How to Make Her LET GO & GIVE IN: The No-Bullshit Guide to Great Sex (22 page)

3. Side to side:
Move your fingers over the little lump from left to right, just like the wipers on the windshield of a car.

Start doing these movements slowly and gently and gradually pick up the pace while enhancing the pressure. Take your time to make this shift, so you can work on her for around ten minutes. In the end, you need to press in fairly hard to get the best results. All in all, she should be able to reach an orgasm under 15 minutes.

The most likely problem you will encounter is that she expresses a need to pee. This is a pseudo feeling, so tell her that she will not pee and comfort her with some sweet words to make her feel safe.

Let me reassure you: she isn’t about to pee. It is the pressure from the swollen urethral sponge that gives this sensation of needing to pee. In this moment it is actually impossible for her to pee because this sponge puts pressure on the urethra, which is the canal running between her bladder and vulva.

Squirting

Squirting, otherwise known as female ejaculation, is something that might happen when you stimulate her with the aim of giving a G-spot orgasm. But there are also other ways that have a higher success rate, if you really want to make her squirt. We will discuss one of these ways.

The liquid that she expels during squirting has absolutely nothing to do with urine. Although it runs through the urethra just like urine, it does not look, feel or smell the same. It is almost odourless and very clear, unlike the yellowish colour and pungent smell of urine.

I’ve said before that all women are receptive to G-spot stimulation if it is performed well. But squirting isn’t something every woman is capable of. Some rare women can easily squirt when their C-spots are being licked or during intercourse, while others are not even capable of squirting without intense G-spot stimulation.

Four reasons that prevent her from squirting

1. The reason within her is purely anatomical. It is a fact that not all women have the same sizes of paraurethral glands. With some ‘more endowed’ women they are bigger, while on the other side of the spectrum there are women with very small glands. Some research even points out that some women don’t even seem to have these glands.
   
2. The second issue might be that her lover does not satisfy her need for trust. When a woman is lacking trust and intimacy, it is very hard to fully indulge in the moment. This goes even more so for women who have never experienced squirting before. For this reason, always make sure your lady is feeling comfortable and sexually liberated around you.
   
3. It is possible that she can’t squirt due to her pelvic floor muscles. These muscles contract when she orgasms and help to control the urine flow. When these muscles are too weak, she can’t squirt. To ameliorate this problem, she can do Kegel exercises. These are exercises in which she voluntary contracts and relaxes her pelvic floor muscles to make them stronger.
   
4. The last reason is her emotional state. The simple truth is that some women are more sexually liberated than others. These women are more at ease with their sexuality and therefore capable of letting go more easily, while more introverted and less liberated women can feel inhibitions about letting go.
   

Preparation

1. Place a towel under her because she will become very wet. It is not unlikely that her pussy drips fluids onto the sheets, which could create a stain. Also keep a second towel around for when she squirts. Some women are capable of squirting a large amount of fluid.
   
2. Begin with stimulating her G-spot without the aim of squirting, so she understands the difference between an urge to pee and an urge to squirt.
   
3. If you want, you can tell her that you want to make her squirt. This will most likely make her excited, but it also might instil some insecurities like the fear of not being able to squirt, the need to perform for you or the thought that she will make a big mess.
   
4. This implies that you need to pay attention to these insecurities and reassure her. Make sure she does not feel pressured and that you are okay with any outcome. So whether it happens or not, be cool about it.
   
5. You do not need to explain the technicalities, but tell her that you are going to stimulate her G-spot in a strong manner and that this might create some unfamiliar sensations. It is important that she knows she can always communicate when she’s feeling uncomfortable or wants to stop. Always give her the feeling that she can trust you, otherwise she may not be able to relax and let go.
   

Techniques

To make her squirt, you need to follow 4 steps:

1. Slow and long movements
   
2. Stronger and faster movements
   
3. Rocking
   
4. Release pressure
   

- step 1, slow and long movements

Place your middle finger on her G-spot and make the come-here motion in long and slow movements at a steady pace. While doing this, maintain eye contact and keep using sweet and dirty talk to maintain the strong emotional connection.

Keep the same rhythm until you can feel that her vagina is becoming a lot more wet and swollen. Once you hear squishy noises due to her wetness, progress to the next step. This can take from one up to ten minutes.

- step 2, stronger and faster movements

Increase pressure and use a faster rhythm but keep using the same movements. It should feel like you are grabbing her vaginal wall tighter, so you can press in firmly. Don’t worry that you might cause her discomfort because, in her highly excited state, she is only focusing on pleasure. You know you are doing it right when the force of your hand causes her to move her pelvis up and down a little bit.

