How to Make Her LET GO & GIVE IN: The No-Bullshit Guide to Great Sex (25 page)
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Authors: Stan Findus
1. Go-stop-go
The go-stop-go principle builds up loads of sexual tension during intercourse. By using it a couple of times right before she enters her climax, her tension will go through the roof. Use this technique with very strong dirty and sweet talk. Another benefit is that during the moments in which you stop your powerful thrusting, you have a short amount of time to catch your breath.
As you can see, you need to create high peaks in her roller coaster. This will give her the needed energy to go for a seriously wild ride.
2. Powerful penetration
After a few rounds of teasing her, release her from her agony by fucking her very hard all the way through to her orgasm. When she finally reaches this point, she will be highly excited because she can – at last – release all her built-up energy through a massive orgasm.
This massive release of tension is the key to successfully stacking up orgasms. Instead of stopping the powerful poundings, keep going and she will come again very quickly. First, she will enter into a state in which she experiences sequential orgasms, with gaps between them.
These gaps will shorten with each new orgasm.
While doing this, keep looking deep into her eyes while verbalizing all the dirty and sweet desires you feel towards her. Telling her to come is a good tip to speed up the process. In her emotionally open state, she wants to come because she wants to please you as well as herself.
3. Cooling down
Not all women enter a continuous state of orgasm immediately, even when being fucked hard for a lengthy period of time. This depends on herself and you. Some women need more time to climax than others and it is your responsibility to build up the sexual tension to a very high level.
If she didn’t enter a continuous state of orgasm after about 5 minutes, you can become too tired to keep going full force. If so, take it easy for a couple of minutes, but continue with more gentle penetration to keep her in a sexual state of mind.
If you, for example, cuddle with her for a while, the sexual energy will slowly drop to the point where she will enter her rational state of mind again. This means you need to start building up the tension once more.
When continuing penetration, her levels of arousal will not drop below the level that would allow her to return to a rational state of mind. So, go for some sweet love-making in which you mostly focus on her needs of trust, to give yourself a break and to keep her fire burning.
Repeat
After this break, go back to the go-stop-go principle in a strong and dominant way. After a few rounds of repetition, she will inevitably enter a continuous state of orgasm.
Step 4
Conclusion
Sex is a powerful tool. It has its own separate reality and takes you both into different places. The right blend of elements can make the experience unforgettable – and with the right partner, you'll be longing for another bite…and then another.
Understanding the way a woman's mind and body work is an invaluable key. She can start to feel sexual pleasure from her brain right from the start when she hears your sweet words. Knowing how much you desire her, from your sweet – and dirty – words of passion and affection pushes her buttons. It has to come across as authentic though, and not artificial or forced.
You can never know with absolute certainty what's been in her sexual history. There's no way you can know how many good or bad encounters she's had with her sex partners. Making her forget any lover she's ever had is a sign you've hit gold. When in that special space in time, she feels like she's had the lid of her brain blown off by your red-hot love-making, only then can you say to yourself it's a job well done.
How can you make this happen without failing? Sometimes, it's as easy as making her think this is all about her; nothing about you or your needs. Making her believe that simply giving her pleasure gets you off, or that you're simply there to make her sexually happy, gives her the freedom to release her pressure to please you. When the time comes, it will be only natural for her to return the favour. Soon, she'll make the pleasure all about you too.
Even when it's just sex on a casual level, you can still make it worthwhile for you both. Make sure both your needs and hers are met. Leave her something to remember, while ensuring that you, too, have enjoyed and learned from the experience. Sex is a journey and once you put the right steps in place, it could just lead right to the Promised Land.
STEP 5
EMOTIONAL BONDING
Aim
She's just been through an intense sexual ride with you; time to let her emotions and body simmer down in a soothing way by giving her a safe and cared-for feeling. To truly give her this sensation, the relational dynamics must come into play.
How
She rouses from a very wild physical and emotional dream-like passion, so make sure she wakes up in a pleasant manner.
Learn the bonding aspects between her and yourself in the most common relationships a good lover may enter, in order to make wise decisions.
5.1
Ease her back into reality
The time in which you have both reached full satisfaction with each other, is when you should begin to bring her back into her rational state of mind. Those dramatic peaks and turns of the line of her sexual tension can now be made to rest as she slowly awakens from her naughty dream.
To achieve this, you need to give her some time to bond on an emotional level. This is an act of thoughtfulness and a tender moment that she always needs.
Overview
Learn
why
she feels a deeper desire to cuddle and bond with you after sex.
This teaches you
how
to ease her back into reality. You will learn tips on how to do this in the right way.
The aim of this step is to make her feel cared for and safe. She wants you to share your world with her. But be careful! There are ways of sharing that give her a deeper sense of trust and other ways that will instead make her lose her trust.
