How to Make Her LET GO & GIVE IN: The No-Bullshit Guide to Great Sex (24 page)

STEP 4.3
THE ULTIMATE RELEASE, OVER AND OVER

Aim

Learn how to make her enter a trance-like, orgasmic state that lasts minutes.

How
      

1. What is an Orgasm?

An orgasm is the climax of the experience. In this moment, she releases the built-up sexual tension from the previous steps. She loses all control and gives in to her deepest physical and psychological pleasures. The release of sexual tension unleashes energy. You can use this energy to give her more orgasms in a very short amount of time.

2.
Stacking
Up

This is a technique to bring her into a continuous state of orgasm, without any interruption, for a longer period of time. Each new orgasm builds upon the previous ones and gets stronger, up to the point where she enters an orgasmic state that can last for minutes. You can bring her into this state through fingering and intercourse.

4.3.1
What is an Orgasm?

An orgasm is a release of the built up sexual tension; the higher the tension, the better the orgasm. During each step – as the tension rises – her state of mind changes.

First, the influence of her rational brain decreases, while her emotional state is enhanced. This gives her the chance to be drawn more and more into the experience. When she comes closer to orgasm, her mind makes another switch. This time, her emotional brain shuts down and she falls back to a very primal and physical state of being.

The parts that shut down are responsible for self-evaluation, reason and control. Moving away from this inhibiting state makes her enter a trance-like state in which fear and anxiety are eliminated. Her only focus is the pleasure she is experiencing in her body.

Of course, she links her sexual experience and climaxes to her emotions and gives these meaning, but these links are made before and after she orgasms.

Why Stop at One?

You might think that after giving her one orgasm she is satisfied, and she may be, but only in a small way. You, as a man, need a resting period after ejaculation. Even if you have great stamina and she makes you horny as hell, you always need a break. But she doesn’t need a break. She can go for hours and hours, at least if you really want to please her and are capable of stimulating her, in one way or another, for as long as she wants it.

If we compared your sexual roller coaster to hers, you would notice that, after you come, your sexual interest lessens for at least a short period, while her interest continues and is easily enhanced.

So, use the benefits of her previously built-up arousal to give her more orgasms. These orgasms can happen with gaps of a few minutes in between or they can flow over into each other without any interruption.

The orgasms which are separated by a gap are called sequential orgasms and are not hard to reach for a lover who knows how to trigger her primal desires. Thus, we will not discuss these ones. All you need to master are the previous techniques and principles and she will surely have sequential orgasms.

The ones that flow into each other without any interruption – and the ones we will talk about – are called multiple orgasms. These ones are harder to reach, but every woman who can have one orgasm can have multiple orgasms; it really depends on her lover.

4.3.2
Stacking Up

To achieve this continuous state of orgasm, you need to follow the principles of a technique called ‘stacking’. This means building up orgasms in a way where each new one is more intense than the previous one. The loops of her roller coaster get wilder and faster until the moment she is exhausted and blooming with joy and utmost fulfilment.

The first thing you need to understand about stacking is how to use the release of energy to your and her benefit.

Right after she has her first climax, her sexual tension lowers – but only slowly. When it hits the same level as where she was right before her orgasm, you need to re-engage in strong physical and psychological stimulation. If you don’t, she will slowly slip out of her sexual state of mind.

You can let the tension slip lower, but then there will be a larger gap between orgasms. So, if you want to bring her into a continuous state of orgasm, you must keep the sexual tension up. The keys to success are your timing and ability to read the ways in which her body reacts.

This technique is very versatile and can be applied to all her sweet spots, with the exception of the C-spot.

Make sure she does not have any physical or psychological health problems as these can place a strain on her body and her mind. You don’t want to cause a medical trauma, nor make a crazy girl addicted to you.

Preparation

You can use this technique through fingering and intercourse. Neither technique is complicated, but you still need some skills and preparatory work to pull it off:

1. Before attempting to stack up orgasms, make sure she is very aroused. You really need to get her roller coaster going or it won’t work. Her first orgasm has to be of a good quality. If she barely got off, you won’t pull it off.
   
2. You need to know that your lady trusts you because she will lose control over a longer period of time and as strange as this may seem, because of the pleasure you are inducing in her – this loss the of control can be a scary thought for her. When she’s scared, she will be less likely to give in to the pleasure of the moment, so you need to create a deep emotional connection in order to make sure she doesn’t fight her urges.
   
