The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability (40 page)

Gay Sex: A Manual for Men Who Love Men, by Jack Hart (Alyson Publications, 1998).

The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex, by Cathy Winks and Anne Semans (Cleis Press, 2002).

The Good Vibrations Guide to the G-Spot, by Cathy Winks (Down There Press, 1998).

A Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting, by Deborah Addington (Greenery Press, 1998).

His Secret Life: Male Sexual Fantasies, by Bob Berkowitz (Pocket Books, 1998).

The Joy of Solo Sex, by Harold Litten (Factor Press, 1993).

Lesbian Sex, by JoAnn Loulan (Bookpeople, 1984).

Male Erotic Massage: A Guide to Sex and Spirit, by Kenneth Ray Stubbs (Secret Garden, 1999).

The Mother's Guide to Sex, by Anne Semans and Cathy Winks (Three Rivers Press, 2001).

Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know, by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams Arava (Harper San Francisco, 1997).

My Secret Garden: Women's Sexual Fantasies, by Nancy Friday (Pocket Books, 1998).

The New Male Sexuality: Revised Edition, by Bernie Zilbergeld (Bantam Doubleday Dell, 1999).

Pleasure and Danger: Exploring Female Sexuality, ed. by Carole Vance (Rivers Oram Press, 1993).

Public Sex: The Culture of Radical Sex, by Pat Califia (Cleis Press, 2000).

Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving, by Betty Dodson (Crown Publishers, 1996).

Susie Sexpert's Lesbian Sex World, by Susie Bright (Cleis Press, 1999).

Trust: A Guide to the Sensual and Spiritual Art of Handballing, by Bert Herrman (Alamo Square Press, 1991).

The Ultimate Guide to Adult Videos: How to Watch Adult Videos and Make Your Sex Life Sizzle, by Violet Blue (Cleis Press, 2003).

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The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men, by Bill Brent (Cleis Press, 2002).

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, by Tristan Taormino (Cleis Press, 1997).

The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus, by Violet Blue (Cleis Press, 2002).

The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio, by Violet Blue (Cleis Press, 2002).

The Whole Lesbian Sex Book, by Felice Newman (Cleis Press, 1999).

Women on Top: How Real Life Has Changed Women's Sexual Fantasies, by Nancy Friday (Pocket Books, 1993).

Online

Clean Sheets

www.cleansheets.com

A great place to go for online erotic writing, Clean Sheets was founded in

1998 by a small group of writers who dreamed of an online erotic magazine

that didn't take itself too seriously, but still did its best to be fresh, clear, and

exciting.

Scarlet Letters

www.scarletletters.com

One of the longest-running, women-owned, women-run, sex-positive

webzines on the Internet, Scarlet Letters offers fiction and nonfiction writing,

discussion forums, and plenty of art—all dealing with gender and sexuality

from a "sex-positive" perspective.

Sexuality at About.com

http://sexuality.about.com

A site with essays and links to other sites offering a lot of "sex education" style

information. This site contains an excellent essay by Linda Mona about sex

and disability. It also has message boards and chat.

Society for Human Sexuality

www.sexuality.org

One of the best places to start any search for sex information online. It has

articles reviewing sex toys, books, and dating services, as well as links to all

sorts of sex-positive resources online. SHS sponsors events occasionally, mostly

in the Seattle area.

Organizations

International Professional Surrogates Association (IPSA)

An organization that refers therapists and clients to surrogate partners who

have been trained by the organization. While they are not affiliated with any

professional college, the association maintains ethical guidelines and offers free

information and referrals to both clients and therapists.

IPSA

PO. Box 4282

Torrance, CA 90510

http://members.aol.com/ipsa1/home.html

[email protected]

The Sexual Freedom Coalition

BCM Box Lovely

London VVC1N 3XX UK

www.sfc.org.uk/default.htm

[email protected]

A British organization devoted to reforming "Britain's silly old sex laws." Its

events often act as fundraisers for The Outsiders, and the organization is highly

inclusive of disability.

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Sexuality: Health and Safer Sex

Print

The Black Women's Health Book: Speaking for Ourselves, ed. by Evelyn White (Seal Press, 1994).

