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so that they can be identified and constructively critiqued. Moreover, this perspective not only acknowledges the sexual diversity among women but also recognizes, to use Teresa de Lauretis's term, the diversity "within" women,
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since one story from one woman may not be all there is to tell about her.
On the other hand, not every, if any, story of her sexual life will be one that a woman will want to tell. A feminist philosophy of sex from the "view from somewhere different" also recognizes that sex means discrete and very private conduct for many women who would reject the feminist assertion that the personal is political. Some women who subscribe to the feminist claim that pornography and prostitution are patriarchal institutions in the business of subordinating women to men may still wish to make their own sexual activity a nonpolitical event. In addition, a feminist philosophy of sex from the "view from somewhere different" should remind us that both distinct and overlapping boundaries exist in our descriptions and evaluations of sex. When does sexual pleasure stop and pain begin? Is consensual sadomasochistic sex between husband and wife "good'' sex or "bad"? In a patriarchal society in which heterosexual sex is commonly used to dominate women, does the very personal nature of any sex require a political interpretation? With help from the "view from somewhere different," the chapters that follow will allow us to examine these types of questions in more detail.
In the beginning of this section I noted that the subject investigated by a feminist philosopher both influences and is influenced by the particular sexual experience, preference, and desires of the philosopher herself. Specifically, the social location that informs my own feminist philosophical inquiry into women's sexuality is that of a white, middle-class, married, educated, forty-something, heterosexual woman; and I live in a Western industrialized culture inhabited by women whose gender is still a barrier to equitable employment and political power. The dialectical nature of the relation between gender and sexuality often translates being a woman into being the victim of both violent and subtle forms of sexual intimidationintimidation that is a systemic and structural feature of the patriarchal world in which women live. A feminist philosopher of sex who is located in such a culture and who subscribes to the "view from somewhere different" recognizes that she is the member of a gendered class which is often identified primarily, if not solely, by women's sexual accessibility to men and for which that very identification is often a central vehicle for the exploitation, harassment, and abuse of women.
Under these constraints, racism, classism, and homophobia are real and compelling concerns for women who are already gender-oppressed. Indeed, many women of color argue that feminism will never be a priority for them if related social oppressions are not addressed with the same energy and commitment as that given to feminism. Some women of color eschew feminist activism altogether because they believe that other social oppressions take priority and because they believe that feminist gains are gains for white, middle-class women, not women of color. A feminist philosopher of sex must address the question of whether developing new ways for thinking and talking about sex is relevant to liberating women oppressed by overwhelming poverty or racial prejudice.
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Yet no matter what our race or ethnicity, women in Western culture are bombarded by feminine images defined by an extremely narrow range of acceptable criteria of beauty. It is a culture where a woman's
 