Her Hormones Need It
These acts of affection are needed because of hormonal reasons. We’ve already discussed that she releases certain hormones that make her feel happy and connected to you before and during the experience. However when the intense lovemaking is over, these substances – mostly oxytocin – make her crave for your affection very strongly.
The influence of oxytocin is so strong because when she had sex, she might end up pregnant and therefore needs a man to stick around. She also displays the same reaction after childbirth. The oxytocin rush makes her deeply connected to both her baby and man in order for herself and her baby, to survive and thrive.
As such, even when her rational brain tells her she will not get pregnant, or tells her you are not a good match for her, she will still want to bond with you. This of course is a very primal reaction. But when it comes to matters of love and lust, we are all – women and men – still very
primal.
Many parts of our brain are still very much non-conformed and are far from adapted to today’s world.
You, on the other hand, don’t have the same oxytocin rush when having sex. Your mind will only be severely altered for what you perceive as the
'right one'
and even more when you have lots of other options to choose from. You will not feel this urge to bond with her if she does not meet your standards.
For such a man it is a lot easier to engage in casual sex and relationships or to use the
‘pump and dump'
principle. He does not feel those deeper emotions, and therefore will not be hurt by his actions.
Also, when being in a fully committed relationship, most men feel the urge to sleep, eat or take a leak right after sex. So even though a guy has feelings for her, his mind drifts off onto other things a lot of times.
In the previous chapters, I did mention that you, as a man, must lead the experience, and when you lead you are the one who mostly decides where you want things to go. In this step you may want to give in to what she wants, even if you feel like doing something else. Except if you need to pee of course.
Remember that
you
made her enter into a mind-altering state in the previous step. This state of mind is pretty similar to the mental state of someone 'high' on drugs. It is your responsibility to get her off of her high in a gentle and pleasant manner.
Take some time to cuddle and hang out with her, as this is a form of 'after-care' that even the most independent and confident female still requires after sex. As a male, you can use this to your advantage in order to establish extraordinary intimacy; to make her feel amazing and truly free.
If you deny her this pleasure, the entire experience could be ruined. Even if you had spectacular sex, she will not have a good emotional memory of the moments you’ve shared. Think of how the activity of sex with you has made demands for her emotional, mental, and physical energy. She will then feel a need of comfort, reassurance and even physical tenderness. So with you providing emotional support, she will feel a sense of gratitude for her man.
This is very important when in a serious relationship, and also in most cases when it’s just a casual fling.
Cuddling
Cuddling is all about making her feel safe and cared for. She sees you as her protector against all evil and as the one who keeps her emotionally grounded. You are that one special guy who makes her world spin. In this moment, she looks up to you in awe of your masculinity – much like a groupie does to a rock star.
Holding her in your arms when it's all over, is very vital in giving her that warm and glowing feeling. You are making her feel like she's slowly awakening from a very naughty dream. The hair stroking, kissing on her skin and holding her in your arms, while discussing what you both enjoyed about sex is a mighty way to bond.
She wants to feel like you care for her. She wants your respect and to believe that you still think of her as a good girl, even though she acted like a crazy sex freak a couple of minutes beforehand. It's OK if she seems a little bashful or shy afterwards; this is the point where you show her you'd never judge her for letting go with you.
Now, you might think you can handle all of this, and in all fairness, it is indeed not that difficult to give her that special feeling
if
indeed you rocked her world. But to end her experience in the best possible way, let’s put the dots on the I's.
As a general guideline, you must have the mentality of a man who believes in dominance through equality and this man does and does not do certain things to complete this experience in an emotionally satisfying way.
Four Ways to Make her Feel Good
Keep your dick inside
When the last sexual act you guys did was intercourse and you came deep inside her wet pussy, keep it in there for a while from time to time. She craves the emotional meaning of becoming one with her lover while having sex. This prolongs that feeling of emotional oneness for a while. Eventually, your dick will become soft and slip out.
Own her
When she’s lying in your arms, do it in a masculine way. Let her head rest on your chest and grab her tight. Give her the feeling that you are a real man who is claiming his woman
.
You can use this physical gesture, if there is a ‘strong and silent’ kind of vibe from your side. But you can also verbalize that you own her; that she belongs to
you, and only you.
We already discussed this in the chapters of dirty and sweet talk. Well, this time you can only use sweet talk. It’s going to be
my princess, my beautiful girl, my sexy babe,
or whatever it is, you want to call her.
Give but don’t seek approval
While talking to her, always give her approval of how great she was, but never look for it yourself. Tell her how she blew your mind, but never ask her if she came or if it was any good for her.
When you have confidence and skill, there is no need for such things as you already know the answer. Some things don’t need to be clarified. If you are looking for compliments, it will only disappoint her because she feels like you've lost some of that dominance that made her feel so good just moments ago. In a way she will lose trust in your masculine abilities.