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Chapter 4

The Female Orgasm

Stimulation Techniques Guaranteed to Make Her Come Multiple Times

Now it’s time that we got into the meat and the potatoes of why we are here. You are reading this book because you want to be able to do one thing and that is to make your woman orgasm – plain and simple. You want to finally be able to give her the pleasure that you know she is craving and desperately begging for her. Finally, you want to be able to give her relief and you want to prove to her that you do in fact, know what you are doing in the bedroom. It’s time that you made this happen and that time is tonight.

It is believed that the female orgasm is far more powerful than the male orgasm. Women have longer lasting orgasms that send chills all throughout their bodies. The female orgasm hits a woman more internally and the effects last for a longer period of time. However, the most notable difference between the male and female orgasm is the fact that women can have multiple orgasms. The reason is because the female orgasm does not have a refractory period. With the male orgasm, men need that time to rebuild their strength and to allow their bodies to recuperate. This gives you some room to work with. You can not only give her one amazing orgasm in a night but you can do it multiple times and really give her something that she won’t soon forget.

Now that you know the back-story on the female orgasm and how it works, it is time that you learned how to make it happen. In order to do this, it is best to break this down in three steps and that would be foreplay, stimulation and leading up to the multiple orgasm. By utilizing these three steps and making them work in succession with each other, you are going to get the results that you are looking for and you are going to blow her mind.

First and foremost, foreplay is crucial. As described in the previous chapter, you need to use foreplay on your woman before you can expect to give her pleasure. Bottom line. Even if you aren’t planning on having sex with her, you need to get foreplay going so you can get her in the mood for orgasm. The more foreplay you can use on her, the better. This is when you want to use some of the foreplay techniques that were previously described. You want to get your woman thinking about pleasure and receiving it. When she starts thinking about sex and pleasure that is how she is going to start becoming aroused. Remember that women are stimulated in a very intellectual way, so by using foreplay on her, you are stimulating her, even if you aren’t touching her g-spot or her clitoris. You need to start thinking like her in the bedroom and thinking about how she receives pleasure. That is how you are truly going to be able to make her orgasm.

One of the biggest tips is to take your time. There is no rush, unless, of course, you and your woman want to have a quickie. However, if you want to pamper her body and to give her something really satisfying, then you cannot rush it. It is not a race and you don’t need to get it out of the way. Get out of this mindset and it will serve you well. Not only will you be able to satisfy your woman in a much better way, you will be able to learn how to savor the moment in the bedroom yourself. Men could use that lesson and learn how to slow things down so by practicing it often, it will change the way you think about sex.

When it comes to stimulation, start slow. Pacing is key. If you rush things she will pick up on it and it will turn her off. Go slow and gradually pick up the pace. Also, if you go too fast, you have a much greater chance of slipping and causing her pain. This is what you want to avoid. When you take your time, you are able to really focus on her body and that is key.

It is best to start stimulation from head to toe, like previously described. Before you aim between her legs, stimulate her by giving her a passionate kiss or by rubbing her nipples. You want to get her aroused and you want her to feel wet before you even begin to touch her down there. Again, this has to do with foreplay. Get her in the mood and have her begging for you. This is what you want.

In terms of the female orgasm, there are two ways that a woman can orgasm and that is from g-spot stimulation or clitoral stimulation. Now, there is a third orgasm a woman can have and that is a double orgasm; a combination of the clitoral and g-spot orgasm. With these different forms of orgasm, you have a lot to work with and you have some room for error. You have a 1 out of 3 chance of making your woman orgasm every single time you touch her and those are pretty good odds when you think about it.

The easiest way to make a woman orgasm is through clitoral stimulation. You are able to give her constant stimulation and that is important for her orgasm. There are many ways that you can stimulate the clitoris, but the best is to use your tongue. When you use your fingers or a vibrator, again, you run the risk of slipping and causing her pain. With the clitoris containing over 8000 nerve endings, it is a very delicate and sensitive spot on her body. The last thing you want to do is to do something wrong that is going to cause her some pain. Your tongue is great to use on her clitoris because it is a fine balance between rough and soft. You are able to be gentle with her by using the tip of your tongue to lick gently, and then you are also able to use your whole tongue to lick her up and down and to really get her going in the bedroom. You can go slow, you can go fast and you can really mix it up to give her what she needs in order to climax. To help you be even better at giving your woman what she wants in terms of using your tongue, look forward to an entire chapter dedicated to oral sex and everything you’ve ever needed to know.

If you wish to use your fingers or a vibrator on her clitoris, then make sure that you are being really gentle with her. Even if she asks for it harder, you can’t give it to her that much harder because you don’t want to over stimulate her and cause her discomfort. If you are going to use your fingers to stimulate her clitoris, be really gentle and soft. Try petting her clitoris rather than rubbing it. If you can get this motion in your mind, it’ll force you to be gentler with her and that will help you out in the long run. There are many vibrators that you can use on her to get her going through clitoral stimulation. There are mini bullets that are compact and easy to use and there are also vibrators with soft brushes on the end to really get her clitoris going.

