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labels on them that limit you from sharing your love with them? What if you could see

them from a new perspective? What if you could actually see them as a pure beautiful

soul, who may have forgotten who they really are and is now trying to find their way in

this world, which is full of extremes and contradictions.

Feel the difference in your body as you begin to experience them from a new per-

spective. In order to have greater compassion, you may need to place yourself in their

shoes and see life from their point of view.

Practice Forgiveness

To love yourself and others unconditionally, you need to practice the art of forgiveness.

Forgive yourself for your imperfections and forgive them theirs. A simple process you

can do is to picture them in front of you and say silently or out loud:

Divine Healing Intelligence, please help me release any feelings of

______________ [insert feelings you have toward this person, which could include

victimhood, anger frustration, resentment, distrust, misunderstanding, hurt, or rejec-

tion] toward ___________ [insert person’s name].

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Dear __________________________ [insert person’s name], I forgive you for

______________________ [state what you forgive them for]. [If appropriate say]

Please forgive me for ______________ [state what you would like them to forgive

you for].

Divine Love, please sweep through us and cleanse any harmful, negative, or judg-

mental feelings and transform them into understanding, clear communication, deeper

compassion, and unconditional love. Thank you.

Repeat the word “CLEAR” several times until you feel lighter

Release Emotions

Sit with your spine straight. Bring your arms to the level of your heart with your palms

facing your chest. You middle fingers should be touching each other with your other

fingers pointing directly at each other, with your thumbs pointing upwards. Take slow,

deep breaths in, hold your breath for a few moments, and focus on letting go of any

emotional pain and density as you breathe out. Do this for a few minutes.

Heal with Color

Rub your hands together for about a minute, making sure that you rub your palms and

all the fingers against each other. Then hold your hands between 5 to 10 centimeters

apart. You should feel a tingling sensation. Visualize holding a big pink ball of energy.

Focus on this ball of energy and allow it to intensify. Meditate on filling this ball

of energy with the deepest, most Divine unconditional love. Once you feel a sense of

expansion, imagine placing the ball of energy into your heart and allow your heart to

grow and expand with love.

Meditate on Love

Meditate on love every day. Ask yourself regularly: Am I experiencing this situation

from a perspective of fear or love? If I was seeing this person or this event from a

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perspective of love, how would I feel? How would I respond? What actions would

I take?

Be open to connecting to and spending time with people who emanate the energy

of love. The more time you spend with someone who is living their life from a perspec-

tive of unconditional love, the easier it is for you to evolve and access this state yourself.

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How You Can Recognize and Attract

Soul Mates and Twin Souls

I have heard many people talking about soul mates and twin souls.

I want to understand what a twin soul is, and how is it different to a soul mate?

How can a person recognize when they have met their twin soul?

Is there a way to attract a twin soul, or at least prepare to meet them?

Also are there other types of soul mates and what are they?

The subject of soul mates and soul families in the spirit world and in physical

reality is a hugely complex one, about which much has been written. I am con-

stantly exploring this fascinating topic through my personal experiences, workshops,

writing, meditation, and communication with higher guidance. I hope this chapter

stimulates your curiosity and compels you on your own journey to discover more.

The romanticized concept of a soul mate—the ideal lover who, once you meet

them, completes your life in exactly the way you have fantasized it to be—has caused

many people a lot of suffering. This could be due to so many of us waiting for the “per-

fect” partner and feeling disappointed when we meet our soul mates, as it is very rare if

ever that they are able to fulfill the projection of what we desire them to be. Since we

can share various lifetimes with our soul mates, they can play different roles not limited

to just a lover.

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Finding Your Soul Mate

There is no fool-proof process that can lead you to your twin soul or soul mates.

However, the deeper you connect with your own heart and experience your own

wholeness, the more likely you are to attract loving, spiritual, evolved beings into your

life. When you are open and receptive to your Higher Self and Divine Guidance, you

can reconnect with your twin soul without necessarily meeting them in the physical

world. You may experience a strong link with your twin soul for many years before

you meet.

The subject of soul mates is a fascinating one and has given occasion to many ideas

and interpretations. Certain people believe soul mates are people who challenge us the

most, others believe they should be our perfect lovers, some feel they are parts of us and

can come in a variety of forms, sizes, sexes, and ages.

Soul mates can offer incredible support, growth, and opportunities to know our-

selves more intimately, open our hearts, and lead fuller lives. We have several soul mates

that come in and out of our lives. At times, we meet and recognize them, and at other

times, they pass us by.

