How to Make Love All Night (and Drive Your Woman Wild) (And Drive a Woman Wild : Male Multiple Orgasm and Other Secrets for Prolonged Lovemaking) (31 page)

Once you have completed at least three or four low-level peaks, you’re going to target Level 8. But this time, you’re going to do something a little bit different.

TROUBLESHOOTING TIP: This technique does not work if you try to jump into the deep end of the pool and start with high-level peaks like Level 8 or Level 9.

You must start slowly, practicing peaks at Level 4, Level 5, and Level 6.

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Instead of using a slow sensate focus stroke, you are going to stroke your penis as fast as you can to bring your arousal to Level 8.

When you reach Level 8, slam on your PC muscle, take a deep breath—as deep as you can—and open your eyes. Slow your stroking down and let your arousal drop a couple of levels.

Your next target is going to be Level 8.5. To get there, start stroking your penis as fast as you can. When you reach Level 8.5, squeeze your PC muscle as hard as you can, take a deep, deep breath, and open your eyes. Slow down your stroke, breathe really slow, and let your arousal drop again.

You’re going to repeat this quick-stroke method for Level 9 and Level 9.5. Once you’ve completed these two levels, you’re ready to stroke yourself as fast as you can all the way up to your point of inevitability—Level 9.9. When you hit that point, you want to squeeze that PC muscle as hard as you possibly can. Open your eyes. Breathe deeply. Hold that squeeze tight for at least a full five seconds, if not more.

At this point, your body should go into orgasm, but if your PC muscle is strong and you timed your squeeze right, you will not ejaculate.

This is hard work. You’re probably sweating and gasping for breath right now if you’ve been following my instructions carefully. So let yourself drop a couple of levels and really catch your breath. Don’t stop stroking because you don’t want to lose your erection. Just stroke yourself slowly for a little while.

Ready for your second orgasm? Great. Once again, begin stroking your penis as fast as you can.

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Pass Level 9, pass Level 9.5, and keep stroking. Stroke all the way through your point of inevitability into orgasm. Don’t try to stop. Don’t use your PC brake. Just let yourself have a full orgasm, complete with ejaculation. And that is how to have a beautiful do-it-yourself multiple orgasm. Now hit the showers.

You Know It’s Working When…

Let me remind you one last time that your initial attempts with these multiple-orgasm exercises might bring strange or unusual results. You may only have a partial orgasm that doesn’t feel all that special, or you may feel as though you missed an orgasm. You may even have a partial ejaculation without any orgasm after your first orgasm. Don’t get scared and don’t get discouraged. This is all very good news. You are clearly on your way to having your first full multiple orgasm. Your body is just getting adjusted to some new ideas.

As I said before, most men have at least one of these unusual experiences before their techniques “click.” So just relax and enjoy the process.

C H A P T E R E L E V E N

PRACTICE, PRACTICE,

PRACTICE

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earning the techniques in this book is like learning anything new. Some guys will be just plain lucky. They will become multiorgasmic quickly and easily, and retain that ability, even improve upon it, for the rest of their lives. But what about everyone else? It’s my experience that most men master the art of multiple orgasm in a more conventional two steps forward, one step backward fashion. For these men, the key to improvement is that one word we all dread:
practice

Don’t you just hate it when a teacher starts lecturing you about the importance of practice? I know I do. That’s why I stopped taking violin lessons four times. But…sigh…as we all know, sometimes there’s just no substitute for putting the old nose to the grindstone.

You are learning to do amazing things with your body.

It’s not fair to expect yourself to be perfect the first time and every time. With a little bit of the “p” word, however, you can easily solidify and refine the techniques that will give you years and years of multiple pleasures. The most important thing to remember is that following these techniques will always bring results. Besides, there are worse things to be practicing on a Saturday night.

One easy way to strenghten your technique is to keep repeating the exercises you’ve just completed in chapter 10.