At this stage, she will definitely feel an urge to pee. If she says something about it, don’t forget to reassure her that she is not going to pee. Maintaining this motion for quite a while, up to ten minutes, will continuously increase her pleasure and take her to the squirting phase.

If you have never done this before you may think the length of the stimulation seems long, but I can assure you it is well worth the effort. Some women need more and others less time. Only after you’ve experimented with this technique and when you know her in a truly intimate fashion can you shorten the time.

- step 3, rocking

In this step, you need to perform a rocking motion in which the movement comes from the arm instead of the fingers. So keep your fingers curled up on the G-spot and clamp your hand tightly around her vagina and pubic mound.

Now move your arm, and not your fingers, up and down while clenching. This puts a lot of pressure on the glans and, if everything is going right, she will feel an even stronger urge to pee. Now you definitely need to reassure her she’s not going to pee because you need to encourage her to push the fluid out. Mixing these suggestions with dirty and sweet talk can heighten her arousal and cause her to squirt more quickly.

“C’mon baby, you need to cum for me now. You know I love you…Push it all outside, it’s going to feel so nice. I want to feel you squirt all over my hand. Push it all out…”

Be sure to make this movement in a powerful way and keep it up for at least five minutes. It’s possible that you will become tired, so it does require some stamina from your side.

Because of the powerful stimulation, she will very likely be unable to control her body movements and will thrash about. To keep her body in place, put your other hand on her pubic mound. You can also apply moderate pressure right under the pubic bone, thereby increasing pressure on the urethral sponge. However, using strong pressure on this area can feel unpleasant and even painful to her, so you always have to pay attention and see how she reacts.

- step 4, release pressure

The moment before she squirts, you will feel vaginal contractions around your fingers. This is the moment to stop the movements in order to release the built up pressure.

When she squirts, her body will go into a full body orgasm. She will experience uncontrollable shakes, quivers, moans and screams and it is at this moment that the fluid will begin to jet out. The amount of fluid varies from one woman to another. Some will squirt only a few drops, while others can produce an impressive spurt that can fill a cup or more.

You can now resume the stimulation to make her squirt again. The fluid does not run out, as it seems to be manufactured on the spot when sufficient stimulation is present, meaning you can keep doing this over and over again, and make her squirt a fair number of seconds or minutes later.

If she doesn’t squirt

If she didn’t squirt, go back to step two if you have gotten tired because of the continuous motion of your arm. This gives her some time to recover, and you can go back at it again after few minutes.

If this didn’t work after a few rounds, it is unlikely that further stimulation will produce the desired result, so stop and try again another time. Remember that she doesn’t have to squirt. Insisting she does will only put negative emotional pressure on her, which is very counterproductive, so whatever happens, you have to be
okay
with it.

Look at the 4 possible reasons why she didn’t squirt or adjust your technique to find some answers. In all, patience is key and you should keep at it. Break down her inhibitions with intimacy and attention and it may be possible to override all the factors impeding her from squirting.

Intercourse

When your dick is sliding inside her vaginal canal, it rubs her G-spot to some degree in most positions. Therefore you have already stimulated her G-spot without even realizing it and this explains why some woman can squirt during intercourse.

But this kind of stimulation is not very precise and that’s why we will look at some positions in which you can stimulate her G-spot full-on. To utilize these positions, you don’t need to be an acrobat. There are a lot of suitable, basic positions which you most likely have already used. With a little bit of adjustment and communication, you can find her sweet spot in no time.

I will show you three basic positions and perhaps learning about these will inspire you. But, don’t just stick to these; once you know how to locate this sweet spot, try lots of variations...the possibilities are endless

Cowgirl

Sit or lie down and let her ride your dick while facing you, while she leans back at a slight angle. Your penis does not have to be inserted as deeply as in other positions because the G-spot lies just a short ways inside the entrance of her vagina.

The benefits of the cowgirl are that she can adjust the position herself to find the stimulation that suits her. Also, she will ride your dick at a pace that feels the best for her.

So, while bouncing on your cock, she is the one doing all the work and this makes this position ideal for lazy guys or whenever you feel a need to recover during a long session. This position also means that you get to see her in all her glory and to use your hands in whatever manner the two of you enjoy.

Doggy style

The standard doggy style position is when you penetrate her from behind. But, in order to stimulate her G-spot with your cock, you need to place your hips higher and her hips lower to reach the perfect angle. The next image gives you an idea of what it should look like:

Missionary

Place her on her back, with her knees bent while her feet are flat on the bed and then tell her to raise her pelvis. You can also put some pillows under her ass to elevate her pelvis in a comfortable way. Instead of lying down on her, sit on your knees while entering her and aim your cock toward the upper wall of her vagina.