In romantic relationships, soul mates can be great partners, as there is a lot of

mutual understanding and love. Soul mates feel a deep attraction to, and may

experience, heightened intuition or deep insights about each other. They can often tell

when the other is thinking of them or when something wonderful or challenging has

happened to their soul partner.

Soul mates can also be extremely challenging partners and push every button we

have, exposing our most secret and unprocessed pain. If they are selfish and un-evolved,

they can be virtually impossible to live with. We may feel a deep connection with a soul

mate and be able to communicate on the soul level, but in a human body, the dynamic

can be too explosive and painful.

On the other hand soul mates can offer essential support, be loyal friends and

important teachers who can change the direction and flow of your life. Sometimes they

can come into your life, make a big splash and leave. This can inspire a lot of soul-

searching and strengthen your spiritual stamina. Although it is challenging to let go of

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a soul mate relationship in a physical life, it is important to understand that soul con-

nections are eternal. You may have a very clear agreement with a soul mate to separate

at a particular moment in your life in order to grow and evolve.

Karmic factors and soul agreements play a huge role whether or when you might

meet a soul mate and the nature of the connection.

Soul Groups

From my research and personal experience I believe that our soul mates are people who

come from our soul group in the spirit world. They are souls that travel with us on our

diverse journeys and challenges through a wide variety of lifetimes and experiences and

often evolve at a similar pace. Relationships with soul mates are rich and profound,

imbedded with a deep sense of knowing and loving one another independent of time or

distance.

You may already be aware that you may have a primary soul family in the spirit

world, which is made up of souls who love, support, and look out for each other. Often-

times, they grow, learn, and explore spiritual and physical life at the same pace. Your

primary soul family might have a dozen or fewer members, while your secondary soul

group can consist of hundreds or even thousands of souls. Your parents and siblings are

usually from one of the affiliated soul groups.

There are certain souls in your secondary soul group who you may choose to

explore karmic relationships with over one or several lifetimes. You can also agree

to make short or extensive appearances in each other’s lives and play simple or complex

roles. During past life regressions, many people recognize the souls who have traveled

with them on various journeys in different bodies.

Types of Soul Mates

Below, I am outlining some of the different soul connections to help you recognize

what type of soul connection you may have with a person. There may well be unlimited

types of soul connections; I am sharing the ones I and other people I know personally

have experienced.

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Twin Soul

The twin soul, also known as a twin flame or a primary soul mate, is often referred to as

one of the closest, deepest, and most extraordinary relationships a person can

experience. Some people say that a twin soul is one soul that has split in half; others say

that a twin flame was the last soul you separated from before you became an individual

soul, thus you are always looking for that part of you that was lost. As we have several

soul mates, we can experience similar things with more than one soul mate; however, a

twin soul connection is very specific and quite different to other soul connections.

I share my extraordinary experience with a twin soul, later in this chapter.

Complementary Souls

Complementary souls can at times perfectly balance each other. Together they can be

seen as yin and yang. While yin is feminine, soft, and emotional, yang is fiery, strong,

and masculine. Although they seem like they are opposing, they are also complementary

to each other and assist each other in continuously expanding, growing, and evolving.

They interact within a greater whole and bring out each other’s light and shadow. Each

one contains the essence of the other, thus once they meet, they often feel like they are

one and cannot exist without the other, even though they can.

It is rare for perfectly complementary souls to be on earth at the same time. If they

choose to incarnate together, it is often for the purpose of evolution and to bring

healing and transformation to our planet.

Complementary souls either uplift and encourage or push each other toward expe-

riencing their greatest unprocessed pain and karma. This can lead to an intensely

challenging and profound exploration of the dark night of the soul.

When they meet, they feel a deep connection and know that they will rock each

other’s worlds. The love between them can be so fierce that if they do not communicate

clearly and regularly and find ways to help and support each other through their chal-

lenges, they may sabotage their relationship.

A separation from a complementary soul can be hurtful, traumatic, and agonizing.

Deep seated feelings of abandonment, rejection, and neglect can arise.

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In this case, the opportunity is for each to find wholeness in him or herself, create a

stronger connection to the Divine Source, and bond when the time is right. This could

be at a later stage in the same life, when the complementary souls have grown in wis-

dom or when they meet again in the spirit world.

Split Soul

Split souls are also rare. This means that before incarnating in this life or in your earlier lives,

one soul decided to split into two or more parts in order to lead several lives at once. There

are usually two reasons for this decision. Either a soul has done some questionable, often

harmful deeds in several lives and has decided that it needs to split in order to balance out its

karma, or the soul is quite evolved and believes that it can make a greater impact if it splits.

This kind of connection is quite testing, as you both often experience similar things at the

same time and strongly influence each other, even if you are on opposite sides of the world.