a whole chapter solely dedicated on how to help you incorporate toys into the bedroom. Keep your eyes peeled for that.

Take Your Time
– Slow and steady wins the race and that is a motto that you should always follow when pleasing a woman. When you go slow during foreplay, you really build up that tension and pressure in her body. The slower you go, the more she savors every caress of your tongue and stroke of your finger. If you want to do foreplay and lovemaking the right way, be sure to set aside some serious time so you can pay attention to your woman’s needs and make things happen properly.

Dirty Talk
  - Dirty talking with your woman can be some of the sexiest foreplay that the two of you can create. You can build up so much sexual tension between the two of you that you will easily want to tear at each other’s clothing and get on with things already. Now, there is an important rule to keep in mind when dirty talking and there is a fine line that you can cross if you aren’t careful. When dirty talking with your woman, be sure that you are staying in that boundary and that you aren’t crossing it. If something sounds awful or demeaning in your head, it’s probably not wise to say it out loud. Start off by saying something slightly naughty and by gauging your woman’s reaction, you can beef it up a little.

Role Playing
– If you and your woman are into that kind of sexual fantasy, then role playing can take foreplay and your sex life to a whole new level. You can do the traditional doctor and patient or teacher and student theme, or you can even kick it up a notch. Some couples really get into role playing and create characters or facades that they follow. You can become a character and your partner does the same so when you are out in public, you can still role play but it is on a much more discreet scale, while never losing any of the heat.

The foreplay techniques that you and your woman can use are never ending and you can easily come up with more as the two of you continue exploring each other. These tips are simply to help you get your feet wet so you can feel more comfortable with using foreplay on your woman and so you will use it more frequently. Remember, you need foreplay if you expect to please her. You can never go ahead and skip any step because you aren’t going to end up with the results that you are hoping for. Remember that sex is a marathon, not a sprint. You both need to pace yourselves if you are hoping to get what you want out of sex so take your time with her and you’d be surprised how well that works.