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Chapter 11

How to Give a Woman the Romance She Craves the Most

Even though you have learned numerous and nearly endless tips that will help you on your journey to giving your woman pleasure that is out of this world, sometimes you have to do something less than that to really become the best that she has ever had. If you really want to be the best and be the man that your woman cannot get enough of, then you must learn how to romance her. Romance is the true way inside of your woman’s heart and by getting inside of her heart, you can make her do anything. Romance is huge for women. Not only does romancing her in the right way make her feel good but also it can actually turn her on. By doing some romantic gesture towards her, you make her heart flutter in the same way that it does as she is having an orgasm. Romance is actually more important to pleasing a woman than you might have originally thought. It’s the prelude to foreplay and sets the tone for the entire evening. Without romance, you might not only miss out on getting to taste and please your woman but you will probably also miss out on giving her that orgasm that you are after.

Romance can come in many forms and doesn’t have to be as grandiose as you are imagining. Romance can be something as simple as opening the car door for her, giving her your jacket if she’s cold or telling her how much you love her. When men think of romance, they automatically assume that they need to rival the movies that women watch in order to break through to them. That is not the case. Even though in a perfect world, your woman might crave that type of romance, passionate kissing on a beach in the rain after a ride on horseback is probably not going to happen and that is totally fine. You can still give your woman romance in a way that makes her love you that much more.

To help you on your quest of giving your woman the romance that she craves the most, it is best to do it in bullet point form. That way, you can easily decipher what you want to do at any given moment. This quick and easy reference will help you to become a better lover and a better man for your woman.

If you want to be the romantic man of her dreams, then here are some of the best things you can do to give your woman what she wants:

•Buy her flowers
. This is common knowledge for most men. Women love flowers and when they receive them, it is a big deal for them. This is one of the more traditional forms of romance that dates back to many years ago. This romantic gesture only takes a few minutes of your time, and maybe a few dollars depending upon what you pick up, but it goes a long way to your woman.

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Wine and dine her
. Putting on your fancy attire and treating your woman to a night on the town is also a great way to romance her. Being the chivalrous man that all women want will make you become very special to her. When you spend money on her and act like it is nothing that makes her feel important. Knowing that you want to spend your hard earned money on her definitely warms her heart. If you want things to heat up in the bedroom later that night, then you should be careful of what you both eat. Typically when couples go for a romantic dinner, they are often far too full to do anything afterwards, let alone sex. Choosing a restaurant where the menu is a bit lighter will benefit you both after you lose your inhibitions after that bottle of wine.

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Cook her dinner
. Just as romantic as it is for you to take her out and treat her to a night on the town, staying in and surprising her with a feast that you prepared on your own might even be more romantic. All women want a man that can cook, or at least that can think he can cook. Having that confidence in the kitchen to prepare a hearty meal is something that women find so irresistibly sexy. If you know that you are helpless in the kitchen, suggest taking a cooking class with your woman. This gives you both something to do together to strengthen your relationship and it gives you all of the tools you need to swoon her with your cooking. Plus, she is going to think it’s incredibly romantic that you want to try something new with her.

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Buy her gifts
. This one is a no-brainer. Women love gifts and they love being spoiled, even if they tell you otherwise. Women love that being spoiled feeling, even if they act like they don’t need that. Of course, a lot of men aren’t made of money and they are unable to spend thousands of dollars on jewelry. That is okay. Even a small purchase such as a ring or a necklace under $100 will give her that heart warming feeling that makes her feel loved and important. If you want to be even more romantic, try making her jewelry. There are many books that can help you and teach you how to create a necklace for her or even a bracelet made of hemp. Something personal and original will go a long way and show her how much you truly care about her.

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Dance with her
. If your budget doesn’t allow you to spend all sorts of money on your woman, then don’t fret because there are still plenty of ways that you can be romantic and make her feel special. One of the sexiest and most romantic things that you can do is to dance with her. After cooking a special meal, put on a song that you know she loves and ask her to dance with you. Even if you aren’t a really good dancer, holding her close and swaying with her to a song will sweep her off of her feet and make her fall even more in love with you.