Now I don’t know about you, but that doesn’t sound like a very painful homework assignment to me…and I hate homework. It is also very helpful to return to the exercises in earlier chapters that stress control and technique. Practice peaking (Exercises 6 and 7), peaking with the PC (Exercises 8, 9, and 10), and plateauing (Exercises 11 and 12).

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These are especially helpful if you have a little trouble controlling your high-level peaks. Of course, you should
always
be giving your PC a workout to keep that wonderful little muscle strong as a vise.

There is one other exercise that really focuses on fine-tuning your timing and control. It’s a really exciting exercise, and even if you don’t try it, you should read through it. You may pick up an idea or two for later.

Exercise 19: Splitting the Atom (with a partner) This exercise begins with the man lying on his back while his partner gives him a genital caress. Start by doing some really easy, low-level peaks or plateaus, say Level 4, Level 5, and Level 6. Take your time—at least four or five minutes at each level. Focus on the sensations of the caress.

Assuming that you have a good erection at this point, it’s time to switch positions. Your partner should lie on her back with her legs up and knees bent. As you enter your partner, be certain that your weight is being supported by your legs, not your arms. Start thrusting at a medium pace.

Try to peak at Level 8. When you reach Level 8, slow down a bit and give your PC muscle a squeeze. Make it a medium squeeze, not a crusher. Your partner should slow down her movements to match yours. Let your arousal drop a level.

Now pick up your speed and peak to Level 8.5. Slow down once again and give your PC another medium squeeze. Once again, your partner should slow

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down her movements to match yours. Let your arousal drop a level. Pick up your speed again and peak to Level 9. Slow down. Squeeze your PC and let your level drop. Each of these peaks should last at least three or four minutes.

Now this is where it gets a little bit more interesting than usual. From this point forward, you’re going to be inching your way toward the point of inevitability, doing a series of short peaks (forty-five seconds or less) at higher and higher levels. Think of yourself as trying to do a peak at Level 9.1, Level 9.2, Level 9.3, etc., all the way up to Level 9.9.

It may sound a bit ridiculous to try and split hairs like this, but actually, it isn’t that hard. For example, the difference between Level 9.4 and Level 9.5 is probably just a few thrusts—it could even be a single thrust. So what you’re going to be doing is adding no more than a few additional thrusts every time you peak, using your PC muscle to bring you back down a bit in between each peak.

Your final peak will be at your point of inevitability—Level 9.9. Because of the gradual approach you have made to reach the top, you will probably find it much easier to squeeze your PC muscle at just the right moment this time, letting your body go over into orgasm without ejaculating.

After your first orgasm, give yourself a short rest by doing some very slow thrusting and some real easy breathing. Are you ready for more? If you’re maintaining your erection and your arousal is pretty high, pick up your speed and thrust all the way through your point of inevitability, having a second orgasm, complete with ejaculation.

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This exercise is very unusual for both partners because it’s almost as if you’re doing a very high-level plateau while squeezing your PC muscle every few seconds. It might feel as though your body is having little spasms or mini-orgasms before you have your first big orgasm.

If you miss one of your high-level peaks and wind up having a partial ejaculation, or even a full ejaculation with your first orgasm, that’s perfectly okay. This is a pleasure technique, not a birth control technique, and there are no grades here. Try to have another peak and another orgasm, but if you can’t recover, don’t sweat it. Just remember that the next time you do this exercise, you’re going to try to be a little bit more conservative with your thrusting.

Like most of the techniques you have now learned, this practice exercise can also be done without a partner. In fact, it’s a particularly good exercise to do by yourself because it is a little bit easier to control the intensity of stimulation to the penis when you are using your own hands. Since we’re working with such subtle incremental changes here, every little bit of control makes a difference.

Exercise 20: The Daily Double (solo)

The first thing you need to do is lie down and get comfortable, or sit in a very comfortable chair. Using plenty of lubrication, begin a sensate focus genital caress, slowly stroking your penis in a way that pleases you most. For the first part of this exercise, I’d just like you to do three or four low-level peaks (e.g., Level 4, Level 5, and Level 6), using your PC

muscle to control your arousal at each

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peak. Try to use a medium-strength squeeze here, not a bone-crushing monster squeeze. Remember to breathe deeply at each peak to help bring your arousal back down a notch or two. Take your time. Each peak should take at least three or four minutes.