When it comes to g-spot stimulation to bring your woman to orgasm, this is something that a lot of men have a lot of difficulty with. First and foremost, men have a hard time locating the g-spot for stimulation in the first place. That is because no g-spot is the same on every woman. Every woman is unique in this regard. For some women, the g-spot is located 1-2 inches inside of the vagina on the wall adjacent to the stomach, while some women have it closer to the entrance or farther away. Some women’s g-spots are even off centre or smaller than described. This can make it really challenging for men and adds to the pressure of the situation. Men already feel an enormous amount of pressure when they are trying to bring a woman to orgasm, so being unable to locate the g-spot really hurts a man’s self esteem.

The best way to not only locate the g-spot and to stimulate it in a way that will really get your woman going, is to get her aroused before. As previously described, you want to get your woman really aroused far before you touch her. That way, your job is made so much easier. You don’t have to get her wet and lubricated and once a woman is excited, her body starts to swell up – her clitoris becomes engorged with blood and easier to locate and so does her g-spot. When you do enter her with your fingers, you have a much easier time locating the spot once she is aroused. You should be able to feel a small, spongy bump and that is the g-spot. There are many ways to stimulate it that are not limited to just your fingers. Not only can you use your magical digits, but you can also use so many toys designed specifically to stimulate her in the right way. A lot of men don’t want to use sex toys because they feel as though they can be somewhat emasculating, but wouldn’t you rather make your woman orgasm with a toy then being down there forever and being unable to satisfy her? For more on sex toys, keep your eyes peeled for an upcoming chapter solely catered to sex toys.

Now, for the grand finale - If you really want to give your woman an orgasm that is going to blow her mind and be the best that she has ever had, you have to combine everything you just learned. You have to stimulate both the clitoris and the g-spot at the same time. This may sound difficult but it is made relatively easy when you use the right approach. The easiest way to make this happen is to perform cunnilingus on her. When you go down and use oral sex to stimulate her, you have far more control. You already learned that the best way to stimulate her clitoris is with your tongue since it is the best combination between rough and gentle. Pair that stimulation with your fingers on her g-spot or some sort of a vibrator and you are guaranteed to give her insane, out of this world pleasure.

Remember that the most important piece of advice when bringing a woman to orgasm is patience. The second she can tell that you are frustrated or annoyed is when she loses it completely. Women are so in touch with their surroundings and emotions really play into how they receive pleasure. If you want to give her something that is going to leave her speechless and gasping for air, you have to take your time. Slow and steady wins the race.

You are giving her stimulation for HER, not for YOU. If you are trying to give a woman an orgasm for some sort of sexual gratification for yourself, then you are doing it for all of the wrong reasons and you are going to get what you asked for. If you want to please her because you want to see how good it feels for her, then follow these steps, be patient and you will reap the benefits.

Chapter 5

The Female Ejaculating Orgasm

How to Make Your Woman Squirt in Seconds

Now that you have an idea of how to make a woman orgasm, it is time that you took things a step further. Not only do you want to be able to give your woman pleasure, but also you want to do it in a way that is going to drive her absolutely wild. You want to have her begging for more, screaming your name and shaking with pleasure. If you want to be the best that she has ever had in her life or that she ever will have again, then you need to learn all about the female ejaculating orgasm.

The female ejaculating orgasm is easily the most powerful orgasm a woman can have. It forces her whole body to undergo this euphoric sense of pleasure and a woman literally cannot control herself as her body is going through this. All she can do is close her eyes, bite her lip and let her body surge with pleasure that is indescribable. Wouldn’t you want to be held responsible for putting your woman in a full-on body coma like this?

This is a fantasy that almost all men have. Every man not only wants to give his woman pleasure, but every man wants to make his woman squirt. This is because this is the holy grail of all orgasms and men feel like if they can make it happen, then they are a pro in the bedroom. Not only do you give your woman an orgasm that she will literally never forget, but you also want to feel like the man in the bedroom. You want to feel like you are the best that she has ever had or that she will ever have again. You want to be the man and it’s time that you made this happen.

In order to master the female ejaculating orgasm and to learn how to make your woman squirt in seconds, there are several things that you need to learn before you can even begin to attempt it. You need to fill your brain with all sorts of information and truly become the source of knowledge for this orgasm. That way, everything else becomes secondary and you can just focus on giving it to her.

The first thing to know about the squirting orgasm is how it works. You need to learn the mechanics behind it because that is how you are going to make it happen for your woman. If you have no idea how it works, where it comes from or how to bring it on, then how are you going to expect to please her in this way? You can’t which is why you need to fill your brain with all of this information.

The female ejaculation is different than the g-spot orgasm or the clitoral orgasm. It is its own entity but it requires stimulation from both the g-spot and the clitoris in order to happen. Another important thing to keep in mind for this orgasm is that a woman doesn’t actually squirt out of her vagina. When she does ejaculate, it is from the same place where she expels urine. The ejaculate is a water-based excrement that has nothing to do with urine. It just comes out of the same area.