The Clitoral Truth, by Rebecca Chalker (Seven Stories Press, 2000).

The Go Ask Alice Book of Answers: A Guide to Good Physical Sexual, and Emotional Health, by Columbia University's Health Education Program (Owl Books, 1998).

The New Ourselves, Growing Older: Women Aging With Knowledge and Power, by Diana Laskin Siegal, Paula Brown Doress-Worters, and Wendy Sanford (Touchstone Books, 1994).

New View of a Woman's Body, by Federation of Feminist Women's Health Centers (Feminist Health Press, 1991).

Our Bodies, Ourselves for the New Century: A Book by and for Women, by The Boston Women's Health Book Collective (Touchstone Books, 1998).

Sexual Pharmacology: Drugs That Affect Sexual Function, by Theresa Crenshaw and James Goldberg (Norton, 1996).

Online

The Coalition for Positive Sexuality www.positive.org

A grassroots, direct-action, volunteer group dedicated to providing teens with candid sex education materials. Some of the site is available in Spanish; contains limited disability resources.

Go Ask Alice

www.goaskalice.columbia.edu

Columbia University's health question-and-answer Internet service. A great

place to ask questions and get answers on topics related to sexual health.

Immune Web

www.immuneweb.org

A website for people with fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome, multiple

chemical sensitivities, and other conditions. A good place to go if you have

questions about reacting to ingredients in sex toys.

Latex Information from the Spina Bifida Association of America

www.sbaa.org/html/sbaa_latex.html

Good information and links about latex allergies.

San Francisco Sex Information

www.sfsi.org

Toll-free (877) 472-7374; local tel: (415) 989-7374

A free information and referral switchboard providing anonymous, accurate,

nonjudgmental information about sex. You can call it toll-free from anywhere

in the United States.

Scarleteen

www.scarleteen.com

An excellent web resource providing straightforward sex-positive information

for teens about sexuality and sexual health.

Organizations

American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) A not-for-profit organization that certifies sexuality educators, counselors, and therapists. On request, AASECT will provide a list of certified sexuality therapists in a specific area. Send a self-addressed, stamped envelope to the address below. R O. Box 5488 Richmond, VA 23220 www.aasect.org

For a complete list of HIV/AIDS organizations in Canada contact:

Directory of Disability Organizations in Canada 2002/2003

Canadian Abilities Foundation

340 College St., #650

Toronto, ON, Canada M5T 3A9

(416) 923-1885, fax (416) 923-9829

www.enablelink.org

[email protected]

Note: This directory is also available in many public libraries.

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Ontario Sexuality and Developmental Disability Network c/o SIECCAN

A group of educators who work in the areas of sexuality and developmental

disability.

850 Coxwell Ave.

Toronto, ON, Canada M4C 5R1

Planned Parenthood Federation of America

This not-for-profit organization provides health care services, advocacy, and

educational programs on sexuality issues.

810 Seventh Ave.

New York, NY 10019

(800) 829-PPFA; to contact your local Planned Parenthood, call (800) 230-

PLANorfax(212) 245-1845

www.plannedparenthood.org

Planned Parenthood Federation of Canada

A pro-choice, volunteer organization dedicated to promoting sexual and

reproductive health and rights in Canada as well as in developing countries

1 Nicholas St., #430

Ottawa, ON, Canada K1N 7B7

(613) 241-4474

www.ppfc.ca

Sex Information and Education Council of Canada (SIECCAN) SIECCAN is dedicated to informing and educating both the public and professionals about all aspects of human sexuality, to support the positive integration of sexuality into people's lives. May provide referrals to registered sex therapists.

850 Coxwell Ave. Toronto, ON, Canada M4C 5R1 (416) 466-5304, fax (416) 778-0785 www.sieccan.org Email :[email protected]

Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States (SIECUS) SIECUS's mission is to affirm that sexuality is a natural and healthy part of living; to develop, collect, and disseminate information; to promote comprehensive education about sexuality; and to advocate the right of individuals to make responsible sexual choices. 130 W. 42nd St., Suite 350 New York, NY 10036 (212) 819-9770, fax (212) 819-9776 www.siecus.org [email protected]

Sexuality: Products (Toys, Books, Videos/DVDs)

Print

Good Vibrations: The New Complete Guide to Vibrators, by Joani Blank and Ann Whiden (Down There Press, 2000).

