Orgasm in 5 Minutes (11 page)

It must be very clear to you that AIDS only spreads in a very precise way (unprotected sex or sharing needles, usually). All that gossip that you can get it from pool water, saliva, or food are nothing but lies. Kissing poses no risk!

Although the picture looks a bit bleak, AIDS is actually very easily preventable. If your partner wears a condom, the risk disappears. It is as simple as that!

In general, the first essential preventive method, before other methods, is to have proper hygiene and regular doctor visits. The sexual organs are no different from other parts of the body. We must always keep them clean and in perfect condition. The opportunity may arise at any time! A daily shower and washing the genital area with soap and water before bed are more than enough under normal circumstances. Forget the special soaps and foreign substances. Simply use tap water and the same bath soap you use for the rest of the body.

It is essential that you visit the gynecologist every so often (twice a year at least) to check “the machine,” perform the necessary exams and tests, and certify that it is fully prepared to “work.”

In depth

“My relationship with Ernesto is superb. We make love frequently and I always have an orgasm, but sometimes I wonder: Is this it? Why not try something else?”

Miriam, 35 years old

By now, you know what to do to enjoy pleasurable orgasms. However, the world of sex is broad, rich, and varied, and its horizons are endless. In this chapter I suggest some more “exotic” techniques for exploring varieties of pleasure. As in sport, or art, sex can also go further, stronger, and higher.

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ULTIPLE ORGASMS

Any woman who has had an orgasm dreams of the possibility of having several of them consecutively. In fact, many women are not satisfied if they do not climax at least twice during sex. In laboratory experiments some women have demonstrated that it is possible to have 5, 10, and up to 25 orgasms separated by short intervals. Perhaps the latter is too much to ask . . . but why not try it? If after a single orgasm you do not feel satisfied, these pages will show you the way to have more.

First step.
The key to experiencing multiple orgasms is to control the genital muscles. It has been shown that a woman’s ability to contract and relax these muscles opens the door to reaching an orgasm more than once. Once, I attended an erotic show—yes, I am also curious about those shows—in which a woman smoked a cigarette with her vagina. Just as you hear it. Such was her control over her muscles that she inhaled and exhaled the smoke just as she would do with her own mouth, with the advantage that she never had a coughing fit!

Remember the “vaginal exercises” that were suggested in
Chapter 1
. And try to contract and relax the vaginal muscles until you get to feel them. You can help yourself by using the Ben Wa balls that we mentioned in the chapter on toys. Or, use a cucumber (peeled and carefully washed) that is not too large: insert it halfway into your vagina and hold it by contracting your muscles. With a bit of practice, you will be able to hold it in as long as you want and then expel it forcefully. Once you are able to contract the muscles for as long as you want and then let go, you will have taken the most important step toward having multiple orgasms.

Second step.
If you have gained reasonable control of your genital muscles, it is time to put them to good use. When you are making love with your partner, use them to squeeze and release his penis while keeping pace with the rhythm of his movements. Do not panic if his moans make the windows rattle! Keep going until you feel close to having your first orgasm. When you are about to have an orgasm, relax your muscles and ask your partner to stop. Not to withdraw the penis from your vagina, but to stop moving until the sensation of an orgasm disappears. In that moment, ask him to start moving again, and do your contractions again until you feel the orgasm approaching. A moment before, stop again! I know it is not easy, but the rewards are really worth it. Begin again with the movements, and when you are about to climax, let go but contract your muscles with all your strength. The natural contractions of an orgasm will join this voluntary pressure, and you will have the longest and deepest orgasm of your life. With a little practice, it will extend until it lasts more than twice the duration of a normal orgasm.

If your partner has not yet finished, ask him to keep moving! Neither faster nor slower than before. At first you may not feel anything, but after 2 or 3 minutes, you will notice that orgasmic sensation reappear. Enjoy it! Contract the muscles as much as you can and enjoy. How long can you go on like this? Well, until you feel that you can do it no more. Or until your partner faints from pleasure from your muscle contractions.

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IMULTANEOUS ORGASMS

“I knew what it was to have an orgasm, and it gave me a feeling of fullness and intense pleasure. But when I had one at the same time as my partner, I felt as though the universe was giving me a hug.”

Mónica, 27 years old

With a bit of technique you can have long, intense multiple orgasms, but wouldn’t it be an even more beautiful experience to have them at the same time as your partner? This is probably the greatest pleasure we can experience in this world. If heaven exists, it should be something like this. Yes, sex is pleasure, fun, game. But it is also sharing and communicating with your partner, “getting lost” in him. I know nothing more sublime and deep than this feeling. Forgive me if I get poetic, but I am at a loss for words. If you have practiced the previous lessons, you probably already know that indescribable emotion. Now it is about your learning to do it whenever you want. Not all sexual relationships are the same, and you may not always feel like having an orgasm simultaneously. What is interesting is controlling the situation and getting there whenever you want. Do you always want it? Then pay attention.

First step.
The secret to having a synchronized orgasm with your partner is knowing your own feelings. Therefore, the first thing to do is to learn them, step by step, on your own. You may think you know what happens in your body when you are about to climax. Do not be so sure. Sexual response is full of nuances and subtleties that make every relationship different. And that is why every one of them is so exciting!