Now that you know a bit about the mechanics of the female ejaculating orgasm, it’s time you learned how to make it happen for your woman and how you can give one to her tonight. If you want to be the best lover that she has ever had and be the only man that she wants to be with again, then you MUST learn how to make this happen for her and you MUST learn how to make it happen tonight.

The easiest way to learn how to make a woman squirt is to follow a step-by-step guide so you ensure that you are always doing things properly and in the best way possible. If you were to even miss the smallest step, you might cut down your chances of making your woman experience the female ejaculating orgasm and you want to avoid that. For your convenience and to help you on your journey to making your woman have this holy grail orgasm, here is the only step-by-step guide that you need to follow.

As always and as you have learned earlier, it is best that you start off with some sort of a foreplay technique to get your woman in the mood. You can’t dive right in and expect to get her off. It isn’t going to happen. Especially with the female ejaculating orgasm, foreplay is a must. You have to get her in the mood both mentally and physically. If you do not, then you can’t expect to please her in the way that you want. Foreplay is crucial as you learned earlier, so it has to be your first step.

Start off slow with foreplay and gradually work your way up. Start off with small kisses and growing into more passionate kisses. Start off with stimulation of the clitoris and then once she is wet, you can enter your fingers into her body and start stimulation of the g-spot. Once your woman is wet and ready, that is when you can start g-spot stimulation. If she isn’t there yet, don’t start anything. You won’t get the results that you are after.

The main focus of stimulation for the ejaculating orgasm is g-spot stimulation. You have to rub and stroke this spot on her body if you want to make her gush with pleasure. This is where a lot of men get nervous because a lot of men assume that they don’t know where the g-spot is and that they don’t know how to touch a woman properly there. You have to believe in yourself and your abilities. Confidence is key here and it is time that you showed some. You already know where the g-spot is located so you don’t have to be reminded of that and you already learned how to stimulate it in such a way that is going to make your woman orgasm. So what is the difference here to make a woman ejaculate? Here is what you need to do:

The biggest step to remember when trying to make a woman have a squirting orgasm is that you have to make her want it. You can give your woman all of the stimulation in the world and totally drive her wild with pleasure, but if she doesn’t let go and if she continues to hold on, then you aren’t going to make her squirt. A lot of women hold back because this orgasm feels a lot like urination in the beginning. When women are being stimulated on the g-spot, they start to feel that sensation like they have to urinate, so women hold it back and don’t let it go through. They don’t push it through because they don’t want to make fools out of themselves. This is something that you and your woman have to communicate about. You have to get her in the right mindset and you have to make her want to experience this orgasm. The best way that you can do this is to reassure her constantly that you don’t care what happens. If she ends up urinating, then so be it, but tell her that you would rather that happen than have her holding back. If you can convince her to let go and to just go with the flow on what is happening to her body and what she is experiencing, then you can give her this orgasm.

Once she is in the mood and ready to go, the best way to attack this is to start with some clitoral stimulation that was described above. Not only does this get her lubricated and ready, but it also engorges the g-spot and makes it easier to detect. So now you have your woman dripping wet with anticipation and when you do enter her body, you are able to find the g-spot immediately.

The best way to go about stimulation for the ejaculating orgasm is to use a sex toy. Men need to get over their fear with sex toys and being replaced by them. Think of using a sex toy as using an adapter for your body. Let’s face it – there are things that toys can do that men just aren’t able to do. That doesn’t mean that you aren’t good enough. If you use a toy and are confident with it, you can really please your woman and make her feel so good. Use a sex toy designed for g-spot stimulation so you can really get in there and make her feel something amazing. Combine that with your fingers stimulating her clitoris and you are bound to make her squirt. You can also switch this up because a lot of men have difficulty finding the right balance between rough and soft when it comes to clitoral stimulation. If you find yourself having this type of difficulty, then maybe you need to switch it up and use your fingers inside of her and a vibration device on her clitoris. No matter what you do, just make sure you are incorporating both forms of stimulation on your woman if you really want to get her going.

Now, be prepared for the unexpected. Your woman might urinate or she might squirt. She might squirt a little or she might squirt a lot. It is a wise idea to have many towels handy and to even lay towels down on the bed. You just want to be prepared and the more prepared you are, the more comfortable she will be. As she comes close to squirting, you may have to stop clitoral stimulation and focus on g-spot stimulation or for some women, you have to stop g-spot stimulation and focus on clitoral. She will let you know what she needs to give her that extra push to make her squirt. Her screams are going to get very high pitched and her body is going to seize up. That is how you will know that she is close and that you better be prepared for the water works show.

If you can give your woman this kind of orgasm, it will not only blow your mind but it will also blow hers. You are going to give her an insane amount of pleasure that she will never forget again. That is how you solidify yourself as being the best and as being the only man who has ever satisfied her in that way before. If you don’t make it happen for your woman right off the bat, don’t get discouraged. Remember that women are sensitive to emotion and energy in the bedroom. If you are frustrated that you aren’t making this work, she is going to pick up on that and she is going to get turned off. You don’t want her to feel this way so you need to keep it together, stay focused and most of all have fun.