3. If you have not created that deeper connection yet, use sweet and dirty talk in combination with a lot of eye contact, as this will create an instant connection to build upon.
   
4. Be dominant. Apart from the fact that it creates lust, it also gives her a sense of safety. When you are taking the lead with confidence, she can feel reassured that you know what you are doing. She really needs to feel this safety to follow you all the way.
   

Fingering

The fingering technique is based on 3 steps that follow upon each other as a repetitive cycle:

1. Orgasm stacking
   
2. The moment to stop
   
3. Cooling her down and warming up
   

1. Orgasm stacking

Use the fingering techniques as explained before on her favorite spots and follow the next three phases.

- phase 1, increase intensity

When you feel that she is getting closer to climax, increase the intensity of whatever it is you are doing. A good time to start is around 10 seconds before her impending orgasm, because this is typically the moment she makes the shift between being very aroused and losing all control over her body.

You can spot this moment by paying attention to her body movements as well as her breathing and vocalizing. When she starts having involuntary muscle contractions in her upper legs and pelvic region and starts breathing or moaning hard, you need to shift gears.

- phase 2, lessen intensity

A few seconds before she comes, slightly lessen the intensity, although you still need to maintain adequate stimulation in order to keep the tension high enough for her to orgasm. During this time, her pussy will contract and feel a lot tighter. At the moment of orgasm you will feel strong and rapid vaginal contractions.

- phase 3, repeat

Right after orgasm, her pussy loosens up and her body starts to unwind. Increase the intensity to the same level as used in phase one. Then, when she’s about to come again, lessen the intensity again, and so on.

After a few rounds, she will enter a continuous orgasmic state. When she enters this state, keep stimulating her fast and strong and watch her shiver with pleasure.

2. The moment to stop

After a while, she will sort of go crazy. Her body will shake uncontrollably and she will moan, scream and lose her breath. On one hand, she wants to keep feeling this blissful moment forever, but on the other hand, she could become exhausted because the intensity of it all can just be too much.

This is when she might ask you to stop. If everything goes well, she always will reach this point. Now you have the choice to continue or listen to your girl and stop. For this, you need to know your girl very well.

Her trance-like state of mind can bring her to happy places, but it can also turn negative. Don’t make it a scary experience in which she starts crying or begging you to stop. Although she is climaxing, she could make a negative emotional link with this experience later on.

She gave all her control to you, so use it in the right ways. Push it up to the point where you see she can’t take it anymore, and then stop. The first few times, take this ‘pushing-of-boundaries’ experience slowly. Go for about a minute and then gradually build it up over time, but never exceed five minutes. After this time, she will need a break because of physical exhaustion.

While pushing her limits, don’t go overboard with dirty talk unless you already know, absolutely, that she likes it and will respond positively to it. You have already created enough lust, so instead focus on her need for trust because she needs to be reassured during the whole experience. Tell her how proud you are of her, what a good girl she is and how much she turns you on.

3. Cooling down and heating up

When you see she can’t take all these levels of pleasure anymore, you can stop and she will slowly lose her sexual tension, and will want to cuddle up to you. But you have the option of calmly slowing her roller coaster down, only to speed it up again later.

To do so, keep using the same touches as before but reduce the speed and intensity to a very low level. This gives her time to recuperate in both her mind and body, while at the same time you are keeping the tension up to restart a new session a couple of minutes later.

During this break, she awakens from her altered state of consciousness and feels a deep need to connect with you. Maintain strong eye contact and keep reassuring her how well she did and how much you enjoyed it. Again, don’t go overboard with dirty talk because she is already very excited and is more interested in an emotional connection.

Repeat

After a couple of relaxing minutes, go back to step one and stack up some more orgasms. You can keep using this cycle over and over again, as long as she gets enough rest in between. At the end of it all, she will be in a very peaceful, relaxed and happy state of mind.

Intercourse

Stacking up orgasms through intercourse creates a very powerful experience for you both. Looking deeply into her eyes while she comes on your dick, again and again, makes you feel like the ultimate sex god. For her, this will not only satisfy her physical needs but will also allow her to experience an emotional high like never before.

The potential downfall of this technique is that you need to be able to deliver some strong penetration for a long period of time. If you’re dealing with premature ejaculation or have a poor general physique, you might need to work on those things first.

To be successful, follow the following steps in a repetitive cycle. Use these steps on her favourite sweet spots:

1. Go-stop-go until the point of orgasm
   
2. Powerful penetration right before and during orgasm
   
3. Cool her down in a way that keeps her sexual tension up