Good Vibrations Guide to Adult Videos, by Cathy Winks (Down There Press, 1998).

The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex, by Cathy Winks and Anne Semans (Cleis Press, 2002).

Sex Toys 101: A Playfully Uninhibited Guide, by Rachel Venning and Claire Cavanah (Fireside, 2003).

Online

WHERE TO BUY SEX TOYS

Hundreds of stores and websites offer sex toys for sale. Here we recommend

only companies we have either purchased from or worked with directly.

Blowfish

www.blowfish.com

No retail store, but the website offers a unique and interesting online catalog.

Good prices and very helpful service. No disability-specific information.

Bluedoor

www.bluedoor.com

(888) 922-4387

A website that will rent videos to people in any state of the United States. It

carries a good selection of sex education titles and pornography.

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Come As You Are

www.comeasyouare.com

701 Queen St. West

Toronto, ON, Canada M6J 1E6

(877) 858-3160, (416) 504-7934

5427 St. Laurent Blvd.

Montreal, QC Canada H2T 1S5

(514)-495-0444, fax (514) 495-0464

[email protected]

[email protected]

Great selection (sex toys, books, videos/DVDs), excellent service. This site also

offers disability-specific information on adapting toys, plus links to other useful

sites. Both retail stores are fully accessible, and one of the authors of this book

is a worker-owner of this company.

Good Vibrations

www.goodvibes.com

1210 Valencia St.

San Francisco, CA94110

1620 Polk St.

San Francisco, CA 94109

2504 San Pablo Ave.

Berkeley, CA 94702

(800) 289-8423

An excellent company, with three physical locations, a website, and a paper

catalog. The Berkeley store is more accessible (with accessible washroom).

Website contains helpful information related to disability. Also offers an online

magazine that features a regular column about sex and disability. Also rents

videos.

Liberator Shapes

www.liberatorshapes.com

Angular pillows designed for helping with sexual positioning.

Probe

One of the few lubricants that uses a natural preservative, Probe is manufactured by Davryan Laboratories. Their site offers detailed information about the product, places to purchase it, and contact information. (800) 637-7623 www.davryan.com

The Stockroom www.thestockroom .com

One of the oldest online places to buy sex toys, The Stockroom had an excellent reputation early on among blind computer users for their detailed text descriptions of all their products. They have a much larger selection of BDSM products than the other sites listed in this section. (800) 755-8697

Toys in Babeland www. babeland.com

94 Rivington St. New York, NY 10002

43 Mercer St.

New York, NY 10013

707 E. Pike St. Seattle, WA 98122

(800)658-9119

Good selection and prices, friendly and helpful service. No disability-specific

information.

Xandria Collection

www.xandria.com

165 Valley Dr.

Brisbane, CA 94005

(800) 242-2823

Many years ago Xandria produced a sex toy catalog specifically for people with

disabilities. It has a few good tips, and it is great that the site made the effort

to get the word out. Its prices are higher than many of the other sites and

stores listed.

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Sexuality: S/M and Fetish Resources

Print

Art of Japanese Rope Bondage, by Midori (Greenery Press, 2001).

Bob Flanagan: Supermasochist, by Bob Flanagan and Sheree Rose, ed. by Andrea Juno and V. Vale (Juno Books, 2000).

Deviant Desire: Incredibly Strange Sex, by Katharine Gates Guno Books, 2000).

The New Bottoming Book, by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton (Greenery Press, 2001).

The New Topping Book, by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy (Greenery Press, 2003).

On the Safe Edge, by Trevor Jacques (Alternate Sources, 1993).

Screw the Roses, Send Me The Thorns, by Philip Miller, Molly Devon, and William A. Granzig (Mystic Rose Books, 1995).

Sensuous Magic: A Guide to S/M for Adventurous Couples, by Patrick Califia (Cleis Press, 2002).