Your next peak is going to be a slightly more intense, Level 8 peak. You’re probably stroking your penis a bit faster by now. That’s fine, as long as you’re not trying to rush the process. Keep using that PC muscle to control your arousal (a firm squeeze, but not a killer), and remember to breathe deeply as you squeeze. The next phase of this practice exercise begins at Level 9. Try to create a series of mini-peaks at Level 9, Level 9.1, Level 9.2, Level 9.3, etc., all the way to Level 9.9.

This sounds tricky, but it’s not that hard once you know that it only takes two or three extra strokes to raise you from one mini-level to the next. So, let’s say you’ve just used your PC muscle to peak at Level 9. Resume your caress and go three or four strokes past Level 9—this is Level 9.1. At Level 9.1, give your PC a medium squeeze, breathe deeply, and let your level drop ever so slightly (not even one full level). Start stroking yourself again. This time, go three or four strokes past Level 9.1—this is Level 9.2. Give your PC a medium squeeze and breathe deeply, letting your level drop again.

Resume your caress. You are going to try to continue in this fashion, one tiny increment at a time, until you have worked yourself all the way up to Level 9.9.

By the time you reach Level 9.9, you should find it relatively easy to give that PC muscle one last solid squeeze at just the right moment, enabling

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your body to go into orgasm without having an ejaculation.

As I stressed in the previous exercise, there is no need to fret if you miss one or two of these mini-levels and find yourself having a partial or full ejaculation. Just make a note to be more conservative with your stroking the next time you decide to practice (i.e., fewer strokes and/or slower strokes).

After your first orgasm, let yourself relax for a minute or two by doing some slow, even stroking. If you’re still in the mood for more (this exercise is pretty exhausting and you may have had enough for one session), pick up your speed again and stroke yourself all the way to a second orgasm.

This time, don’t try to hold back your ejaculation.

Where Do You Go from Here?

How are you feeling right now? Having your first multiple orgasm can be a life-altering experience. It’s disorienting to realize the effect this process will have on everything from your deepest fears to your deepest fantasies. One of the most rewarding moments for me as a clinician is when a client

“gets it” for the first time. To be present for that moment when a person’s understanding of his own sexual potential changes forever is quite a privilege. Obviously, I can’t be with each and every one of you right now. But believe me that I am with you in spirit, and that I am truly proud of the work each of you has done.

Once you have taken control of the process you have just learned, multiple orgasms are easy. At first, you’ll probably want to stick closely to the

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style and steps of the exercises. But before long, you’re going to feel so confident in your ejaculatory control that you will be ready to expand your horizons. For the ambitious man and his partner, a brave new world awaits. Think of all the exercises in this book as your “starter kit.” I’ve included everything you need to get going, and have hours and hours of fun, but it’s really just the beginning. Soon you’re going to want to accessorize.

I’m sure you have noticed by now that in each of the multiple-orgasm exercises in this book, I encouraged you to have your second orgasm within a minute or two of your first. The reason for suggesting you have your second orgasm so quickly was to make learning these techniques less over-whelming. It’s hard enough to get to the point where you can have your first nonejaculatory orgasm. You don’t need to be worrying about your second orgasm too. In the beginning, it’s more important to know that you
can
have a second orgasm. The timing of that orgasm is a lot less important.

But now you know you can have two orgasms in a row without losing your erection. Now you’re a believer. You may not want to have that second orgasm so quickly.

No…you may want to wait a while…and wait…and wait.

After all, isn’t that what you’re here for?

It’s time to start expanding your repertoire. Most exercise regimens begin with stretching exercises, but that’s where ours is going to end. Begin by trying to stretch out the time between your first and second orgasm. How long can you go before having your second orgasm? How long do you
want
to go?