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Write her a love note
. Remember back in your younger days when you would write your crush a note asking her out or telling her how pretty she was? Well that is still effective to this day. Writing your woman a small note about how beautiful you think she is or how much you love her and leaving it in a place where you know she will read it will certainly warm her heart and make her feel special. You don’t always have to go overboard with your romantic gestures and sometimes something as small as a love note can really make her feel like your one and only.

Using these forms of romance can really help the two of you become much closer and much stronger as a couple. They help you to get in touch with your softer side, which is something that all men need at some point. By becoming more in touch with your sensitive and romantic side, you’d be amazed at how that influences sex. When you both are in that same mindset and the love is just pouring out of your bodies, you will see how in sync you both become in the bedroom and how much more amazing sex becomes.

Don’t associate romance with weakness. That is the biggest mistake that men make. Men think that other men who are romantic are weak but that is not true. In fact, it is the opposite. Men who are romantic are more in touch with themselves and far more confident. They know how to properly treat a loved one and more importantly, they know how to treat a woman.

Chapter 12

The Do’s and Do Not’s of After Sex

Even if you may be on your way to becoming a total stud in the bedroom, there are still some quick tips that you need to know. Even if you just totally gave your woman some of the best pleasure she has ever felt and an orgasm that has left her paralyzed with pleasure, you still could potentially ruin the night by acting like a jerk.

Men and women are both very different after sex. Men tend to shut down and become distant because their bodies require that opportunity to replenish and refocus, while women are more in tune with their bodies than ever before and they want to keep the love and connection going. This is when you can either make it or break it in the bedroom and if you want to make it, then you have to follow the Do’s and Do Not’s of After Sex.

This chapter is designed to help keep the good vibes flowing between you and your woman. The last thing you want to do is ruin the entire night by doing something stupid that you might usually do. From a total woman’s perspective, here is a list of the Do’s and Do Not’s of After Sex:

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Do cuddle her after sex
. Even though your body may be warm and all you want is to have your space, if you do, you are going to suffer the consequences. Make your woman feel special and loved and let her cuddle up to you.

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Do NOT leave the room
. You and your woman just experienced something very special and amazing and it needs to be treated that way. If you get up and continue on with your night after just making love to her, guaranteed she is not going to be a happy camper. If you want to keep that moment between the two of you blissful and special, then you need to treat it as such.

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Do kiss her
. Right now, her lips are very engorged and jam packed with blood, making them extremely sensitive. Sexy kissing and some passionate tongue play can really get her going all over again. Plus, it is a romantic gesture and one that seals you as being the best.

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Do NOT ignore her
. After sex, it is natural for men to become very tired since the male orgasm takes a lot out of a man. He starts to shut down after sex and is unable to process information in the same way. However, this is not an excuse to ignore your woman. She is still craving attention and affection from you so give it to her if you want that moment after sex to be one that she remembers.

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Do sweet-talk her
. After sex, your woman feels vulnerable and feels exposed. She just let you in and feels very open. This is when she is going to want to talk to you and check in. No matter how annoying it may be and even if all you want to do is turn on the TV and check the score, talk to her. This time spent together and close bonding is good to have and keeps the two of you closer together. Don’t ruin it. Take this opportunity to tell her how amazing she is or how much she means to you. It will mean a lot to her even if it is a simple gesture on your behalf.

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Do NOT fall asleep
. Despite your body telling you that it’s time for bed, if you want to keep your woman a happy camper, fight the tired feeling for at least a few minutes. Falling asleep right after sex is not a good thing because she is going to be offended and worry that you weren’t satisfied or that you were bored. No matter how tired you are, fight it. It will make for a far more enjoyable sleep and one that you don’t have to worry if you and her are fighting or not.

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Do suggest a shower together
. Chances are, your body is steaming hot after sex and you could use a cool down. Rather than excusing yourself and leaving your woman high and dry in the bedroom, suggest that she join you for a cool down. Then, you get to feel clean and cool even if the two of you decide to get hot and heavy again.

