The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio (16 page)

Using Your Mouth and Hands

When she was done teasing me, she leaned down, raised my cock slightly with the hand that had been teasing my balls, and took what felt like my whole cock in her mouth. No licking, no teasing, just one long slide into her hot, wet mouth. It was an incredibly erotic experience, partly because I was so horny, partly because of the contrast between her mouth and the cold air, and partly because it was so smooth and simple.

When you’re ready to put him in your mouth—and he’s
really
ready to be in your mouth—you have a few choices about how you want to switch your oral ministrations into higher gear. Either way, when his penis first makes contact with the heat and wetness that’s inside your mouth, he’s going to feel like he’s gone straight to heaven. Don’t be surprised if you get an appreciative gasp or moan.

Before you wrap your lips around his delicate member, know that the one major rule about blow jobs is to keep your teeth off the playing field at all times. It’s pretty easy to avoid having him hit your molars, but your front teeth (or any rough dental work) can turn an oral outing into a trip he’ll never want to take with you again. Even lightly and imperceptibly, teeth can scrape the thin and sensitive skin of the penis. Cover your front teeth by wrapping your lips over them. You can minimize any discomfort you may feel on the inside of your mouth by keeping your lips slightly tensed or pursed. It’s also good for comfort (and to vary the stimulation he’s getting) to keep your lips on the move. Vary the way you pucker, purse, and wrap your lips as you move him in and out of your mouth and alternate your sucking and kissing. A few men will like the sensation of light nibbling with your teeth or feeling them run feathery-light on their cock—but this is an activity that should be talked about before you try it. Many men will get nervous in all the wrong ways if you rub them with your teeth and they don’t want it.

Needless to say, when you begin to put his penis in your mouth, you aren’t going to begin ramming up and down, as fast as you can—take it slowly. Put him in, then back out, and repeat the process as an intermediate stage of oral foreplay. How you play around with this initial in and out is up to you. When his penis starts making the first dips into your mouth, try choosing among these suggestions:

• You can gradually work in the sensation of going into your mouth, alternating sliding the head just between your lips, and other licks and kisses you’re already doing.

• You can stick your flattened tongue out, hold it perfectly still, and slide him slowly in, then wrap your lips around and apply a little suction.

• Run the tip of the head around your moistened lips (as if it were lipstick), pausing to push him in, around, back in, repeat…

• You can, of course, shove him in suddenly. This works well if you hold still for a few moments after shoving to let the sensation sink in.

• Begin pulling him in with your lips, moving forward and back, but go farther down with each forward motion.

• Try wrapping your hands around his hips or buttocks, with the tip of his cock held in place with your lips. Pull him in and out with these “handles.”

If I gag, I just jack him off for a minute.

At this stage, you’ll be liberally using your hands not only to maintain sensual contact with your partner but also to keep the stimulation going on his penis as your mouth leaves and returns. One or both hands will hold him steady as you put him in and out of your mouth. You can also rely on your hands to stroke him and duplicate your mouth’s movements if your jaw needs a rest. Use your hands to guide his penis, and always keep both hands on him somewhere; hips, butt, stomach, thighs, balls, chest. You can lightly run your fingernails over non-ticklish areas such as his thighs or chest, tease his pubic hair, and stroke or massage the line from belly button to pubic bone. You can also reach up and caress his neck, face, and lips, and some guys love it when you slip a finger or two in their mouth to lick and suck.

The way to deal with big dicks is to use your hand as an extension to your mouth. Lots of saliva. Then keep stroking him and lick his balls. And below his balls. Back up for more sucking, then back down for more ball licking. Perhaps tickle his asshole if he likes that.

The Eyes Have It

One time I asked her to look
at me, and she did so while
continuing to give me head.
I told her how good it felt,
what an incredible turn-on it
was to watch her suck my cock,
and how it was even more of
a turn-on to look into her
eyes while she did so.

We’re visual creatures by nature.
Blow jobs can take this principle to
delirious heights. Since the person
receiving head can watch the action,
why not crank up the volume by
putting on a show? Eye contact is
where it’s at when you want to
heighten the sexual tension.You can
stare intensely into his eyes as you go
at it, or punctuate your activities by
stealing coy glances now and then.

Touching his testicles enhances what you’re doing to his penis, and to the rest of him. The balls are often neglected in oral sex, even though they’re a major pleasure zone. A few men will dislike having them touched at all, but most will appreciate having them included in the fun. Touch them lightly at first; if the response is positive, you can cup and hold them, give light squeezes or tugs, caress them with your fingertips, lift them slightly and hold them still, or reach behind them and massage or stroke his perineum. Prolong these initial stages of having him in your mouth for as long as you want, and remember that the longer you make it last, the more turned on he’ll get.

Whenever I feel horny and want to get off, all I have to do is close my eyes and think back to that day. I can still feel her mouth around my cock and the way she never neglected my balls. It was amazing.

Strokes and Combinations

Her head was bobbing up and down, one of her hands was in my mouth, and the other one was massaging my balls! I mean, I was in ecstasy!