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sexual allure is typically equated with physical beauty, the commercial imagery of which is defined by Naomi Wolf as "beauty porn." Because being openly sexy is often interpreted in such a culture as a woman's consent to men's sexual aggression against her, women who want to be physically attractive to men run the risk of being blamed for their own sexual abuse.
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A feminist philosopher of sex who adopts the "view from somewhere different" recognizes this oppressive environment and seeks to expose its injustices in an effort to effect change. At the same time, a feminist philosopher of sex who adopts the "view from somewhere different" acknowledges that progress toward sexual self-definition and sexual agency is as much a feminist goal as progress away from sexual victimization. Thus, from this perspective it is understood that there are many women for whom the equation of beauty with sex appears to open doors to personal liberation instead of closing them or for whom the concept of an institutionalized patriarchy mistakes individual injustices perpetrated by men for a universal male conspiracy.
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A feminist philosopher who adopts the "view from somewhere different" recognizes that feminist theorizing comes in many forms, each of which has a part to play in the lives of women for whom that theory resonates. She also remembers that theory cannot take the place of listening to individual women's socially situated stories as a means of helping each woman discover the meaning and value of the erotic in her life. How to respond in a caring and constructive way to so many voices with such different erotic needs is one of the challenges explored in this book.
In summary, a feminist philosophy of sex that adopts the "view from somewhere different" is a philosophy of sex that locates a framework for understanding women's sexuality within a contextual and dialectical relation between gender and sexuality. The context of investigation is dependent on the social relations that locate the subjects investigated. The context of the investigator is discovered through her particular social location. To say that a woman's social location situates the discourse is to say that the injustices I have described are historical, contextual, and particular to individual women. However, to say that a woman's sexual subordination is relative to time and place is not to suggest that the demand for her sexual liberation has no moral or political force. To situate injustice within the particular social relations that constitute women's oppression is nonarbitrary in the same way that situating gender is nonarbitrary within Alcoff's matrix of practices, habits, and discourses. One can argue for better treatment of women within the specific context of a patriarchy that distorts, marginalizes, or appropriates women's sexuality, by detailing the individual misrepresentations within that context and composing strategies that can be used to enhance each woman's sexual experience. A feminist philosophy of sex that adopts the "view from somewhere different" asks new questions about women's sexuality and answers many of the old questions in new ways. But feminists cannot argue that the results of their research are "true." To quote Linda Alcoff,
[B]eing a "woman" is to take up a position within a moving historical context and to be able to choose what we make of this position and how we alter this context. From the perspective of that fairly determinate though fluid and mutable position, women can themselves articulate a set of interests and ground a feminist politics. [However], [t]he concept and the position of women is not ultimately undecidable or arbitrary. It is simply not possible to interpret our society in such a way that women have more power or
 
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equal power relative to men. The conception of woman that I have outlined limits the constructions of woman we can offer by defining subjectivity as positionality within a context.
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A feminist philosopher of sex who adopts the "view from somewhere different" can argue that achieving sexual agency and self-definition for women requires freeing women from their social location within a sexually oppressive context, Alcoff's "positionality within a context," by
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positioning women within a context that is more representative of their conceptions of themselves as sexual beings. This repositioning requires a safe place where women can tell the varied stories of their sexual lives, and it requires others who are willing to listen and share their stories. The repositioning of women's sexuality requires us to be critical of both our own and others' quick condemnations of alternative sexual preferences and wary of easy solutions to the problem of women's sexual subordination. It requires us to recognize that sex is a topic that many people, including philosophers of sex, approach with ignorance, anxiety, and fear.
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Such an approach will tend to cloud the advantages of the relatively destabilizing "view from somewhere different," enticing us with the secure moral platitudes of the ''view from somewhere better" or the "view from nowhere." Echoing Sandra Harding's feminist destabilization in philosophy of science, we must remain confident that the destabilization in our thinking about women's sexuality will advance our understanding more effectively than restabilizations of it.
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The following chapters explore what it means to destabilize prevailing claims about women's sexuality.
 
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In Hot Pursuit of Sexual Liberation:
Should a Woman Be Promiscuous?
Overview
In a contemporary era dominated by fears of debilitating and often deadly sexually transmitted diseases, it is not uncommon to regard promiscuous sex as dangerous sex. Promiscuous sex evokes visions of sex with many different partners, and sex with many different partners in an era of AIDS is believed to be incautious at best, morally reprehensible at worst, since the virus that causes Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome can be transmitted undetected and so passed from partner to partner unnoticed. This condemnation of sexual promiscuity ironically comes at a time when the use of available and effective contraception can mitigate the once onerous fear of pregnancy, and when Western society as a whole has become more accepting than it was fifty years ago, if only grudgingly so, of premarital sex, with its potential for multiple, uncommitted partners. Yet despite these changes in our sexual attitudes, in an era of AIDS, promiscuous sex continues to be regarded as dangerous sex, to be approached, regardless of differences of opinion on sexual liberation, with an obvious and natural caution.
For women, the pleasures of promiscuity promised by the postwar sexual revolution have been complicated by much more than the fear of AIDS. While their increased economic independence and reproductive choice have given many middle-class women the freedom to pursue sex outside of marriage, this freedom has not come without its price. In a society that has increasingly liberated men as well as women from the confines of marital sex, many men have less incentive to take re-

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