How to Make Her LET GO & GIVE IN: The No-Bullshit Guide to Great Sex (23 page)

The A & P spots

Stimulating the A and P spots can give her a lot of pleasure and very deep and powerful orgasms. Most women respond well to A-spot stimulation, though a minority prefers the P-spot. Although the sensation she will experience is different for each of these spots, I placed them in one chapter because the techniques used to stimulate them are very similar.

Anatomy

A-spot

The A-spot is located under the urethral sponge. As such, stimulation of this spot can also be used to induce female ejaculation. However, stimulation of the G-spot has more chance of being successful when going for a squirting session. This zone is also very good for giving her multiple or sequential orgasms because it doesn’t get too sensitive like the C-spot.

The reasons why this spot is such a strong erogenous zone is that, just like the G-spot, it has been seldom researched by the medical world. My hypothesis is similar to that for the G-spot theory in which the clitoral leg gets pressed in between the urethral sponge and your fingers or dick.

P-spot

The P-spot is located on the opposite wall to the A-spot. Strong pressure on this spot gives her a sensation comparable to anal stimulation because this spot is located very close to the rectum.

While at the back of the A-spot lies the urethral sponge, there is no sponge behind the P-spot. Behind it lies the ‘cul-de-sac’, which is a French expression for a dead end. This dead end is a part of her abdomen, and through it run nerves and blood vessels. It is possible that these nerves can contribute to her powerful sexual stimulation. However, it is also likely that the clitoral legs also run along this spot in some women.

Fingering

Stimulation of these zones is only possible when she is already aroused. When she is in a highly excited state, her body prepares itself for intercourse. Her cervix becomes more supple and retracts inwards to prevent a painful experience and to avoid internal trauma.

If she is not aroused, it will not be supple and will be located lower. Don’t ram your finger against her cervix in these conditions because it will be quite painful for her. So make sure she is adequately aroused, wet and horny.

The best position

The easiest position for this type of stimulation is when she’s lying on her back with her legs spread. If you have short fingers, she can place her legs upwards (like in the next picture). The benefit of this position is that her pelvis tilts upwards, which shortens the distance your finger has to cross.

Because you really need to go all the way in there, it is best to use your middle finger since it is the longest one. If you have big hands, you might be able try this with another finger.

Locating the right spot

Slide your finger(s) up her anterior wall, palm facing upwards. To avoid any discomfort keep your other fingers in a fist. This way, your knuckles and not your fingernails are touching the vulva.

First, you’ll encounter the spongy tissue of the G-spot. Continue further on in a gentle manner until you reach a moist, elastic wall. This elastic tissue is the beginning of her cervix. You will know when you are there because you can’t get up any further. When your reach this area, probe around gently to find her A-spot.

If you haven’t found it after a minute of trying, turn your hand – so that the palm of your hand is facing downwards – in a slow and gentle manner. Next, slide with your fingers along this deep part to locate the P-spot. Her ecstatic reaction will tell you when you have hit her sweet spot.

Techniques

Triggering this spot is very similar to G-spot stimulation. Use the same techniques: ‘come here’, ‘running along’ and ‘side to side’, and keep doing these movements at the same constant pace while keeping her sweet spot under constant pressure. If you are doing everything right, she will reach a very deep and powerful climax in a matter of minutes.

With this type of stimulation, you don’t need to wait to give her another orgasm. Continuous stimulation usually does not create discomfort, so you can really work on her for quite some time. Still, don’t overdo it because it will exhaust her body and her mind. If she has health issues, watch out because it really does put a strain on her. As usual, it is important to pay attention to how she responds and what she says.

Intercourse

Some positions make it easy to stimulate the A-spot and P-spot through deep penetration. However, it might be hard to reach these spots if you have a small penis, so we will look at some ways to avoid this problem.

However, if your penis is large, be careful because thrusting hard against her cervix can cause pain. Although some women like it rough, always take it slow before going full force.

Doggy style

If you have a big dick, place her on all fours and thrust your dick inside. But instead of making a thrusting motion, keep your penis deep inside without moving. Tell her to move her body back and forth so she can pick the right spot herself. Apart from the continuous deep stimulation, it also prevents her from being in pain.

If you have a small dick, place a pillow under her lower abdomen. This changes the angle of her pelvis and decreases the distance to the A- and P-spot.

Seated cowgirl

In this position, you normally thrust up and down. But now, grab her by the waist and move her forward and backward to make horizontal – as opposed to vertical – movements. I’ve noticed that some women are able to figure these movements out for themselves.

A nice benefit of this position is that it also stimulates her G-spot and C-spot. The G-spot gets triggered because your dick will be thrusting against it in a sideways position and the C-spot because she grinds it against your body.

Legs up

Place her on her back and kneel down between her knees. Raise her legs with your hands up high over your shoulders or – if she is flexible enough and likes it – next to her head. This is a great position if you have a shorter penis because the distance to her sweet spot is considerably shortened.

Once inside, keep your penis deep within and make a grinding motion which will give these spots a continuous flow of stimulation.

Again, watch out with this position because it hits her cervix full-on. Start off slowly to see how she reacts before going ahead full-force. If she says it hurts, place her feet in front of your chest as this allows her to control the depth and tempo of thrusts.

4.2.3
Blending

Blending means giving her a climax through stimulation of different hotspots at the same time. Such multiple stimulation can create very powerful orgasms for her.

Let’s look at 2 examples to give you some inspiration as to how you can blend all of these spots together.

A Triple Treat

Where: C-spot, G-spot and A-spot

How: fingering

This technique is a little bit complicated and takes a bit of effort to perfect, but trust me, it’s worth it.

Slowly insert your index and middle fingers into the vaginal canal and place your index finger on her G-spot and middle finger on the A-spot. To finish, place your thumb on her C-spot.

It might be difficult to reach the A-spot. If so, place her legs over your shoulders as it shortens the length of her vaginal canal.

The Mouth Squirter

Where: The C-spot and G-spot

How: cunnilingus and fingering

If you don’t mind eating up her juices, you should definitely try the ‘mouth squirter’. Start with lifting the clitoral hood off gently and then lick her C-spot.

Insert your index and middle fingers, with the palm of your hand facing upwards. Once you have located the G-spot, keep licking and curl your fingers to apply constant and firm pressure. Gradually start to make more movements with your hand. As explained before, the trick is not to move your fingers and instead make a movement that comes from your arm. Keep rocking it up and down while continuing to lick her C-spot. It does take a bit of effort but you will be rewarded with a nice shower.