Some people spend years using a single blow job technique on their lovers—and there’s nothing wrong with that, as long as everyone’s ecstatically happy with the results. But not every sexual encounter is the same in tone or duration, and not all men respond overwhelmingly to cookie-cutter oral sex formulas. It’s a good idea to mix it up, and make the blow job match the man and the mood. There are many different strokes and ways to combine them with one another and with the techniques you’ve already learned. Using more than one, and going slowly through a catalog of moves, lends length and body to your session, while giving your lover an outstanding oral sex experience.

The crux of your oral technique is the way you use your hand (or hands) in accompaniment with your mouth. The key to doing this is to use a hand in tandem with your mouth on his shaft, as an extension of your mouth. Wrap one hand around his cock, with your index finger and thumb meeting at the top, and keep these fingers against your lips. Moving up and down with your hand locked to your lips, you make an intensely pleasurable, tight tube for him to slide in and out of. Most men like a firm grip, but not too firm; test your grip on two of your fingers to see how it feels before you get started. If you’re not sure, you can always have him put his hand on yours and show you.

He would take the tip of his tongue, run it along the length of it for a while, very sensually, always varying the pace but never feeling out of rhythm. He also did the one thing I enjoy the most when a man gives me head. He grabbed the base with one hand, grabbed the middle with the other, and then sucked the head while stroking the rest of it with both hands…

Using your hands along with your mouth is an important technique, and it has several beneficial side effects. Besides making your mouth into a pleasurable space that he can slide entirely into, your hands can also enhance his pleasure by moving in different ways or adjusting constriction at any point in your up-and-down motions. And it can provide a way for you to minimize how deep he goes into your mouth, so if you’re concerned about gagging or hip thrusts, you can use your hand as a buffer. If your jaw, neck, or anything else gets sore or tired, you can rest your mouth and keep the stroking and rhythm continuous, not breaking contact. In fact, you can give yourself a stealthy rest by moving back and stroking him while looking at him seductively, and he’ll be none the wiser. Your hand-and-mouth motion comes into play when you “deep throat” him; read about how to do this in chapter 9, “Deep Throat.”

Survey your choices when it comes to strokes and the combinations you can create with other sensations. Pick some and try them in combination to see what he likes; you’ll notice that a particular way you are going down on him will turn him on more. Then begin to focus your energy on the type of stroke he responds to pleasurably, and establish a rhythm. Always keep your upper lip curled protectively over your teeth—a nip at the wrong moment is unsettling. When he starts to respond to a particular technique, you’ll begin your rhythm. Establishing a rhythm is your goal, but be sure to stay with each technique you use long enough for him to get used to it. Don’t rush through changing techniques, or change what you do with each stroke—this is frustrating for the recipient, who is trying to focus on arousal and orgasm. The following strokes are your road to rhythm:

• To do the master stroke, the basis for fellatio, keep your hand against your lips, and bob up and down.

• Try long strokes, short, slow strokes, or a rapid in-and-out motion.

• Adjust the pressure in your hand by making it snug for entire strokes, or constrict your grip when you go down to the base of the shaft, or at the head.

• Vary your suction. Increase it for a few strokes, then release. Try using more suction on either up or down strokes.

• Play around with the different ways you can create suction. Try pulling with your lips, by creating a vacuum with your tongue, or pulling by constricting your throat. Each way will feel different to him.

• Try using no suction at all, with either a tight or a loose hand.

• Hold your mouth still and pump with your hand.

• Pull the foreskin down tightly while only your mouth goes up and down.

• Twist your head as you go up and down. Try it for the length of a whole stroke, or only when you reach the tip. Twist on up or down strokes, or both.

• Twist only your hand, with the same variations.

It stands to reason that once
he’s very aroused and close to
orgasm, he probably won’t
know exactly what you’re
doing; he’ll just know if it feels
good or not. It’s up to you to
remember what worked and
what didn’t.

• Hold still for a moment and squeeze only your mouth and throat in rhythm.

• Experiment with keeping your tongue in constant motion.

• Allow him to make the motion by thrusting his penis in your mouth while you hold still—this is called irrumation.

On Gagging

Touch the back of your tongue with a toothbrush, and you’ll feel that dreadfully familiar involuntary reflex shared by all—you’ll gag. The entire back of the mouth and soft palate are wired with nerves that are auto-programmed to trigger muscular convulsions in your throat when touched, constricting the opening of the throat and sending signals to your stomach to begin a queasy lurch. This is how the body protects itself from choking on oversized objects. We are not serpentine; we cannot unhinge our jaws. Put something bigger than your mouth into your mouth, and you will gag.

Everyone gags at some point during a blow job. It may take several blow jobs or several years of giving them to gain control over your reflex, and even seasoned pros at fellatio gag sometimes. At first it’s unsettling and challenging. Your eyes will water, and your nose may run—some partners find this sexy. But with time, practice, and comfort with oral sex, you can learn to overcome your body’s natural instinct to push back at whatever’s pushing in. No one ever overcomes it completely, but there are techniques that help, and staying cool-headed is important.

I try to deep throat, but my stomach always churns. What I do is take him really deep for one stoke, then not deep for a few, then deep again for one stroke. Guys really love this, and they don’t seem to notice that it’s for only one stroke that they’re really deep.