The first step is to identify the stages your body goes through when you get excited, no matter the situation, place, or day of the week. Pay close attention to each of these stages, as if you were following a detailed city map to reach an exact location for an appointment. At what precise moment does your vagina lubricate? When does your breathing quicken? When does that intense tingling in your genitals begin? If you remember
Chapter 1
, your body goes through three distinct stages until you orgasm. Study these stages on your own, enjoying each one while you touch yourself. Now try to split them into shorter sequences to control them better. Although these sequences are different for each person, I suggest you identify these seven moments along the way:

1.   You feel desire and begin to feel aroused.

2.   Your vagina is already well lubricated.

3.   You start to moan.

4.   Tingling, loud moaning.

5.   Pleasurable sensation in the genital area.

6.   You are almost there.

7.   Orgasm.

Each of these phases can be named so that you will remember them more easily. Familiarize yourself with them until you have perfectly identified them. I know it seems difficult, unnatural, and impossible to think of steps and sequences as your body quivers with pleasure. But take my advice. Try it; consider it a game. After a few sessions, reading the map of your feelings will be much easier than following the directions of a traffic cop. And the results will be very surprising.

Second step.
Have you already established which stages your body goes through to reach an orgasm? Great! Now try to learn to control them, going from one to the next in order without skipping any. It is a simple exercise in concentration: focus your attention on each one, and try not to move to the next until you decide for yourself. At the third stage, are you no longer excited? Tap into your fantasies to get aroused again! Move faster! Breathe more heavily! Do you always skip the sixth stage? Think of something else! Relax your muscles more! You will see that it is fun and exciting. And it will help you know yourself and enjoy it more intensely. Soon you will completely control the phases of your arousal; you will know exactly where you are and when and how to move on to the next stage.

Third step.
The moment of truth has arrived: the time to share your new knowledge with your partner. Tell him what you discovered, and encourage him to do the same. Since you already know what it is, at first you can guide him a little. Do you know how exciting it can be for the both of you to be able to control your arousal levels? With a bit of practice, you will find in this game an endless source of pleasure. It is important that the number of levels is the same for you both so that you will know at all times how things are going.

Once you are able to locate and control each step of the way, make love while keeping in mind what you know. It may not work the first time you try, or the second one, but who cares? It is not an exercise like lifting weights or doing crunches. The two of you will start to perfect the system, and you will continue to enjoy it in the meantime. What better way to learn something? At first, perhaps you might whisper, “I am at 4!” And he may giggle and go from 5 to 2. Help him return to 5 as soon as possible! You know what he likes, so do it! Over time you will learn to read each other’s signs, and you will just have to press your head against the pillow for him to understand that 6 is about to arrive. Or you will understand that when he kisses you in that way, he is close to 7. It seems difficult, but you just need to trust each other and practice. And as the practice is so nice, it will not be difficult for you to repeat it over and over again, until you are both tired! When you both reach an orgasm at the same time, you will understand how much it was worth. And you will never forget how much fun it was to practice.

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ANTRIC ORGASMS

“For me, sex has always been a very physical activity. Sure, I felt emotions and love, but that did not seem crucial, until I met Felipe, who had just arrived from India. He started talking to me about the spirit, and the truth is that I thought it was a bit boring. But when we made love, I loved it!”

Marisa, 34 years old

Everything that comes from the East has a special mystery: yoga, Kundalini energy, the Kama Sutra. In fact, there is a Latin saying,
Ex oriente, lux
: “Wisdom comes from the East.” How is this wisdom valuable once you are in bed? If you dare to experiment with tantric sex, you will find out for yourself. It is important to share these experiences with someone you trust completely, someone who wants to experience new things and venture into unknown territory.

According to tantric tradition, sex has a strong spiritual component. And the aim of making love is to reach a cosmic orgasm and create a circle of energy that elevates the lovers over the material world, toward ecstasy and perfection. Sounds good, right? Try a tantric sex session with your partner one weekend.

Peace and harmony.
You are going to need time and tranquility, so be very sure that no one will bother you. Unplug the phone and turn off the lights. A few candles—preferably red—will help create the right ambiance. You can also burn an incense stick if you like. After finishing the preparations, lay naked in bed without your bodies touching. Begin to gently caress each other, including the genitals, but without the intent of exciting one another mutually. This is most important! Do not start thinking that you would like to do this or that to your partner, or that you would rather have him kiss you passionately or caress your breasts. Try to keep your mind blank. After a while, the caresses will arouse you. Your sexual energies will start to run, starting from the genital area to a point located right at the center of the skull where the Kundalini, the most refined and pure energy, is concentrated. If you are already lubricated and your partner has an imposing erection, you are right on track. However, no outpourings! You still need to harmonize your breathing. Focus on your breathing and imagine that you inhale air from the vagina and breathe it out through your mouth, while your partner imagines that he draws air in through the mouth and exhales it through his penis. If the circle of sexual energy starts to overwhelm you, do not let it drag you. When your breathing is already harmonized, your vagina is lubricated, and his penis is erect, that will be the moment for penetration. In a comfortable position, let your partner insert his penis halfway into your vagina.