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Do NOT do something that you know will piss her off
. This is the “in summary” tip that you need to keep in mind. If you think that doing something might bother her or hurt you in the long run, just don’t do it. Spend that 10-15 minutes with your woman after sex and then go and do what you are going to do. Anything sooner than that is pushing it and that is not what you want to do. Sometimes it is hard for men to get into the brain of women and to know right from wrong. However, you can’t use that as an excuse anymore. By now, you have gotten into the mind of your woman in a way that you haven’t been able to do until now. It’s time that you used what you learned to become a better lover for her.

Follow these small guidelines to keep that smile on your woman’s face after sex. Remember that even if sex is over that doesn’t necessarily mean that “sex” is over. That moment after sex is just as important as anything that you do before or during sex. Keeping yourself aware of your woman at all times will be very beneficial and will not only help you to become a better lover, but a better man and one who listens and understands his woman.

Chapter 13

Rick Recommends Overview

Throughout your reading of this book, you came across a number of tips that may or may not have caught your eye. These tips were designed for men who were looking to take things a step further in the bedroom when it came to pleasing their woman. These Rick Recommends tips were scattered throughout the entire book and through almost every chapter. When there was a sexy tip for you to learn, there was one of these designed to push you to give your woman even more pleasure that will send her into orgasm heaven.

For your convenience, this chapter is an overview of all of the Rick Recommends that you came in contact with throughout your read. Then, if you and your girl are about to get hot and heavy and if your brain needs a bit of a refresher course, you don’t have to fiddle through this entire book in order to find what you are looking for. You can simply turn to this chapter and use it as an easy reference.

All of the Rick Recommends that were included in this book are right here for you and in order starting with where to touch her, foreplay techniques and so on. Before you know things are going to heat up and start getting crazy, refer back to this chapter for everything that you need to know.

•One of the sexiest things to do a woman’s breasts is to stimulate them while you are going down on her. When pleasing a woman, you want to maximize her pleasure potential so you want to give her the most stimulation possible. When you are eating her out, you can use your hands to trace all over her body, especially her breasts. With your mouth down on her and your hands up here, that is a recipe for an orgasm.

•There are some women out there who can handle quite the naughty touch with their nipples and for these women, you have to pull out all the stops. You can squeeze or pinch your woman’s nipples if that is what she likes. Some women get off on pain, as it is a form of pleasure. If your woman enjoys this, then pinching or lightly biting her nipples will get her going.

•If you really want to get your woman aroused by stimulating her hands, take away her sense of touch. When you are in foreplay or even in lovemaking, put her hands together above her head and pin them down. Losing this sense of control will drive her wild and it will show your dominance in the bedroom. Women love when a make takes control and this proves just that.

•If you think that your woman can handle it and if you really want to get her going in the bedroom, lightly bite at the skin on her inner thighs. For some women, pain translates into pleasure but this isn’t for all women. You can test the waters by scratching that area first. If she enjoys it, then you can lightly bite at the skin. Remember to still be gentle but this tiny nip of the inner thigh might really get her going.

•The buttocks is a region on the body that is just begging to be slapped. It is meaty, filled with muscle and it can take a beating. Spanking is wildly popular amongst couples and there are many women out there who love to be spanked. When spanking, you want to use a slightly cupped hand and you want to brush the cheeks upwards. You will swipe your hand in a swift upward movement, cupping the cheek as you go. This is a naughty tip that only the most daring of women will enjoy so make sure you talk about this with your woman ahead of time or else you may be in the doghouse.

•Sometimes, it can be hard to remember what you have done during oral and what you can do next to keep your woman interested and stimulated. A great way to keep in a routine is to perform the ABC’s on her with your tongue. This includes you moving your tongue and spelling out all of the letters in the alphabet. Not only are you ensuring that you cover every millimeter of her clitoris and that you give her insane stimulation, you make sure that you stay on track. Who knew the ABC’s would come in handy?

•Now, this tip is for the men who really want to set things on fire and to give your woman something that she is never going to forget. The 69 is one of the hottest things that you and your woman can do during oral sex. Not only do you get to taste her and have her, she also gets to do the same to you. This is a great way to get even closer and to have far more fun in the bedroom. Of course, your girl has to be cool with it but if she is, then go for it because guaranteed it is going to feel amazing for both of you.

