How to Make Love All Night (and Drive Your Woman Wild) (And Drive a Woman Wild : Male Multiple Orgasm and Other Secrets for Prolonged Lovemaking) (18 page)

This dilemma is making the whole experience a lot less pleasurable for Daniel. The first few minutes of sex were pure excitement, but now he is worried and conflicted. It is hard to enjoy sex when you’re fighting your own body. Truth is, you really
can’t
enjoy sex when you’re fighting your own body. And neither can your partner.

What Daniel does not yet know is that he has another option:
male multiple orgasm
. The multiorgasmic 7

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man has staying power. He doesn’t have to hold back. He doesn’t have to fight his own body and deny himself his own pleasure. He can enjoy all of the erotic sensations of intercourse, have a full orgasm,
and keep going!
If he wishes, he can have a second orgasm,
and keep going!
He can last as long as his partner wishes, experience all of the excitement and release,
and keep going!
For the multiorgasmic man, the sky is truly the limit.

Daniel is not the only man who has this exciting option.

Today, techniques have been perfected to make male multiple orgasm an option for almost
every man!
Age doesn’t matter.

Previous experience doesn’t matter. Young or old, virgin or veteran, all you need is the desire, your penis, and a few minutes a day. So don’t stop now. Turn the page and cross the threshold into a whole new sense of your own sexuality and a whole new relationship for you and your partner.

Some of the exercises in this book involve orgasm. Having an orgasm increases your heart rate. If you have a heart condition or
any other serious medical condition, please consult your physician
before beginning this or any other exercise program
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C H A P T E R O N E

MAKING FANTASY A

REALITY

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very woman dreams of being with a lover whose passion is so intense and body is so strong that he can last and last and last. Every man wants to be able to fulfill those dreams.

He wants to know that he can have intercourse for as long as he wishes, bringing his partner to climax after climax. It certainly sounds wonderful, but is it possible?

You are about to learn the secrets of male multiple orgasm.

By the time you have completed this book, your understanding of sexual potential and sexual power will be changed forever. You will learn how to prolong lovemaking for as long as you and your partner desire. Men will learn how to master their own bodies. They will learn how to have complete, powerful orgasms without losing their erections, and how to have multiple orgasms—two, three, or even more—just like a woman.

I know that this may be hard to believe. It’s hard to imagine that such sexual powers could exist for
anyone
. Maybe for a twenty-year-old with unlimited energy or some yogi with extraordinary abilities, or maybe at the beginning of a torrid love affair, if you should be so lucky. But not for your average guy. No, for most normal men with normal sexual equipment, it seems like making love all night whenever you want—no matter how long you’ve been married or how old you are—is a fantasy. Until today. Today, everything is going to change; today, those fantasies are going to come true.

In this book, I’m going to teach men how to explore and enjoy their sexuality in ways they may not have believed possible. I’m going to prove to

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you that male multiple orgasm is not just part of some romance writer’s imagination, but an easily attainable reality.

You are going to discover how a multiorgasmic man can offer his partner a level of pleasure and fulfillment more intense than either one of them could have ever hoped for.

The ability to control one’s penis—to literally stay up all night—is not the exclusive domain of Eastern masters. There are plenty of men who have already learned to control their erections in ways you would find hard to imagine. These men can have multiple orgasms without losing their erections (two orgasms, three orgasms, or even more if they choose).

They drive their women wild hour after hour, night after night. They’re doing it right now—and they’ll still be doing it long after you’ve gone to sleep.

These men are not sexual supermen. They are normal, average guys. Some are young, some are old, some are tall, some are small, some are thin, some are overweight, some are bashful, and some are bold. Some have large penises, some have small penises, some have thick penises, and some have slender penises. Some have sex once a week, and some have sex almost every day. The only thing these men all have in common is the desire to please themselves and pleasure their partners, and the discipline to master a simple technique.

I know over two hundred of these men personally. They are not friends or lovers, but they are men who have learned the secrets of male multiple orgasm and staying power at the various therapy clinics where I have worked. Over the past ten

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years, I have had the opportunity to train more than one hundred of these men, one on one, from start to finish. The rest are men whose training and progress I have been at least partially involved with through my clinical work.

What I’m trying to say, without sounding intimidating or otherwise off-putting, is that I have seen many men become multiorgasmic and increase their staying power. And there is something extremely important you need to know before you read any further:
I have never met a motivated man who
couldn’t master the techniques that lead to male multiple orgasm.

Never
. I
know
that every man who reads this book and follows the exercises I describe can master these techniques too.

If you are a woman reading this book, extraordinary surprises and unimaginable pleasures await you. Whether you choose to work with your partner as he learns these techniques, or be a supportive bystander, your understanding of what it means to be intimate with a man is about to be redefined forever.

If you are a man reading this book, you are about to enter into a new relationship—a new and exciting relationship with your own penis. You will never be the same. The payoffs are unlimited—payoffs for you, payoffs for your partner, and payoffs for your relationship. By the time you finish this book and complete the simple exercises I describe, you
will
be a changed man. After you’ve had your first multiple orgasm, you won’t believe you waited this long, but you will believe in yourself and in the power of your own sexuality.

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What Makes Me Such an Expert?

I know more about men’s penises than most men do. It’s my job. I’m a sex therapist.

I’m also a former sex surrogate. A female sex surrogate is someone who teaches men how to control and improve their sexual performance and enjoy their own sexuality.

