Scholars who discussed passionate love sometimes pointed out the following paradox: the beloved’s wish was not to be with his lover
(al-mah
bu
b muri
d li-al-fira
q; al-fira
q mura
d al-maʿshu
q),
and the true lover was supposed to adopt the wishes of the beloved, hence a true lover ought not to wish to be with his beloved.
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This was indeed a paradoxical conclusion. Composers of love poetry regularly expressed their unhappiness at being separated from the beloved, and their hope for a future “lover’s union”
(wis
a
l).
The poet could also allude to such “lover’s unions” in the past, by way of contrasting past bliss with present suffering. However, such “unions” were not—in this particular genre of poetry—explicitly portrayed as sexual. Indeed their chaste nature was often emphasized. The Damascene poet Ahmad al-Kaywa
ni
(d. 1760), for instance, stated:
For there was no
wis
a
l
except talk, and promises, and kisses.
Our chastity is by character, not from fear of censor or blame.
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