•In addition to using the tingle lubricant as a way to avoid premature ejaculation problems, try putting some on your woman’s clitoris as you are having sex. While you are busy entering her and thrusting to give her pleasure, the tingle will get to work by stimulating her clitoris. This is a hands free way of giving her pleasure and she will want to use that lubricant again and again, never knowing the true reason why you were using it in the first place.

•With being on top, it doesn’t mean that it has to be the boring, same, in the bed kind of sex. You can still be on top and be in control even in different settings. One of the best ways to get your woman going through being on top is to do the scissor. Get your mind out of the gutter and remember that this doesn’t have to do with lesbians. What you want to do is have your woman lie down but instead of you lying down on top of her like you usually would, you will stand before her. This sounds pretty standard and it is until you pull this little move on her. Have your woman place her legs on top of your body with her feet by your shoulders. Now enter her and as you thrust, move her legs as if they were scissors. This is going to give her a whole new sensation. At one moment, she is going to feel open and loose with you driving into her and in the next, she is going to feel tight with your entire body filling up every inch of her. Pump this move up with a pillow underneath her bottom and it is going to be game over for her. She will never look at missionary again and neither will you.

•Another way to get your woman on top in the bedroom is to suggest the reverse cowgirl position. Then, she is still on top and feeling you penetrate her in a different way, but in this position, she doesn’t have to worry about you looking at her imperfections because she is turned away from you. Now you both have free reign to make the most disgusting sex faces you can possibly make and not care about what your partner thinks. She doesn’t have to worry about her belly hanging out or her boobs flying around. The reverse cowgirl feels the same as the usual cowgirl, if not better so if you are looking for variations that will make your woman feel comfortable, then this is it.

•All of this sex talk is probably making you want to take a cold shower, but why not turn that cold shower into a hot one by bringing your woman in there with you? Shower sex is totally hot and something that women absolutely love. There is nothing quite as sexy as slippery skin when having sex. The water just enhances everything and makes it that much more sexier and fun. You can press your woman up against the shower wall and get her from behind, or if you are strong and your shower can handle it, you can even pick her up and press her against the wall. Some showers come complete with seats so you can sit down and have your woman bounce on top of you. The possibilities are endless!

•Now this next suggestion isn’t so much a position but rather, something to try. Anal sex is usually pretty taboo in the sex world but it is heading down a path where it is becoming more and more mainstream for many couples. People are learning the proper technique and how to do it in a way that makes it very pleasurable for both the man and the woman.

•To really amp things up, get a waterproof bullet vibrator that you can use in the shower or in the bathtub. You know how sexy and how good shower sex feels, so imagine if you could spice it up by throwing a toy into the mix. After using a bullet vibrator on your woman in the water, the water won’t be the only thing that gets her really wet.

•Strap on dildos are popular among lesbian couples but they can also be really useful for heterosexual couples as well. Having your woman strap on a dildo and give you anal penetration can be a way to change up the power in the bedroom and to experience something new. Of course, this tip isn’t for everyone as most men are uncomfortable with the idea of anal penetration. If you are up for it and willing to experience something new, and extremely pleasurable for men, then try this. You might be surprised how much you enjoy it and how much pleasure it gives your woman also.

•Rather than always using these forms of bondage on your woman, let her use them on you as well. Sex toys are effective when used in various settings. Women are often known as being more adventurous and tend to explore more in the bedroom with different toys but don’t become one of those men who isn’t open to exploration. You need to keep a healthy balance of exploration in your relationship and especially in the bedroom or things are going to become extremely routine and very mundane. It’s time that you bucked up and became a trooper in the bedroom. Who knows, maybe you end up really enjoying it and wanting it more.

Now, when you and your woman are about to get it on or you are expecting something to go down to night, quickly grab this chapter and give it a read. Who knows? Maybe one of these tips really comes in handy for you and is just what you need to send your woman over the edge. You might really be able to add to the pleasure that she feels and really drive her wild.

If you don’t feel comfortable with using any of the recommended tips above, then that is okay too. Remember that they were designed for the men who were looking for something that challenged them or pushed their boundaries a bit. If you aren’t down for that yet, then that’s your own decision. You might want to take these tips and put your own spin on them to make them work for you and that is okay too. There are no rules associated with sex so make your own.