To be a sex surrogate you have to know men and you have to know men’s penises. Truth is, you have to know men’s penises better than most men do. Sure, the typical man knows what he likes and dislikes, he knows his strengths and weaknesses, and he may even be keenly aware of his fears and what he believes to be his limitations. But from where I sit, this awareness is very limited. When you work with hundreds of men, you see things that no one man could ever see for himself. You recognize how easy it is for a man to have sexual tunnel vision because of the limitations of his own experience. You also realize how different men are, and how much there is to learn from the experiences of other men.

I Know What Men Can Do and I Know What Women Want

I have made the study of human sexual response my life’s work. I know what the average man’s
true
capabilities are, and believe me, they are far more than you could ever imagine.

I know what women want too because I’m not just a sex therapist—I’m also a woman. I understand how a woman feels when she’s in bed with

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someone she loves. On a professional basis, I’ve listened to countless women talk about their lovemaking. But even more revealing in some ways are the hours I have spent talking about sex with women friends, all of us letting our hair down and telling the truth about what we like and what we want.

Even a woman who loves a man very deeply can feel frustrated and unfulfilled by his sexual limitations. Unfortunately, many women equate sex with compromise and sacri-fice. Few women regularly experience the kind of lovemaking they dream of, and even fewer believe it’s actually possible.

That’s the bad news. The good news is that this is about to change.

If you are a woman looking for more satisfaction from your partner and more understanding for yourself, I’m going to teach you everything you and your partner need to know about male multiple orgasm. If you are a man who is reading this book, I want you to think of me as a personal train-er—someone who can teach you the techniques and exercises that will change everything you have ever believed about sex.

Can We Talk?

Remember that big “talk” you had about sex with your dad when you were just a kid? Who could forget it? It was probably one of the most awkward moments of your child-hood, right? Sure he did the best he could, but you probably were left to fill in a whole lot of gaps by yourself. Well, it’s time for another talk. This time,
you
and
I
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listen too. I’m not going to pull any punches here. When it comes to sex, there are a lot of things most people just don’t know. I’m not talking about sexual trivia—I’m talking about the critical things that stop most people from ever having a truly fulfilling sex life.

Please don’t get insulted. I know that you know a lot about sex. Everyone does, whether they want to or not. After all, it’s a subject that’s hard to avoid in the nineties. Turn on the TV, plug in the radio, open a book, go to the movies, flip through a magazine…what do you see? Sex, sex, sex. From Howard Stern to Melrose Place, from Donahue to pay-per-view, we’re getting educated by osmosis. But that doesn’t mean it’s a very
good
education.

Knowing a lot about sex is not the same as being sexually fulfilled. Knowing a lot about sex doesn’t always change what happens in the bedroom. No matter how much you’ve heard, read, and seen, sex can still feel like the greatest mystery in the world. No one likes to feel insecure about something as important as sex, but the truth is, at some point everyone feels as though everyone else on the planet is making love more often and more exquisitely than they are.

Sometimes it feels as though all of this sexual education has only made us more unsure.

It’s time to change all that and start filling in all of those gaps once and for all. I couldn’t think of a better place to start than learning about male multiple orgasm, which will change everything you ever thought you knew about sex. In fact, it will change everything. Period. It certainly did for me and for the many men and women with whom I’ve worked. I’m sure it will for you too.

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Two Men Who Changed My Understanding of Male Sexuality

Male multiple orgasm. Wow! What a concept. I’ll never forget how skeptical I felt when I first heard about it back in 1980.

It was my second week of “basic training” for sexual surrogates at the Riskin-Banker Psychotherapy Center in Tustin, California.

Sex therapy is an important area of specialization at Riskin-Banker, and part of their therapeutic work involves the use of surrogates, both male and female. As it turns out, two of the male surrogates who worked there at the time were both capable of achieving multiple orgasm. On certain occasions, they actually used these techniques during work with their female clients.

If I hadn’t actually known these two men personally, I might have never believed such a thing was possible. Sure, I knew all about multiple orgasm in women. But men? How could men have multiple orgasms? I had a million questions that needed answering. As I listened to each of these men talk in detail about their unusual abilities, I knew that my understanding of male sexuality was about to change radically and permanently.

By the time my training was complete, I had all the proof of male multiple orgasm I ever needed. Since then I have spent most of my time working hard with other clinicians and clients to develop and perfect a variety of techniques that any man or couple could practice in the comfort of their own home. Today, I want to share those techniques with you. Why? Because I care about relationships and I care about sex. We need to have good sex in our relationships.

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Good sex brings us closer together. It strengthens intimacy and cements the bond. It can even save a marriage. We can’t try to hide from this. Quite the contrary—we need to do everything we can to celebrate the importance of a rich sexual connection.

Are You Ready for a Change Too?

Is the possibility of a truly exciting sex life the kind of news you’ve been waiting for, or does it all sound too good to be true? For some people, the concept of male multiple orgasm seems perfectly logical, but to others, it may seem somewhat unnatural, or even downright impossible.

If you’re feeling a bit skeptical or uneasy right now, that’s normal. It has to be somewhat disconcerting to think we don’t know such a vital piece of sexual information. But as any good sex therapist will confirm for you, new sexual techniques are being developed all the time as we discover more about our bodies and our sexual capabilities. These new discoveries can be intimidating at first, but ultimately they’re very good news for all of us.

So relax if you can and try to be as open as possible. Believe me, even if you have your doubts right now, they won’t last.

I’m not here to teach you theory, but to deliver the goods.

By the time you have finished the exercises in this book, I know you will be a believer, with all the proof you ever need right in your own hands. Literally.